I suppose that most men would like to be classified as Alpha males but the truth is quite the opposite. Actually, the majority of them have a Delta male personality!
So, what is a Delta male? What are his most common personality traits? What qualities and flaws does he have?
Find out more by reading this elaborate guide on a Delta male.
What Is A Delta Male?
If you’re wondering what a Delta male is, you’re about to get your answer. The best Delta male definition would be that this type of man is just an average guy. He doesn’t stand out from the crowd and lives a pretty ordinary, basic life.
Delta Male Personality Traits
Most (or even all) of these characteristics apply to every Delta man:
1. Quiet men…
The Delta personality is the opposite of an Alpha male. And the first time you notice that is when you see how quiet Delta men actually are.
They’re introverts by nature, similar to Sigma males and Beta males. Deltas don’t have a large crowd of buddies that are always by their side.
On the contrary, they find it hard to find friends – even since early childhood. But the good part is that, in most cases, that doesn’t bother them much.
Except for being introverts, they’re also lone wolves who prefer being by themselves. As a matter of fact, when they spend too much time surrounded by people, they need some time alone to recharge their batteries.
You won’t find a guy like this partying, traveling, or exploring the world. He is perfectly fine in the comfort of his own home, without anyone disturbing him.
2. … with the loudest minds
When you first meet this average guy, you might assume that he doesn’t have anything to say. I mean, if you run into him at a social gathering, you see him in the corner, not talking to anyone.
Well, let me tell you something: he might actually surprise you. Yes, he’s a quiet man but all the fun takes place in his mind.
He is super intelligent and sharp-minded. He actually has an opinion regarding most things— he just chooses not to verbalize it all the time.
It might look like he doesn’t notice what’s going on around him but trust me, that can’t be further from the truth. On the contrary, he is actually quite perceptive— he just chooses to observe from a safe distance.
When you finally get this man to talk, you find out that he has a lot to say. And you’ll be surprised by the imagination and intelligence he possesses.
3. Mysterious and secretive
One of the most obvious Delta male traits is their secretive nature. A Delta guy is a mysterious human being who doesn’t allow just anyone to break the high walls he built around himself.
He doesn’t like sharing things about himself, especially if it concerns his personal life. The thing he despises the most is nosy people who have no boundaries and ask unpleasant questions.
However, Deltas are not only secretive to strangers, acquaintances, neighbors, or coworkers only – they treat their loved ones the same way.
You can be dating this man for ages and still not be familiar with some of his deepest traumas, insecurities, or fears. These are the things he prefers to keep to himself.
Therefore, if the Delta male archetype makes an exception and lets you in, consider yourself pretty damn special. He doesn’t show his true self and doesn’t open up for real unless he trusts you unconditionally. It means he loves you and is ready to put his life into your hands.
4. No leadership skills
The best way to describe a Delta is as an “Average Joe”. Do you know that an Alpha man does everything in his power to take the lead, no matter the situation?
Well, we’ve already established that they have nothing in common with an Alpha male. That is why a Delta male will try hard to be the one who follows.
Let’s get one thing straight: this type of man doesn’t have what it takes to lead. He has no mental strength to be the head of the crowd, nor does he have enough charm for people to obey or even follow him.
Nevertheless, this is not the only reason he never takes a leadership position. The bottom line is that he has no ambition for it either.
He prefers having less responsibility and at the end of the day, he enjoys being told what to do. He behaves like this in school, at work, at home, and in all other life aspects.
5. Low self-esteem
A man who is led by his insecurities is a perfect example of the Delta male archetype. This guy has been suffering from low self-esteem for as long as he can remember.
He doesn’t believe in himself and he has no faith that he can succeed in anything. This man is a quitter who gives up even before he puts his mind to something.
The worst part is the fact that he does absolutely nothing to change this. He doesn’t put in any effort into boosting his self-esteem. Instead, he accepted things the way they are without any hope of them being different.
He is emotionally insecure and only sees flaws in his looks and personality. He constantly compares himself to others, with the same conclusion every time— that literally everyone is better than him.
And the sad truth is that people notice this. Girls and other guys see his insecurities and frequently take advantage of them.
Insecure around girls
This man’s insecurities are best seen when it comes to the opposite sex. A Delta man has no initiative and even when he likes you, he’ll act like a typical shy guy. Basically, he won’t do anything about it.
