Seducing a woman is never easy… Or is it? Perhaps you were doing it wrong this whole time?
Well, my fellow reader, your luck is about to change! You will find out exactly what causes instant sexual attraction between a man and a woman and what makes a woman commit to a man.
You will see why you’ve been rejected so many times and which of your seduction tactics need changing.
So, continue reading, and I will reveal the truth you have sought for so long!
What Does Seduction Mean?
Well, according to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, it is ‘the enticement of a person to sexual intercourse’ and ‘something that attracts or charms.’
Essentially, seduction is all about presenting yourself in such a positive light that the other person is instantly drawn by you.
While the goal usually is to hook up with beautiful women or men, that’s not necessarily true. Yes, sometimes you just want a one-night stand, but at other times, you desire a long-term relationship partner.
In any case, strong sexual desire IS involved, regardless of your intentions.
Of course, seduction isn’t strictly confined to romantic relationships. It can be applied to any situation where you want something badly and will do anything to achieve it. But, it is certainly most commonly used in romance.
Why Is Seducing A Woman So Hard?
It’s not hard. You just haven’t been doing it properly.
But, don’t worry, not all hope is lost! Once you learn the most basic tricks when it comes to seducing a woman, you will feel more hopeful and ready for your next advances!
But, what are those?
Do you perhaps remember when Marion from Requiem For A Dream told Harry, ”I love you, Harry. You make me feel like a person”?
If you do, think about it for a while. Essentially, what women want is for you to make them feel like a person, not like an object on a pedestal that is to be admired and kept safe.
Do you still find it difficult to understand? Well then, read on and be enlightened!
How To Seduce A Woman
I know that seducing a woman seems like too hard a job. You often see them as complicated creatures impossible to understand. You start conversations on Tinder because you’re intimidated by them in person. Or, perhaps, you’ve never had a girlfriend. Either way, I’m here to show you how simple it all really is.
If you currently have a woman in mind who you just can’t seem to get, follow this step-by-step guide and finally win her heart! Here’s what to do:
1. Laughter works wonders.
Marilyn Monroe didn’t say, ”If you can make a woman laugh, you can make her do anything” for nothing. There’s truth in these words. If you’re a guy who’s always able to put a smile on her face, she will be attracted to you instantly.
Work your charm and always have the perfect joke for the occasion. Look at her while telling it so that she can see how important her reaction is to you. If she smiles, smile back. That shouldn’t be too hard, right?
2. Cowardice bears no fruit.
I admit… I like shy guys. I find them too adorable and immediately want to know more about them. However, that doesn’t compare to what I feel when I see someone who’s confident.
If you want to seduce a girl, show her how self-assured you are with your conversational skills and body language. Stand up straight and talk to her with ease. You WILL get her attention.
If you notice that your efforts are in vain, there are still ways for you to attract a woman who is not interested.
But trust me on one thing: you won’t accomplish anything by sitting in a corner waiting for things to happen. Magic doesn’t exist, but you can create it through sheer force of will. Chances are, she’s waiting for you to finally make a move.
So, go and get her number.
3. Actions speak louder than words.
Body language is crucial when you’re seducing a woman. Touch her waist while passing through or always sit with your legs pointed in her direction (Don’t push it if you notice that she’s uncomfortable, though).
That will tell her that you enjoy having her around, and she will appreciate it more than you’ll ever know and will probably show you that she likes you, too. So, pay attention to her body language as well.
On the other hand, if you shy away and constantly avoid her, she will think that you’re not into her. Don’t ruin a perfectly good chance.
4. Good manners go a long way.
This is the time of gender equality, and women don’t want to be treated as fragile things that need to be kept under glass but rather as capable individuals.
HOWEVER, when we see a guy who immediately runs to our help or holds the door for us, we are spell-bound. If you want your crush to like you, definitely impress her in small ways.
Some things will always be attractive, and being a gentleman is certainly one of them. You can never go wrong with this seduction technique.
