What are the most important qualities of a good man you should look for? How do you spot a good man in a sea of heartbreakers and losers?
When I was younger, I used to imagine a perfect man according to my standards. He would have black hair, green eyes, a toned body, and tattoos. I wanted a bad boy with a good heart and an artistic soul.
Well, guess what?
After a few failed relationships, my standards for a good man changed. I no longer look for the man I described above, but now I pay more attention to character traits, which are far more important than having green eyes or tattoos.
I’m talking about a grown-ass man with his shit together, a man who is faithful, a great listener, and a gentleman with a good sense of humor.
Don’t get me wrong. I have nothing against a hot, toned body, but this is no longer a priority. And, yes, I’m perfectly aware that finding a guy who will not disappoint me has become mission impossible, but I definitely won’t be satisfied with mediocrity.
Dear ladies, there are still good men out there, so keep your eyes open!
Below you’ll find a list of important qualities of a good man, qualities that make him marriage material, and some sage good man quotes.
Qualities Of A Good Man In A Relationship
The classic gentleman
Every great man is a gentleman. Period. A good man has good manners, and he respects you and the people around you regardless of their social status.
A classic gentleman opens doors for you, listens to you, is caring and mature. A man like this can make any woman feel like a queen, and I think we aren’t asking for much, right, ladies?
I’m sure to many of you, finding a good guy who is faithful sounds impossible. Well, faithfulness and dependability are some of the most important qualities every real man should have.
Needless to say, if a man is unfaithful, then you know he’s Mr. Wrong, and there’s no point in wasting your time on such immature men.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned so far, it is that you cannot be in a healthy relationship with a guy who is not honest.
Do you guys really think that we girls have time to play Sherlock Holmes every once in a while when we suspect that you’re hiding something from us? I don’t think so.
You definitely shouldn’t waste your time looking for signs a man is lying to you. Remember that a good man will never play games with you or make you question his honesty. Period.
I’m pretty sure that emotionally immature men have their own secret island because there’s more and more of them.
So, when you meet an emotionally mature man, you need to pinch yourself twice to be sure that it’s not a dream.
Joking aside, dear men, but there is some truth in these wise words: A mature man with moral integrity is an ideal man.
Any red flags in his behavior, such as giving you ultimatums and never apologizing, scream that he’s immature, so pay close attention to that!
A self-confident man knows what he brings to the table. He doesn’t have problems with self-control, self-discipline, or self-awareness.
He’s the type of man who is ready to deal with whatever life throws at him because he believes in himself. He doesn’t wait for others to help him with things. Instead, he rolls up his sleeves and does what he has to.
Self-confident men don’t look for validation from other people. They know their value, and this can be seen in the way they walk, talk, touch you, and love you.
Let’s be honest. Who would want to be with a person who is constantly pessimistic? Right.
A positive attitude is no longer a choice but a necessity and a great quality to have. A man with such an attitude is a real gem because he’s inspiring, ambitious, and self-confident.
Dear ladies, lacking a positive attitude is one of the signs he’d make a horrible boyfriend, and I’m not even joking.
You’re probably thinking to yourself: “Why would you even add this to the list? Of course, we want a man who is kind.”
I know that we do want such a man, but it’s my holy duty to remind you of this often underrated quality. A kind man is not only someone who acts politely in front of you but genuinely has a kind heart.
He’s ready to assist you when you need help with something, he’s willing to listen to your problems, and he understands you instead of judging you. Fashion, attractive physical traits, and other things will change, but a kind man will always be trending.
Here’s one of the valuable lessons you learn after dating Mr. Wrong: A high-quality man is compassionate.
It’s true that we women know how to take care of ourselves, and often we’re the ones who take care of others. Still, this doesn’t mean that we don’t need a man who is caring and compassionate.
A man who shows sympathy and concern for others is a quality man, and you should trust his intentions.
I’m sure that every man who reads the term “committed” will instantly start overthinking. Commitment is one of the most difficult words for many men to pronounce.
Still, some men don’t have a problem committing and making their woman the happiest.
Such a man will love spending time with you, he’ll treat you as his priority, and he will never make you question or overthink things.
If a man plays hot and cold, that’s one of the signs he doesn’t want to commit, and you deserve better than that!
Selflessness is one of the key qualities in a good man for several reasons. If a man is selfless, his happiness will be his priority.
He will not focus only on receiving but on giving as well. Being selfless means reciprocating and compromising.
These are not only qualities of a good man but a good relationship as well. Actually, these qualities are crucial for establishing a healthy relationship, and that’s why you should always choose a selfless man.
