12 Ejemplos Comunes De Mensajes De Texto Narcisistas (+ Cómo Responder)
If you’ve ever texted with a narcissist, then you know how truly frustrating it is. They have this special ability to make you feel like they truly care about you when, in reality, the only thing they care about is themselves and being in control.
Los mensajes de texto con un narcisista constan de estos tres elementos:
• voluntarily receiving crumbs from them
• justifying their texting habits
• endless hoping that they will change.
While your intuition screams that something’s not right, the rational part of your brain refuses to believe it. Y así es como te encuentras en medio de la montaña rusa que es tratar con alguien que tiene una personalidad narcisista.
If you’re not quite sure whether you’re tratar con un narcisista or someone who is bad at texting, worry not because we’ve compiled examples of narcissist text messages to come to the rescue!
12 ejemplos de mensajes de texto narcisistas
Los siguientes ejemplos de textos recibidos de narcisistas are a true depiction of their narcissistic personality. If the majority of these examples resonate with you, then you know who you’re dealing with.
1. Devaluación de textos
Los narcisistas necesitan que sientas que tu bienestar y tu felicidad dependen de ellos. Dado que se ven a sí mismos como el centro del universo, esperan que tú también los veas así.
They can’t tolerate you being happy without them having anything to do with it. A te hacen dudar de ti mismoutilizan luz de gas métodos, el tratamiento silencioso...dándote consejos no solicitados, culpándote, avergonzándote y señalando tus defectos.
Ejemplos de textos desvalorizadores:
• “I just want you to know that I did not enjoy your behavior today among our family members. I expect you to improve this next time.”
• “Are you sure about your choice of food? If you don’t change your eating habits, there’s no point in going to the gym. I mean, do what you want, but I can tell that you’ve already gained a few pounds, and it doesn’t really look nice.”
2. “The mind reader” texts
People with narcissistic personalities have the tendency to let you know that they know you better than you know yourself. Because of that, “they know what’s best for you.”
Ni que decir tiene que utilizan este método únicamente para fines de control para que dependas de ellos. Their main goal is to make you feel like you’re not capable of living without them. The more you let them believe this, the stronger they become.
Examples of “the mind reader” texts:
• “I know exactly what hair color/outfit/shoes would suit you best. So, don’t you dare contradict me.”
• “You say you feel good, but I know you’re lying. I know exactly what you need to start feeling better. Where would you be without me, right? You can thank me later.”
3. “CAPS LOCK” texts
Te envían mensajes con regularidad, se alejan, vuelven a enviártelos y desaparecen. De repente, recibes un mensaje en mayúsculas que te abruma al instante.
¿Por qué un narcisista te enviaría un mensaje en mayúsculas?
Lo hacen para enmascarar sus inseguridades, provocarte o desencadenar una reacción intensa en ti. Saben cuánto te importan y lo utilizan como combustible.
So, the more drama they create about their life, the more attached you’ll become to them. I daresay that caps lock texts are one of the sneakiest examples of narcissist text messages.
Narcissists send these texts to shock you, evoke empathy, and get you back if they’ve noticed you’re pulling away. Tenga en cuenta que este tipo de textos suelen ser mentiras creadas específicamente para fines de manipulación.
Examples of “CAPS LOCK” texts:
• “I’M SO TIRED OF MY PARENTS, MY BOSS, AND EVERYONE ELSE IN MY LIFE WHO ARE NOT EVEN TRYING TO UNDERSTAND ME. IF ONLY YOU KNEW HOW THEY TREAT ME, YOU WOULD NEVER TALK TO THEM AGAIN. I CERTAINLY DIDN’T DESERVE THIS TREATMENT, AND YOU KNOW IT TOO.”
• “WHAT THE HELL?! HOW COULD YOU IGNORE MY TEXTS WHEN YOU KNOW WHAT I’M GOING THROUGH RIGHT NOW? THE WHOLE WORLD IS AGAINST ME, AND I THOUGHT YOU WERE THE ONE PERSON WHO ACTUALLY UNDERSTANDS ME. I’M DISAPPOINTED IN YOU.”
4. “Blowing hot and cold” texts
Ghosting is every narcissist’s specialty. My friend’s ex-husband was a narc. At first, she thought he was her soulmate, but it turned out she was married to a legit malignant narcissist (extremely manipulative).
He would always give her mixed signals and send her “soplando frío y calor” texts to make her question his intentions. After that, he would apologize and tell her that he’d never do it again. Guess what? He was a great liar as well.
Psicológicamente, soplar caliente y frío se emplea principalmente para crear miedo, incertidumbre y establecer el control. That’s why narcissists are addicted to this form of manipulation in both texting and other circumstances.
Examples of “blowing hot and cold” texts:
• “Hey babe, I hope you have a great day today. Let me know if you need anything.”
