Although most people think that the end of a relationship is the end of all the feelings as well, life usually has a way of proving differently. Many couples choose to ignore each other after their break-ups, especially if they were painful.
But, on the other hand, there are some couples in which one or both of the people show some strange types of behavior that can be easily misinterpreted. When this is the case, one of the partners is usually in doubt whether the other person still has some unresolved feelings for them.
So, if you have ever found yourself in a situation in which you can’t read the clues your ex has been sending you and if you have ever asked yourself what are the signs my ex-boyfriend still has feelings for me, this is the text for you. Here are 27 obvious signs he still loves you and he hasn’t moved on.
If the things mentioned below are observed one by one, they don’t have to mean a thing. But, if your ex has been doing most or all of this stuff, he definitely still has feelings for you.If you are the one who doesn’t want to get back together and you are searching for ways to get over this relationship, there is something you should check out: Get over that relationship and move on with your life
1. He stays in touch
For me, one of the first signs my ex-boyfriend still has feelings for me is that he tries to stay in touch. It’s perfectly OK to keep a friendly relationship with someone who was your romantic partner.
After all, this was the person you shared a lot with and who you loved intensely, and it doesn’t mean that the two of you should be enemies after the split happened. It is common for people to maintain contact after the break-up, but if your ex insists on you two staying in touch, it is possible that there is something else behind that request.
Although there is always a possibility that your ex appreciates and loves you as a person and that is why he wants to keep you in his life, it is also possible that he is trying to keep you close to him because he wants to keep his options open or because he hasn’t accepted the idea that the two of you broke up.
Just be careful, staying in touch with your ex can sometimes be quite harmful for your new potential relationship and that is something you definitely want to avoid.
2. He bumps into you all the time
You and your ex have been together for a quite some time and that means that he knows most of your habits and routines. He knows where you work, where your gym is, where your friends and family live and what your favorite place to go out is. So, if you just happen to run into your ex-boyfriend everywhere you go, it is quite possible that this is no accident, even he tries to present it that way.
For me, one of the signs my ex-boyfriend still has feelings for me is that I’ve started encountering him too often. I realized that the guy was everywhere I looked and that couldn’t be a coincidence. Now I know that he has been coming to the places I visit, hoping that he would see me.
If this is the case with you and your ex, it is probable that he also wants you back, but doesn’t want to admit it, so he wants to meet you coincidentally, instead of actually calling you. Another possibility is that he has feelings for you but is too big of a coward to admit it or maybe his pride won’t let him do so.
He may be afraid that you don’t share the same emotions, so he doesn’t want to feel rejected if he doesn’t get the signals he expects from you. If he still loves you but doesn’t want to be the one to make the first step, his solution is this.
3. He asks people about you
When you are in a serious relationship for a long time, it is likely for you and your partner to have many common friends. Although it doesn’t mean that one or both of you should stop hanging out with all of these people when you break up, this doesn’t seem like such a bad idea if you want to cut all ties with your ex.
Remember, these are the people who can serve your ex-boyfriend as a way through to you, if he still has feelings for you. One of the undeniable signs he wants you back is the fact that he asks people about you. He probably doesn’t want to reach out to you directly but uses the people you both know to get the information the wants. It is also possible that he would like you to find out that he’s been asking about you, expecting you to do the first step towards reconciliation.
This way, he’s trying to see your reaction through these people without having to directly reach you. Although this can also mean that he just wants to see what you’ve been up to, it is quite possible that he misses you and wants you back. He may not even be aware of how much he talks about you, but you are constantly on his mind, so he can’t help it.
4. He stayed in touch with your friends and family
Besides having mutual friends and acquaintances, when you are in a long lasting relationship, it is quite common for your partner to be in great relations with your own friends and family members. And although you enjoyed that he had this kind of relationship with them when the two of you were together, this has become a disturbance for you if you didn’t plan on getting back with him.
One of the first signs my ex still has feelings for me is that he wants to spend time with my family and friends. When the two of us were in a relationship, he had a respectful relationship with my family and that was it. But, since we broke up, he made sure that the relationship intensified.
It is one thing if your ex-boyfriend is polite enough to say ‘hi’ to your family and friends when he accidentally meets them on the street or if he calls them to congratulate them on something, but it is totally different if he uses every possible opportunity to make contact with them. He probably doesn’t have any other way of keeping in touch with you, so he tries to stay in your life indirectly through them.
