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How To Make A Guy Fall In Love With You: 30 Steps To Success

How To Make A Guy Fall In Love With You: 30 Steps To Success

How to make a guy fall in love with you? This is the question that never ceases to torture the soul of every girl. Even when you think that you’ve finally figured it out, new questions arise.

You’re never quite sure what’s in their mind nor how close you are to winning them over. Well, I will reveal a little secret to you – guys are actually really simple.

I know. It sounds unbelievable. If you’re in need of some more convincing, then read on and I’ll happily give you all the relationship advice you need.

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How Can I Win A Man’s Heart?

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Every man is a different person with different wishes and needs. If you want to win the heart of the guy that’s currently on your mind, you’re going to have to dig deeper into what he likes.

HOWEVER, despite the fact that they are individuals, in their very core, they are the same… there are just some things that turn every guy on and instantly make them fall for you.

If you want him to commit to you, fret not, I have answers for that, too. I guess you’re going to have to stick around to find out.

How To Make A Man Fall In Love With You?

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As I said, men are simple. Don’t complicate the matter any further by looking for a deeper meaning in everything. You’ll accomplish nothing except hurting yourself in the process.

So, to spare you any more pain, here are the five most important things that will make a man fall madly in love with you:

Have him beaming with joy.

To be honest, without a good sense of humor, all your efforts are in vain. You need to know how to make a guy laugh before anything else, and he’ll be addicted to you!

They want to have a good time, and if they can’t have it with you, they will easily move on to another woman.

Of course, it’s also important for your humor to be compatible. If not, your chances are pretty slim.

All of you deserves to be seen.

As much as guys enjoy liking the same things as you, they get curious about what makes you different. Frankly, isn’t it dull when both of you are completely the same?

Feel free to accentuate your real self. Nothing is more attractive than someone who’s bold enough to be themselves.

If he doesn’t like who you are, you don’t need him anyway, right? The right guy will surely be yours if you stay genuine!

Similarities are crucial.

What makes a guy ache for you is shared interests. If he hears that you adore anime as he does, chances are he will try to approach you!

So, find out what he likes and see if you have anything in common. If not, dig deeper into his tastes. Maybe you’ll find something you truly like.

It’s really important not to fake your enthusiasm, though. That is cute at first, but then pretense exhausts the hell out of you and makes the overall relationship a complete failure. Honesty is key.

Not the time to get cold feet.

All of these steps are for nothing if you don’t know how to talk to a guy you like.

If you are too shy to open up to him or too nervous to seductively tease him, I’m afraid you won’t keep him interested.

You’re going to have to let go of fear and keep the conversation going in order to win him over. In fact, start the conversation yourself or you can always send him one of those cute good morning texts that will serve as an ice breaker. You don’t have to wait for him to do it. Don’t be afraid of rejection because otherwise, you’ll never have anything at all.

Transform into the goddess of beauty.

Let’s not fool ourselves. Guys will always see the way you look first! In order for them to want to get to know you, they need to be physically attracted to you.

The problem is that every guy is different. So, if you want yours to be head over heels in love with you, find out what he likes in a girl.

You don’t need to make drastic changes only to appeal to him, though. You can seduce him with your confidence.

How To Make A Guy Fall In Love With You Over Text Messages?

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Is there a great distance between you and your guy?

Or, are you just not comfortable yet to meet him in real life?

If any of this is true, texting is the perfect method for you. Here are some tips that will help you win a guy’s heart over messages:

Tell him about your day.

Your guy will love it when he sees that you deem him worthy enough to tell him all about your day!

Say what you’ve been doing and how you’ve been feeling. Go into detail. Make it fun. He will feel like he’s right there experiencing it with you.

If he feels included in your life, it will further motivate him to make a move on you. Plus, he will return the favor and tell you about his. Truthfully, it’s almost inevitable for both of you to fall madly in love with each other.

P.S. Know when to text and when to wait. You don’t want him to lose interest.

Vulnerability leads to a connection.

Opening up can be a lot harder in person. That’s why most people prefer texting when it comes to that… and night hours.

Let him know the real you. Don’t be scared of emotional vulnerability. That will only make your connection grow, and besides, that’s a quality all men secretly crave.

Don’t just keep those memes in your gallery!

I’m sure you’d agree that memes are of CRUCIAL importance. No guy wants only to have serious conversations with you. They want you to make them laugh, and vice versa.

So, every time you come across a funny meme on social media, make sure you share it with him. You will get his attention, and he will be sure to reach out again once he sees that spending time with you is so much fun!

