Come smettere di pensare troppo in una relazione (9 passi per farlo)

Si dice che non c'è nulla al mondo che possa turbare quanto i propri pensieri. Well, that’s true just like it’s true that there is nothing that can harm the bond between two partners than the ugly abitudine a pensare troppo in una relazione.

Il vero guaio si crea quando le vostre insicurezze iniziano a nuotare in superficie senza che voi lo vogliate.

Although it’s your life we’re talking about, sometimes it feels to you like you don’t have control over your thoughts, does it?

Nobody is going to ask you why you do it… It’s not like you want to overanalyze everything, it’s just the way you are.

Continuate a pensare e a ossessionante su questa cosa più e più volte.

And, your thoughts get deeper and deeper until you’ve taken into consideration all the circumstances, events, and possibilities that could occur.

In the end, there are so many different case scenarios racing in your head, and you start being afraid of something that didn’t even happen, but you’ve predicted it might happen.

Che cos'è un sovrappensiero in una relazione?

Let’s just consider overthinking as a salute mentale condizione. Allora, un pensatore eccessivo è una persona che soffre di questa condizione.

This is a person who can’t stop ossessionante e sovraanalisi even some pretty clear and simple things or the things they absolutely can’t control.

It’s like they constantly have that fear of being hurt, and it makes them rethink every single decision they make or step they take.

It’s the person that simply doesn’t want to prendere le cose al valore nominale. Their mind is filled with constant ‘what ifs’ and they’re always looking for some answers.

That’s a person whose linguaggio del corpo mostra quanto sia basso il loro autostima is. They go from relationship to relationship, and can’t easily settle anywhere because of their own insecurities.

Il pensiero iperanalitico modello è una caratteristica dell'attaccamento ansioso stile. In genere, ciò deriva dai fardelli di una relazione passata che il partner porta con sé nella relazione attuale.

L'eccesso di pensieri è normale in una relazione?

Well, I would say that it’s actually a very common part of relazioni sentimentali. Tuttavia, sovraanalisi non è e non potrà mai essere un qualità di un relazione sana.

If you know you’re prone to overthinking and don’t even try to control it, it’ll be like you’re consciously trying to sabotare la propria relazione.

It’s also a segno che avete problemi di fiducia, meaning you don’t completely trust your romantic partner. Just try to think how your partner feels when they know you’re overanalyzing every single thing and decision in your relationship.

It surely makes them feel awful. It surely arouses many doubts about your relationship with them. And, it’ll sooner or later make them think that you don’t love them as much as they love you.

Ripensare e l'eccesso di pensieri in una relazione è sicuramente un'evidente bandiera rossa che qualcosa non va.

Whether it is a lack of trust, love, or respect is irrelevant. The important thing is that it’s obvious that your relationship is definitely lacking something.

Truth be told, the hidden meaning behind overthinking is ‘I’m doubting our love and I don’t know if I can trust you completely’. Don’t be surprised if this starts to bother your partner.

Quindi, per evitare che l'eccesso di analisi affligga la vostra relazione, vi sono alcuni confini che devono essere nominati al più presto.

È necessario trovare un modo per porre fine a questi comportamenti tossici e irrazionali. modelli di pensiero e lavorare per stabilire una comunicazione sana con il vostro altro significativo.

Turn to a relationship expert and try to get that outside perspective. Talk it out with your partner instead of obsessing about things you can’t control by yourself.

Come smettere di pensare troppo in una relazione di coppia

The truth is, we can’t stop being overthinkers. We hate it, and we’re aware of all the negative consequences it has on our social and vita amorosa, but we still can’t take an eraser and remove that trait from our personality.

However, we definitely can control that bad habit of overthinking and stop it from ruining the relationships we have with other people. And, that’s exactly what I’ll teach you below.

Take a deep breath and let’s start with the mission of sistemare e salvare la vostra relazione sentimentale dall'analizzare troppo le cose.

1. Per prima cosa, calmare la mente

You don’t let yourself enjoy anything that happens in your life. There is this shadow growing slowly and it’s leaning over everything.

All'inizio potreste sembrare felici, ma i vostri pensieri eccessivi sono troppo presenti.

It creates this fear that all at once, everything you have or everything you’re living and enjoying might disappear or might even be a lie.

It’s a normal thing that you’re panicking because you sentirsi come se il mondo intero stesse crollando sotto i vostri piedi.

You can’t stop thinking about the future of your relationship and whether your loved one will be by your side forever or if they’ll leave you sooner or later. The truth is, we all have that same fear of the unknown, and we all catch ourselves thinking about it sometimes.