It is also likely that these people are the only thing he has left of you and he holds on to them because he’s lost you. While hanging out with them, he feels like he’s around you and it helps him be in touch with everything that is going on with you, without having to contact you directly.
5. He tries to find out things about you
When people are completely over their break-up and former relationship, they move on with their lives right away. This means that they don’t have any interest in their former partner. Of course, they want their exes to be happy, but they don’t have the need to know about their lives in detail. But, if your ex still has feelings for you, he will act completely differently.
He will try very hard to find out things about you, such as whether you’ve moved on or if you still have feelings for him. Despite your break-up, you are obviously still a huge part of his life and he wants to know everything that is going in yours. All of a sudden, this guy is madly interested in you, your hobbies and habits, even more than when he was in a relationship with you.
When he contacts you, he pays close attention to everything you have to say, more than ever before or he uses every other opportunity to know more about your current life.
6. He is interested in your love life
One of the first signs my ex still has feelings for me is his interest in my love life. He knew he was the love of my life, so he couldn’t imagine me ever being with anyone else. Suddenly, he wants to know everything about the guys I’ve been seeing or whether I’ve stayed single. If your ex-boyfriend behaves in the same manner, you can be certain that he hasn’t stopped loving you.
He is afraid that you’ll find someone else and that would be devastating for him, so he wants to know whether you’ve put yourself back on the dating market and if you have, he would like to know everything about it. He wants to know every detail of your new relationship, if you have one, but is probably pretending that he’s asking you about these things as a friend.
If he knows there is some special guy, he will tell you not to start dating him. If you are still single, he does everything to find out whether there is someone special in your life. He does all of this because it gives him a sense of control—he thinks he can prevent you from finding someone new if he knows all about it. Of course, he is also worried that he might be soon replaced in your life and that would be the end of the world for him.
7. He goes back to your unresolved issues
If you and your partner broke up, it happened for a reason. But, all of the problems and disagreements you two had should be forgiven and forgotten about when the end comes. If both you and your ex behave like this towards everything that has happened in your relationship, it means that you’ve both moved on with your life.
But, if he constantly tries to go back to everything that went on between you two, it is obvious that your ex isn’t over you. For him, the relationship that the two of you had is not only a part of the past. He is probably telling you that he doesn’t want either of you to hold any grudges or to have any resentments and that is the reason for his constantly going back to your unresolved issues.
But, the truth is different. He still wants to get to the bottom of the things that caused you to break up because he hopes the two of you will resolve them and that you could go back together. He is obviously still consumed by your relationship and that means he still has feelings for you.
8. He is jealous
It is perfectly normal for your boyfriend to be jealous to some extent while the two of you are together. But, it can be strange if your ex-boyfriend starts to show jealousy. Although this may come as a shock to you, it is actually pretty understandable and it is a clear sign of his feelings for you.
Of course, it doesn’t have to be this way—it is also possible that he just has ego problems and that he simply can’t stand seeing you with someone else. But, if your ex behaves like you two are still together and has the desire to control your love and dating life, it is obvious that he still has emotions for you.
It is also possible for him to act friendly and that he pretends to be happy for your new start, if you’ve found someone. But, at the same time, he uses every possible opportunity to tell you that the guy you are with doesn’t deserve you and that you could do much better. He may talk negatively about your partner directly and that means he doesn’t have a problem showing you his jealousy.
But, if he never actually tells you anything negative about him but somehow implies all of his flaws, it is likely that he knows he has no right to be jealous but he just can’t help himself.
9. He doesn’t follow the no contact rule
If you’ve been hurt in your past relationship, the best thing you can do is to follow the no contact rule. It means that you should ask your ex-boyfriend to help you get over him by breaking all possible contact for at least 30 days.
It means no calls, no texting and no talking to your friends and family by him. But, it seems that your ex-boyfriend refuses to follow this rule, although he has promised to respect your wishes. If this is the case, it is a definite sign that he’s not indifferent towards you. You want to avoid every possible encounter with him because you know it will be easier for you to forget him this way.
And he knows it very well. That is why he doesn’t follow this rule and uses every possible opportunity to contact you. He is afraid that he’ll be out of your heart if he is out of your sight and is not ready to let that happen. Instead of respecting your wishes, he is doing completely the opposite because he just can’t forbid himself from reaching out to you.