How you feel shouldn’t be a gray area.

Yes, it is scary to show a guy the affection you feel for him. However, even though being direct is always the best way, it isn’t the only way.

Let him know that you like him by taking his feelings and his needs into consideration. Ask how he’s doing, if he’s eating well, if he’s had a good night’s sleep. A woman with a motherly instinct who truly cares about him is what every man dreams of!

Bring your inner minx out to play.

Don’t be shy and restrained! Send him flirty texts and spice it all up with emojis! Show him how fun you are, but more importantly, show him that you like him by teasing him. Also, don’t forget to find a cute contact name for him.

Do whatever makes you feel comfortable. Be sassy if it pleases you, or initiate some dirty talk. Just turn him on. That’s how things work with guys.

P.S. Don’t let him use you to feed his own ego. Avoid being a booty call.

What Makes A Man Pursue A Woman?

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Are you the girl no guy has ever pursued?

Or, can you just not get attention from the guy you really want?

Worry not because I’m here to help you out. If you follow the advice stated below, your guy will develop such strong feelings for you that he won’t rest until he has finally won you over. Here’s what you need to do:

Drawn to one another.

There’s nothing quite like two people feeling instant physical chemistry. You can just sense it in the air… the way they look at each other, talk to each other, playfully touch each other…

If a man experiences that, he won’t be likely to stray away from you anytime soon! So, pay attention to your body language. Be comfortable and flirty around him.

Don’t be stiff and shy. As cute as that can be, it rarely moves the relationship forward, and a relationship is precisely what you want, isn’t it?

Two bodies and one soul.

Do you know what’s more important than anything else? Connection. The inexplicable feeling of comfort and belonging. It’s the rarest thing in the world, yet the most beautiful one.

If you can accomplish that with your guy, you will have him forever! But, what does connection really mean?

I feel like this quote from Wuthering Heights will give you a better understanding of the word than I will:

“He’s more myself than I am. Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.”

Need I say more?

An enigma to be deciphered.

Make a guy chase you by having a certain dose of mystery! If he is curious about you, he’s more likely to be persistent. He puts in the effort because he wants to get to know you.

If he finds out all about you the first time you talk, he might not want to explore the matter any further… so make sure you don’t open up about everything on the first date.

Do it just enough to intrigue him and make him seek more! That’s how to make a guy fall in love with you.

Close, yet so far away.

Naturally, when a guy reaches out to you, he wants to talk. Getting to know each other is what you both seek after all.

Nevertheless, make sure that you’re not available for him literally all the time. Don’t give him the satisfaction of making him your top priority.

What I mean by this isn’t that you should ignore the hell out of him. Simply don’t forget that you are an individual and that you have other things to do with your time. Don’t put everything on hold for him. Do your thing.

Unattainable desires.

Let’s be honest here. You could be the most interesting person who has ever lived, but if a guy sees that he doesn’t have to try hard to win you over, he’ll be less interested.

Of course, not every guy is this way. He won’t necessarily abandon you if you’re openly interested and eager to be with him. In fact, you can be both of those things.

What matters is that if you ignore him every once in a while so he doesn’t have what he wants straight away, he’ll be hooked! I’m sure you’ll agree that even we women love it when someone is slightly unavailable.

When you get something as soon as you wish for it, the magic disappears.

What Attracts A Man To A Woman Long Term?

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It’s very easy to attract a guy. However, making him wish for a long-term relationship with you is quite another thing.

How to make a guy fall in love with you long-term? What exactly do you need to do to make him yours?

Well, you are seconds away from the answers you seek. In order to make him commit to you, do these five things:

Friends first, lovers second.

There isn’t anything more attractive in this world than friendship. If you have that to offer to your guy, you needn’t do anything else.

I’ve once read that love is nothing more than friendship on fire, and that couldn’t be truer. It’s simply two best friends hanging out all the while being insanely attracted to each other!

So, when trying to attract a guy, don’t just focus on being the perfect girlfriend, but rather, focus on being a good friend. That’s how you catch him and keep him.

It’s in human nature to be flawed.

Yes, openly tell him when he messes up, but don’t unnecessarily judge him. Everybody dislikes it when their every move is being scrutinized and frowned upon.

If you really want to make a man feel infinite love for you, start by offering him your empathy and support. Don’t attempt to change him.

When he’s sad, don’t tell him that he isn’t manly enough. When he makes a mistake, don’t make him feel like his whole life is a failure.

Simply see them as the flawed human beings that they are, and love them for it. If you were wondering how to make a guy fall in love with you, this is it! You will melt his heart.

