6 cosas que pasan cuando ignoras a un hombre emocionalmente indisponible
Have you been seeing a guy for a while now and still aren’t able to make any kind of conexión emocional con él? Well, I think this goes beyond saying, but you’re dealing with un amor...evasivo o emocionalmente persona no disponible.
And now, you’re here because you’ve chosen the worst option of all to deal with it and help him superar su miedo al amor. Usted decidió empezar a fantasmear con él para llamar su atención¿verdad?
Eso solo me dice que no tienes ni idea de lo que pasa cuando ignoras un hombre emocionalmente no disponible. And trust me, it’s not a road I would ever choose to help the man I love change and open up to me. Stay with me, and I’ll explain why you shouldn’t either.
¿Qué ocurre cuando ignoras a un hombre emocionalmente indisponible?
Even if you’re en un relación duradera, ignorando a un hombre no disponible para construir un conexión emocional with him won’t do you any good. Sooner or later, it’ll only result in these points below, which will make you regret ignoring him.
1. Empieza a afectar a su bienestar mental
Si él considera que ustedes dos están en a relación seria (even though he doesn’t show it), your fantasma tendrá un impacto muy negativo en su salud mental.
He’ll become depressed and may even struggle with anxiety. Unfortunately, that will make him lock himself in even more.
Not that he would talk about it with you. He also won’t mention it to his best friends or his family. He’ll be going through a hard time, and he’ll try to fight it all alone.
2. Y su autoestima también
Bajo-autoestima es uno de los más evidentes signos de un hombre emocionalmente inaccesible. This type of man struggles with insecurities that don’t allow him to build and maintain a relación sana.
En un hombre emocionalmente no disponible cataratas en el amor, necesita validación de su compañero para hacer su trabajo de relaciones.
Ignoring him definitely isn’t the way to validate him. On the contrary, it may only show him that you don’t care for his feelings at all.
This type of guy may seem like a narcissist, but the truth is far removed from that. He doesn’t have a sense of self-worth, which greatly impacts his love life.
He can’t abrir to his girlfriend because he thinks that she won’t like the real him. That’s why he chooses to stay behind his mask as a cold, distant guy and decides to show her only the sides of himself that he thinks she’ll like.
Así que, si quieres construir una relación sana y duradera con este tipo de hombre, necesitas ayudarle a reconstruir su autoestima and his sense of self-worth again. And you’ll do it only by standing beside him and proving to him that you’ll love him no matter what.
3. Sus heridas del pasado empiezan a dolerle de nuevo
You need to understand one thing: your man didn’t become unavailable and close his heart just because. There is a reason that made him do that, and that reason can probably be found in his relaciones anteriores.
He probably went through un desagradable desamor in the past, which made him promise himself that he’d never allow anyone else to hurt him like that ever again.
And what you’re doing to him right now reminds him of his past heartbreak. Sólo él sabe todo lo que pasó y lo mucho que sufrió el última vez le ha pasado algo así, y quiere evitarlo ahora a toda costa.
Probablemente era un hombre emocionalmente disponible antes de que alguien le rompiera el corazón. Ese trauma le cambió, tanto emocional como mentalmente, y puedes intentar aceptarlo y ser más comprensiva o romper con él y dejar que lo afronte por sí mismo.
4. Lanza un contraataque
Yes, that’s right. This is the most probable scenario that will play out when you ignore an emotionally unavailable man. He’ll start ignoring you too.
Puede que piense que su fantasma may make him come knocking on your door saying that he was wrong and that he doesn’t want to lose you. But the truth is, that’ll almost never happen.
En su lugar, he’ll only start ghosting you back. He’ll want to show you how much that ignoring hurts him by doing the same thing to you.
Personas no disponibles aren’t really vengeful, but when it comes to these things, they’ll persist in getting their revenge on you. To them, it seems like you’re playing with their feelings, and that’s something they really can’t allow.
And, of course, then you’ll be the one who comes knocking on his door. You can save yourself the trouble by simply being honest with your man, talking to him about what’s bothering you, and helping him open up to you.
5. Empieza a dudar de tus sentimientos
Last month my bestie had the same situation. She was dating a man, and, in the beginning, she didn’t notice the patterns and signos de un hombre emocionalmente no disponible.
Sin embargo, una vez que se dio cuenta de que su hombre realmente no estaba disponible emocionalmente, decidió ignorarlo para conseguir algún tipo de reacción. Y la obtuvo. En día siguientedecidió acabar con las cosas con ella.
