9 sinais de que você tem um problema de ego (e o que fazer a respeito)

Se me perguntarem, o ego é uma das coisas mais frágeis do mundo e, ao mesmo tempo, uma das mais poderosas.

Se o deixarmos controlar-nos, pode crescer até atingir proporções enormes e, assim, interferir com a nossa vida quotidiana e com as relações com as outras pessoas.

Before we make things complicated, let’s start with a simple definition of ego: An ego is a person’s sense of autoestima e auto-importância.

So, what exactly does it mean when you have an ego problem? It means that you have overly high self-esteem and self-importance. Let’s not confuse ego with amor-próprio.

I’m not saying that you shouldn’t have a great opinion about yourself and your skills, but a principal diferença entre um problema de ego e um ego saudável está em criar equilíbrio.

To help you understand it better, below, you’ll find a brief comparison of healthy and unhealthy egos + warning signs of ego issues, including solutions.

Ego saudável vs. problema de ego

Quando se tem um ego saudável, tem-se uma dose saudável de autoestima e auto-importância, o que nos dá espaço para mais crescimento pessoal. You don’t have problems accepting criticism, and you don’t need to feel like a winner in all circumstances.

When you have an ego problem, you have difficulty being flexible, expanding your knowledge, and you can’t help but constantly compare yourself with others.

Alguma destas coisas soa-lhe familiar? Then, it’s time to check the following signs that indicate you have an ego problem. You’ll also learn how to free yourself from it.

9 sinais de alerta de que tem um problema de ego (+ soluções)

You know you have an ego problem if you detest criticism, always need to feel like a winner, or need to be right every single time (even when you know you’re not). Below, you’ll find these and other signs explained in detail, and accompanied with solutions:

1. A crítica é o seu inimigo mortal

Pessoas com grandes egos can’t stand criticism. This means when someone is giving you constructive criticism, you won’t see it as something productive, but rather offensive.

There’s another reason why you would avoid criticism, and that is the pain of hearing the truth from other people. Acha que ouvir os outros é um ataque direto às suas capacidades e ao seu esforço? Pensar de novo.

Aceitar conselhos e dicas sobre como melhorar as coisas é a única forma de crescer como pessoa. Deixa que esta famosa citação de Sócrates te inspire: “I know that I am intelligent because I know that I know nothing.”

Solução:

• Aprender a assumir a responsabilidade pelos seus actos.
• Não esquecer que not everyone is going to like you, and that’s okay.
• Praticar a auto-consciência.

Be aware of your flaws and qualities. Don’t focus only on exaggerating the positive sides of your personality or work. Aceite o facto de que há muitas coisas que pode aprender com os outros. Remember that you’re also prone to making mistakes just like the rest of us perfectly imperfect human beings are.

2. You can’t help but constantly compare yourself to others

Tem sempre a tendência para se comparar com os outros? Deixem-me reformular. Do you always think that you’re better than others?

Pode ser o seu colega de trabalho que acabou de ser promovido, o seu amigo, vizinho ou alguém da sua família.

If you can’t help but think that you deserve better things than others because you have better skills, you’re prettier, or you’re more capable than them, then you have an problema de ego. It’s one of the signs that your ego is slowly taking its toll on your mental health and viewpoints.

A síndrome da relva mais verde has always been a part of our lives, but it’s up to you to choose rational instead of delusional thinking.

Solução:

Concentre-se em si próprio de uma forma racional e modesta. When you focus on things going on in your life, you’ll have less time to think about what everyone else is doing. You’ll have less time to compare your life to other people’s lives or to comparar-se com uma mulher mais bonita ou homem.

A solução chave aqui é ver-se a si próprio como o seu maior adversário e não aos outros. O seu objetivo deve ser melhorar-se a si próprio e não comparar-se com os outros.

3. O desejo de se sentir sempre um vencedor é forte em si

Diz-me o nome de uma pessoa que goste de perder no amor ou na vida. E eu pensei que sim. Nenhuma pessoa gosta de perder, mas as pessoas com egos inflacionados levam isso para o próximo nível.

Fazem literalmente tudo para ganhar e provar aos outros que são melhores do que eles. Isto inclui mentiras, comportamento enganador e outras tácticas de manipulação.

Oftentimes, if an egoistic person thinks they can’t win, they won’t even participate in a certain activity because they couldn’t survive losing.

Este tipo de pensamento é totalmente irrealista porque, por muito bom que se seja em alguma coisa, há alguém que é melhor do que nós nessa matéria.

Solução:

Abster-se de procura de validação and praise, and focus on celebrating other winners when you lose. Work on realizing your true worth and not the worth you’re imposing on yourself.

Quando se apercebe do seu valor, you won’t feel the urge to constantly feel like a winner. You’ll feel in balance and content with yourself. And remember, controlling your emotions doesn’t mean avoiding them.

4. Sente a necessidade de ser dominante em todas as conversas

Here’s the thing with people who have big egos: they have difficulty valuing other people’s opinions because they’re solely focused on being superior to others, a.k.a. being dominant in every conversation. This also includes social media.

If you’re doing the same thing, it basically means that you believe you’re smarter than others and only your opinion should be praised.

You also have difficulty compromising with others (be it in a romantic relationship or with coworkers) because you’re convinced that it should be your way or nothing.

I’m sorry to put it this way, but this is called ser egoísta, and it can’t bring anything good either to you or to people around you. This is both a matter of self-respect and respecting other people.

Solução:

If your present moments mostly consist of moments when you’re trying to impose your self-image and sense of self-worth on others, think about the reasons why you’re doing that.

Allow others to express themselves, and value their opinion even if it doesn’t match yours. That way, you’ll be more flexible and empathic. You’ll allow yourself to enrich your perspectives and grow as a person.