5. Flirting is a must.
Let’s not forget the basics of the art of seduction. Yes, I’m talking about flirting. You can have a great relationship with someone, but if there’s no fun teasing, you will eventually get bored.
So, make sure that you don’t occupy your crush’s head with serious topics. While it’s important to be vulnerable with each other, seducing a woman should always include some flirting.
But do it the right way. Find the most romantic pick-up lines in existence. Or, simply say things as they come to you. Sometimes it’s better not to have a plan.
She will sense how comfortable you are, and she will love it.
6. No place for games.
Do you know what the biggest turn-on for women is? Do you know what instantly makes them interested in you? The answer is HONESTY.
Don’t play games and make her feel special only to disappear the next day. I know what you’ve heard…. that we like men who ignore us. But, guess what, I’m a woman, and such guys are incredibly unattractive to me.
We are adults now… we’re not in high school. Be honest about how you feel. You don’t have to openly admit that you’ve fallen for her, but you can show it in other ways. Don’t play hot and cold, because that has gotten old! Just make her yours.
7. Don’t turn her into an object.
Don’t frighten her with creepy advances and cheesy lines. Yes, make your intentions clear, but don’t be all over her.
Take things slow and try to get to know her before making an actual move. Treat her like a person and not like an object to be conquered, remember?
When she sees that she’s not being objectified but rather appreciated, she will see what a great guy you are and finally pay attention to you.
8. Show off your masculinity.
It’s always insanely hot when a strong and confident guy, who is the embodiment of masculinity, cold approaches you. A guy who isn’t afraid to show you that he likes you because winning you over is more important than potentially hurting his ego.
If you’re not afraid of rejection but are instead bold in your advances, that will spark an interest in her… and make her horny.
BTW, when I say ‘masculine,’ I don’t mean ‘athletic.’ You can be a skinny guy but still possess all the qualities of a real man. The only important thing is courage. If you have that, you’ve done half the job!
9. Awaken your feminine side.
Yes, you read that right. Us women don’t want you to be all rational and dull. Don’t let your head rule your heart. Let it come out to play every once in a while.
Open up to your woman. Let her see the core of who you are. Being afraid of emotional vulnerability is not only unattractive, but it also leaves no space for a true emotional connection.
On the other hand, if you reveal your true nature to her, she will not only be seduced by you, but she will fall in love with you.
You can’t fall in love with someone you don’t know, can you? Now, you know what you need to do.
10. All the power is in the right words.
Did you think that good looks cause the greatest sexual tension? Well, think again! Seducing a woman only with your appearance doesn’t work if you do not know how to engage in a stimulating conversation.
An attractive man knows what to talk about with a girl and tries to bring up topics that will allow them to truly get to know one another.
You can even play games like ‘Truth or Dare‘ or ‘Would You Rather,’ which are perfect for such occasions.
Either way, make sure that you don’t bore her to death. Trust me, once she sees how interestingly you keep a conversation going, she will want to do it again.
11. Pay attention.
Are you the type of guy who loves to be the center of attention? Are you someone who always chooses which topics are to be discussed?
If so, I hate to break it to you, but no woman wants a guy who only talks about himself and never pays attention to her. If you’re like that, she will never notice you.
Instead, hold onto her every word, no matter how meaningless it may seem. Listen to everything she has to say, no matter how unfamiliar you are with it.
Once she sees that you appreciate her enough to do that, she’ll be ready to take the next step!
12. Show your true colors.
What women want isn’t for you to be fake. They don’t want to love an untruthful version of you. Don’t paint a picture of yourself that doesn’t contain your true colors.
The greatest dating tip I could ever give you, as a woman, is to be genuine. You don’t have to be brutally honest but don’t sugarcoat things either.
Tell the truth about who you are and how you see the world around you. It may be true that women often fall in love with idealized versions of men. But, once they realize the reality of things, they easily back out.
Don’t you want a healthy long-term relationship? Don’t you want to be loved for who you are?
