You’re in a happy relationship or, even worse, happily married. At least, that is how things appear to be.
However, despite that, you keep dreaming about another man. And the worst part is that it happens while your significant other peacefully sleeps next to you.
You can’t help but feel guilty about it, even though you know you can’t control your dreams. But the bigger problem is that you don’t know how to interpret them.
Is your unconscious mind trying to send you a message? Does this have anything to do with your current relationship?
If you read on, you’ll find out everything you need to know about what this type of dream means.
Dreaming About Another Man While In A Relationship Meaning
Check out these dream interpretations and find out why you keep dreaming of another man:
1. It’s just a dream
You probably don’t know this, but this is actually quite a common dream.
Many people dream about ex-partners or imaginary men and women while sleeping next to their SOs. However, in most cases, they feel like they’re cheating on their current partner, so they don’t usually talk about it.
Before you jump to any conclusions, let me tell you that this kind of dream doesn’t necessarily have a deeper meaning. It is not a hidden message from the Universe to break up with your boyfriend, and it doesn’t mean you want to cheat on them.
Sometimes dreams are just that – dreams. After all, they are one of our brain’s functions, and dreaming is completely normal and healthy.
Nevertheless, there is a difference between dreaming about another man once and having recurring dreams about the same guy. If you can relate to the latter, it means that there is a hidden meaning of your dreams.
2. You’re having second thoughts about your relationship
I won’t lie to you: it’s likely that you’re having second thoughts about your current relationship. You might be too scared to admit this to yourself, let alone to your partner, but the truth is that deep down, you want out.
Or maybe you haven’t made up your mind yet, but you’re definitely considering it. Even though, from the outside, things seem to be perfect, your relationship doesn’t make you as happy as it should.
Both your heart and subconscious mind want out, and the only thing keeping you with your man is outside factors and societal norms. Maybe you have kids together, or you don’t have a place to go if you leave him.
At the end of the day, you’re afraid of what your close friends and family members might tell you because you don’t have a “valid” reason to walk away from your SO – as if not being happy isn’t reason enough.
3. You still have feelings for your ex
Are you dreaming about your ex-partner? Even though this doesn’t have to mean anything, if these are recurring dreams, there is a big chance that you still have feelings for this man, even though you’re married or in a relationship.
This is especially true if you keep dreaming about him coming back into your life or asking for your forgiveness. It is more than clear that you secretly want this scenario to happen.
But isn’t it weird that he doesn’t even cross your mind in your waking life but keeps appearing in your dreams? Well, this can mean one thing: you’ve tried hard to bury the emotions you have for him.
However, it looks like you’ve forgotten about one thing: you can’t keep secrets from yourself as much as you try!
Another possible option is that your current partner has been doing something to remind you of your ex. They triggered your past traumas and involuntarily reopened your emotional baggage.
4. You’re physically attracted to another guy
But let’s not look at things this seriously. Yes, there is a great possibility that you’re romantically interested in this man from your dreams.
However, it doesn’t have to mean that he is the love of your life or that you have strong, deep feelings for him.
It looks like you’ve forgotten about one thing: you’re only human.
And there is nothing unusual about being physically attracted to another guy, even if you’re in a happy relationship. Of course, as long as you don’t act on it.
It’s like you’re back in high school – you have a little crush on this man. You find him handsome and appealing, but that’s about it.
This is nothing to feel guilty about. You’re not talking to this guy, you’re not flirting with him, and you most certainly don’t plan on cheating on your significant other.
But let me tell you one thing: the guilt that has been eating you alive brought you here in the first place. If you accepted this crush as something temporary and normal, you would deal with it while you are awake, and it wouldn’t haunt you in your dreams!
5. You’ve been unfaithful
But what if you’re dreaming about another man because you actually were unfaithful? Don’t get me wrong – you don’t have to explicitly dream about your affair partner. It can be any man in the world.
Truth be told, you didn’t even have to sleep with this man. Maybe you had an emotional affair with him.
