How to know if a guy likes you? Well… do you have a whole day? Just kidding!
The male brain can be quite a peculiar thing at times but when it comes to signs and signals of their interest in a girl, they’re not exactly experts at hiding it. And that’s where I come in!
If a particular guy likes you, trust me, by the end of this article, you’ll be able to write a dissertation about it.
Chances are you’ve already picked up on some of these subtle signs without even realizing it.
You know that feeling of butterflies in your stomach or shivers down your spine when in the presence of a guy you’re crushing on?
Well, that’s your body letting you know that the feelings are probably reciprocated.
His body language is giving out clear signs whenever he’s in your presence (especially if he’s a shy guy) and all those little things you occasionally notice (deep eye contact, being a flirt, doing nice things for you for no particular reason) mean that there’s a certain sexual tension there that has yet to be acknowledged and explored.
When a guy likes you, he’ll be flirty in an awkward way, connect with you on social media, oh, and he’ll be texting you late at night and will always keep the conversation going no matter the hour.
He’ll open up about the most intimate parts of his life and spend a lot of time trying to get you to notice his affection toward you.
Even guys in the friend zone will do anything in their power to find their way out and make the first move. They just want you to pick up on what they’re throwing your way.
What if this is a really close guy friend?
If this is a guy friend and you’re really good friends, maybe it’s time to start evaluating whether your friend has started developing actual feelings for you.
As much as you’d like to believe that you’re just close friends, the reality could be truly different.
I’ve had a best friend since high school that I always considered a brother, who ended up being secretly in love with me for too many years and I was completely oblivious to it.
Now every situation is unique so I can’t really speak for you.
But if you notice your guy friend acting out of the ordinary (you’ll know it in a heartbeat) and being really weird around you, he’s likely summoning up the courage to tell you how he feels.
He’s likely to ask you personal questions about your love life that he normally wouldn’t (what kind of guy you’d like to end up with, if you’re seeing anyone now or even offering relationship advice about that toxic guy and how you should stay away from him).
If you keep getting those weird vibes from a close male friend, don’t kid yourself. As messed up as it might potentially be, this could also end up being your biggest blessing.
What if this old high school best friend is actually the guy you’re supposed to end up with?
What if this person who has stuck by you through thick and thin is actually your soulmate?
It’s completely up to you to figure out what it all means but my advice is to always listen to your gut feeling.
Sometimes, the best thing in your life is the thing that’s been right under your nose all this time.
Now, let’s delve into the actual signs of his true feelings and help you figure out if you’re the only girl on his mind. And what happens next is entirely your decision.
How To Tell If A Guy Likes you? 12 Sure-Fire Signs
Here, we’ll dig a little deeper than just his body language signs and penetrate his mind and his behavior to explore all the sure-fire ways he’s showing you he likes you.
Yes, there’s a lot to be said about deep eye contact (which we’ll also mention) but some really great signs are the things that his body can’t tell you.
It’s in the way he conducts himself around you and the little things he remembers about you.
It’s in his nervousness around you (because he’s figuring out how to ask you out on your first date) and paying close attention to your appearance (like noticing your new haircut when you meet up).
If you want to know whether this guy likes you or not, here are the tell-tale signs that’ll reassure you of his true feelings.
1. Does he keep asking you personal questions?
I know what you’re thinking. If you’re close friends with somebody, isn’t it perfectly normal to be asking these types of questions?
And the answer is yes. BUT if it’s not in this person’s nature to be so detective-like around you, perhaps there’s more in play than just his curiosity?
Even if this is just a guy you met through mutual friends and the next day, he started asking you all these things as if you were being interrogated. There’s a reason for this.
When a guy likes you, he tends to want to find out where he stands and what your current relationship status is.
He needs to know if your heart belongs to another guy in order to summon up the courage to make the first move and ask you out.
This isn’t easy for guys. If you’re taken and he pours his heart out to you, it would be a huge blow to his self-esteem. Hence the personal questions.
If he wants to make future plans with you, he first needs to make sure you’re available.
2. Observe his body language
We all exhibit all kinds of body language signs without being aware of it.
So when you’re in the presence of somebody you’re trying to impress, your body will act a certain way without you paying attention to it.
Have you noticed how you always tend to lean in toward a person you’re interested in or whose opinion you really want to hear?
Or how you find yourself endlessly gazing into someone’s eyes when you’re into them and then you quickly catch yourself and stop it.
