6 coisas que acontecem quando se ignora um homem emocionalmente indisponível

Have you been seeing a guy for a while now and still aren’t able to make any kind of ligação emocional com ele? Well, I think this goes beyond saying, but you’re dealing with um amor-evitante ou emocionalmente pessoa não disponível.

And now, you’re here because you’ve chosen the worst option of all to deal with it and help him superar o seu medo do amor. Decidiu começar a fazer ghosting com ele para chamar a sua atençãonão é?

Isso só me diz que não faz ideia do que acontece quando ignora um homem emocionalmente indisponível. And trust me, it’s not a road I would ever choose to help the man I love change and open up to me. Stay with me, and I’ll explain why you shouldn’t either.

O que acontece quando se ignora um homem emocionalmente indisponível?

Even if you’re em um relação duradoura, ignorando um homem indisponível para construir uma ligação emocional with him won’t do you any good. Sooner or later, it’ll only result in these points below, which will make you regret ignoring him.

1. Começa a afetar o seu bem-estar mental

Se ele considerar que vocês os dois estão em a relação séria (even though he doesn’t show it), your fantasma terá um impacto muito mau na sua saúde mental.

He’ll become depressed and may even struggle with anxiety. Unfortunately, that will make him lock himself in even more.

Not that he would talk about it with you. He also won’t mention it to his best friends or his family. He’ll be going through a hard time, and he’ll try to fight it all alone.

2. E a sua autoestima também

Baixaautoestima é um dos mais óbvios sinais de um homem emocionalmente indisponível. This type of man struggles with insecurities that don’t allow him to build and maintain a relação saudável.

Quando um homem emocionalmente indisponível quedas no amor, ele precisa validação do seu parceiro para fazer a sua trabalho de relacionamento.

Ignoring him definitely isn’t the way to validate him. On the contrary, it may only show him that you don’t care for his feelings at all.

This type of guy may seem like a narcissist, but the truth is far removed from that. He doesn’t have a sense of self-worth, which greatly impacts his love life.

He can’t abrir to his girlfriend because he thinks that she won’t like the real him. That’s why he chooses to stay behind his mask as a cold, distant guy and decides to show her only the sides of himself that he thinks she’ll like.

Por isso, se quiser para construir uma relação saudável a longo prazo com este tipo de homem, é preciso ajudá-lo a reconstruir a sua autoestima and his sense of self-worth again. And you’ll do it only by standing beside him and proving to him that you’ll love him no matter what.

3. As suas feridas do passado voltam a doer

You need to understand one thing: your man didn’t become unavailable and close his heart just because. There is a reason that made him do that, and that reason can probably be found in his relações passadas.

​He probably went through um desagradável desgosto in the past, which made him promise himself that he’d never allow anyone else to hurt him like that ever again.

And what you’re doing to him right now reminds him of his past heartbreak. Só ele sabe tudo o que passou e o quanto sofreu. última vez algo deste género aconteceu-lhe e quer evitá-lo a todo o custo.

Provavelmente, ele era um homem emocionalmente disponível antes de alguém lhe ter partido o coração. Esse trauma mudou-o, tanto emocional como mentalmente, e você pode tentar aceitá-lo e ser mais compreensiva ou acabar com ele e deixá-lo lidar com isso sozinho.

4. Ele lança um contra-ataque

Yes, that’s right. This is the most probable scenario that will play out when you ignore an emotionally unavailable man. He’ll start ignoring you too.

Pode pensar que o seu fantasma may make him come knocking on your door saying that he was wrong and that he doesn’t want to lose you. But the truth is, that’ll almost never happen.

Em vez disso, he’ll only start ghosting you back. He’ll want to show you how much that ignoring hurts him by doing the same thing to you.

Pessoas indisponíveis aren’t really vengeful, but when it comes to these things, they’ll persist in getting their revenge on you. To them, it seems like you’re playing with their feelings, and that’s something they really can’t allow.

And, of course, then you’ll be the one who comes knocking on his door. You can save yourself the trouble by simply being honest with your man, talking to him about what’s bothering you, and helping him open up to you.

5. Ele começa a duvidar dos seus sentimentos

Last month my bestie had the same situation. She was dating a man, and, in the beginning, she didn’t notice the patterns and sinais de um homem emocionalmente indisponível.

No entanto, quando se apercebeu de que o seu homem era realmente emocionalmente indisponível, decidiu ignorá-lo para obter algum tipo de reação. E conseguiu-a. O dia seguinte, decidiu coisas finais com ela.