10. He stalks you on social media
Social media has made stalking and obsessing over someone easier than it ever was. So, if your ex-boyfriend still has feelings for you, the first thing he’ll do is go visit all of your pages. This will give him an insight in your life without ever having to leave the house. But just because he hasn’t unfollowed or unfriended you from your social networks, it doesn’t mean that he still loves you.
It can simply mean that he just wants the two of you to stay on pretty good terms and that he doesn’t want to be impolite by removing you from everything. On the other hand, if he never misses your Instagram or Snapchat story or if you catch his accidental ‘Like’ on something you’ve posted ages ago, it is a sure sign that he is stalking you through social media and that he is still not over you.
11. He avoids you completely
While you may think that when someone doesn’t want to see you at all costs, it is not a sign of their feelings for you, but you couldn’t be more wrong. For me, one of the first signs my ex-boyfriend still has feelings for me is that he avoids me completely. If your ex is over you, he will be indifferent to you. This means that he shouldn’t have any trouble encountering you when it’s needed.
But, if you see that he is avoiding events both of you are invited to or he doesn’t even say ‘hi’ to your friends when he sees them, be sure that he still has feelings for you. He is running away from you because he is afraid of his reaction when he sees you or someone close to you. It is possible that he is not certain whether he should go back together with you, but his feelings are not questionable.
Another possibility is that his pride doesn’t allow him to express his love for you, so he avoids you at any cost because he knows he couldn’t hide it if he saw you.
12. He calls or texts you when you’re drunk
They say that people are the most sincere when they are drunk. Your ex-boyfriend is not an exception. You may think you are getting mixed signals from him because he always ignores you during the day when he is sober. But, as soon as he is drunk, you get a phone call or a text message from your ex and you wonder why that is so.
It is obvious that this guy still has feelings for you but that he is probably running away from them. It is possible that he is not sure whether the two of you would work out and his common sense is stronger than his emotions when he is sober. But, as soon as he has had more to drink, he feels freer to express his true emotions.
When he is drunk, he can’t control himself and you are the first person he thinks about, no matter how hard he tries to fight it. Also, it is possible that he is afraid of your rejection and that is why he doesn’t contact you during his soberness. But, when he gets drunk, he becomes braver and decides to give it a shot, despite the fact that you might reject him.
13. He hasn’t been in a relationship since the two of you broke up
Some people don’t like jumping from one relationship to another. Instead, they like to take some time to get over their former partner and so they wait until they are completely ready to enter a new relationship. And that is completely acceptable. But, if you and you ex-boyfriend have broken up ages ago and he hasn’t had a relationship since then, you can be almost sure that he still has feelings for you.
He may have dated some girls, but he hasn’t had a serious relationship since you two split. It is possible that he is still holding on to you in his head and heart because he hopes that the two of you will reconcile. He has put his life on hold because he expects you to call him anytime soon, so he doesn’t want to be with anyone else when that happens.
Another possibility is that your ex doesn’t really hope you will get back together with him, but he is still in much emotional pain because of your break-up. He is aware that he still loves you even after you broke up and doesn’t want to hurt any other girl by being with her while he still has feelings for you.
14. He acts like you are still together
Breaking up with a person you love is one of the hardest things to accept. So, one of the signs my ex-boyfriend still has feelings for me is when he acts like we are still together. If your boyfriend keeps sending you good night and good morning texts, if he keeps inviting you to hang out, if you are the first person he comes to when he is in trouble or if he expects you to contact him on a regular basis, that is a clear sign that he definitely hasn’t accepted the fact that the of you have broken things off.
It is certain that he still loves you and he just can’t handle the fact that he doesn’t have you in his life, so he subconsciously acts as if nothing has happened. It is possible that he didn’t take this break-up as seriously as you did and that he chose to see it just as an argument between you two, so he continues to act like you are his girlfriend. His feelings for you that haven’t gone away don’t allow him to see things clearly and he observes the two of you as a couple, despite everything that has happened.
15. His new girlfriend looks like you
Many men have a certain type of girl they are attracted to. But, sometimes, the similarity between romantic partners is more than a pure coincidence. If your ex-boyfriend still has feelings for you but chooses to find someone else despite that, that girl will probably have something of yours in her.
If he finds a girlfriend that looks or behaves like you, it means that he is searching for you in every woman he can get. He can’t accept the fact that he can’t have you anymore, so he decided to subconsciously pretend that the two of you are still together.
