Why do I keep dreaming about my ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend? What is the spiritual meaning of dreaming about your ex?
A few years ago, if someone rewarded me every time I asked myself these two questions I would certainly be richer than I am today. We’ll definitely need more of these comic reliefs later on when things become intense, so stay tuned. (I promise that I won’t disappoint you.)
Okay, let’s get back to the main topic and the reason why we virtually gathered today. I’ll skip all those overly generic introductions, such as Sleeping should give you a chance to relax, but it’s stressful when you keep dreaming of your ex, etc.
Of course, it’s stressful when you keep dreaming of someone you’d rather forget, but that’s how our subconscious mind works. (Or, maybe you don’t want to forget them?)
Well, the more you’re suppressing something, the more it haunts you in your sleep. Of course, I’ve learned that the hard way (as everything else in life).
The more you’re dreaming of your ex, the more you’re interested in finding out its secret meaning(s). Yes, that is where I come into the story. Below, you’ll find out everything you need to know about the spiritual meaning of dreaming about your ex (and more).
There Is More Than One Spiritual Meaning Of Dreaming About Your Ex
I remember when I was constantly bombarded with the 111 angel number. This number pattern haunted me on a clock, in a chat, on license plates, and so on. So, when I finally gathered the courage to check its spiritual meaning, I realized that there is more than one.
Well, the same thing applies to our dreams. There are more spiritual meanings as to why one would keep dreaming of their ex, and these meanings can be connected with some of the following things:
- Unresolved feelings
- Your current emotional state
- Past mistakes
- Being anxious about your new relationship
- Need for intimacy
- Abuse and neglect
- Past relationships, emotional baggage, and so on.
Finding the spiritual meaning of dreaming about your ex will help you understand where you should direct or redirect your focus. It could be personal development, letting go of the past, or similar.
So, let’s see.
Why Am I Dreaming About My Ex? 13 Spiritual Meanings
As we already stated, there is more than one spiritual meaning of dreaming about your ex, and checking them all is a surefire way to make the best of the situation.
When you find your spiritual meaning(s) of dreaming about your ex, you’ll know exactly what you ought to do to keep them from happening in the future.
So, here are the most common “spiritual reasons” why you keep dreaming about your ex:
1. You’re being haunted by unresolved feelings toward your ex
I know what you mean, but it’s not necessarily true. Unresolved feelings don’t only refer to romantic feelings, but also to the way things ended between you and your ex, why things ended, and so on.
Basically, it’s about overthinking the whole situation because you’re still not certain what exactly triggered the breakup. Perhaps it all happened too suddenly, and now, a few weeks or months later, your subconscious mind is dealing with that emotional baggage through dreaming.
Do you often think about your breakup or are you desperately trying not to think about it? Regardless of whether it’s the former or the latter, it will haunt you in your dreams.
“What you feed your mind determines your appetite”. – Zig Ziglar
The more you think about the breakup, the more likely it will haunt you in your dreams. Unresolved issues and feelings are like a boomerang. You can never get rid of them unless you stop and re-evaluate the whole situation.
2. Your ex misses you
When I broke up with my ex, I was fully determined to move on and leave it all behind me. As a matter of fact, I was doing pretty well UNTIL I started dreaming about my ex.
These dreams totally confused me because I wasn’t sure why I would all of a sudden dream of my ex. Was the universe trying to tell me something?
Maybe. Probably.
A few weeks later, my ex texted me. At that moment, I was 100% sure that the universe was playing with me. My ex texted me to tell me how much he missed me, and that he wanted to talk to me.
Damn.
After reading that text, I experienced a mini déjà vu of all of the previous dreams of my ex. Now, it made perfect sense! The reason why I dreamt of him was that he MISSED me and he, in a way, manifested me.
Thank you, universe.
So, perhaps the reason why you’re dreaming of your ex is that your ex misses you and wants you back in their life. I’m pretty sure you’ll figure it ALL out in the near future.
For those who are interested in what happened with me and my ex, we reunited, and now we’re happier than ever.
3. You (secretly) want them back
Here’s the thing with exes. Most of the time, we’re not even aware of the fact that we want them back until our dreams or something else reminds us of that. How cruel, right?
If you SECRETLY want them back, congratulations. That is one of the reasons why you keep dreaming of them.
But, how can you know that you secretly want them back? This doesn’t even make sense. Well, you can fool everyone around you, but you can’t fool your own mind.
You know you secretly want them back if you often randomly think about them, and at the same time, force yourself to stop thinking about them. Or, if every single thing reminds you of them.
Now is the time to be honest with yourself. I bet that your gut feeling is begging you to rely on it. Feel free to imaginarily circle the right answer.
Do you want your ex back?