Ela achava que, apesar de tudo, ele era o homem certo por ela e decidiu lutar pelo seu amor. Felizmente, conseguiram resolver as coisas entre eles e voltaram a juntar-se.

She explained to him her reasons for ghosting him, and he told her that he thought she didn’t care for him because he feels that you can’t ignore a person you love, not even for an hour.

That’s the thing with homens emocionalmente indisponíveis. They seek strong proof of your love before they’re ready to admit their love for you. If they sense at any moment that your feelings aren’t honest or strong enough, it’ll be a huge red flag for them that they need to move on.

6. Eventualmente, ele decide deixar-te ir

Quero apenas chamar a atenção para um facto. Mesmo que o seu homem indisponível continua a regressar, tens de compreender que nunca estiveste nem nunca estarás em a relação saudável.

Or, at least you won’t until he understands that he needs to change… That, in order to build uma relação de compromisso, é necessário criar um sistema estável e ligação emocional profunda primeiro.

However, if you keep ignoring him for a long period of time, there will come a time that he’ll decide to stop returning to you. He won’t be getting the validação he desperately needs from you, and it’ll be enough for que ele se afaste de si.

He’ll see your ghosting as a clear red flag that you’ve fallen out of love with him. He won’t be interested in spending time with you anymore, answering your text messages, or simply talking to you.

Como se afastar de um homem emocionalmente indisponível

First of all, don’t decide to take this step if you truly love your guy. I know this may sound unbelievable to you right now, but love does change people, and that’s a fact.

If his love is honest and strong enough, he’ll do anything to overcome that indisponibilidade emocional. He’ll try very hard to open up to you and bond with you on a deeper nível emocional.

​On the other hand, if he doesn’t love you, ele nunca mudará. E a única opção que tem nesse caso é deixá-lo.

Honestly, you’ll need to muster up a lot of courage to do that. You’ll need to convince your heart that he isn’t the pessoa certa para si.

You’ll have to understand that by letting him go, you’ll manage to keep yourself. It’s not your job to spend your precious time fixing someone who doesn’t want to be fixed. Gather the courage para seguir em frente and don’t ever look back.

O não contacto funciona com um homem emocionalmente indisponível?

Well, I can’t claim that a regra de não contacto doesn’t work on these tipos de homens, mas há uma boa hipótese de, mais cedo ou mais tarde, o tiro lhe sair pela culatra. Deixe-me explicar: em vez de fazer com que ele sinta a sua falta, isso pode apenas afastá-lo ainda mais de si.

He may interpret it completely wrong and break up with you for good. He won’t understand that you’re only doing it to make him reconsider his behavior…

He’ll think that you’ve had enough of him and your relationship and that you’re attempting to coisas finais.

And no matter how hurt he feels, the emotionally unavailable guy will never allow you or anyone else to see it. He’ll bottle up his emotions deep down and pretend as if nothing is happening.

Um homem emocionalmente indisponível pode sentir a sua falta?

So, your question is, “Do homens emocionalmente indisponíveis miss their partners?” Claro que podem, e fazem-no. Só porque o seu homem está a lutar com indisponibilidade emocional doesn’t mean he’s completely emocionalmente entorpecido.

The truth is, if he has strong feelings, he’ll miss you like crazy but won’t know how to show it.

Pessoas indisponíveis have a problem opening up to others, but this doesn’t mean they’re incapaz de amar.

They know how to love, their heart might be full of love… But they struggle with expressing those strong emotions.

They choose to suppress them deep down in themselves because they’re afraid others will use those emotions to hurt them. They’re medo do amor and don’t know how to overcome that fear.

Considerações finais

Espero que agora saibas o que acontece quando ignoras um homem emocionalmente indisponível. E, acredite, o resultado quase nunca é positivo.

Fantasma him will almost never make him understand what your true intentions are. He’ll think that you are no longer into him and that you want to coisas finais entre vós.

Os melhores conselhos sobre relações on how to deal with an emotionally unavailable man you’ll ever hear comes from the famous relationship expert Gabrielle Usatynski:

⭐“Understand the way your man’s brain is wired and how to break through indisponibilidade emocional using simple but powerful techniques that will get your man to turn toward you instead of away.”

Good luck with this ghosting technique, but I’m pretty sure it won’t work on your emotionally unavailable guy. Deveria encontrar uma forma de se aproximar dele em vez de o expulsar da sua vida.