This similarity between his new girl and you doesn’t have to be obvious, but there is definitely something about her that reminds him of you. On the other hand, there also exists a possibility that everybody, besides him, sees how similar this girl is to you. With doing this, your ex is trying to deceive himself that he’s moved on with his life but still wants to have at least pieces of you by his side at the same time.
16. He takes responsibility for everything he’s done to you
When you are in a toxic relationship with a lot of manipulation, fights and everything else that is bad, it is pretty challenging to have a clear perspective of things. You probably had a boyfriend who wasn’t treating you right in one way or another, but he acted like he never saw a problem in his behavior towards you.
But, now, since you and he have broken up, it’s like he suddenly sees all the mistakes he made in your relationship. And not only that, he also feels sorry for everything he’s done to you. Out of nowhere, you have a man who’s taking full responsibility for his words and actions for the first time in his life. And you don’t know what to think or feel.
Although there is a possibility that he just wants you back because you were a suitable victim of his emotional manipulation or that he has finally realized that he has done you harm and now he is feeling guilty for it, the most likely case scenario is that he still has some deep feelings for you. This man took you for granted for most of your relationship, but when he lost you, he realized how deep his love is for you and he can’t imagine living his life without you.
You two breaking up has helped him see all the mistakes he’s been making and now he is ready to move mountains just to get back on track with you and to make things right. He has probably seen how toxic his behavior was and he saw that you are a girl he is not ready to lose, so he’ll do anything in his power to win you back.
17. He takes care of you and your needs
It is always nice if your ex-boyfriend is polite even after your break-up and if he wishes you all the best. But, he is not your partner anymore and therefore, it is not his duty to take care of your well-being. So, if your ex-boyfriend puts an extra effort in looking after your needs, it is quite likely his emotions for you are still strong.
It is acceptable for him to pick up the phone from time to time if you ask him to help you with something, but if he goes an extra mile just to please you, he is definitely not indifferent towards you. This guy is constantly at your disposal and he’s ready to do whatever is in his power just to make your life more comfortable and to help you.
He worries about you, the same way he did while you were in a relationship. Your ex is concerned about things that look trivial at the first glance—he worries whether you’ve eaten, if you have had enough sleep or if you are cold. You may think that he is just being a gentleman, but let’s face it—things like these shouldn’t be any of his business anymore.
But, this man obviously has strong feelings for you and he needs to know if you are OK. His love for you is so intense that he can’t imagine being happy if there is something wrong with you, even if you guys are not together anymore.
18. His non-verbal gestures
Sometimes, people don’t have to say a single word for their real emotions to be revealed. No matter how hard someone tries to hide their true feelings, non-verbal signs are always there to tell you the truth. So, if you are wondering: “What are the signs my ex-boyfriend still has feelings for me?”, the first thing you should do is to look at him carefully every time you two meet.
Is he indifferent when he looks at you or does it look like you’ve brightened his day? If his eyes are shining and he can’t help but smile, even if he wants to keep a serious face when he sees you, he definitely still has feelings for you.
It is possible that he would like to hide those emotions, but eyes never lie. Also, if he looks you deep in the eyes when he’s talking to you, he is probably trying to read your feelings through them and he is trying to see whether you still love him back or not. If he gets extra touchy-feely whenever he’s around you, it’s his body’s natural reaction to you.
He simply has the need to feel your presence and to touch you, without maybe even being aware of it. It’s simple—if your ex misses you, you’ll be able to tell by his non-verbal gestures because they reveal everything he tries to hide.
19. His social media reveals his suffering
Although it is questionable whether social media can reveal someone’s personality, it is clear they can tell you a lot about a person. There are numerous cases where people chose not to delete every trace of their former partner from their social network accounts because they see these people as a part of their lives and don’t want to delete every beautiful memory they shared with them.
But, in most cases, if your ex-partner keeps all of your pictures in which the two of you are happy and in love, he does it because he expects a reconciliation. It is likely that he can’t accept the fact that the two of you are not together and deleting all traces of your existence on his social profiles would mean a reality check for him.
Also, if he keeps posting sad status updates or songs that talk about a painful break-up, he does it because he hopes you’ll see them. He wants you to know that he still loves you and that he misses you, but doesn’t want to be direct about it. This way, he hopes you’ll reach out to him first, by letting you know that he wants you back in his life.