Tuttavia, il fatto innegabile è che nulla è costante nella vita. Ci sono cose che sfuggono al vostro controllo e l'unica cosa che potete fare è accettarle e accettarle.

Smettere di pensare troppo because that surely won’t help – può solo far emergere alcuni problemi più profondi. È necessario Riprendete il controllo della vostra mente. Identificare e sconfiggere i pensieri indesiderati.

2. Fiducia in se stessi

L'eccesso di pensieri non solo può provocare problemi nella vostra amore vitama potrebbe anche avere un impatto negativo su tutti i aree della vostra vita. E sapete qual è la ragione principale di questa vostra cattiva abitudine?

You don’t trust yourself. You don’t believe in yourself. You aren’t aware nor do you believe in your own capabilities.

You can’t stop overthinking every little thing in your relationship and in your life in general simply because you constantly feel like you’re doing something wrong.

You feel like you’re making mistakes all the time.

And, sometimes you even think that you’re a mistake.

You feel like you don’t deserve to be loved, and somehow, you manage to convince yourself that you’re not indeed despite all the efforts your partner makes to convince you of the opposite.

Se avete commesso degli errori nella relazione passata, you can’t allow them to sabotage your new happiness. Tutti commettiamo degli errori e, a volte, ci facciamo male. persone care unintentionally, but that doesn’t make us indegno di amore.

Siate gentili con voi stessi. Don’t judge your wrong decisions and moves. Don’t punish yourself for having weaknesses.

È necessario costruire un relazione sana con se stessi per poterlo fare con un altro essere umano. Start by learning to trust yourself and then you’ll learn how to trust others, too.

3. E, cosa più importante, fidatevi del vostro partner

For some reason, you’ve stopped believing that people are capable of doing good without hidden motives. You just keep waiting to see what’s really hiding behind their deeds, and what kind of intentions they really have.

As far as your relationship is concerned, you love. You really do. But, you always question if you’re really loved.

If there was an amazing week that helped you feel like the most loved person, you’re just waiting for a crash to happen in the next few days. Even if your significant other has never given you a reason to doubt them and their intentions, you simply can’t relax 100%.

You probably still snoop through their text messages, even after you’ve been together for so long. Am I right? Well, it’s obvious you’re struggling with profondo problemi di fiducia che vi rendono inclini a analizzando in modo eccessivo, che sta lentamente rovinando la vostra relazione.

After all, you can’t call it a healthy relazione if you don’t trust each other completely. Dove non c'è fiducia, non c'è nemmeno amore.

La vostra sfiducia rende sicuramente il vostro sensazione del partner non rispettati e probabilmente anche non amati. If you don’t give them the chance to prove you’re trustworthy, it’s just a matter of time when they’ll break up with you.

4. Permettetevi di essere vulnerabili

You’re just a human being, and vulnerabilità emotiva fa parte della vostra natura. Smettete di nasconderla.

È necessario mettersi emotivamente a nudo di fronte al partner. Right now, you might be afraid that they’ll use it at some point to hurt you.

But, what if they don’t? What if they start to cherish and appreciate you even more because of it? What if it connects you in a way you never thought was possible before?

You see, these are the ‘what ifs’ you need to focus on.

You can’t pretend you’re somebody else forever. Sooner or later, your mask will come off and it’ll leave your partner too confused.

5. Parlare ad alta voce di come ci si sente

Don’t be afraid to pour your fears out in the open. Don’t go through it alone.

Even if it’s just in your head, he (or she) can reassure you in a minute and make your fears go away.

Potete facilmente convincervi che siete davvero amati, che c'è qualcuno che sta progettando il suo futuro con voi e che non ci si può arrendere.

There is no other person that means so much to them, and there is nobody they want more in life. That’s how you should direct your pensieri propri.

Poor communication harms a relationship more than anything else. It’s also one of the leading causes of most breakups.

If you can’t stop obsessing about something regarding your current relationship, talk with your partner about it. Let them explain it to you or let them help you find a way to fix it.

Reprimere questi sentimenti è la cosa peggiore che si possa fare. You may think that will make them go away, but the truth is it’ll only make them stuck in your mind.

They are going to be stuck in your mind and they will shut you down emotionally. You’ll become emotivamente insensibileE a quel punto la vostra relazione non potrà più essere salvata.

6. Lavorare per aumentare la propria autostima

Continuate a chiedervi se meritate tutta questa felicità e a cosa dovete rinunciare per bilanciare la felicità e l'infelicità che gli esseri umani ottengono nella vita.

Avete la sensazione che il vostro partner esca con voi per pietà. You think they feel sorry for you, and that it’s the thing that keeps them in your life.

You idealize your partner and, in your eyes, they’re the most perfect person on this planet.