Eye contact is a good sign to go on. If a guy likes you, he’ll be staring into your eyes on occasion.
That’s an automatic reaction upon seeing someone you have a crush on. Their presence gives you all the feels and you sort of lose some of the control over your body (not in a bad way).
So my advice is to watch his body language and eye contact. If there’s something there, you’ll be able to tell. The eyes are a dead giveaway of a deeper romantic interest.
3. Is he trying to leave a good impression?
If this guy likes you, trust me, you’ll know by the effort he puts into leaving a good impression on you!
Whether this is someone you just met through social media (Instagram, Snapchat… it doesn’t really matter) or a close friend of many years, he’ll go out of his way to make himself look good.
It’s the little things. He’ll always make sure his haircut is on point, he’ll smell good (maybe even too good) and he’ll be on his best behavior.
He’ll be a little flirty but nothing too obnoxious or obvious, and he’ll be offering to do nice things for you just for the sake of it.
Who does that? A guy who’s crushing on you, hard.
This is a clear sign that he likes you. Who do you always look your best for? The people whose opinions matter most to you.
And that proves my point. You’ll never catch him on a bad day because he’ll make sure he’s dressed to the nines whenever you’re around.
4. He puts his phone down when he’s with you
Let’s be honest for a second. Our phone is like an extension of us. Where you go, your phone goes and you’re highly unlikely to drop it unless you’re in the presence of Beyoncé or someone.
Which brings me to my point.
If a guy puts his phone down whenever he’s around you, take it as a not-so-subtle sign of his crush toward you.
He’s clearly interested in you beyond measure if he simply leaves his phone and risks missing important messages and calls.
I know for a fact that my phone is always in my hand. I can’t fathom not being able to see it or feel it (I know, I know…) at all times.
But if I’m crushing on someone, especially if it’s been going on for ages, I literally stop caring about the existence of my phone.
My best friend could be texting me about something really big and I just won’t care for those few minutes (which says a LOT).
So if you’re wondering if this guy likes you and you never catch him with his phone in his hand around you, there’s your answer.
5. He playfully teases you
This has GOT to be the cutest sign of a guy’s affection! (And my personal favorite!) This is how I figured out that my current BF was into me.
We were casual friends for a while (we met through mutual friends) and I always remember him being such a tease around me, even though I couldn’t figure out why.
Every chance he got, he’d jokingly punch me in the arm (he was gentle, don’t worry!) or tickle me around my waist (which I didn’t mind).
He would always find an excuse to say something that would annoy me but in a way that I couldn’t help but laugh at!
We had this fun banter going on where we’d be on each other’s cases all the time but in a way that was too intimate and close to being just friends but at the time I really had no idea he liked me (which he TOTALLY did).
It took me a while but I caught on and I reciprocated with the same friendly behavior which took no longer than a day to turn into a passionate kiss that rocked my world and hasn’t stopped since!
Pay close attention to those subtle signs. Being playfully physical with you and teasing you means he’s most likely barely restraining himself from kissing the shit out of you.
Read between the lines!
6. He started texting you and messaging you on social media
Bonus points if he was the one who added you on his social media accounts (Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram, etc.)
That’s a great sign and a reassuring thing, especially if you like him back. He’s clearly interested in talking to you and now you need to figure out if he likes you in a romantic way.
How to tell if a guy likes you? Does he always send the first text? Does he tend to leave a cute (possibly flirty) comment on your photos? Does he slide into your DMs and talk you up? That’s how.
He’s being a flirt. He can’t use his body language over Snapchat so he’s making sure to leave other clear signs that he likes you. It doesn’t take a genius to figure out what this means.
He’s making the first move by texting you and leaving cute comments on your posts.
He is throwing you a bone, now all you’ve got to do is catch it!
7. He remembers the little things you mentioned
He keeps track of your likes and dislikes and he knows how you like your coffee. He knows what songs are going to make you go wild and which songs to skip.
He notices your new haircut and makes sure to compliment you when he sees it. Do I need to go on?
If your guy is anything like this, then it’s pretty obvious that he’s into you. Bonus points if he remembers a minor thing you mentioned a while ago (and totally forgot about).
Hello, he’s remembering things about you that even you forgot about! This is not a question of whether this guy likes you or not; it’s a question of how long this has been going on and what you’re going to do about it.
8. He’s nervous around you
This is actually really cute. We’re talking about a guy who gets so affected by your mere presence that he barely catches his breath, stands awkwardly, acts all fidgety and has sweaty palms.
