You are just getting to know someone new and you’ve come to the part when you are about to have sex or your sex life has just begun. So naturally, you want to do everything possible to turn this person on, even when you are not having sex. Besides, you want to find out as much as you can about this person’s sexual history and about the things that arouse them the most.

Or you are in a long-term relationship or in a marriage and you feel like you’ve gotten in a rut. You know it’s about time to spice things up in bed between you and your partner but you don’t know the right way to do it.

Either way, you’ve come to the right place. Here are 55 dirty questions (and follow-up questions) to ask a guy or a girl, which will definitely turn them on and which will spice up your sex life.

You may think some of these flirty questions are too kinky to ask but trust me—they will improve your sex life for sure and they will help you get inside the deepest corners of your partner’s mind.

1. What is your favorite and hottest sex position? Do you like to be on top or on the bottom? Do you prefer looking your partner in the eyes and kissing them while you are having sex or do you like positions in which you can just concentrate on the penetration itself?

2. What is the craziest thing you’ve done during sex? How did it make you feel? Would you do it all over again?

3. What is it that you enjoy the most during sex? Is it the penetration itself? Is it oral? Is it the tension during foreplay?

4. How do you feel about giving and receiving oral? Are you selfish with these things? How do you feel when you know you are making someone cum with your mouth?

5. What is the craziest place you had sex in? Have you ever done it in your parents’ bed, in a public place, a public restroom or while driving?

6. Do you like to have sex outdoors? Does the possibility of someone catching you doing it turn you on?

7. What is your favorite porn category? Do you enjoy doing everything you see on the screen?

8. What is your fetish? What is the thing you would like to do but you have no courage to do?

9. What is your favorite time of the day to have sex? Do you prefer to do it as soon as you wake up or just before sleeping?

10. Have you ever thought about having sex with a stranger? Did it ever happen to you that a stranger turned you on, without saying or doing anything to you?

11. What do you think about threesomes and group sex in general? Have you ever had sex with your partner, together with another guy or girl?

12. Have you ever experimented with the same sex? Have you ever fantasized about sleeping with someone of the same sex?

13. What do you masturbate to most frequently? Is it porn or do you prefer imagining things and people?

14. When was the first time you touched yourself? Are there times when only touching yourself is the thing you enjoy the most?

15. How long do you like foreplay to last? Do you prefer for sex to last longer or do you enjoy quickies the most?

16. Do you prefer being the dominant one or the submissive one? Would you ever allow someone to dominate you and to what extent? Have you ever tied your partner up or have you ever allowed the other person to tie you up? How do you feel about spanking?

17. Do you prefer rough or gentle sex? Do you like to kiss during sex?

18. Do you think that you are good in bed? Why?

19. Do you like to be watched during sex? Would you like to watch a couple having sex, without them knowing?

20. What do you usually dream about the most in your sex dreams? What was your last sex dream and who was it about?

21. Do you like one-night stands? Have you ever had a one-night stand? What was it like?

22. Did you ever masturbate with someone near you, without them knowing what you were doing? Does the thought of you doing something like that turn you on?

23. Do you like anal sex? Have you ever tried it? How was it? Would you do it again? Is it something you really enjoy or did just do it to please your partner or to see how it felt?
24. Are there some things you would never agree to do in bed? What are your boundaries when it comes to sex?

25. How would you describe the feeling you get when you are having an orgasm? Does the thought of it turn you on?

26. Do you make noises during sex? Do you scream or moan? And what do you like your partner to be like during sex—loud or quiet?

27. Do you like to talk dirty? Do you like to call your partner names in bed? Do you like your partner to call you names during sex? What do you enjoy saying to your partner the most in bed? What do you like to hear from your partner during sex?

28. When you masturbate, do you prefer to use your fingers and hands or do you use something else?

29. Are you into sex toys? Which sex toys have you used and how did you use them? What is your favorite sex toy?

30. Have you ever filmed yourself while masturbating and then watched it later or sent it to someone? Would you like to do it? Is that something that turns you on, knowing that you’ve aroused someone?