He is not the type of man who approaches girls, he doesn’t know how to flirt and it will take him a lot of time and even more courage to ask you on a first date.
6. Hopeless romantics
What about matters of the heart? Well, if you plan on dating a Delta man, you must know one thing: you’re dealing with a hopeless romantic, which is actually a great thing.
But I’m not saying that he’s romantic in a sense of great gestures and big surprises. I mean, he would have to defeat his insecurities for this to happen.
He is romantic in terms of believing in true love. He imagines his life to be a rom-com with a happy ending, where he and the girl of his dreams ride off into the sunset together.
The best thing about this is that he is more than able to be committed to one relationship at a time. When he finds the girl he loves, being unfaithful and fooling around behind her back is the last thing on his mind.
He is not interested in toxic modern dating practices. Instead, he prefers doing things the good old way, which means labeling a relationship and actually loving the woman next to you.
7. Submissive in relationships
However, that doesn’t mean that romantic relationships with this type of man are all sunshine and roses. This may sound a bit harsh but sometimes, he has nothing to offer except his endless and unconditional love.
Even though this seems enough in the beginning, most women get tired of his submissiveness. And I’m not talking about the bedroom here.
He is the kind of guy who will follow his woman’s lead and expect her to tell him what to do. He doesn’t mind having a girlfriend or a wife who orders him around, as long as he doesn’t have to take charge.
Regarding the household, He takes no initiative and avoids responsibilities. He lets the woman be the head of the house and if he could, he would prefer not to interfere in her decisions.
In many cases, at the end of the day, a woman realizes that she is not sharing a life with a strong man she can rely on. Instead, she got herself a child she has to guide through life.
8. No ambition for self-improvement
Delta men are self-aware. It means that this guy knows very well that he isn’t using his full potential and that he has much more to offer.
But he just doesn’t give a damn about it. He prefers remaining in his comfort zone instead of going in search of a better life.
He has zero ambition for literally everything in his life. Actually, to be exact, he has no energy to stand up from his comfortable couch and do something with his life.
If he has a poorly paid job, he’ll probably complain about it but he won’t search for something better, nor will he ask for a raise. Deep down, he’ll know that he’s underpaid but he won’t wreck his brains about it that much.
The same goes for everything else around him. He isn’t interested in self-growth and he has no ambition of becoming anything more than just an average guy.
Knowing all of this, you would think that he is the kind of man who lives his life in his own way, without giving a damn about social expectations. Well, that’s where you’re wrong.
Even though they’re not very sociable, deep down, men belonging to this type are actually the biggest people-pleasers in the world.
They’re terrified of society judging them and they never go against the masses. Even when they have a different opinion than someone else, they’ll never say it. Instead, they’ll nod their head at everything you say and pretend to agree.
Why do they do this? Is it because they want to fit in and look for validation?
Well, that’s one of the reasons. But besides this, a Delta man also has no courage to stand up for what he believes in. He avoids conflict simply because it’s easier to go with the flow.
It’s easier to indisputably nod his head and listen to someone’s orders than to invest some energy into confronting them.
10. Prone to substance abuse
Even though this is definitely not the case with everyone belonging to this socio-sexual hierarchy, it is a proven fact that Delta men are prone to addictions and substance abuse.
First and foremost, they spend most of the time trapped in their own head. Well, many substances intensify their imagination and make that experience much more exciting— that is, at first.
Besides this, they also have a hard time facing challenges in life. They often have no (or very few) friends who could help them cope with problems.
Consequently, it’s easy for them to fall into the pit of substance abuse— it often gives them more confidence and makes them feel more powerful than ever.
11. Revengeful and resentful
Let me tell you one thing: a Delta man can hold a grudge forever. It might look like he has forgiven you for hurting him in any way possible, but trust me, he’s not.
On the contrary, he’s just plotting his revenge. And you know what they say: revenge is a dish best served cold. Well, Deltas know that very well.
They’re willing to wait years while pretending that everything is okay before they get even with you. Sooner or later, they’ll give you a taste of your own medicine so don’t ever think that they’re harmless.
They’re also known to be quite resentful and bitter. If they feel like they’ve been wronged by someone, even if that someone is a loved one they care for deeply, they will hold that grudge forever.
