I know it feels awful to be ignored, especially when it’s someone you truly care about.
No matter how much you want to fix things, you eventually get tired of begging for attention.
Now, you have to ask yourself: What is it that you want? Do you wish your partner could be as they used to be? Or, are you trying to find the strength to walk away?
Either way, I am here to help you. Below, you will find tips on how to handle rejection. Moreover, you will see that it’s all about perspective.
Things might not be as good or as bad as you paint them out to be. But, in order to find out, you have to be honest both with yourself and your partner.
Tired Of Begging For Attention? 21 Things To Do
If you have an unaffectionate husband/boyfriend and want to feel better about yourself again, try following these 21 tips:
1. Live your best life.
When you’re begging for attention in a relationship, you are focused only on them. They are in control of your emotions mostly because you believe nothing else makes you as happy.
But, if you take a step back, you’ll realize that this is YOUR life we’re talking about. As painful as it is to be neglected, the world hasn’t come to an end. It’s time to take back your control.
Figure out what makes you happy and do it. Not just for the sake of keeping them interested but for your own well-being. You deserve much better.
2. Are you respecting their boundaries?
I know you’re tired of begging for attention, but have you ever stopped to think:
What does attention mean to me? In what way do I want them to change their behavior?
Sometimes, when we think someone isn’t giving us enough attention, in reality, we are just asking for too much.
You need to figure out if the other person has enough space and whether you’re disrespecting their boundaries.
Just because they’re an individual with a personal life doesn’t mean that there is a lack of affection, but if you keep mistreating them, that’s exactly what’s going to happen.
3. Look your best.
When you try so hard to the point where you’re tired of begging for attention, then you know your struggles are real. But, what you need is just a little confidence.
Let’s be real. Who doesn’t feel a lot better when they put on their favorite outfit?
When you dress up and take care of your body in general, you feel like you’re ready to conquer the world! I know I do!
So, instead of sitting alone in your room, hoping your partner will magically come to their senses, celebrate yourself and sing yourself (Yes, I’m citing Uncle Walt!).
4. Are they distant for a reason?
Sometimes, we tend to blame the other person for not giving us enough attention because we’re scared to admit that we’re at fault.
We can’t bear to become aware of our own self and the flaws that ruined our relationship. But, until we do, we won’t make any progress.
You can’t have a healthy relationship if you’re not honest with yourself. So, instead of blame-shifting, be brave enough to observe your own toxic behavior patterns.
5. Don’t give more than you get.
There’s always one person who tries harder and loves more. If you’re tired of begging for attention in a relationship, you need to start treating them the way they treat you.
If they’re giving only 30% of their effort while you give it all you’ve got, it’s time to do things differently.
I know it’s hard to suppress your love. It’s hard not to show your partner that they mean the world to you. But, for the sake of your own mental health, you’re going to have to do it.
Every time you feel tempted to give more than you get, ask yourself:
Would they do this for me?
If they don’t love you the way you want them to, do it yourself.
6. Take a step into their world.
Are you tired of begging for attention? Do you feel like you just don’t get along with your partner?
In that case, what you need is something that will bring you closer together.
Think about your mutual interests. If you have none, then think about what they like. Is it watching movies? Is it video games?
Whatever it is, try to immerse yourself in their world. By this, I don’t mean that you should pretend for their sake but rather try to bond with them.
That way, they’ll start giving you more attention because you’ll have plenty to talk about!
7. Let them miss you a little.
Freedom is crucial! Being away from your partner for a while can do wonders for your relationship!
Since you’re tired of begging for attention, maybe it’s time to give them some space. Trust me, codependency isn’t good for you.
Your constant presence and efforts may put a lot of pressure on them.
When two people are apart from each other, they become aware of their real feelings. So, if you manage to let go for a bit, I guarantee that you’ll soon have your closure.
8. Play the jealousy card.
And, of course, there’s the oldest trick in the book: making your partner jealous.
