If you’ve found yourself in the “my ex has a new girlfriend” situation, and you still haven’t gotten over him completely, I totally get how you feel right now.
Your emotions are mixed, and you’re confused about what your next move should be. You’re sad because this means you two aren’t getting back together ever again, and at the same time, you’re hurt and probably a bit jealous because he’s in a new relationship, and you’re all alone.
To comfort you, I’ll only say that just because he has a girlfriend doesn’t mean he’s over you or that he’s happy. Trust me, sometimes it’s better to be alone than stuck in an unhealthy rebound relationship.
My Ex Has A New Girlfriend: 12 Tips To Cope
As I said, I understand that you’re in a tough position and probably experiencing heartbreak. Anyways, you need to handle things with grace and accept that things don’t always go as planned or as you wish in life.
I hope these tips will be helpful and accelerate the process of coming to terms with the facts and letting go of your ex-boyfriend.
1. Accept your new reality
Your ex is dating a new woman… This is your new reality, and you need to accept it as soon as possible. If not, you’ll never be able to draw a line under your previous relationship and move on.
I’m not saying you should ignore your pain and behave as if you don’t feel heartbroken – you just need to come to terms with the fact that you and your ex-boyfriend are done for good.
I know how difficult it is to accept this kind of reality because last year, I was in the same situation as you right now. Actually, I think I was in a worse position because it was happening to me with a man I had been dating since high school.
To be more exact, we were dating for two and half years, and then we decided to get married. We were married for three more years when he decided to leave me. We lived together for a month after that before he found a new apartment and moved out.
The next day, I found out my soon-to-be ex-husband had a new girlfriend. You can’t even imagine the pain I was feeling. I was heartbroken and completely devastated.
However, as you can see, I managed to get over it and move on. A year later, I have a new boyfriend and a happy relationship. My ex-husband has a new GF, and I found out that Maria, the first girl he was with after our marriage ended, cheated on him. I think this is called karma, right?
2. Accept, embrace, and deal with your emotions
If this is the first time something like this has happened to you, it’ll be hard for you to cope with it. The second time, you’ll get used to the feeling, and it’ll be easier to handle… Just kidding, of course. 😂
You must be feeling a whole range of emotions, and you’re allowed to feel them all. Feeling sad, hurt, or angry doesn’t have to be a bad thing.
Those kinds of negative emotions can actually help you move on faster. That’s why you must deal with your emotions and accept them because they’re yours, and they won’t go away if you choose to ignore them or bury them somewhere deep inside.
3. Gather your best friends and form a support group
Last night I was thinking about my story, and I realized something important that I feel the need to share with you now.
I think that I wouldn’t have survived and gotten through my heartbreak without my best friends. If they weren’t there for me all the time, if I didn’t have their support in those awful moments, I don’t even want to think about what I could’ve done to myself.
My sincere advice is to surround yourself with your besties and people who genuinely care for you. They’ll play an enormous role in your recovery.
4. Concentrate on your emotional and mental health
Your heartbreak has damaged your overall well-being, and that’s what you should focus all of your attention on right now. Don’t allow your pain to lead you to depression and ruin your mental health.
I know what helped me, and I can share it with you: hanging out with my besties, working out, being in nature, taking on new projects, and exploring new hobbies.
All of these things won’t only help you feel better, but they’ll also help occupy your mind so you don’t think about your ex and his new girlfriend all the time.
5. Your self-esteem shouldn’t be ruined because of his new relationship
You need to understand one thing: he didn’t find a new girl because she is better than you. He is with her simply because he felt ready to let go of you and move on.
Trust me, you’ll do the same with a new guy. It won’t happen right away, but your soulmate will come, and you’ll be happy again. Most importantly, you’ll feel loved again.
Protect your self-esteem, and never let anyone make you believe that you’re worth less than you think. You know your qualities and abilities, and you need to be aware of them now and forever.
6. Respect the no-contact rule
I know that you would like to text or call him and tell him everything you’ve been keeping to yourself since you broke up, but you should not do this right now. It would be a huge mistake because he would know that the news about his new relationship has made you reach out.
If you made use of the no-contact period after the breakup, please be patient and continue with it. Your salvation and recovery lie right there in the no-contact rule.
If you were in a long-distance relationship, I’m sure you’re used to the fact that social media was your relationship’s biggest friend. However, right now, you must see it as your greatest enemy.
You can’t be sitting in front of your computer or phone 24/7 looking at his profile and pics. That way, you’ll never heal, and you most definitely won’t ever be able to move forward.
Try to disconnect from social media for a couple of days and focus on yourself. I’m sure that you’ll make the right decision afterward and block him on social media.
8. Don’t hold grudges over the new girl
He is the one who left you. He is the one who has moved on way too soon after your breakup. He is the one who made you feel miserable and heartbroken. And I could go on forever with this…
To make a long story short, the new girl isn’t the bad guy in this story. Your ex-boyfriend is, and you should channel all your anger and rage toward him.