Clinginess is a big NO.

Before belonging to anyone, people are individuals. You need to treat men the same way. Stop chasing him whenever you feel like it because they have their own life.

Be there and devote your time to him, but also make sure that you give him a break. You have no idea how much he will appreciate you for it.

Besides, a little time away won’t do any harm to your relationship. If anything, it’ll make you miss each other more!

Men are physical beings.

Let’s be honest. Both men and women desire to be touched, and I don’t just mean sex! They want cuddling, hugs, and other little things that show how much you care for them.

It has never been all about words. We aren’t just emotional beings, but physical ones as well. Always keep that in mind when you’re seducing a man.

Touch him gently on the shoulder while talking to him or fix his hair. Whatever it is, I’m sure he’ll love it as long as you pamper him.

Honesty is the best policy.

Pretense isn’t attractive to anyone. People-pleasing isn’t either. You only need to be yourself and he will fall in love with you.

Don’t pretend to like the things he likes, and don’t agree with him on every topic only to appeal to him. That move is sure to backfire!

Instead, always tell him honestly how you feel and what you think, and he will be attracted to how genuine you are. Let’s face it, nobody likes a fake person. That’s not how you build a healthy relationship.

How To Make Him Fall In Love With You Again?

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I understand you perfectly. Past relationships or situationships are sometimes really hard to get over. There are some high-quality men that we just can’t get out of our heads no matter how hard we try.

If that’s the case with you, and you want to make him realize that what you had was true love, here are five simple steps that will help you with that:

Emerge as a whole new person.

If he vanished from you, it was probably due to certain traits he didn’t like or some you didn’t possess. Of course, I’m not trying to put the blame here on you; I’m merely stating the possibilities.

Now, determine what those traits were, and get rid of them. Be the best possible version of yourself you can be, and you will win this guy’s love again in no time!

Approach him and show him how you’re still the person he once loved, only even better, and he will want to be in your presence again as soon as possible.

Make him go crazy with longing!

Since he was with you before, you certainly have something that attracts him immensely. If he didn’t tell you back then, then figure it out and use it to win him back.

If he used to love your humor, make jokes every time you can. If he loved your open-mindedness, never be afraid to state your controversial opinions. Show him what a mistake it was to break up with you.

Accentuate everything he used to love about the old you, and he will start missing you… and quite possibly reaching out to you again.

Talk to him without talking to him.

Do you know how to make a guy fall in love with you? Try talking to him… without talking to him. Here is what I mean by this:

If you happen to be in the same group or group chat, talk about topics that you have in common or ones you discussed long ago, but not directly to him.

He will go crazy that he can’t participate in the conversation as he once did! But, he will surely start missing what you two used to have. You just have to remind him what that was.

Not a hair out of place.

Does he like girls with itty bitty titties who look classy and straighten their hair? Well then, go and dress up to knock him out!

Of course, this doesn’t mean that you should ever change for a guy entirely, but you’re still free to tease him a bit by wearing what he likes.

As important as it is that he likes you as a person, the most effective seduction technique is looking good. So, make sure you wow him with your feminine energy every time he sees you!

Make him compete.

How to make a guy fall in love with you again? Very easily. Simply make him jealous by flirting with other guys and he will freak out! He will want to have you all to himself once more.

Guys can’t stand competition, especially when it comes to someone they care about. Trust me, if you’re sure that his affections were real back then, they won’t ever disappear.

You simply have to remind him why they were there in the first place. So, go and playfully tease other men (but make sure you don’t hurt anyone’s feelings in the process) and there’s a great chance your ex will come rushing back to you.

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How To Make A Married Man Fall Madly In Love With You?

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Married men are a different breed. They’re officially someone else’s, and quite possibly emotionally unavailable, so it won’t be that easy to make him fall in love with you… Or, will it?

They seek totally different things than single men, and you need to know what those things are.

I sincerely hope for your sake that you will abandon this pursuit because you deserve someone who is committed to nobody but you.

But, if you’re so determined to do it, or earn some money by being the perfect sugar baby, here are the main things to keep in mind when seducing a married man:

Treat him well.

How to make a guy fall in love with you if he’s married?

Well, the truth is that after marriage, a man and woman quite often forget to appreciate each other. They live independent lives, and don’t care much for each other’s needs. That’s where you come in.

Always let him know how worthy he is, and trigger his hero instinct. Do everything in your power to appeal to him in a way his wife won’t.  Don’t let his ego be unfed.

