¿Por qué me atraen los hombres mayores? 20 razones sorprendentes
¿Por qué me atrae hombres mayores? ¿Qué hechizo me ponen que apenas reconozco a alguien de mi edad?
If these questions bother you as much as they do me, then you’ve come to the right place.
Te diré por qué estás en diferencias de edad en las relacionesla diferencia entre hombres mayores y jóvenes, y todo lo que influye en la elección de pareja.
Stay with me, and let’s explore the minds of both older men and us!
¿Por qué me atraen los hombres mayores? 20 razones
Si quieres saber por qué las relaciones con diferencias de edad te suenan atractivas, echa un vistazo a las 20 razones siguientes:
1. Parecen más varoniles
Not that there’s anything wrong with feminine men (God forbid), but there’s just something about the manliness you can see in older men.
It isn’t about looks but rather their energy. The way they move screams confidence and experience.
Estos zorros plateados tienen la capacidad de arrasar en cuestión de segundos.
Todo lo que define un hombre de verdad is there: strength, decisiveness, wisdom, intelligence, fearlessness… You can sense all that without even speaking to them.
It’s really true what they say… Hombres mayores son como el vino – mejoran con la edad.
2. Son más maduros
Younger partners call women out for being drama queens, but in reality, they’re no different.
They create problems where there aren’t any. They are often so possessive that they expect you to be there 24/7. Not even terapia de pareja could save these types of relationships…
Un hombre mayor nunca haría algo así.
He’s self-sufficient and values his time, so he understands if you need some solitude. He understands the importance of límites en las relaciones.
When there is an actual problem, he doesn’t fight or give you the tratamiento silencioso. Nunca le verás reaccionar de forma exagerada, sino buscar activamente soluciones a tus problemas.
You shouldn’t be asking yourself ”Why am I attracted to hombres mayores?” but rather ”Why wouldn’t I be?”
3. Saben lo que quieren
You’re probably attracted to chicos mayores because they always have a clear goal in mind. There’s no room for doubts or inseguridades.
Even when they are at a crossroads, they handle it like mature men. They’re not confused for long like their younger counterparts tend to be.
If they like you, they won’t sit in silence and hope for the best. They’ll reach out straight away and charm you with their decisiveness.
They won’t hide behind social media and dating sites but will prefer to talk to you in person.
Even if you’re a big challenge and give them a hard time, they won’t easily back out.
Creen demasiado en sí mismos como para rendirse.
4. They’ve already built a life for themselves
Younger men usually don’t have anything figured out. It’s like they’re totally excluded from real life and all they do is play video games and party with their friends.
How can they be capable of being a good partner then? It’s no wonder women find older men attractive.
Most of them have a career and a home of their own. Of course, this doesn’t mean that we are materialistic. It’s not about wealth at all.
It’s just a gran encendido to see a man who’s accomplished all of his goals, a man who overcame every obstacle to get what he wants.
Alguien capaz y fuerte te llamará la atención.
Since you (probably) haven’t accomplished your goals due to your age, you are inspired by his abilities. You want to be a part of his life because you think he might help you find your own purpose.
Además, alguien así es una opción mucho mejor para un relación seria¿No es así?
5. Aprecian más la vida
When you’re younger, your main goal is to have fun. And you think that by having fun, you appreciate life more. But that’s not exactly the case.
Hombres mayores han tenido su ración de diversión, por lo que saben que apreciar la vida consiste en aprovechar sus múltiples oportunidades.
They won’t hesitate to accept a job offer or form a relationship with you. This is because they aren’t looking for temporary excitement.
They’re aware that life is passing them by, and they want to be truly HAPPY. They don’t waste their time with the ‘what ifs.’
Y créeme, alguien que se da cuenta del valor de la vida sabrá quererte como te mereces.
6. Están más dispuestos a comprometerse
Sé que los hombres de todas las edades luchan con cuestiones de compromiso, but let’s be honest – hombres mayores están más preparados para un relación comprometida.
Lo que causó los problemas con el compromiso aún está fresco en las mentes de los hombres más jóvenes, por lo que les afecta más fácilmente.
Si les han roto el corazón, tardan siglos en volver a confiar en alguien. Y cuando lo intentan, acabas atascado con un hombre emocionalmente no disponible.