However, that also makes you overanalyze every step they make because you simply can’t accept the fact that someone as perfect as them chooses to love someone so ‘flawless’ as you.

You have such a bad self-image, and it’s high time to paint a whole new one. È necessario mettere la cura di sé al primo posto nella vostra lista di priorità e concentratevi sul miglioramento della vostra autostima e della fiducia in voi stessi.

Onestamente, il miglior consiglio di relazione che posso darvi quando si tratta di come smettere di il sovrappensiero in una relazione è che è necessario work on yourself; not your relationship. It’s obvious that the real problem is in you and your bad abitudine a pensare troppo.

7. Concentrarsi sul momento presente

Leave what could or what will happen aside. You don’t and shouldn’t live for the future.

No one can promise you that you’ll stay together forever. Tuttavia, in questo momento, avete qualcuno che vi accetta e vi ama nonostante tutti i vostri difetti.

You can’t undo things you’ve done in the past, nor can you control or stop some things from happening in the future. You only have power over your present.

Quando si accetta di vivere nella momento presente, you won’t have time for overthinking. You’ll be focused only on things that can make your relationship prosper in every possible way.

Vivere il presente. Godetevi la vostra attuale felicità. Abbracciate l'incertezza della vita. Smettere di pensare troppo e spingere via il partner.

Build a bridge of understanding and acceptance… a bridge that will connect you forever and that will leave no space for re-questioning yourself and your relationship.

8. Bloccare i pensieri negativi

Il fatto è che i pensieri eccessivi spesso rispondono alle vostre paure e alla vostra ansia. Si viene sopraffatti da pensieri ed emozioni negative.

It’s just contagious. It starts from this little tiny thing and it ends up with you questioning your life. It’s often deeply connected to pessimism.

In qualche modo, non riuscite a vedere il lato positivo del vostro futuro quando analizzate troppo le cose.

So, you see the end of your relationship and that’s what you’re preparing yourself for, even though the other side doesn’t really see things the way you do.

To him (or her), it might appear that everything is OK because you do not communicate your thoughts. You don’t even know what the final conclusion is because you just get tired eventually and you stop thinking totally.

Continuate a tacere e il sovrappensiero silenzioso vi sta uccidendo e sta uccidendo la vostra relazione.

Dovete uscire dalla vostra mente. Dovete smettere di essere suoi prigionieri.

Those unwanted thoughts need to be blocked. Stop thinking about those ‘what ifs’ and start enjoying the things you have right now.

9. Lasciare andare le ferite del passato

You’ve been slapped by life one too many times, and God knows how many times your expectations were not met.

That’s why you have trouble picturing a happy ending. This is why it’s more logical for you to picture a miserable ending. But, it doesn’t have to be like this.

C'è un modo per cambiare le cose e smettere di soffocare la vostra relazione con i pensieri eccessivi. C'è un modo per evitare un finale sgradevole, sapete?

And, the only way you’ll do it is by Lasciare andare il proprio passato doloroso. Il vostro passato La relazione con il vostro ex partner vi ha probabilmente lasciato molte cicatrici.

It’s actually normal that you want to protect yourself from being hurt again. Ora, il vostro meccanismo di coping con quelle cicatrici e la paura di essere feriti di nuovo è sovraanalisi ogni singolo dettaglio del vostro relazione attuale.

However, you can’t use it forever. You can’t continue to stop your partner from getting near to you. The more you obsess and overthink things, the more you’ll be pushing them away.

See, you have somebody who’s holding your hand no matter quanto sei disordinato. Avete qualcuno che sta cercando di guadagnarsi la vostra fiducia.

Don’t allow your past to ruin your present or, even worse, your future. Sbarazzatevi del vostro bagaglio emotivo. You got a new chance to find love – to be sincerely loved. If you don’t embrace it, if you gamble it, you might end up regretting it for the rest of your life.

Per concludere

Worrying won’t stop bad things from happening… it only stops you from enjoying the good.

Quindi, smettetela. You can’t smettere di pensare troppo – Ormai lo sanno tutti. Non esiste una cura magica, né è possibile schioccare le dita per farla sparire.

What you can do is stop going through all of it alone. You can stop ruining your relationship by telling him what’s bugging you. You can be each other’s rock, and that’ll do.

Tossico e pensieri ansiosi provoked by overthinking in a relationship can really damage the bond between two partners to the point where it won’t be fixable any longer.

Don’t ever allow the awful abitudine a pensare troppo di frapporsi tra voi e il vostro partner.

Stop overthinking and save your relationship before it’s too late. Let things flow in their natural way, and just keep on hoping for the best.

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