Either way, you know what you did was cheating. You try to justify your actions, but deep down, you’re aware that you did your boyfriend or husband wrong.
And now you feel guilty about it all. Well, I hate to break it to you, but it’s for a reason.
The fact that you know you’ve made a mistake doesn’t make you innocent. You betrayed your partner, and I’m sorry, but this is the price you’re paying for it. I just hope that your affair is part of the past and that you’ve realized what you’ve done.
As far as you’re concerned, you should hope not to let your affair partner’s name slip out of your mouth while you’re sleeping next to your SO.
6. It’s a platonic thing
Why would dreaming of another man have romantic or sexual connotations? According to dream analysts, your dreams can be platonic, especially if you’re dreaming about your male best friend or a family member.
One thing is clear: you have strong feelings for this person, even though they’re not romantic. Maybe it’s platonic love, and they’re your platonic soulmate, but don’t forget that hatred and anger are also emotions.
Surely, this person doesn’t keep appearing in your dreams for no reason whatsoever. Maybe you’re worried about them, or they did something to burden you.
Or is this a sign that you should reach out to this person? I know that this might be uncomfortable if you haven’t talked to them or seen them in ages.
However, you don’t have to tell them anything about your weird dreams. Just call them and see what they’ve been up to.
7. It’s your male alter ego
According to Carl Jung, the famous psychologist, we all have a feminine and a masculine side to our personalities. Since you are a woman, it is natural that you’re more in touch with your feminine side.
But what if this man who keeps appearing in your dreams is actually your male alter ego? At least, this is what Jungian psychology claims to be true, and many dream experts agree with this hypothesis.
Let me tell you something more about this: Animus is your unconscious male side, while Anima is your unconscious female side.
If the man from your dreams reminds you a lot of the person you are or want to become, you’re not dreaming about a man you want to cheat on your partner with, and there is nothing wrong with your romantic relationship.
However, this is your unconscious mind helping you build a better relationship with yourself. If you think about it, this relationship is the most important one in your life, so you definitely shouldn’t disregard your male alter ego.
Sex dreams are probably part of your monthly routine when you’re approaching ovulation. However, if these sexual dreams repeat on a daily basis, regardless of your cycle, it can only mean one thing: you have a high libido.
But that wouldn‘t be an issue if all of your sex dreams don’t always involve another man that is not your partner. Could this be your body’s way of sending you a message?
Okay, your libido is healthy, but this is a red flag that your boyfriend’s sex drive probably doesn’t match yours. However, you keep pretending that everything is in perfect order.
Nevertheless, as we already said, you can’t hide anything from yourself. Well, that includes your body as well.
Or maybe you and your loved one have sex as much as you would want to. But sadly, he is clearly unable to provide you with the pleasure you crave.
Even though these are technically cheating dreams, there is nothing for you to feel guilty about. On the contrary, this is just a warning sign that you should work on your sex life with your partner.
9. He’s a representation of someone else
Here’s the truth: you’re repressing the feelings you have for this man. Whether you like to admit it or not, you keep trying to erase all the emotions connected to him, and now they’ve come to haunt you in your dreams.
But what if you don’t dream about a man you know? What if you have no clue who the man from your dreams is?
Well, in that case, he is a representation of someone you know. You’ve been running from your feelings for so long you’ve buried them so deep that even your unconscious mind doesn’t have the courage to face you with the man you’ve been trying to avoid.
That is why your dreams have given you another look at him. But try and pay closer attention to this guy. What are some of his characteristics?
Does he have some distinctive features? What is he trying to tell you? What kind of feelings does he provoke inside of you?
After you figure this out, it’s time to dig into your inner self and try to realize who he actually represents.
10. He’s your soulmate
They say that when you meet your soulmate in real life, you have a strange sense of familiarity. You feel like you’ve already met this person, and it’s as if you’ve met them before.
Maybe that’s exactly what’s happening right now – you keep dreaming of another man because he is your soulmate and the one you’re meant to end up with.