- Yes
- No
If the answer is yes, here’s how to get your ex back (and keep them).
If the answer is no, congratulations… keep on living your best life.
4. You’re experiencing a “dream closure”
You probably haven’t thought of this spiritual dream interpretation, but yes… the reason why you dream of your ex could be triggered by your need for closure.
Here are the questions that you need to ask yourself:
- How did the relationship end?
- Do you understand why your relationship ended?
- Do you have any regrets, doubts, or confusion about your breakup?
The need for closure is basically our need to make sense of a situation. If you still haven’t made sense of your breakup, chances are this will haunt you in your dreams.
As a matter of fact, dreaming of your ex is, in a way, a form of finding closure, letting go of your ex, and forgiving yourself. I’m sure that after some time, such dreams will no longer haunt you in your waking hours.
5. Your ex is dreaming about you
Here’s a million-dollar question: If someone is on your mind, are you on theirs? Interesting. If you’re thinking of your ex, does this mean they’re actually thinking of you?
Are you dreaming of your ex because they’re dreaming of you? Well, you cannot know for sure if you don’t ask them about it. How silly of me, right?
There’s no way you would ask your ex such a thing, especially if you’re in the middle of the no contact rule. Here’s an alternative.
There are plenty of other signs indicating when someone is thinking of us, so it doesn’t have to be dream-related.
Here are some of the signs someone is thinking of you:
- Angel numbers such as 1010, 222, 333, 444, and 555 are everywhere around you.
- You can sense your ex’s presence (even though they’re physically far away from you).
- Your eye twitches randomly.
- You experience emotional changes and mood swings.
- You run into them unexpectedly.
If you notice some of the above signs, know that the reason why you’re dreaming of your ex is probably that they’re dreaming and thinking of you.
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6. You’re anxious about your current relationship or future relationships
Are they my soulmate or my twin flame? Have I found the One? Will I ever find the One?
Asking yourself such and similar questions is totally normal once you enter a new relationship. Questioning your current partner is stronger than you because you want to make sure that they are the right person for you.
Comparing your current relationship with your previous relationship is also inevitable. So, such dreams of your ex could be your unconscious mind’s way of weighing up the new relationship and your current partner.
Perhaps you’re scared of making the same mistakes and experiencing the same level of disappointment, and now you’re overly precautious. Maybe your ex was your first love, and now you have difficulties opening yourself to someone new.
Worry not because you are exactly where you need to be right now. You have every right to question your relationship and future relationships, but don’t overthink it. Instead, allow it to develop at its natural pace.
7. You’ve lost touch with your inner self
Love is complicated. Breakups and heartbreaks are devastating. If you still feel connected to your ex, this doesn’t necessarily mean that you desire to be with them in a romantic sense.
Dreaming of an ex-partner sometimes means dreaming of your lost self. Do you feel like a part of you is missing? Do you feel disconnected from your true self?
Lauri Quinn Loewenberg (professional dream analyst and author) claims the following: “Whatever’s going on in the dream is going to reflect not necessarily (what’s going on) between you and your ex, but what’s going on with you.”
Sometimes dreams of our exes are a symbol of our internal struggle. They say that the hardest battle you’ll ever fight is with yourself.
If you refuse to face your own demons and things that are sabotaging your growth, they will come into your dreams as divine reminders.
To help you regain a sense of yourself, I recommend meditating, spending time in nature, or expressing yourself in various ways, from singing to drawing.
The accent is on doing things that you used to do before you entered a relationship with your ex. You need to revive that missing part of yourself.
8. You have the fear of being hurt the same way again
Dreaming of your ex is one of the most common dreams when we’re afraid of getting hurt the same way again. This applies to those people who had a really tough breakup and ended up badly wounded.
It will take time for their heart to restore its broken pieces and to be able to trust again. If you have the fear of being hurt the same way again, your subconsciousness will remind you of that in your dreams.
The more you suppress those feelings of fear and potential disappointment, the more they will haunt you. Here’s what you can do about it: Trust the universe and, more importantly, trust your intuition.
If you ask me, half of our love life challenges are about trusting our gut feeling about someone and listening to our reason. I’m not saying that we should shut down the voice of our hearts, but balance is very much needed.
9. You miss something in your old life with them
One of the most confusing things about missing someone is the fact that you can never be sure whether you’re missing that person or your old life with them.
If you’re not sure whether you genuinely miss them, chances are you miss parts of your life with them. This could be just about anything from your internal jokes or the way they made you feel special, in your adventures.
So, the reason why you keep dreaming of your ex could be that nostalgia is eating away at you, which is one of the inevitable stages of a breakup. However, as with everything else in life, this, too, shall pass.