Por otro lado, los hombres mayores han tenido más tiempo para aclarar sus ideas y descubrir quiénes son realmente.
Como pueden manejarse mejor, están más preparados para ser emocionalmente unida a ti.
Incluso si luchan contra el desamor (y todos lo hacemos), con el tiempo empiezan a verlo como algo del pasado.
This is because the years are passing by quickly, and they don’t want to die alone without a legacy. So, it’s not only that they don’t fear commitment, but they are desperate for it.
7. Son más cariñosos
Have you ever seen a 40-year-old man who doesn’t know how to take care of a woman?
Exactamente.
So, why do you still keep asking yourself ”Why am I attracted to older men?”
No sólo te miman, sino que además siempre saben qué decir. Son auténticos caballeros que te tratan con amabilidad y respeto.
Nada cruel o inapropiado saldrá de sus bocas.
Te ven como un ser precioso al que tienen que proteger, así que hacen todo lo posible por cumplir tus deseos.
If all of this sounds like a Hollywood romance movie, that’s probably because you’ve had too many relaciones inmaduras with younger men…
8. Tienen más experiencia vital
That’s the first thing you think of when you look at an hombre mayor, isn’t it? You are attracted to how much they know about life, how much they have been through.
Puede que tú misma seas una joven experimentada, pero aun así los miras y te sientes tentada por todo lo que podrían enseñarte.
Si se siente perdida o desesperanzada ante la vida, probablemente se sentirá atraída por hombres mayores.
You want a lover, but you also want a mentor, a guide. You want someone who will save you from the misery of life you don’t yet know how to deal with.
9. Le ofrecen una sensación de seguridad
There are many strong and smart young men nowadays, but security isn’t about that…
Don’t you always feel safer when you’re with someone who knows more than you? That’s why you’re into hombres mayores.
Al conocer su experiencia, se crea una sensación de seguridad. Piensas que se han enfrentado a todo tipo de situaciones y que probablemente tengan una solución sabia para todo.
In reality, you just want a hero. And you don’t see heroic potential in men your age.
10. Los hombres jóvenes siguen decepcionándote
When I think to myself: ”Why am I attracted to older men?” the first answer that comes to mind is:
Porque hombres más jóvenes ¡son demasiado decepcionantes!
I mean, no offense here, but let’s be honest… They never know how to handle their problems like adults, and it only ends up ruining your relationship.
Los hombres mayores nunca permitirían que eso sucediera. Llevan su equipaje, pero sus relaciones permanecen intactas. Esto se debe a su mayores niveles de madurez y la inteligencia emocional.
11. Tienen más confianza
¿Cuántos romances han fracasado por culpa de jóvenes inseguros?
So many of them don’t have the courage to approach you, and if they do approach you, it only turns into a very relación complicada.
Older men rarely have these problems! They’ve probably had many relationships in the past that made them confident enough to ligar como un profesional.
You don’t ever have to worry that it’s not going to work. If they like you, that’s already finished business. Nothing will stop them from getting your attention.
And let’s be honest… Who doesn’t like to be chased?
12. Parecen más atractivos
What? This is a valid reason! Some women just like you better when you’re older. Some prefer 30-year-olds, whereas others are attracted to men twice their age!
Why wouldn’t they be? There’s nothing NOT to like. Just think about Dr. House or Aaron Hotchner from Mentes Criminales. Dios sabe que lo hago todos los días.
We get to see scenes where they’re younger, yet I can’t help but be more attracted to them when they get older. Does that happen to you, too?
Don’t think that there’s anything wrong with you, though. You have the right to like whoever you want.
Besides, isn’t this encouraging? We often fear old age because we think our beauty will disappear, but look! There’s always someone who will find you attractive.
13. Tienes problemas con tu padre
It’s always some kind of trauma, isn’t it? Well, sadly, yes. Your fascination with older men might just stem from problemas con papá. ¿Qué significa eso?
It means that your father didn’t offer you the love and protection that you deserved as a child.
Como fuiste abandonado emocionalmente, ahora buscas un figura paterna that will make up for what you didn’t have in childhood.
Sounds complicated, doesn’t it? But it’s valid.
You’re not unstable for having problemas con papá. It’s okay to want someone to protect you, especially if nobody ever did.
So, don’t think that this is wrong. You are not weird or messed up. Don’t let anyone convince you that you are.