A woman doesn’t only need a man who will be a genuine gentleman, but she also needs a man who will be her best friend. Friendly men don’t take themselves too seriously, and they are perfect partners in crimes.
Friendly men make watching the ceiling a fun activity because they often have a great sense of humor.
Spending time with them always feels like a vacation, and who wouldn’t worship a man like that? As Cyndi Lauper says: Girls just want to have fun!
Passionate & charismatic
My grandma was right. She would always say to me: Choose a man and not a boy. Here’s my version of her famous saying: Choose a man who is passionate and charismatic and not a boy.
Whenever I talk about such men, I have to mention Johnny Depp. Just look at his unique style and the way he expresses himself in both words and body language.
I’m talking about men who can take your breath away with their aura just by entering a room. You’re drawn to their energy like a vampire to blood.
Best of all, there is so much you can learn from such men because they certainly don’t give a damn about what others think. They live their lives to the fullest, and they add bits of themselves to everything they do.
Yes, I’m really a sucker for such men.
If you’ve ever been with a man who is not the romantic type AT ALL, then you know how painful it is. When you mention stargazing or any other romantic activity, they just shrug their shoulders and look at you indifferently.
Worst of all is that you should never expect them to make any romantic gestures like all the other romantic guys do.
Lucky us because we won’t settle for less than we deserve. With that being said, only a real man would make these romantic gestures:
- Write a list of the things he loves about you.
- Write a romantic song for you.
- Compliment you.
- Plan a romantic date night.
- Surprise you at work.
A thoughtful man pays attention to little things, which is the key to a happy long-term relationship. He doesn’t only express his affection on social media but in real life as well.
He remembers what kind of chocolate you like, makes you a coffee in the morning, surprises you, and lets you know how much he’s smitten by you.
A thoughtful man never makes you feel insecure. He uses every second to do something nice for you and prove how much he cares about you.
Such men are simply priceless.
When it comes to the qualities of a good man, we shouldn’t forget the power of responsibility. A responsible man with a good moral compass is every woman’s dream. (I sincerely hope that there are men reading this.)
Ladies, a guy you deserve takes responsibility for his actions, apologizes when necessary, and doesn’t run away from problems.
Instead, he deals with them. A sarcastic wow! Okay, maybe I overdid it, but you get the idea. Responsibility is definitely one of the top qualities of a great man you should look for in a relationship.
I’ll use this opportunity to cite my grandma again: “There is no successful relationship without patience.” Indeed, an impatient man is nothing but trouble. (This goes for women, too, but in this context, I’m referring only to men.)
Just think about what your life would look like with a man who can’t wait a few seconds, days, or weeks to get/achieve something? Impatient men are the total opposite of ambitious men.
I’m sure you’re already familiar with this popular saying: Patience is a virtue. Well, now it’s time to implement its wisdom into your potential partners and love life in general.
To a lot of women, The definition of a good guy is someone who cares about their well-being and happiness. Well, that’s a good definition, I must admit.
A man who doesn’t care about other people or himself won’t care about you either. A relationship with such a man is doomed, and you know it too.
Every woman needs a man who will ask her how her day was, who will want to listen to her when she’s upset, and who will do all those little things that show how much he cares.
I have something to share with you. Currently, I’m dating a guy who is some sort of a bad boy (my favorite). He has tattoos, hazel eyes, and he’s passionate, charismatic, and CARING.
I truly hope that he’s the right one for me because I can no longer deal with disappointments. Fingers crossed!
If you need to give up on your dreams to be with him, he’s not worth it. If you need to beg for his support and attention, he’s not worth it.
A man who understands your point of view, who gives you advice and supports you (especially during tough times) is a man who is worth it.
I suggest reading the above sentences a few times so that you memorize them once and for all.
This is one of my favorite qualities of a good man because I really like to laugh. Actually, a sense of humor is my lifestyle, as you can see in my writing style. Okay, enough about me.
Being with a humorous partner will bring lots of positivity into your romantic relationship. In other words, you will not get stuck in a rut, and your relationship will be exciting.
There’s something about humorous guys who can make your day without even trying. Their tendency to make other people laugh is heartwarming, and their positive attitude is inspiring.
Dear ladies, never settle for anything less than a humorous man who can make you laugh out loud.
Yes, dear men, that’s exactly what women want. They don’t want a perfect guy. Women want a guy who will make them feel safe and protected.
Yes, we want to know that our man is perfectly capable and willing to defend us if the time comes. We want to know that we can rely on our man and that he will do anything to make us feel safe all the time.
When you finally meet a good guy who is protective, trust me, you’ll know it.