Remember that God is thinking of everything. Sooner than you know, you’ll meet someone new with whom you’ll create lots of meaningful memories that will make your past blurry.
10. You have an unfulfilled need in your life
Before I type anything else, I have a quick task for you. Take a few seconds to evaluate your current life situation.
Is there something missing in your life? Are you satisfied with your job and your relationships with other people? What about your passions? Are you emotionally and sexually dissatisfied in your waking life?
If there’s some unfulfilled need in your life, this could reflect in your dreams. You attract what you are, not what you want. If you’re in a challenging emotional, physical, and mental state, this will affect your entire life as well as your dreams.
Given that you’re no longer with your ex, they have become a synonym for all the unfulfilled needs and things that you’re missing in your life. I’m not saying that you’re missing your ex, yet who knows.
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11. You’re destined to reunite in the future
They say that if two people are meant to be together, they’ll find their way back. Sometimes, dreaming of your ex means that you ought to reunite in the future.
It could be one of those “right person, wrong time” scenarios where you’re perfectly compatible, but for some external reason, you couldn’t continue your relationship.
This happened to my friend a few years ago.
She had to break up with her ex-husband because they had been totally distant for some time due to his job.
A few months after that, she started dreaming about him almost every single night. Today, they’re reunited, and their marriage is ten times healthier and happier than before.
So, yes, if you’re meant to be together, the universe will always find a way to connect you over and over again no matter how much time has passed.
My humble personal opinion is that we can question and control almost anything in life, but this doesn’t apply to things that are destined to be.
12. Dreaming of your ex could be a warning
This type of dream can sometimes come as a warning (especially if you’re continuously dreaming of your ex for some time now).
Vivid dreams are connected with real-life issues. This could be an indicator of something bad that is about to happen in your personal or professional life. It could also come as a warning to work on your habits and improve the quality of your life.
I suggest keeping a dream journal so that you can keep track of how often you dream about your ex, and what exactly happens in your dreams.
This will help you understand the depths of your subconsciousness so that you can have insight into your mindset and what the universe is trying to tell you.
No, there’s no reason to panic because dreams about our exes are seldom related to some real-life dangers, but it doesn’t hurt to be precautious.
13. An ex-dream means that you need to work on yourself
We often neglect this one important aspect of our life, and that is self-improvement. Well, that is where ex-dreams and angel numbers come into the story!
If you keep dreaming about your ex, and you keep seeing angel numbers, this usually means that your guardian angels and the universe are reminding you to work on yourself.
Learn to deal with your negative feelings, work on improving relationships with your loved ones, discover your passions, work on your toxic habits, follow your heart, and question your beliefs.
You see, an “ex” kind of dream is not necessarily related to your ex, but to your own personal life and relationship with yourself. If you dream that you’re breaking up with your ex, this could mean that you’re actually breaking up with your old self.
Opening doors to new life and new opportunities is the key to becoming the person you ought to be.
Establishing an exercise regimen, a healthy diet, practicing daily affirmations, and following a holistic lifestyle are surefire ways to help you find your purpose and connect with your higher self.
See also: What Does A Dream Of Someone Confessing Love To You Mean?
Biblical Meaning Of Dreaming About Your Ex
The biblical meaning of dreaming about your ex revolves around the idea that your subconscious mind is working on unresolved issues. These issues often lead to anxiety, fear, and other negative emotions that interfere with both our dreaming and waking life.
The Bible explains this in the following way:
“Everything is uncovered and lies open before the eyes of him to whom we must give account. Therefore, do not go on passing judgment before the time, but wait until the Lord comes, who will both bring to light the things hidden in the darkness and disclose the motives of men’s hearts, and then each man’s praise will come to him from God.” (1 Corinthians 4: 5-6)
If you have difficulties perceiving this memory of your ex with gratitude, God will bring them into your dreams until you fully process it.
It could also be that you still have feelings for your ex, or else you’re struggling to move on. Whatever it is, you need to see it as something positive (as a life lesson) instead of a negative experience.
God is offering you a fresh start, but before you’re ready to enter the realm of new possibilities and blessings, you need to fight your internal battles. You need to be in harmony and at peace with yourself.
See also: Dreaming About Another Man: 15 Hidden Meanings
In Conclusion
So, what is the spiritual meaning of dreaming about your ex?
As you can see, there is more than one spiritual meaning about dreaming of your ex, and it all depends on your current emotional state and life situation.
Perhaps there is an unfulfilled need in your life… you’re either dealing with unresolved feelings or you’re about to reunite with your ex.
Whatever it is, dreaming of your ex is symbolic, and it has lots of hidden spiritual meanings that you shouldn’t take for granted. It’s God’s, your guardian angel’s, and the universe’s way of guiding you through your life path.