When they see you getting close to someone else, it’s going to drive them nuts. They’ll suddenly start wondering:
What am I doing? Why did I push them away? Where did it all go wrong?
If anything works, it’s jealousy. Nobody can stand competition.
But, the truth is, winning them back isn’t the end. You have to make them want to stay. You have to work on becoming a better partner before losing their attention again.
9. Work on your insecurities.
I hate to say this, but nobody finds desperation attractive. If you’re too needy, you will never get your partner’s attention; you will only drive them away.
And clinginess is often a sign of insecurity. So, instead of wondering how to get his attention, you might want to work on your own self-esteem.
Not only will you be a better person, but your love life will also flourish like it never has before!
10. You deserve your own attention.
When you focus all your attention on your loved one, that usually means that you believe you are not good enough.
The only way you can love yourself is when your partner loves you. You put your fate in their hands. You don’t realize that you have been worthy all along.
Your self-worth doesn’t depend on other people’s actions. You don’t need them to make you whole.
So, the next time your partner ignores you, remember: Even when the whole world lets you down, you will always have yourself.
11. Remind yourself of what you deserve.
The world isn’t a nice place for hopeless romantics. Their never-ending hope inspires them to always try harder, even when it’s for the wrong person.
They usually don’t see, or at least don’t admit to themselves, that the person standing in front of them isn’t at all worthy of their efforts.
If you’re a hopeless romantic yourself who doesn’t give up on people easily, it’s time to face reality:
Your partner doesn’t feel the same. Don’t lower your standards for the sake of the idea of epic love because, trust me, if it were epic love, you wouldn’t be reading this article.
12. Put yourself in your partner’s shoes.
People don’t always ignore us on purpose. Maybe your partner isn’t giving you enough attention because they have issues of their own to deal with.
Of course, this is no justification. If they’re going through a hard time, they should talk to you about it because you don’t deserve to feel neglected.
And, maybe you do need to be more understanding towards them, but I also hope you know that just because you understand them doesn’t mean you owe them anything.
On the other hand, if they’re a narcissist, they might try to make you feel guilty for expressing your needs. Don’t let them. You deserve to be taken care of, too.
13. Ignore them to get them.
It’s the sad truth, but sometimes, when you care too much about people, they start taking you for granted. They prefer to be ignored because, to them, it’s all about the chase.
I hope you never give up your capacity to love other people, but if you’re tired of begging for attention, I can understand that.
The most effective thing to do would be to play hot and cold.
Tease them a little and then pull away. When they see that you’re hard to get, they’ll be motivated to win you over.
14. What is their love language?
Whether you have just entered a relationship or are a married couple, if there is a lack of communication, things can go wrong very easily.
Maybe you’ve changed a lot. Maybe you think you love your partner the way you used to, but the real question is: Do they feel your love?
Before anything, you have to understand your partner’s love language. If you use a different one, there’s a great chance they won’t believe you love them back.
So, before you decide that you’re tired of begging for attention, you might want to see if you’re aware of your partner’s wants and needs.
15. Is it true love?
When you really love someone, it’s easy. Even when you’re struggling, you always find a way back to each other. Things are never easy, but you make them work.
Your partner becomes your best friend, and there’s never a lack of attention because you solve every problem together.
On the other hand, when you keep begging for attention in a relationship, that’s a telltale sign it’s not true love.
I know it’s hard to hear, but your soulmate will never make you cry and make you feel that you’re not good enough.
16. Who’s to blame?
You may think that your partner stopped paying attention to you, but what if you were the one who started the vicious cycle?
Think back. How did you treat them? How much time did you devote to them?
If they weren’t at the top of your priority list, it’s very possible that they were the ones who got tired of begging for attention; you just didn’t notice.
Test this by giving your partner all your love. If it really did start with you, they will gladly reciprocate your efforts.
17. Fall in love with each other again.
If you’re tired of begging for attention, handle it maturely and talk to your partner about it.