He will hold you in his arms tightly, he will ask you if you have any problems for him to fix, and you will see in his eyes that he would do anything to protect you.
That’s exactly what I saw in the eyes of that special hazel-eyed boy I’m currently dating.
I learned the hard way that being ambitious is one of the most important personality traits. So, if you ask me, Mr. Right needs to be ambitious.
An ambitious man doesn’t have problems with self-improvement because he’s willing to work on himself and achieve goals.
Ambitious men are those men who always have a plan. They don’t just go through life thinking only about today, but they are fighting for their future.
Every woman needs a man who is ambitious because such men offer safety and reliability. You always know where you stand with them.
I’m not sure if this is a matter of preference, but passive men can be real problems. That’s why you should always look for a man who is direct.
I’m talking about a man who will tell you to your face how much he’s crazy about you, a man who will show you his true feelings and never assume that you already know how he feels about you.
Direct men are those men who fight for their women and always know what they want. Playing games is not their cup of tea because they like their life drama-free!
If there’s one thing I truly can’t stand, it’s people who give up too easily. Being with such a man is a big no-no because life is full of ups and downs, and only those who have learned to persevere can survive.
Passionate and ambitious men know that perseverance is the key to success.
Therefore, the ability to persist in doing something despite difficulty is considered one of the essential traits of a good man.
If someone asked me a few years ago about my perfect guy type, I would never mention the quality of being a problem-solver.
Well, today, I know for sure that the perfect guy type (for me) is a thinker who focuses on a problem and finding a solution. The last thing in the world I need is a guy who will start drinking beer and do nothing every time a life difficulty emerges.
I need a man who will be determined to find a solution for a certain problem instead of running from it. I’m sure that’s what every single lady needs and deserves. Correct me if I’m wrong!
Here are a few reasons why you should look for men who are grateful:
- Grateful men don’t take women for granted.
- Grateful men don’t think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.
- Grateful men appreciate their women.
If you want to know if your man is grateful, pay attention to his words and especially his body language because our bodies never lie. Shakira would agree with us because her hips don’t lie. (Damn, I’m good.)
What Are The Qualities Of A Good Man To Marry?
Loyal, emotionally mature, self-confident, ambitious, protective, responsible, thoughtful…These traits of a good man in a relationship also apply to a man who is marriage material.
Still, I would like to emphasize a few traits of a good man to marry so that we have them in black and white.
If your man has the following qualities, then you know he will be a good husband:
- He’s a great listener
- He’s loyal
- He’s thoughtful
- He fits into your life
- He talks about the future
- He’s trustworthy
- He makes you feel comfortable and relaxed
- He appreciates you
- He brings out the best in you
- He motivates you
- He protects you
To all the ladies out there:
Marry a guy with whom every day feels like a new adventure.
Marry a guy who will know how to make you laugh even when you feel like crying.
Marry a guy who will not try to change you but help you become the best version of yourself.
Don’t forget that marriage is all about ‘give and take.’ Choose a man who knows how to reciprocate.
Qualities Of A Good Man Quotes
If you need more advice regarding finding a good man, these quotes will help you understand the qualities of such a man:
“A good man will want you to shine. He wants you to be your amazing self. A good man loves to show off his happy, intelligent, amazing, powerful woman.” – Anastasia Netri
“A real man can’t stand seeing his woman hurt. He’s careful with his decisions and actions, so he never has to be responsible for her pain.” – Unknown
“A gentleman will open doors, pull out chairs, and carry things. Not because she’s helpless or unable, but because he wants to show her that she is valuable and worthy of respect.” – Charles J. Orlando
“The good man is the man who, no matter how morally unworthy he has been, is moving to become better.” – John Dewey
“I think a gentleman is someone who holds the comfort of other people above their own. The instinct to do that is inside every good man, I believe. The rules about opening doors and buying dinner and all of that other ‘gentleman’ stuff is a chess game, especially these days.” – Anna Kendrick
“The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.” – Bob Marley
“It makes a big difference when men respect women. There are a lot of men who don’t, so that’s the main quality that would make a good man a great man.” – Stephanie Sigman
“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.
A Good Man Will Want You To Be Happy
We can make a list of 100 qualities of a good man, but in the end, it all comes down to that one sentence: A good man will want to make you happy.
His main focus will be on your well-being and not his expectations. He will be ready to do anything to see you smile.
Once you meet such a man, hold onto him because I certainly will.
Well, perhaps you’re already dating one at the moment without even knowing it. Here’s how you’ll know for sure: 8 Signs You’re Dating A Truly Good Man.