• (A few hours later): “Why are you texting me? You know I’m busy at work.”
• “Good night, honey bean. I just wanted to say how happy I was today when we were together. It was one of the best days of my life. I felt like time stopped, and there was only you and me in the whole world. Can’t wait to see you again. Sleep tight. Don’t let the bedbugs bite.”
• (Tomorrow morning): “Yeah, good morning to you too. Not into texting right now.”
5. “Desperate word salad” texts (to get you back)
Bombardeo de amor es uno de los tácticas de hoovering narcisistas utilizan para volver a atraerte. Yo llamo a esto la etapa de bombardeo de amor cuando anhelan su suministro narcisista: tú.
When they become desperate, they start bombarding you with text messages, phone calls, voicemails, you name it. They’ll probably send you lots of selfies as well.
Un ejemplo de textos desesperados de ensalada de palabras:
• “Hi, honey. I know I haven’t been myself lately, but you also know that it takes two to tango. We have a great thing going, but this thing also requires maintenance and constant effort. You know I’m willing to give my best to make all this work, and I expect the same thing from you. This is the only way for us to protect our happiness and make the best of our relationship.”
6. “Sabotaging your confidence and self-worth” texts
If there’s one thing narcissists are truly great at, it is endangering your mental health. Abuso narcisista is not something we should take with a pinch of salt. Even texts and calls can leave severe scars on narcissists’ victims.
Dicho esto, narcisistas pasará mucho tiempo creando mensajes de texto dedicados específicamente a acabar con tu autoestima. Esto incluye insultos, menosprecios y otras formas furtivas de hacerte cuestionar tu autoestima.
Examples of “sabotaging your confidence and self-worth” texts:
• “How many times do I need to tell you to (do something)? Your incompetence is turning me into something I don’t want to be.”
• “You know I want the best for you, but I truly think this (thing) is not for you because you wouldn’t be good at it.
7. Textos de demanda
Todos los narcisistas tienen un fuerte sentido del derecho. Esto significa que creen que merecen un trato especial y toda tu atención.
En busca de validación both on social media and from you is basically their hobby (but they’re not even aware of it). Cuanto más les hagas sentir especiales, más fuertes se sentirán.
Pero este trato especial no se basa en los elementos de una relación sana. En su lugar, utilizan elementos de un relación abusiva para aumentar su ego. Uno de estos elementos tóxicos son los textos de demanda.
Ejemplos de textos de demanda:
• “Make me cookies.”
• “Take out the trash. It’s disgusting.”
• “Change that outfit. Doesn’t look good on you.”
8. “Emoji overload” texts to keep you guessing
When a narcissist feels like they’re losing control...implementan tácticas exageradas para mantenerte expectante o para que vuelvas. Una de estas tácticas es el uso excesivo de emojis en los textos.
La primera vez que recibí uno de estos textos, estaba convencido de que habían hecho un esfuerzo tremendo para que el texto pareciera interesante y divertido. Vaya si me equivoqué.
Well, the text did look interesting, but their intentions weren’t pure. Querían mantenerme a la expectativa sobre su mentalidad e intenciones actuales.
They succeeded because there’s nothing more painful than receiving these confusing texts that require in-depth analysis.
Examples of “emoji overload” texts:
• “Hello, I just wanted you to know that I can’t stop thinking about you all day ?????”
• “Do you want to know what I’m thinking about right now? ???? Maybe I’ll tell you later. ???”
9. Textos de gaslighting
Cuando un narcisista hace algo abusivo, necesita encontrar la forma de hacerte creer que el problema eres tú y no él. Para conseguirlo, recurren a comportamiento pasivo-agresivo o gaslighting (ambas son formas de abuso emocional).
If you’ve ever received a gaslighting text, you probably felt confused and didn’t know how to react. You also started re-evaluating your recent behavior in hopes that you’d figure out what you did wrong.
Pero todo esto fue infructuoso porque el verdadero problema son ellos, que te hacen sentir como un problema, y no tú.
Ejemplos de textos de gaslighting:
• “Seriously? You know I hate when you act this way.”
• “You have no idea what you’re talking about.”
• “I can no longer tolerate such behavior from you.”
• “You’re imagining things.”
10. Textos a altas horas de la noche
What a narcissist wants is 24/7 attention. When they text you, they expect an immediate response. If they don’t get it, they become upset.
When they don’t text you, they expect understanding. If they don’t get it, they become upset. A narcissist will send you late-night texts only to make you feel bad about not answering them when they “needed you most.”
Si apagas el teléfono en mitad de la noche, puedes esperar recibir una buena dosis de juicios y críticas. comportamiento narcisista tóxico de ellos.
Ejemplos de textos nocturnos:
• “I’m so sick of everything.”
• “Are you sleeping?”