Compliment him all the time and he will adore you for it… you’ll see!

Turn into a vixen.

Sadly enough, flirtation mostly happens in the early stages of a relationship. After a woman has managed to seduce her husband or, in this case, get him to marry her, she just doesn’t care about it anymore. Use that to your advantage.

Make him feel like with you, there’s going to be everlasting flirting regardless of your relationship status.

Trust me, if his marriage lacks this essential component, you’ll soon notice him falling in love with you.

…and a freak between the sheets!

Another thing that easily fades away within a marriage is sex life. If his wife stops caring that much about physically satisfying him, he’ll look for that satisfaction elsewhere.

So, make sure that you please him in bed, and he’ll be all over you all the time. After all, men simply can’t exist without sex.

If you really want to get his attention, try spicing things up a bit. If you give him not only sex, but an extraordinary adventure, he will never want to leave your bed.

Dress to kill.

Women often neglect their appearance after marriage. While this isn’t a problem in itself, men still tend to be less attracted to them. They seek excitement in the looks of other women who take care of themselves.

Be that woman. Be more feminine and dress up nicely every time you see him, and show him all that he’s missing out on by still being with his wife!

Make it fun.

Dating is fun, but once you create a marriage, it ceases to be of importance. You look for jobs, and when you come home, you’re too tired to even talk let alone do something entertaining.

This is why you need to show him how you can be both a businesswoman and a woman capable of making life exciting.

Believe me when I say that this will make him choose you. In you, he will see the woman he should have married!

How Do You Know If A Guy Is Deeply In Love With You?

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It can be pretty exhausting trying to figure out if a guy is in love with you. You must constantly ask yourself: ”Is he more than just a friend?”

I can understand your struggle because I’ve been there. However… I’ve been enlightened. And, since I’m such a nice person, I will share my knowledge with you, so that you can finally be at peace knowing the truth.

Here’s how to know if your guy has the hots for you:

Always by your side.

When a guy likes you, he shows it to you with his constant efforts. He either asks you out for coffee or texts you often. Either way, he spends a lot of time talking to you.

He’ll ask you all kinds of questions to get to know you. You’ll never feel neglected because he’s always there to listen to you and offer his advice.

If he’s truly into you, he won’t make himself be missed because guys love to chase! They’re direct, if not in their words, then in their actions. Just pay close attention!

The eyes never lie.

Haven’t you ever felt that a guy likes you just by the way he looks at you? Honestly, the biggest sign that he wants you badly is hidden precisely in his eyes.

If he’s shy, he’ll probably look at you often, but look away as soon as you catch him. But, if he’s just a bit mysterious, he’ll freely make prolonged eye contact that will tell you all you need to know!

Another thing to pay attention to is his pupils. Are they dilated when he talks to you? Well, that’s a telltale sign that he’s just crazy about you!

Living to mess with you.

If he’s interested in you, I guarantee you that he will be teasing you the whole time! That’s a powerful sign of male attraction.

But, is he flirting or just teasing you in a friendly way? How can you know? Can you even be friends with the opposite sex?

Well, just pay attention to the other signs that we’ve mentioned and you’ll have your answer! If you have doubts even after that, then ask him out yourself. Yes. It is the 21st century after all.

No using the F word.

When feelings of attraction are involved, a man will rarely call you his friend. He will try his best to avoid that word because he wants much more!

However, in some cases, they aren’t sure how to approach you, so they try to build a friendship first.

If he calls you ‘friend’ or ‘bro’, don’t panic straight away. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t want a relationship. First, determine what that means for him. Think about it like this:

Does he really treat you like a friend? How does he treat his other female friends? How do you get treated by your other guy friends?

Answer those and your analysis will be over in no time!

Other women exist as ghosts.

If a guy feels affection for you, he will NEVER mention other women in front of you. Instead, as if you’re official, he’ll be sure to let you know in what way they’re connected.

In rare cases, guys will try to get your attention by trying to make you jealous. They will boast about how wanted he is, and how he can have anyone he sets his eyes on.

It’s really up to you to find out. Either become a mind reader or openly tell him that you like him. Quite frankly, if we did that more often, the world would be a much easier place to live in.

Final Thoughts

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I hope you have now realized how to make a guy fall in love with you. It isn’t as complicated as you initially thought, is it?

Just show him you like him in any way that feels comfortable to you. Be yourself, but also try to emphasize your best features. I assure you that your love life will finally come to life!

Focus on being a better person and you will consequently be a good girlfriend. A good relationship is coming your way… I can just feel it!