6 cose che succedono quando si ignora un uomo emotivamente non disponibile
Have you been seeing a guy for a while now and still aren’t able to make any kind of legame emotivo con lui? Well, I think this goes beyond saying, but you’re dealing with un amore...evitante o emotivamente persona non disponibile.
And now, you’re here because you’ve chosen the worst option of all to deal with it and help him superare la paura dell'amore. Avete deciso di Iniziare a mandarlo in ghosting per attirare la sua attenzione, giusto?
Questo mi dice solo che non avete idea di cosa succede quando ignorate un uomo emotivamente non disponibile. And trust me, it’s not a road I would ever choose to help the man I love change and open up to me. Stay with me, and I’ll explain why you shouldn’t either.
Cosa succede quando si ignora un uomo emotivamente non disponibile?
Even if you’re in un relazione a lungo termine, ignorando un uomo non disponibile per costruire un connessione emotiva with him won’t do you any good. Sooner or later, it’ll only result in these points below, which will make you regret ignoring him.
1. Inizia a influenzare il suo benessere mentale
Se ritiene che voi due siate in a relazione seria (even though he doesn’t show it), your fantasma avrà un impatto molto negativo sulla sua salute mentale.
He’ll become depressed and may even struggle with anxiety. Unfortunately, that will make him lock himself in even more.
Not that he would talk about it with you. He also won’t mention it to his best friends or his family. He’ll be going through a hard time, and he’ll try to fight it all alone.
2. E anche la sua autostima
Basso...autostima è uno dei più evidenti segni di un uomo emotivamente non disponibile. This type of man struggles with insecurities that don’t allow him to build and maintain a relazione sana.
Quando un uomo emotivamente non disponibile cadute in amore, ha bisogno convalida dal suo partner per rendere il loro lavoro di relazione.
Ignoring him definitely isn’t the way to validate him. On the contrary, it may only show him that you don’t care for his feelings at all.
This type of guy may seem like a narcissist, but the truth is far removed from that. He doesn’t have a sense of self-worth, which greatly impacts his love life.
He can’t aprire to his girlfriend because he thinks that she won’t like the real him. That’s why he chooses to stay behind his mask as a cold, distant guy and decides to show her only the sides of himself that he thinks she’ll like.
Quindi, se volete per costruire una sana relazione a lungo termine con questo tipo di uomo, è necessario aiutarlo a ricostruire il suo autostima and his sense of self-worth again. And you’ll do it only by standing beside him and proving to him that you’ll love him no matter what.
3. Le ferite del passato ricominciano a far male
You need to understand one thing: your man didn’t become unavailable and close his heart just because. There is a reason that made him do that, and that reason can probably be found in his relazioni passate.
He probably went through un brutto crepacuore in the past, which made him promise himself that he’d never allow anyone else to hurt him like that ever again.
And what you’re doing to him right now reminds him of his past heartbreak. Solo lui sa tutto quello che ha passato e quanto ha sofferto per la sua vita. l'ultima volta Gli è successa una cosa del genere e vuole evitarla a tutti i costi.
Probabilmente era un uomo emotivamente disponibile prima che qualcuno gli spezzasse il cuore. Quel trauma lo ha cambiato, sia emotivamente che mentalmente, e voi potete cercare di accettarlo e di essere più comprensivi, oppure rompere con lui e lasciare che lo affronti da solo.
4. Lancia un contrattacco
Yes, that’s right. This is the most probable scenario that will play out when you ignore an emotionally unavailable man. He’ll start ignoring you too.
Potreste pensare che il vostro fantasma may make him come knocking on your door saying that he was wrong and that he doesn’t want to lose you. But the truth is, that’ll almost never happen.
Invece, he’ll only start ghosting you back. He’ll want to show you how much that ignoring hurts him by doing the same thing to you.
Persone non disponibili aren’t really vengeful, but when it comes to these things, they’ll persist in getting their revenge on you. To them, it seems like you’re playing with their feelings, and that’s something they really can’t allow.
And, of course, then you’ll be the one who comes knocking on his door. You can save yourself the trouble by simply being honest with your man, talking to him about what’s bothering you, and helping him open up to you.
5. Inizia a dubitare dei vostri sentimenti
Last month my bestie had the same situation. She was dating a man, and, in the beginning, she didn’t notice the patterns and segni di un uomo emotivamente non disponibile.
Tuttavia, quando si è resa conto che il suo uomo era davvero emotivamente indisponibile, ha deciso di ignorarlo per ottenere una qualche reazione. E l'ha ottenuta. Il il giorno successivoha deciso di fine delle cose con lei.
