#For the first three days, cry your heart out
Don’t even try to stop your tears, let them flow in waterfalls if you have to. You need to let the pain go, so you can let it out.
It’s supposed to hurt and you can’t just shut it down.
Call in sick to work and take three days off if you can; you can’t be around people right now, you need this time to process what just happened and get yourself together, at least on the outside.
Call a friend to come over, you will need someone just to be there. You don’t even have to talk or try and make sense of everything.
Break-ups are messy and they usually have no sense of closure that you could really use right now.
Watch movies, order pizza, mix cookies with ice cream, do whatever you feel like doing but take no action.
DON’T call him, text him or try to talk things through. It will only make things worse.
#On the fourth day…
Get up, get dressed, go to work, do everything you are supposed to do that day.
No matter how low your willpower is, make yourself move and continue with your daily routines.
You will still feel hurt, you will still feel like your world is falling apart and that nothing makes sense.
You will want to fix things, call him, and see him and possibly want to get back together.
But resist that urge. Don’t even scroll through his social media accounts because it will do you no good. Going no contact is always the best solution.
#Fifth day… get through the confusion
Happy memories will get the best of you. You won’t be able to understand why you had to break up at all. You will feel like you lost something valuable and you will still want it back.
In the next moment, you will tell yourself you are better off on your own. You will remember all the times he let you down and hurt your feelings.
You will feel confused and your mind is going to run at a hundred miles per hour, from the good times to the bad times and back again.
Overthinking will only get you to sink deeper into your pain but sometimes it can’t be avoided. You have to go through confusion.
Your heart has to come to terms with what your mind already knows… Good days were rare, bad days were common.
You cried more than you laughed. You worried more than you enjoyed. You gave more than you got back.
#Sixth day… open your eyes
It’s time to stop with all the delusions you’ve been feeding yourself for the past few days. It’s time to open your eyes and see that the reality wasn’t so pretty.
You’re going to need your friend today.
You are going to need someone on your side who is going to tell you that the break-up is actually the best thing that happened to you, so you can grasp that yourself.
You will know deep down that it is true. You are going to know that you deserve better.
#Seventh day…
You can’t heal from a break-up on the seventh day but this is the day you have to start putting those broken pieces of your heart back together.
This is the day when you have to realize that seven days have passed already and that if you went through this, you can go through anything.
These were the worst days and even though you will have occasional meltdowns and things are still going to be tough on you, you are slowly seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.
#The beginning of your healing process…
This is where your journey begins and even though it’s not always going to be a comfortable one, it’s going to be one worth taking.
Start by entering a committed relationship with yourself. All that love you have been selflessly giving to him, it’s time you give yourself.
Discover yourself, find new ways to love yourself and make yourself happy. It’s time you put yourself first for a change.
When was the last time you did that? You probably don’t remember.
Spoil yourself, make yourself a home spa, decide that Monday is the perfect day to have a movie night, indulge in a glass of wine, buy something for yourself and think of new ways to enjoy your days.
Work on your inner peace, to find things that calm you and make you feel better, even if it’s just for a moment.
Be gentle with yourself and always keep in mind that you are going to go through this and that you are so much stronger than you give yourself credit.
It will be a process, you won’t heal overnight but the important thing is that you keep going forward, no matter what.