20. He tries to make you smile
Every man knows that the best way to win over a girl is to make her smile. The same is with winning a girl back. So, if your ex goes an extra mile just to make you smile, it is obvious that he enjoys seeing you happy, but also that he is trying to find a way to your heart.
Neither of these would be important for him if he doesn’t have any feelings left for you. This man knows you to the core, so consequently, he knows what the things that amuse you and make you laugh are and he will use this knowledge to get under your skin and to get you closer to him.
If he assumes that you are still angry at him and that you still hold some grudges, he will try to escape the hard topics, but he will try to enter a casual communication with you. And what is better than humor to do this?
And when he sees that you can’t help but smile at his jokes, for him, it means that you’ve let your guard down and that he can finally start talking to you about getting back together. Until then, your ex will refuse to talk to you about anything serious. Besides, making you smile is good for his ego.
He knows that it is quite difficult to win a girl back, so he will want some reassurance and motivation to keep on going and your smile is just what he needs.
21. He keeps talking about your shared memories
Every relationship has its good and bad days and that is perfectly normal. After a couple breaks up, that is a chance for both of them to look at everything that was going on in the relationship from a realistic point of view. But, if one of the partners still has feelings for the other person, he only remembers the good times and quickly forgets everything that led to the break-up.
So, if your boyfriend still loves you, he doesn’t think about anything negative that has happened in your relationship. Instead, the only memories in his mind are the beautiful ones. So, he thinks his best tactic is to remind you of all the things you’ve been through together, so you could feel the same nostalgia he’s been feeling.
He will use every way to do this—he will talk to you about all the happy moments, he will show you pictures of the two of you together or he will play you some songs that should remind you of the happier times. But, be careful—you could easily fall into his trap by forgetting all the bad things that also happened between you two and you could start romanticizing your former relationship, the same way he does.
It is OK to get back with your ex but just if you really want it and if you can be realistic about everything that has happened between the two of you. Every other way is just deceit for both of you.
22. He is sexually suggestive
When a guy wants you back, it is natural that he will want to sleep with you again. So, he’ll try to get into your pants one way or another and he will be sexually suggestive while doing so. He’ll remind you of all the wild moments you had together and will use the passion you might still be feeling for him to get you back. Here is where you have to be extra careful.
Just because you have the desire to sleep with your ex-boyfriend again, it doesn’t mean that you also truly want to be in a relationship with him. But, if you sleep with him and decide it will be only about sex, it will be easier for you to get emotionally attached to him once again.
Besides, you should be careful whether this guy just wants to get into your pants and remember the old days or if he really misses all of you, including your body. You should never allow yourself to be just someone’s booty call, if you have stronger feelings for that person. That is especially the case with your ex-boyfriend.
23. He isn’t willing to give you your stuff back
All of the post-break-up advice will tell you to get rid of all the memories that connect you to your former partner if you want to move on from him for real. Many of these memories are connected with your ex lover’s belongings and properties. But, your boyfriend avoids giving your staff back to you and you don’t know what to think about this.
For me, this is one of the signs my ex-boyfriend still has feelings for me. If your ex isn’t the one who wanted to give you your things back first, it is possible that he is waiting for you to call him about it, so he can use it as an opportunity to talk things through. This can also mean that he is holding on to these things because he can’t handle the fact that he doesn’t have you.
So, he is happy to have at least something that once belonged to you. Your stuff reminds him of you and everything the two of you had and he doesn’t want to lose them, the way he lost you. It is also possible that your ex still isn’t ready to accept that the break-up has happened and that he expects you to go back to him, so this may be the reason he thinks it is not necessary for you to have your stuff back.
24. He is being negative to you
One of the signs that your ex still loves you is the fact that he is showing negative emotions to you. If he talks badly to people about you behind your back or insults you indirectly whenever he has the chance, you probably assume that this means that he hates your guts and that he can’t stand to look at you.
But, what you have obviously forgotten is that the line between love and hatred is very thin and blurry. This guy probably still loves you, but he doesn’t know how to project his emotions properly and therefore, he behaves in this negative way. It is clear that he hasn’t moved with his life just yet and that he is still overly consumed with your relationship, one way or another.
Whatever is in question, it is more than obvious that your ex-boyfriend still has strong feelings and unresolved emotions for you, no matter what those feelings are. When you really see that your ex-boyfriend is completely indifferent towards you and that he shows no emotions for you whatsoever, only then will you know that he is totally over you and that he has moved on with his life for good.
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