12. Role of a victim
But at the same time, it’s like they lowkey enjoy playing the victim. They have a way of turning the tables upside down and making you look like the bad guy, even if that is far from the truth.
This is, of course, the last thing they’ll admit but it’s like they love being desperate and wallowing in self-pity.
You’ll often hear a Delta male complaining about how life treats them unfairly. They’ll all go on and on about different injustices they’ve been subjected to.
Surprisingly, they’ll rarely take responsibility for their misery and often suffer from a nice guy syndrome. Instead, it’s always their ill faith that brought them right where they are— as if they had nothing to do with it.
This is especially true when it comes to women. If you ever hear a man complaining how girls never choose nice guys and how they always pick bad boys who end up treating them poorly, know that he is a perfect example of a Delta man.
13. Nerdy outcasts
Delta guys are usually considered nerds and have been since their early childhood. Back in school, they were never a part of the popular kids. Instead, they somehow always ended up observing everyone from the back.
They’re interested in video games, science fiction, engineering, and the technical field. Their nerdy nature frequently labels them as outcasts.
However, the truth is that they lack social skills that would help them fit in. And maybe that’s a good thing.
Even though they go with the flow to avoid conflict, they never truly change their interests and passions to be more likable.
14. Kind and helpful
The best thing about the Delta male personality is their kind and loving heart. Yes, they will get revenge if you step on their toes, but other than that, they’ll go out of their way to help you out.
They’re everything but selfish and are always there for the ones they love. Even though they don’t have that many friends, they give their unconditional love to the small number of people they choose to open up to.
But their generosity and kindness don’t end there. These guys are ready to give a hand to anyone in trouble, even if we’re talking about a complete stranger.
The reason for this kind of behavior is their empathic skills you can’t notice right away. They’re extremely compassionate and have a way of feeling other people’s pain, even when they appear to be completely uninterested in everything going on around them.
This type of man is prone to self-sabotage due to their overthinking. Remember how we talked about the fact that there is an entire Universe in their minds?
Well, sadly, this Universe is often jammed with negative and even intrusive thoughts. Of course, this has a lot to do with their insecurities and a lack of self-esteem.
Even when they think they’re ready to reach out for a better life, their overthinking stops them. They analyze and dissect every little thing around them.
Eventually, their overthinking ruins many of their relationships. It’s impossible for them to enjoy the moment and be happy.
Instead, they’ll always come up with the worst-case scenarios and think of ways everything might get ruined.
Why do they behave like this? Well, the main cause is fear. They’re afraid that bad things will happen to them and see this as a defense mechanism.
Practically, they think that they’ll protect their heart from getting broken if they prepare themselves for the storm that’s coming. Little do they know that this approach actually deprives them of many awesome experiences.
16. Frustrated and bad-tempered
Here’s the truth: no Delta will ever admit that deep down, they’re frustrated for not having an Alpha personality and they hate their place in the social hierarchy.
They’re angry at the entire world and that frustration often causes them to be bad-tempered. You must think that this can’t be connected with the fact that they try hard to avoid conflicts.
Well, that’s the source of the problem. They pile up all of this anger to a point where they explode.
Or even more frequently, they engage in passive-aggressive practices. Instead of telling you what’s bothering them, they’ll just give you silent treatment or change their behavior out of the blue.
This is why people around them often consider them as moody and weird. Their sudden bursts of anger or gloominess are completely unpredictable.
17. Passive and lazy
Here’s another negative Delta personality trait: they’re incredibly lazy. They’re not interested in improving their education or working extra hours to earn more money.
They have very few hobbies and are rarely physically active. They work simply because they have to and that’s about it.
When they come home from work, they’re always too tired to do anything. Instead of hitting the gym or going out with their friends, they’ll watch a movie or play video games.
They are usually not into sports or any activity that requires them to get off the couch.
To Wrap Up:
No matter what place you occupy in the social hierarchy, it’s important to know that you can always change. If you’re a Delta male and are not happy with your position, just take your life into your own hands and do something about it.
You know what your major flaws are so it will be easier to work on them. I’m not saying that you will learn to pursue women like an Alpha male overnight (because all habits die hard) but I assure you that you can make a difference if you start now!
On the other hand, if you’re completely unbothered by your personality type, great for you!