9. Forgive to forget
I know what you must be thinking right now… Like, wtf? How can I forgive him when I’m currently going through hell because of him?
Well, that’s not true, my dear. You’re going through this heartbreak because you decided to give your heart to someone who didn’t deserve it. You fell in love with a man who didn’t know how to reciprocate that love. You got attached to the wrong guy.
This “forgive” part doesn’t only refer to your ex-boyfriend. It refers to you too. You need to forgive yourself for loving the wrong guy and forgive him for wasting your time. That’s the most important step you need to take to heal successfully.
10. Don’t waste your time thinking about second chances
Your ex might come back asking for a second chance, but you shouldn’t think about that. If he was able to move on with a new girl, it’s a sign that he doesn’t love you, at least not the way you deserve.
Giving him a second chance would be like giving him another opportunity, another bullet to shoot you again.
It would mean that you’re making your heart bleed and ache again, and when that happens, you’ll be the only one to blame. You allowed him to enter your life again, and you’re the only one to be blamed for your heartbreak.
11. Give yourself time to heal and let go
I need to be honest with you. Your recovery process won’t be easy, and it most definitely won’t last for only a couple of days. It may last longer than you think, but the important thing is to take the time to heal completely before you’re ready to move on properly.
Don’t rush it. Give your wounds time to heal. Give your heart time to understand what has happened and fix its broken pieces. One day, when all of this is over, you’ll understand that time was your biggest ally.
12. Trust the process
Healing is a process, and like I said above, it’s going to last for a while. However, you need to believe in it, and the stronger your faith becomes, the easier it will be for you to get through it.
With time and faith in your own strength, you’ll be able to get back in the dating pool, make a profile on a dating app, and let a new guy into your life.
Is It Normal To Feel Sad When Your Ex Gets A New Girlfriend?
Your ex moved on, and you still aren’t sure about how you feel about him, so it’s completely okay to feel that way. It’s a normal reaction, especially if you were hoping that you’d get your ex back.
Also, if you were dating for a long time, it’s normal that you’ll feel sad when you find out that a new woman is in your ex-boyfriend’s life. You’ll need time to get used to your new reality, then heal and recover from it all.
However, this doesn’t mean you should mourn forever. You need to give yourself a second chance to find love. You need to give a new guy a chance to win you over and hope that a new relationship will finally show you what true love looks like.
Do Exes Come Back After Dating Someone New?
It all depends on various factors. If they engage in a rebound relationship, hoping that it’ll help them get over you, they might realize that it doesn’t work like that and come back to you after a while.
Also, if you try to win them back, they may realize they still have feelings for you and ask to give your relationship a second chance.
On the other hand, if they’ve already let you go and caught feelings for a new woman, they probably won’t come back but try to build a happy relationship with the new girl.
In the end, the point of the story is that they’ll come back (or try to come back) if they love you. Yes, there are other reasons why they may come back after dating someone else, but all those reasons are wrong, and they’ll leave again sooner or later.
Should I Text My Ex If He Has A New Girlfriend?
I know this is an easy thing to say and, at the same time, one of the hardest things to do, but NO, you shouldn’t text your ex if he has a new girlfriend.
Actually, you should block him on WhatsApp, Instagram, and all the other social media apps. That way, you won’t be tempted to reach out to him.
And if you decide to go out and have fun with your best friends, you should give your phone to one of them or leave it at home because sending him a drunk text is the worst thing you can do.
The best thing you can do for yourself is to wish him good luck with his new partner and focus on your own life.
Why Did My Ex Move On So Fast?
Unfortunately, it’s a huge red flag that he never really loved you. Maybe he was just fooling around and using you the entire time, and once he met a better opportunity, he left you and moved on.
The second explanation is that he stopped loving you a while ago but simply didn’t know how to admit it to you. Now, he has met someone new and decided to engage in a new relationship.
The important thing is that his moving on so fast should help you do the same. If he could forget you and everything you’ve been through together so fast, you need to try to do the same because he certainly doesn’t deserve you wasting any more of your time on him.
All In All
I don’t know if this will bring you any comfort, but I just wanted to tell you that almost every girl has once been in this “my ex has a new girlfriend” situation. It’s not easy, that I need to admit to you, but it’ll get easier with time.
Time really heals all wounds, especially when it comes to heartbreaks and letting go of someone you love.
You should feel happy if your ex has really found the love of his life because the same thing is waiting for you sometime in the future. Your soulmate is out there, and now, he is probably closer than ever to finally finding you.
Now, it’s time to focus solely on yourself and your well-being. I know how it feels to be in your shoes right now, and I want to wish you good luck and end this article with an important message for you…
Believe in yourself and your inner strength! I promise that you’ll get over this – you just need to love yourself and trust your power.