15 modi per far impazzire i narcisisti e giocarsela con loro

When you’re dealing with someone che ha la NPDSi presume che non si possa fare nulla per ferirli emotivamente. Anche quando ci provate, trovano sempre un modo per ritorcersi contro di voi.

But I’m here to end your misery. Once you learn what drives a narcissist insane, you can give them a taste of their own medicine and reverse the roles once and for all!

Queste 15 tattiche vi aiuteranno a far impazzire il vostro narcisista!

1. Il trattamento silenzioso

If you’re looking for modi per ferire qualcuno che mostra un comportamento narcisistico, the best way to do so is by ignoring them. Yes, that’s right, I’m telling you to give them the trattamento silenzioso.

Da sempre, avete dato il vostro contributo alla madre narcisistapadre o del partner esattamente quello che volevano da voi. Avete pianto, implorato di cambiare o discusso con loro fino a perdere tutte le forze.

And what did you accomplish with this? That’s right, one big, fat nothing. So, why wouldn’t you change tactics? Why wouldn’t you try ignoring them and behaving like they don’t exist?

Trust me, this is what will trigger their narcissistic rage in the blink of an eye. And that’s when you’ll have them right where you want them.

2. Perdita di controllo

Che cosa è comune a tutti i soggetti con NPD? Tra le altre cose, uno dei loro obiettivi finali è quello di avere il controllo sulle loro vittime.

I narcisisti, i sociopatici e i psicopatici emotivi will get possessive because they’re scared of losing control over you. You have to be aware that you’re dealing with maniaci del controllo. Tutto deve essere a modo loro o non deve esserlo affatto.

That’s why you must show them that they can’t rule over you. You’re the only one in charge of your own life. How do you do that? Well, you can start by disobeying them about some seemingly little things.

Tuttavia, la cosa più importante è dimostrare loro che non hanno più alcuna influenza su di voi. Almeno, non quanto ne avevano prima.

3. Accogliere le critiche

Here’s every narcissist’s biggest secret: they have incredibly bassa autostima. Chi lo direbbe, vero?

In realtà nascondono il loro vero io perché odiano la persona che sono. Le persone con disturbo narcisistico di personalità hanno una percezione molto fragile della propria autostima. That’s why being criticized is one of their biggest fears.

Investono molto tempo ed energia per costruire un volto apparentemente perfetto da mostrare al mondo. Quindi, nel momento in cui li si critica per la più piccola cosa, si provoca una ferita narcisistica.

You don’t even have to do it on purpose. You can jokingly say you don’t like their new shirt or that they could have cleaned the house a bit better. On a conscious level, they know that you’re joking or that you mean well. However, their fragile ego can’t stand admitting and accepting something like this.

4. Non essere al centro dell'attenzione

Di cosa ha bisogno un narcisista? Validazione e ammirazione. Cosa fa impazzire un narcisista? Non avere nulla di tutto ciò!

It doesn’t matter if we’re talking about your genitori narcisisti, romantic partner, or friend – they’re all the same when it comes to this. A queste persone piace stare sotto i riflettori. Anzi, hanno bisogno di attenzione come una persona normale ha bisogno di aria per respirare.

So, what happens when someone else becomes your center of attention? A narcissist goes completely crazy. But you know what the funniest thing about this is? They can’t take that you’re your own center of attention either.

The moment that happens, a narcissist feels like they’re losing the ground they walk on.

5. Essere chiamati in causa per le loro azioni

How great would it be if we could all do whatever the hell we wanted without anyone pointing out our mistakes? Well, that’s exactly what every narc expects of their victim.

Bisogna essere consapevoli di una cosa: queste persone lottano con una mancanza di empatia. Se, ad esempio, si è interrompere una relazione narcisistica, your ex will never feel guilty for breaking your heart. Not only that – they’ll also be surprised if you gather the courage to call them out on their actions.

And if you really refuse to give them a second chance and explain that your behavior is just a reaction to their actions, they’ll be stunned.

We’re talking about someone who thinks they’re smarter than the rest of the world. So, they’ll go crazy once you tell them straight that you know exactly what they’re doing and that you don’t plan on putting up with it.

6. Other people’s happiness

We’ve already established that a lack of empathy is one of the most common tratti narcisistici. This doesn’t only mean that they can’t sympathize with someone else’s pain.

This lack of empathy also means that they don’t have the ability to be happy for other people. They just can’t stand someone else’s happiness and will do everything in their power to destroy it.

In fin dei conti, ogni narcisista è in realtà solo geloso. Nel profondo, sanno di non poter provare una felicità vera e pura e odiano tutti coloro che ne sono capaci.

Basically, if you want to drive a narcissist crazy, it’s enough to show them that you’re genuinely happy. Once they realize that all of the giochi mentali, gaslighting e abuso emotivo they put you through didn’t kill your spirit, they will be devastated.