Does this mean that your current boyfriend is not your forever person? Sadly, yes. And these dreams are proof of that.
This is another situation you shouldn’t feel guilty about because it’s out of your control. The Universe has this man from your dreams planned for you, and there is nothing much you can do about it.
The best way to deal with this situation is to try and let it go. You’ll run into this man sooner or later, and there is nothing you can do to stop it. But here’s a little secret: by the time it happens, you probably won’t remember ever dreaming about him.
11. This man is thinking about you
You know what they say: if you can’t sleep at night, it means that you’re awake in someone’s dream. Well, what if it works both ways? What if someone is awake in your dreams because he keeps thinking about you?
This could be an ex-boyfriend, a close friend, or some other man you left a great impression on. Either way, the thought of you is keeping him up at night.
His energy is so strong that he appears in your unconscious mind. The Universe is sending you the following message: you’re very much present in someone’s memory.
But why don’t you think of this man during the day, you must wonder?
Well, let me tell you that the curtain between the spiritual realm and the real world is the thinnest during the night and when you sleep. That is why you receive the Universe’s signals in your dreams – it’s as simple as that.
12. You were triggered by something in real life
Here’s another pretty simple explanation: this man appears in your dreams because something in your waking life reminded you of him. Maybe you saw him, heard a song he likes, or ran into someone who looks just like him.
Your conscious mind likely forgot about this event completely, but if you dig a bit deeper through your memory, you’ll realize what happened.
If this is the case, this man is someone from your past, someone you thought you forgot about long ago. Maybe you should give him a ring and recount old memories you’ve shared together?
13. Unresolved issues with this man
If you keep dreaming about another man, it’s because you have some unfinished business with him. If this is an ex-boyfriend we’re talking about, you didn’t get the closure you crave so badly.
This doesn’t mean that you still love him – it is only a sign that there are things left unsaid. Maybe he broke your heart, but you never got your revenge on him, and now, that’s eating you alive.
But what if you’re dreaming about a coworker or close friend? It’s just a sign that you have some unresolved issues with them as well.
Maybe you’ve been dying to tell them something, but you haven’t had the chance to. Or you want to call them out on their actions but have been holding yourself back.
Either way, it’s always better to spill it than to let it keep on burdening you.
14. The healing process
Dream experts say that dreaming about another man, especially if this man is your ex, can, surprisingly, be a part of the healing process. Maybe you’re not dreaming of him because you want him back or because you still love him – maybe this is your subconscious finally letting him go.
I know what you must be thinking: But I let this man go ages ago. Well, you just think you did. To be exact, your conscious mind moved on, but your soul clearly hasn’t.
Everything this man has ever done has stuck with you. He’s caused you more traumas, insecurities, and issues than you care to admit.
And even though you stopped loving him a while ago, the pain remained somewhere deep in your brain. Well, now it’s about time for it to be released once and for all.
Don’t worry – this is just your unconscious mind saying its final goodbye to this guy.
15. It’s a premonition
According to the definition, a premonition is a presentiment that something – usually something bad – is about to happen. Not everyone has premonitions – it is a gift only spiritually awakened people have.
How is this connected to the fact that another man keeps popping up in your dreams? Well, this man might actually be a warning that something bad is about to happen with your current romantic relationship.
He is here to send you a message that a breakup is ahead of you and that you should start the journey of emotional detachment. It’s time to move on to someone new because the man you’re involved with is not part of your future.
I know this is a hard pill to swallow, but if you’ve already had premonitions that turned out to be true, it’s definitely a dream meaning you should take into serious consideration.
To Wrap Up:
One thing is for sure: you should take all of the reasons you keep dreaming about another man even though you’re in a seemingly happy relationship seriously.
But should you allow your dreams to affect your romance, even though everything is perfectly fine in reality?
Absolutely not! At least, don’t until you figure yourself out.
Dig deep into your subconscious mind and get to the bottom of your inner self. Don’t do anything impulsive, and don’t let your dreams control your waking life.