He can barely utter a comprehensible sentence and his voice is on the verge of cracking.
Can you believe the effect you have on this dude?
Guys don’t get nervous around girls they’re not into. But when a guy likes you, trust me, his body language, awkward eye contact (and everything along with it) will tell you and show you.
Isn’t it a great sign that you can mess with this guy’s confidence so much by just being there?
Just kidding; clearly, it isn’t so great for him but obviously you should make the first move if you like him back, because his nerves are going to eat him up.
All you have to do is start talking to him and trust you me, he’ll keep the conversation going for as long as there’s air in his lungs.
9. His friends give him a hard time when you’re there
Does it get any more obvious than this? You know how back in high school your friends would always tease you whenever the guy you liked was around?
Only then, it was on a less mature level (understandably so) and you’d get so embarrassed and just want to run off?
Well now, it’s pretty much the same thing, only neither of you wants to run off.
Guys are much more into giving their buddies a hard time about girls, so if you just pay close attention to them, you’ll see what I mean.
They will be punching his arm, joking around quietly while looking in your direction, perhaps even pushing him toward you.
And when you think about it, they’re actually doing you both a favor! They’re giving you a fun first romantic run-in and something you can bond over during those first few minutes of talking.
You can laugh about them being so obvious and chat about the whole situation which will help you both relax your nerves and keep the conversation going. Cool, right?
10. He includes you in all future plans to hang out
Okay, this one is mostly for situations where you have mutual friends. If this is how you met, keep reading.
Basically, if you’re not as close as some of the other members of your crew, he’s trying to get to know you better.
And every time there are plans to be made for any future hangouts, he’s loud and clear about including you.
If you happen to mention that you might not be able to make it, he gets visibly disappointed.
This is because he keeps hoping that you’ll finally be able to bond and get to know each other better.
And that’s why you’re always invited everywhere and you can see that little sparkle in his eyes every time you say that you’ll be there.
He’s just happy to see you around and he’s looking forward to a chance to deepen your connection.
Your mutual friends are to be thanked for connecting you and now it’s up to you two to deepen it and see if there’s potential romance in the air!
11. He doesn’t notice other girls when you’re near
At this point, you really have nothing to wonder about. If you really want to know for sure how to tell if a guy likes you, then check out his reaction when another girl is in the picture!
Does he automatically strain his neck to check out their booty? Does he let out a quiet (impressed) noise if she’s hot?
Guys instantly react when they see a hot girl. It’s how they’re wired. BUT when a guy likes you and only you, he won’t notice another hottie walking past you because his eyes will be glued to you!
In this case, you truly have nothing to wonder about. You know how guys are. When there’s a hot piece of ass around, there’s no way they won’t check it out and sound impressed.
But when a guy is into you, he just stops caring about anyone else. You’re the one he wants and he’ll let you know in any way he possibly can.
12. He’s jealous when you’re talking to another guy
He won’t say it but you’ll definitely notice it. If you’re talking to a guy friend, totally innocently, his eyes will be directed toward you the whole time.
He’ll be fighting the urge to come by and see what’s going on and therefore, he won’t be able to look away.
You’ll catch his glance and then he’ll immediately look somewhere else. And it’ll keep happening for as long as the guy is near you.
And trust me, you don’t want to know his thought process during that time…
(”What the hell does that guy want? Doesn’t he know that I got to her first? Does she like him better now? Am I being an idiot for not going over there and intervening?”)
On the outside, he’ll seem calm and collected. But the inside of his mind will look like a complete mess. So if you like this guy back, please give him the reassurance he needs.
Go and flirt your way over to him and show him that you’re not going anywhere.
What Have You Learned?
Guys can turn into a real mess when they don’t know how to act on their emotions. Luckily, their body language and behavior give it all away in a heartbeat!
So if there’s anything to take away from this, it’s to pay close attention to his body, his eyes and his tendencies when you’re near him.
Those three will tell you everything you need to know and more about his true feelings. Oh, and sometimes… they tend to turn into cowards because they fear rejection.
So if you want to speed things along (assuming that you like him back) go to him and make the first move. You can’t argue the signals he’s putting out.
And now that you know where he stands, you can walk up to him and do your thing without any fear of rejection.
Give him the most unexpected (yet most welcome) surprise ever.
While he’s summoning up the courage to tell you that he likes you, go over there and show him that you’ve known for quite some time now and that you don’t mind it one bit! (Kiss optional).