Acalmar o ego refletir-se-á positivamente no seu bem-estar e nas relações com os outros.

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5. You don’t feel the need to express gratitude and appreciation

Do you appreciate other people’s efforts? Do you ever feel like saying “thank you” for the things they do for you?

Se não, então sabe que o seu ego o está a impedir de o fazer. If you don’t feel the need to express gratitude, it means that you feel like others are supposed to do things for you because you’re, in a way, superior to them.

You have an overly high sense of self-worth, and this prevents you from acknowledging other’s efforts or estar grato pelo que se tem. Don’t get me wrong: a healthy amount of self-confidence is very much needed, but it shouldn’t interfere with your sense of gratitude.

Solução:

Recomendo uma abordagem passo a passo. Em primeiro lugar, é necessário concentrar-se nas pequenas coisas and stop minimizing other people’s time and effort. Understand that every single one of us is a part of a chain called Life, and all of us deserve to be praised and acknowledged because we’re equally important.

Todos nós temos o nosso objetivo único, e apoiar os outros no seu caminho de vida é verdadeiramente um gesto divino. O princípio-chave para viver uma vida mais feliz e mais fácil is in opening doors for greater blessings, and you’ll do that by expressing gratitude.

Dito isto, eis algumas citações de agradecimento para inspirar a gratidão durante todo o ano.

6. Queres estar sempre no centro das atenções

You know you have a huge ego if you have a strong urge to always be in the center of attention. Regardless of whether you’re at a party or at work, your desire to be in the spotlight will be equally strong.

You also can’t help but show off your leading skills and establish dominance. We’re talking about a twisted image of your self-worth and auto-importância.

When these practices continue for some time, you become more and more entrapped in the belief that you’re the center of the universe. Do you think your needs should be superior to the needs of other people? Seja honesto consigo próprio porque aí está a resposta.

Solução:

Reconhecer que ser egocêntrico é uma caraterística tóxica. Estar disposto a trabalhar com os outros como uma equipa em vez de tentar controlar cada um deles num grupo. Ama-te a ti próprioMas também ajudar os outros a crescer e recordar-lhes a sua força e beleza interior e exterior.

7. Tem frequentemente um pensamento defensivo

How do you react when someone’s opinion doesn’t match yours? Do you consider this as a personal attack on your beliefs? Do you have this tendency to turn even the slightest disagreements into fights?

Bem, se o fizeres, então sabes que tens um problema com o teu ego. By convincing yourself that no one should express their opinion because you’re always right, you’re jumping into defensive mode.

It’s important to realize that we all make mistakes, and there is no one right answer but multiple variations of different perspectives. By considering those perspectives, you gain.

Ao implementar um pensamento defensivo, perde-se. Então, o que é que vai ser?

Solução:

It’s time to make better decisions when engaging in conversations with others. Instead of focusing only on things you want to share, focus more on listening to others.

You don’t have to agree with them on everything, but be willing to accept the fact that they have the right not to agree with you. Embrace diversity and the beauty of different mindsets.

8. You need to be right every time (even when you know you’re wrong)

You’re not interested in other people’s comments or listening to their point of view because you know that you are and you need to be right every time. But, is that really true?

Como é que podemos ter a certeza de que alguém está certo ou errado? Exactly. If you have an ego problem, you’ll be convinced that no matter what you say or do, you’ll always be right and others, wrong.

Mas, quando olhamos para as coisas de uma perspetiva diferente, apercebemo-nos de como esta hipótese é falsa. If you have a strong urge to avoid admitting that you’re wrong (even when you know you are), this means that you’re lying to yourself.

You’re not living a genuine life and you’re not allowing yourself to grow.

Solução:

Whenever you feel the urge to convince others that you’re the one who’s right and they’re wrong, stop for a few seconds, take a deep breath, and don’t say anything.

Listen to the person you’re talking to and tell them that you understand their point of view, but you don’t agree with it entirely (or you do).

Whenever you know you’re wrong about something, admit it because this will only make you a greater and more humble human.

9. Tem tendências narcísicas

You know you’re partially or entirely stuck in the realm of narcissism when you don’t care about other people’s needs, but you only think about fulfilling yours.

Para isso, é frequente utilizar manipulação emocional tácticas como iluminação artificialA mentira e o engano dos outros de várias formas. Abuso narcísico is not a joke, and it can severely affect other people’s mental health.

If you don’t remember the last time you thought about how your actions will impact others, then you know your ego is at play.

If you’re in a relationship, you don’t allow your partner to express themselves, there’s no compromise, and you’re always right (or at least you think you are).

Solução:

The first thing you need to do is understand that you’re not being fair toward others. Instead of thinking only about your needs, focus on meeting the needs of others.

When you’re about to do something, ask yourself: What’s my main intent here? If it’s only about satisfying your own needs, then don’t do it. Always question your decisions and actions in order to prevent your ego from controlling you.

Conclusão

Se tem um problema de ego, saiba que nem toda a esperança está perdida. Ainda tem uma oportunidade de trabalhar em si próprio e corrigir as coisas. Viver uma vida com um ego inflacionado não é saudável nem para si nem para as pessoas que o rodeiam.

Quanto mais cedo se reconhecerem as suas consequências, melhor. Quanto mais cedo começar a trabalhar para acalmar essa besta teimosa chamada grande ego, the better you’ll feel about yourself.

Entrar em contacto com o seu verdadeiro eu não é possível quando o seu ego se torna dominante. Estabelecer o equilíbrio em todos os aspectos da sua vida é uma forma segura de estabelecer relações saudáveis com os outros e consigo próprio.

Mudança é igual a crescimento.