There are millions of ways to make him addicted to you, billions of pieces of advice, and most of them should’ve been left in the 19th century where they belong.
Changing yourself in any way to make a man addicted to you is everything we’ve been fighting against for a long time.
We should accept them but also change for them? The whole idea of love is finding someone imperfect who perfectly fits with us. No one is perfect, so why on earth are we looking for perfection?
A good listener, someone who will have our back and spoil us with loyalty—that there is a perfect man.
That there is a man who will never ask you to change, because you are already perfect for him.
And when you find such a man, you are, of course, worried about keeping him.
It’s completely normal to look for advice and ways to keep him in your life, which is why this article is here.
We bring you ten proven ways to make him addicted to you, which don’t include you making him a sandwich and politely nodding while he is talking.
I wish I could say that I’m joking but that is an actual piece of advice I found on the Internet. Because the Internet is dark and full of terrors.
1. Communicate with him
Communication is basically the key to every healthy relationship.
When there is no communication, there is no honesty, there is no sharing the important parts of your life with your significant other.
And of course, there is no knowledge of how you two are actually doing, because you are solving all of the issues in your own head, and the same goes for him.
It’s important to communicate, to encourage him to talk to you. This way, you will learn how to trust each other and how to be each other’s best friend, which is incredibly important for your relationship to grow.
When you know that your partner is there for you, that your partner will always be there to listen to your troubles, to share the silence and to give you advice, life doesn’t seem that scary at all. So, the first way to get him addicted to you is to be his friend.
2. Accept and support him
Being accepted and understood are basic human needs. They are things we all crave, no matter how confident and badass we are.
We just need someone who will see all of our flaws and love us for them.
We all need someone who knows that we are not a superhero but they still see us as such.
Just like you would love to be accepted, accept him too. Love him for his flaws and quirks, not despite them, and keep in mind that no one is perfect. The only thing that matters is how you two fit together.
Which brings us to the importance of support. Life is tough, and I mean bitch-like tough.
One moment you are doing well and the very next you lose the ground under your feet and you don’t know what to do next.
In moments like that, it’s important to know that there is someone who has our back, that there is someone who is our number one fan. And you should be that for each other.
Encourage him when he is stepping out of his comfort zone and be there to comfort him when things don’t go as planned. If anything will strengthen your relationship, it will be this.
Don’t be afraid to take some time for yourself. Having dreams to follow and things you are passionate about is what makes you extraordinary.
He fell in love with you when you were free as a bird, when you followed your heart and lived your life to the fullest.
There is no point in giving it all away just because you are in a relationship.
With time, he will start feeling guilty for you giving up on your dreams for him and you will inevitably start feeling unhappy for not doing all the things you used to dream about doing.
Don’t be afraid to have a life outside of your relationship, you will be surprised how much a little bit of distance can help in keeping a relationship happy.
4. Spice it up!
Spice it up in the bedroom, outside the bedroom, where ever you feel like it.
The idea is to keep it exciting, because many couples fall into a routine and start doing things automatically.
Imagine kissing the love of your life on autopilot, as that’s what it seems like.
You can suggest some new positions in the bedroom, surprise him with a couple of sexts or maybe some quick action in the morning before work.
The most important thing is that you feel comfortable while doing it; there is no point in spicing up your life if you’re not 100% into it.
He will feel it and it won’t be as exciting as it normally would be. So, do this one when you are ready and when you feel it’s time.
5. Don’t be afraid to be emotional
Piling up your emotions is never a good thing, especially if you are keeping them locked up deep inside.
They need to get out eventually, otherwise, you will drown in them and snap.
Luckily, you have someone you can talk to, someone who will be happy to help you with whatever troubles you.
Show him that you trust him and you appreciate his help. Even if he doesn’t have good advice like your lady friends, he still has a shoulder you can cry on and ears to listen to you.
He will be honored you decided to show your vulnerable side to him and you will be relieved.
And don’t be afraid to express how much you love him and how much you appreciate him being in your life.
Men need to know that their efforts are not in vain and you are the only one who can assure him of that, so don’t keep it to yourself when he does something that sweeps you off of your feet.
6. Be confident
Confidence is what makes a man fall head over heels for you and the same goes for your man.
Don’t be afraid to rock heels and dresses if they make you feel good. Try out new things, do spa weekends and go wine tasting with your friends.
Do whatever it is that makes your confidence go through the roof and trust me, he will become addicted to you in no time.
The thing is, men instantly feel better when they can show off their partner.
And so what if you are not as perfect as those models in magazines? They are Photoshopped anyway.
Rock your own perfection and embrace it. After all, there is nothing more attractive than a woman who is confident and loves herself.
7. Keep it adventurous
This one is my favorite. Make a list of all the things you want to try and the ones your partner does, as he has mentioned them to you for sure.
Once the list is done, start planning on doing them. You can even create a bucket list of all the things you want to do by the end of the year.
Make it adventurous and pumped up with adrenaline, like skydiving and bungee jumping.
You can even go hiking or go to an amusement park if it’s something you haven’t done in a long time.
The point is that you do these things together and that they make you feel good.
Embrace your inner child and do all the things you once dreamed of.
Even if it’s crazy, like driving around in a firefighter’s truck, as long as you are having the time of your life together and making memories, you are doing it right.
8. Make him a part of your life—not your whole life
When we are in the honeymoon phase, we just can’t get enough of each other and that’s completely normal.
But once the honeymoon phase is over, being together all the time and making him your life is not quite normal. Make him part of your life but not your entire life.
Keep on pursuing your dreams and following your passions and ask him to come along with you and for him to be your company on the way.
You two are best friends, lovers and soulmates. But it doesn’t mean that the rest of the world stops existing just because you two fell in love.
Enjoy your life to the fullest and enjoy it both with him and with your friends and family.
Enjoy it with yourself first, because alone time is incredibly important for you to be happy and healthy as well.
You can’t pour from an empty cup, so take care of yourself first. Don’t be afraid or ashamed of putting yourself first sometimes. You deserve to be happy as well.
9. Respect him and ask him to respect you
Probably two of the most important parts of a relationship are respect and loyalty.
Since loyalty comes from respecting each other, that means that respect is the ultimate ingredient for a happy and successful relationship, alongside love.
Respect his boundaries and his time, the same as you would want him to respect yours.
If he says that he is going out with his friends, encourage him to do so.
Show him that he has your trust. Respect his worth the same as you want yours to be respected. And respect his wishes and values.
For relationships to succeed, there are many sacrifices and compromises to be made.
But someone sacrificing their free time, their dreams and wishes to make the other person happy is a one-way ticket to disaster.
Giving up on their beliefs is even worse—which leads us to the last point of this article.
10. Be yourself and encourage him to be himself as well
Be yourself. Let him be himself. Like I have said many times, no one is perfect.
So, there is no need for you to give up on parts of yourself that make you who you are or even asking him to do it if you are not interested in doing the same.
The whole idea of a relationship is doing things together, growing up and growing old together, changing and evolving together.
You will not be the same person you were last year and he won’t either.
But as long as you are being yourself, as long as you two are talking about issues and the stuff that’s going on in your lives, you will be okay.
Don’t be afraid to show him your vulnerable side, as well as your badass and fierce side.
He fell in love with you, the whole you. Not just the pretty parts. Keep that in mind.