Suggest a date to your favorite cafe or a one-day trip, and remember what it used to be like.
Remind them of all the things they loved about you and make them fall in love with you all over again.
Yes, spending quality time together is key. Once you relive the good old days, I guarantee that all the problems will disappear.
18. Let go of negativity.
Begging for attention can be exhausting. The more unsuccessful you are, the more you send negative energy out into the Universe.
And, I’m all for feeling your emotions, but you can’t stay in a bad place forever.
You need to embrace positive energy because only then will you have a chance of improving your relationship.
Once your partner sees you are happy on your own and no longer eager to get their attention, they will be attracted to you again.
19. Don’t stay where you aren’t wanted.
It’s not easy, but if you’re tired of begging for attention in a relationship, then maybe it’s time to leave.
Sometimes, you do your best, and it’s still not enough. But remember – that is NEVER your fault. It just means you aren’t as compatible with your partner as you thought.
Sometimes, some people just are not worth the effort.
Shift your focus onto someone who will genuinely care about you and never make you wonder how much you mean to them.
20. Tell them how much it bothers you.
We aren’t used to expressing our emotions. We suffer in silence, hoping the other person will somehow read our minds and change their behavior. But, alas, they won’t!
You will have to be straightforward. You will have to tell your partner that them ignoring you hurts like hell, and you want nothing more than for it to stop.
This will tell you everything you need to know.
Either your partner will realize their mistake and start paying attention to you again, or they will show that they don’t care that much.
Either way, you will get your closure.
21. Your mental health comes first.
I know you love your partner. That’s why you’re here. You’re wondering what you can do. But, don’t you realize? The thing that matters the most is how you feel.
Think about it. You are trying so hard for someone who makes you more miserable by the day. They go on living their life while you’re here questioning their affection for you.
As painful as it is, you have to let go of such a person. The more you stay with them, the worse your mental health will get.
You deserve to grow as a person, and you deserve someone who will get up each morning excited to talk to you.
What Are The Signs Of A One-Sided Relationship?
• It is mostly you who initiates conversation.
• You are the one who keeps the conversation going.
• They only listen but never share stories of their own.
• Even when they listen, they don’t ask many questions.
• They don’t try to make you laugh anymore.
• You haven’t received a compliment in ages.
• They can go days without talking to you.
• They don’t open up to you anymore.
• The great chemistry you once had is long gone.
• You don’t see the spark in their eyes anymore when you talk in person.
Can Lack Of Attention Ruin Relationships?
Yes, it can.
Every relationship has its problems, but if your partner ignores you more than they talk to you, you know that something is terribly wrong.
You may be eager to fix your relationship, but for it to be fixed, both parties have to be interested in making an effort. You can’t be the only one trying.
So, if your partner expresses a desire to improve your relationship, go for it.
But, if their iciness is there even after you explain how awful you feel, then I’m afraid there’s nothing you can do.
Leave before you experience even more heartbreak. The longer you stay, the worse it’ll get for you.
Is It Wrong To Ask For Affection?
No, it is not wrong.
You deserve to be treated with love and respect. However, as soon as you feel that you have to beg for it, know that the person you’re with isn’t the one for you.
When it’s true love, you will never have to wonder how your partner feels about you. You will never question your relationship because there will be honest communication between you.
Someone who TRULY loves you will give you their attention without you EVER having to beg for it.
They won’t do it because they have to but because they can’t imagine a better company (or partner, for that matter) than you.
Final Thoughts
You may be tired of begging for attention, and the situation may be tough, but it isn’t all hopeless!
You can still figure out where the problem began in the first place to fix it.
But, even if you don’t, you always have yourself. No, don’t think of this as a sad outcome. If your relationship happens to be over, it’s actually a blessing in disguise.
The bottom line is your partner lost someone who loved them deeply while you only distanced yourself to search for a place where you deserve to be.