13. The eyes never lie.
There is nothing more effective when seducing a woman than intense, prolonged eye contact. After all, when words fail us, the eyes are always there to tell the truth.
By looking into your woman’s eyes, you indirectly express your undying desire to be with her. You express your everlasting longing that you’re otherwise scared to do.
So, even when fear overwhelms you and tries to convince you to only take a glance, defy it, and gaze deeply and confidently in her eyes.
Don’t be a creep, though. Stare enough to show her how you feel because she will not feel comfortable in your presence if you stare too long…naturally.
14. Curiosity won’t kill the cat.
Yes, it is important to share your life story the first time you ask a woman out. You want her to see that you’re serious about her. But, ‘sharing’ involves more than one party.
Therefore, make sure that you ask her questions about everything you want to know. Be curious about the way she thinks and feels. Dig deeper.
She will rejoice in the fact that there’s finally a man who’s not only showing an interest in her looks but in what makes her unique.
Make sure that you text her regularly. Slide into her DMs and impress her like no man has ever done before. Compliment her pictures but also be curious about her personality.
It once happened to me that a guy thought I would be interested when he did nothing more than merely tell me that I’m pretty. That’s a big no.
Instead, try really getting to know her. If you are a dry texter, work on it. You’re here to attract her, not to drive her away.
16. Make her jealous.
I don’t know what your end goal is. Perhaps you want to get your ex-girlfriend back because you sense that she’s not into you anymore, or you just want to get laid. One thing is for certain, though: If you make a girl jealous, she will want you more.
Don’t overdo it, though. This doesn’t mean that you should go and flirt with every woman you see. Remember that this is just a (slightly twisted) way to show her that it is her who you like.
17. It’s all about the little things…
As I’m sure you assumed, compliments are crucial. However, be careful which compliments you choose.
While it is desirable to comment on her appearance, focusing on that is a big NO. Instead, pay attention to the little things about her personality.
Is she cute when she gets angry? Do you enjoy listening to her endless chatter?
If so, tell her! Don’t hesitate to verbalize your emotions. Trust me – random, genuine compliments are a million times better than the cheesy ones about looks.
18. Maintain a dose of mystery.
There’s nothing sweeter than a dose of mystery! If you have that to offer while getting to know a woman, she will surely be drawn to you.
If she can’t figure you out when she first sets eyes on you, she will be intrigued. Wanting to get to the bottom of who you are as a person will become her top priority.
I’m a woman, and I’m telling you honestly: If I can immediately read a guy’s mind, it doesn’t interest me much. But, if he’s open and yet somehow there’s an unattainable part of his mind, I’m not able to stop thinking about him.
So, if you take my advice, I assure you that your lady will feel the same way about you.
19. She’s not just a pretty little thing.
Let’s face it – looks matter. Physical attraction matters. But, if that’s all there is, a woman will soon lose interest in you.
Superficial relationships are never what we aim for, so if you want to woo your woman, shift your focus away from her appearance.
Don’t just stare at her breasts or smirk like you can’t wait to be intimate with her. Stop being horny. Just enjoy the moment and appreciate her presence, and she will, in turn, appreciate you. Besides, some things are better than sex.
20. Make an effort.
I cannot stress this enough – What women want isn’t to be ignored but to be openly adored.
Do cute things for her. Don’t vanish right after you first meet, but rather be confident in your seductive abilities and go and ask her out on a second date!
They lied to you when they said that sexual desire will grow if you’re not available all the time. Believe me when I say that is a major turn-off. And no, you will not end up in the friend zone.
Real women want you to make an effort and to clearly state how you feel about them. Real women won’t tolerate your hot and cold behavior.
If you can’t commit, then leave for good.
All In All
I hope this dating advice has been useful to you and that you’re now more confident when it comes to seducing a woman.
Just remember to approach women as an alpha male and to appreciate them as a best friend. That should be your ultimate goal.
You need no dating coaches to help you win a woman over. You only need faith in yourself. Fear may protect you from rejection, but it also keeps you from finding love.