Ella pensó que a pesar de todo, él era el hombre adecuado por ella y decidió luchar por su amor. Afortunadamente, consiguieron resolver las cosas entre ellos y volvieron a estar juntos.
She explained to him her reasons for ghosting him, and he told her that he thought she didn’t care for him because he feels that you can’t ignore a person you love, not even for an hour.
That’s the thing with hombres emocionalmente inaccesibles. They seek strong proof of your love before they’re ready to admit their love for you. If they sense at any moment that your feelings aren’t honest or strong enough, it’ll be a huge red flag for them that they need to move on.
6. Finalmente, decide dejarte ir
Sólo quiero señalar algo. Incluso si su hombre no disponible sigue volviendoTienes que entender que nunca has estado y nunca estarás en a relación sana.
Or, at least you won’t until he understands that he needs to change… That, in order to build una relación comprometidanecesita crear un sistema estable y profundo apego emocional primero.
However, if you keep ignoring him for a long period of time, there will come a time that he’ll decide to stop returning to you. He won’t be getting the validación he desperately needs from you, and it’ll be enough for que se aleje de ti.
He’ll see your ghosting as a clear red flag that you’ve fallen out of love with him. He won’t be interested in spending time with you anymore, answering your text messages, or simply talking to you.
Cómo alejarse de un hombre emocionalmente indisponible
First of all, don’t decide to take this step if you truly love your guy. I know this may sound unbelievable to you right now, but love does change people, and that’s a fact.
If his love is honest and strong enough, he’ll do anything to overcome that indisponibilidad emocional. He’ll try very hard to open up to you and bond with you on a deeper nivel emocional.
On the other hand, if he doesn’t love you, nunca cambiará. Y la única opción que tienes en ese caso es dejarlo.
Honestly, you’ll need to muster up a lot of courage to do that. You’ll need to convince your heart that he isn’t the persona adecuada para ti.
You’ll have to understand that by letting him go, you’ll manage to keep yourself. It’s not your job to spend your precious time fixing someone who doesn’t want to be fixed. Gather the courage para seguir adelante and don’t ever look back.
¿Funciona el No Contacto con un Hombre Emocionalmente Indisponible?
Well, I can’t claim that el norma de no contacto doesn’t work on these tipos de chicos, pero hay muchas posibilidades de que tarde o temprano te salga el tiro por la culata. Me explico: en lugar de hacer que te eche de menos, puede que solo consigas alejarlo más de ti.
He may interpret it completely wrong and break up with you for good. He won’t understand that you’re only doing it to make him reconsider his behavior…
He’ll think that you’ve had enough of him and your relationship and that you’re attempting to acabar con las cosas.
And no matter how hurt he feels, the emotionally unavailable guy will never allow you or anyone else to see it. He’ll bottle up his emotions deep down and pretend as if nothing is happening.
¿Puede echarte de menos un hombre emocionalmente indisponible?
So, your question is, “Do hombres emocionalmente inaccesibles miss their partners?” Claro que pueden, y lo hacen. Sólo porque su hombre esté luchando con indisponibilidad emocional doesn’t mean he’s completely emocionalmente insensible.
The truth is, if he has strong feelings, he’ll miss you like crazy but won’t know how to show it.
Personas no disponibles have a problem opening up to others, but this doesn’t mean they’re incapaz de amar.
They know how to love, their heart might be full of love… But they struggle with expressing those strong emotions.
They choose to suppress them deep down in themselves because they’re afraid others will use those emotions to hurt them. They’re con miedo al amor and don’t know how to overcome that fear.
Reflexiones finales
Espero que ahora sepas lo que pasa cuando ignoras a un hombre emocionalmente no disponible. Y créeme, el resultado casi nunca es positivo.
Ghosting him will almost never make him understand what your true intentions are. He’ll think that you are no longer into him and that you want to acabar con las cosas entre vosotros.
Los mejores consejos sobre relaciones on how to deal with an emotionally unavailable man you’ll ever hear comes from the famous relationship expert Gabrielle Usatynski:
⭐“Understand the way your man’s brain is wired and how to break through indisponibilidad emocional using simple but powerful techniques that will get your man to turn toward you instead of away.”
Good luck with this ghosting technique, but I’m pretty sure it won’t work on your emotionally unavailable guy. Deberías encontrar la manera de acercarte a él en lugar de echarlo de tu vida.