31. Have you ever made a sex tape with your partner? If not, would you like to do it? If yes, did you delete it right away or did you guys watch it afterward? Does seeing yourself having sex turn you on?

32. Do you like sending and receiving nude photos? Do you do it to turn yourself on or just to please the other person?

33. What is the body part of the opposite sex that turns you on the most? Is it maybe their voice or some of the moves they make?

34. What do you do to turn the other person on? Do you like playing games and teasing someone to turn them on?

35. Who is the person who gave you the best sex of your life?

36. What was the best sex of your life like?

37. If you could sleep with any person in the world, fictional or real, a celebrity or someone you know personally, who would it be? Would you actually do it, if you had the chance?
38. What turns you off the most in the opposite sex? Is it something about their appearance or something they do in bed?

39. How do you feel about being nude in front of others or in public? Does this excite you or does it make you feel embarrassed?

40. What is it that you like the most about your own body? What body part of yours do you think turns others on the most?

41. Do you like to have sex in the shower? Have you ever had it in the shower? What was it like?

42. What are you wearing right now? What is your underwear like? What color is it?

43. What would you like to see me wear? What do you imagine me wearing when you think of me? Am I completely naked?

44. Would you ever participate in an orgy? Does the thought of switching partners during one occasion turn you on?

45. Do you think size matters?

46. How long do you like sex to last? Do you prefer it to be longer or quicker?

47. What was the most number of times you had sex with someone in one day? How much did you enjoy it?

48. Have you ever fantasized about someone else while having sex with another person? Who was it? Did the realization that you were thinking about someone else while you shouldn’t make you feel embarrassed and guilty or did it turn you on even more?

49. How old were you when you lost your virginity? How was it?

50. Have you ever had sex in a lake or in an ocean? If not, is that something that you would like to experience?

51. What is the part of your body where you like to be touched the most?

52. When was the last time you had sex? What was it like?

53. When was the last time you touched yourself? What and who did you think of during masturbation?

54. What was the longest period in which you didn’t have sex? How was it?

55. Do I turn you on right now? What would you like to do to me?

56. Do you like to have sex with music on or off? If the answer is on, which songs put you in the mood the most? Is there an artist who you find puts you in the sexiest mood?

57. If there was one position you had to have sex in for the rest of your life, which one would it be and why? Could you only do it like that for the rest of your life or would it be hard?

58. Do you like it when a girl is the first one to make a move on you and seduce you or do you prefer being the one in control at all times? Does it turn you on when a girl tells you what to do?

59. Do you like the idea of getting caught while having sex? Have you ever got caught and what did you do? Did you get embarrassed or did you keep going?

60. What is your dirtiest sexual fantasy that you could never share with anyone? Do you have something so twisted and kinky in your mind that you’re afraid people wouldn’t get? If so, please share it with me, as I’m very open to any new ideas in bed.

61. What article of clothing do you like to see me in the most? Tell me which thing that I own turns you on the most and I’ll make sure to wear it in the most inappropriate situations.

62. Who turns you on the most—older girls or younger ones? Do you believe that older girls are more empowered in bed due to their experience or do you prefer the wicked minds of young girls who are down for almost anything?

63. Do you enjoy watching me pleasure myself? Or do you prefer being the one who does all the work? Would you like me to put on a show for you?

64. If you could have any celebrity join us for a night in bed, which one would it be? It’s gender optional, so you could choose literally whomever you wish?

65. If you could go back in time, what would you change about your first sexual encounter and why? Is there anything you think you’d do much better now, and if so, what is that thing?

66. If you had to choose just one which one would it be: Have sex every day for the rest of your life with me or get head by random girls every day for the duration of a year?

67. Do you like it when I moan in bed?

68. Have you ever been in a situation where you had to take Viagra and who was it with? What was the experience like and how long did you last? Would you take it again?

69. Do you think you are a good lover and if so, why? Do you believe there’s room for improvement and which area do you think you could improve in? Are you as confident in your sexual prowess as you appear to be?