14. Respetan más a las mujeres
When you’re in a relationship with someone your age, they rarely know how to appreciate you. And since they don’t appreciate you, they have no te respeto tampoco.
They’re just too young to understand what partnership means.
That’s what’s so appealing about older guys. They’re aware that you’re two individuals but you still function as a TEAM.
And a team values the opinion of everyone. They will always listen to your advice carefully. You don’t ever have to worry about not being taken seriously.
Older guys will never see you as ‘just a girlfriend’ but rather as a human being and a partner who’s equally as important as them.
15. Tienen experiencia sexual
Well… we are sexual beings, too, aren’t we? Having an older partner who knows what he’s doing is bound to make sex much more exciting!
After all, you’re young and (probably) don’t have much sexual experience. So, it’s not unusual that you want someone who does.
At least one of us has to know what they’re doing, right?
Tú quieres experiencia y ellos quieren a alguien que no la tenga.
Yes, as men age, they are more into younger women, in the age range of around 20–30, because they want to prove to themselves that they’ve still ‘got it.’
Cuando tienen sexo con un 20-mujer de un año, they get their validation, and you get great sex! It’s a win-win situation!
16. Saben comunicarse
Do you often ask yourself: ”Why am I attracted to older men?” Yeah, me too… Or at least I did until I figured out the answer.
It’s because I never have to worry that they’ll misunderstand me!
Incluso cuando lo hagan, hablaremos de ello como adultos y averiguaremos dónde está el problema.
Sé que nunca ponerse a la defensiva o señalar con el dedo. Entienden que nunca se puede resolver nada sin comunicación.
Su objetivo es solucionar el problema juntos, no estar unos contra otros, lo que es señal de un relación sana.
Besides, you can’t form a una conexión emocional más profunda if you don’t hear each other out.
17. Tienen seguridad económica
More often than not, older people have steady jobs and a secure future, so it’s understandable if you’re attracted to them.
But that doesn’t mean you want them for their money. You just want someone who’ll be able to take care of you.
Esto es especialmente comprensible si su objetivo es ser un ama de casa.
And even if you’re employed, too, it’s okay if you don’t want to be the only provider. It’s okay to want a capable man who’s ready to help you out.
18. Quieres un sugar daddy
Sí, puede que encuentres el diferencia de edad attractive just because there’s something in it for you!
A sugar daddy doesn’t mind paying for whatever your heart desires, and you’re happy because you’re able to live the life of your dreams.
Ser un bebé azucarado benefits both you and your ‘benefactor.’ That’s why you shouldn’t feel guilty for doing it. If both sides are happy, then there’s nothing wrong with that.
19. Salir con ellos es un acto de rebeldía
Sea sincero. ¿Quién apoyaría a tu relación con un hombre mayor? Rarely anyone would…
And that’s exactly what strengthens your desire!
It’s a turn on to look at someone nobody would approve of, especially if you’re in your early to late 20s…
Tu espíritu rebelde sigue muy vivo y dirige tus deseos. Quieres lo que la sociedad rechaza.
En diferencia de edad no significa nada para ti porque significa todo para ellos.
This isn’t wrong, but still make sure that you actually like the person, and not just what they represent!
20. Son más cómodos
Incluso cuando los chicos nuestra propia edad manage to approach us, they’re still struggling to relax. They try to look all macho but don’t know that we have a sixth sense that tells us a different story.
Older men, on the other hand, don’t have those problemas de autoestima.
They approach you with confidence and talk to you in a relaxed manner because they’re not intimidated by women.
Their beauty and intellect aren’t something to be afraid of, but something they need to conquer. And they usually do… because they believe they can.
Véase también: Cómo hacer que un hombre mayor te desee en 27 pasos infalibles
Reflexiones finales
I hope that the question ”Why am I attracted to older men?” no longer keeps you up at night. See, it’s not just the influence of Lana Del Rey’s music!
Cita con las mujeres hombres mayores porque tienen más que ofrecer.
It’s the same with chicos jóvenes. En su mayoría están encaprichados con mujeres mayores.
A mucha gente quieren un socio con experiencia que les dé sensación de seguridad. A mucha gente quieren a alguien que les enseñe a vivir como es debido.
It’s no wonder we are attracted to people who are different from us. We want something that we don’t have because it’s new and exciting.
And don’t EVER think there’s anything wrong with that!