Pensava che, nonostante tutto, lui fosse l'uomo giusto per lei e ha deciso di lottare per il suo amore. Fortunatamente, sono riusciti a risolvere le cose tra loro e sono tornati insieme.
She explained to him her reasons for ghosting him, and he told her that he thought she didn’t care for him because he feels that you can’t ignore a person you love, not even for an hour.
That’s the thing with uomini emotivamente non disponibili. They seek strong proof of your love before they’re ready to admit their love for you. If they sense at any moment that your feelings aren’t honest or strong enough, it’ll be a huge red flag for them that they need to move on.
6. Alla fine decide di lasciarvi andare
Voglio solo sottolineare una cosa. Anche se il vostro uomo non disponibile continua a tornaredovete comprendere che non siete mai stati e non sarete mai in a relazione sana.
Or, at least you won’t until he understands that he needs to change… That, in order to build una relazione impegnataè necessario creare una struttura stabile e profondo attaccamento emotivo prima.
However, if you keep ignoring him for a long period of time, there will come a time that he’ll decide to stop returning to you. He won’t be getting the convalida he desperately needs from you, and it’ll be enough for lui si allontana da voi.
He’ll see your ghosting as a clear red flag that you’ve fallen out of love with him. He won’t be interested in spending time with you anymore, answering your text messages, or simply talking to you.
Come allontanarsi da un uomo emotivamente non disponibile
First of all, don’t decide to take this step if you truly love your guy. I know this may sound unbelievable to you right now, but love does change people, and that’s a fact.
If his love is honest and strong enough, he’ll do anything to overcome that indisponibilità emotiva. He’ll try very hard to open up to you and bond with you on a deeper livello emotivo.
On the other hand, if he doesn’t love you, non cambierà mai. E l'unica opzione che avete in questo caso è lasciarlo.
Honestly, you’ll need to muster up a lot of courage to do that. You’ll need to convince your heart that he isn’t the persona giusta per voi.
You’ll have to understand that by letting him go, you’ll manage to keep yourself. It’s not your job to spend your precious time fixing someone who doesn’t want to be fixed. Gather the courage per andare avanti and don’t ever look back.
L'assenza di contatto funziona con un uomo emotivamente non disponibile?
Well, I can’t claim that il regola del divieto di contatto doesn’t work on these tipi di ragazzi, ma c'è una buona probabilità che prima o poi vi si ritorca contro. Mi spiego: invece di fargli sentire la vostra mancanza, potrebbe solo allontanarlo ancora di più da voi.
He may interpret it completely wrong and break up with you for good. He won’t understand that you’re only doing it to make him reconsider his behavior…
He’ll think that you’ve had enough of him and your relationship and that you’re attempting to fine delle cose.
And no matter how hurt he feels, the emotionally unavailable guy will never allow you or anyone else to see it. He’ll bottle up his emotions deep down and pretend as if nothing is happening.
Un uomo emotivamente non disponibile può sentire la vostra mancanza?
So, your question is, “Do uomini emotivamente non disponibili miss their partners?” Certo, possono farlo e lo fanno. Solo perché il vostro uomo sta lottando con indisponibilità emotiva doesn’t mean he’s completely emotivamente insensibile.
The truth is, if he has strong feelings, he’ll miss you like crazy but won’t know how to show it.
Persone non disponibili have a problem opening up to others, but this doesn’t mean they’re incapace di amare.
They know how to love, their heart might be full of love… But they struggle with expressing those strong emotions.
They choose to suppress them deep down in themselves because they’re afraid others will use those emotions to hurt them. They’re paura dell'amore and don’t know how to overcome that fear.
Pensieri finali
Spero che ora sappiate cosa succede quando ignorate un uomo emotivamente non disponibile. E credetemi, il risultato non è quasi mai positivo.
Ghosting him will almost never make him understand what your true intentions are. He’ll think that you are no longer into him and that you want to fine delle cose tra di voi.
I migliori consigli sulle relazioni on how to deal with an emotionally unavailable man you’ll ever hear comes from the famous relationship expert Gabrielle Usatynski:
⭐“Understand the way your man’s brain is wired and how to break through indisponibilità emotiva using simple but powerful techniques that will get your man to turn toward you instead of away.”
Good luck with this ghosting technique, but I’m pretty sure it won’t work on your emotionally unavailable guy. Dovreste trovare un modo per avvicinarvi a lui invece di allontanarlo dalla vostra vita.