• “Why aren’t you answering me? I’m always there when you need me, and you’re never there when I need you.”
11. “Fake caring” texts
Personas con trastorno narcisista de la personalidad (NPD) utilizan varios ejemplos de mensajes de texto narcisistas para volver a engancharte, mantener el control o simplemente volverte loco.
One of these texting examples is fake caring texts. It’s when you think that they’ve finally changed and are genuinely sorry about treating you badly.
Well, they’re not, but this is just another tactic to confuse you and play with your mind.
Examples of “fake caring” texts:
• “I hope you’re okay. I’m kind of worried about you because I haven’t heard from you in a while.”
• “Hey honey, how was your day? I expect you to tell me everything.”
• “You have no idea how much I miss you. Can’t stop thinking about you.”
12. “Fight trigger” texts
At one moment, everything seems perfect, and then a few minutes later, they start provoking you. You begin to question whether you’re that good at ignoring red flags or if there weren’t any in the first place.
Bueno, ellos mismos son una GRAN bandera roja. Tratar con una persona tóxica no tiene principio ni fin.
You’re constantly in the middle of something confusing, draining, and ultimately harmful. If not stopped, their toxic behavior often turns into violencia doméstica.
Examples of “fight trigger” texts:
• “I haven’t forgotten about you ignoring my texts the other day!”
• “Why don’t you just say what you mean?”
• “Do you think the problem is me? Think again.”
Véase también: Cómo hacer que un narcisista se obsesione contigo en 9 sencillos pasos
Cómo responder a los mensajes de texto narcisistas
Texting with a narcissist is a draining experience in itself, so learning how to text them and protect yourself is a must. Here’s how you do it:
Tener límites
Don’t respond to their calls or text messages at bedtime. Also, don’t feel obligated to text them back at any time of the day or night.
Establish boundaries because that’s the only way to protégete de su búsqueda de atención 24/7. You don’t need to use your phone on vacation, and you don’t need to text them only to make them feel good about themselves.
En lugar de eso, piensa en ti mismo.
Que sea sencillo
Don’t take their word salad texts too seriously. I know it’s easier said than done, but if you fall for it, they win. The more you do everything they expect you to, the more they assume there’s nothing wrong with their selfish approach.
Tú dictas cómo te tratan, así que lo mejor que puedes hacer es no complicarte. Envía una respuesta sencilla (ni mucho ni poco).
Evite el dramatismo a través del texto
Si notas que la cosa va a más y quieren tener una conversación seria contigo por teléfono, sugiéreles hablarlo en persona.
Avoid drama over text because if you don’t, a narcissist will use this to their advantage. They won’t stop tormenting you over text only to make you feel bad about not responding or taking them seriously.
Adoptar un enfoque neutral
Instead of arguing with a narcissist, a neutral approach is recommended. Don’t try to show them that you’re right and they’re wrong.
Don’t try to make them feel bad about their actions because they’ll always find a way to prove that you’re wrong.
No matter what you do or say, they’ll find a way to keep controlling you. So, take a neutral approach so they don’t have material for their further tendencias narcisistas y manipuladoras.
Córtalos
A veces, la única manera de tratar con narcisistas es cortar con ellos. Es decir, bloquearlos y no volver a responder a sus mensajes de texto.
El bloqueo te dará tiempo para evaluar tu relación con un narcisista y también para pasar página definitivamente. Por supuesto, si te apetece darles una segunda oportunidad, siempre puedes desbloquearlos. El bloqueo puede ser una forma de la regla del no contacto.
What Happens When You Ignore A Narcissist’s Text?
Cuando ignoras a un narcisista’s text, they become upset because you’re not giving them the attention they need. Si ignoras a un narcisista, puedes esperar que haga algunas o todas de las siguientes cosas:
• send you angry texts demanding for you to text them back
• send you fake caring and worry texts to reel you back in
• stalk you
• bombard you with phone calls, voicemails, word salad texts.
Ten en cuenta que un narcisista se alimenta de tu atención, cuidado y afecto hacia él. Esto aumenta su ego porque, en pocas palabras, los narcisistas son bastante inseguros.
Once they lose their narcissistic supply (you), they become scared, and they’ll be willing to do anything to get you back, only to keep feeding off your love and attention.
Reflexiones finales
If the above examples of narcissist text messages resonate with you, then you know they’re not bad at texting. Instead, son un narcisista legítimo que sabe exactamente lo que hace y por qué lo hace.
Una de las cosas más importantes es recordar que no debes dejar que influyan en tu autoestima ni que te hagan cuestionarte de ningún modo.
Protegerte es tu prioridad número uno, y puedes hacerlo estableciendo límites y manteniendo la neutralidad. Si las cosas se vuelven insoportables, cortar todo contacto (temporal o permanentemente) también es una opción.