7. Specchio di un narcisista

Come Chiudere un narcisista? It’s enough to treat them the same way they treat everyone else. Just give them a taste of their own medicine. Invertite le carte in tavola e fateli camminare per un miglio nei vostri panni.

This kind of behavior is called mirroring a narcissist. Don’t worry, you won’t become just like them for real. You’re a normal person, and you’re only pretending to be like this to play with a narc.

But I’m warning you: narcissistic mirroring is anything but easy. It includes numerous manipulation tactics, such as bombardamento d'amore (seguito da fantasma), gaslighting, trattamento del silenzio e così via.

Let’s get one thing straight: I would never advise doing any of these things to some other random person. However, sometimes, this is the only way to ferire emotivamente un narcisista.

8. Rompere il loro incantesimo

What drives a narcissist insane? Well, the fact that their victim managed to break their spell. It’s the realization that you got to the bottom of their intentions. It’s that you got them all figured out.

Basically, they get upset the moment you realize that you’re a victim of abuso narcisistico. Capire questo è il primo passo verso sfuggendo loro, e lo sanno molto bene.

They don’t want you to take off your rose-tinted glasses. They’ll do everything in their power to prevent you from seeing properly.

But when you finally get rid of their magic, they don’t know what to do. You’re no longer enchanted, and they don’t have as much influence over you as they used to have.

9. The victim’s independence

Ricordate che abbiamo parlato di un narcisista che perde il controllo? Dovete sapere che queste persone si aspettano che i loro partner, amici e familiari siano emotivamente dipendenti da loro.

Tuttavia, cosa succede quando la loro vittima smette di essere emotivamente dipendente on them? Well, that’s another thing a narc can’t stand. Il vostro mondo ha smesso di girare intorno a loro, il che distrugge immediatamente il loro senso di autostima.

Nevertheless, I’m not only talking about emotional independence. I’m talking about any kind of independence, including financial, social, and so on.

They will go insane if they see that you’re capable of making your own decisions without their involvement. It looks like you don’t need them anymore, which means practically nothing is holding you back from leaving.

10. Chiunque sia migliore di loro

Chi soffre di disturbo narcisistico di personalità ha seri problemi di autostima. Cercano di nasconderlo, ma si paragonano costantemente a tutti coloro che li circondano, compresi gli amici, i familiari, i partner romantici, i colleghi e persino le persone che passano di lì per caso.

In their twisted sense of reality, they have to be better than everyone else. On the contrary, they’re completely worthless.

To them, people’s entire existence on this planet is nothing but a big competition. Allora, cosa fa impazzire un narcisista? L'orribile consapevolezza che qualcuno è migliore di lui.

It’s enough for you to praise their coworker and tell them that they have a good sense of humor or to tell them that you like their best friend’s new car. Normal people wouldn’t even notice these remarks. But a narc will think about them for days!

11. Trattamento ordinario

One of the first red flags to pay attention to when figuring out if someone is a narcissist is this person’s sense of self-importance.

That’s the irony of their personalities: they actually lotta con grandi insicurezze, but at the same time, they think that they’re more important than the rest of the world.

Queste persone si aspettano un trattamento da VIP ovunque vadano. Vogliono sentirsi come dei reali, sempre sotto i riflettori. But what if that doesn’t happen? What if you invite them to a party? You don’t ignore them, nor do you welcome them as a special guest.

Trust me, that would crush them more than anything! It means that they’ve lost the ability to get any reaction from you. And that was the only superpower they had. If that doesn’t destroy them, nothing will!

12. Imbarazzo pubblico

If you know a thing or two about narcissism, you know that people with NPD are usually the most prominent members of society. It doesn’t matter what kind of abuso narcisistico you’re going through – your abuser will always do their best to hide it from the world.

After all, why do you think gaslighting is so important to them? They’re terrified that you’ll speak out about their actions. They want to prevent it so badly that they’re ready to persuade you that you’re imagining things.

So, what drives a narcissist insane? Destroying their public image! They can’t stand being embarrassed in front of other people.

Criticizing and humiliating them when you’re with company will do the trick. But you know what will destroy them completely? Showing the world their true colors! Lifting the mask they show everyone and revealing who they really are will crush them more than anything!

13. Non ottenere la propria strada

It doesn’t matter if we’re talking about little things or huge decisions. A narcissist has to have everything go their way. Have you forgotten? After all, we’re talking about the most intelligent and capable people in the whole wide world!

Tutti, soprattutto le loro vittime, devono ascoltarli e seguire le loro indicazioni. Questa è un'altra cosa che li fa sentire superiori e li aiuta a mantenere una fiducia in se stessi che vacilla. Pertanto, la cosa che li fa impazzire è che le cose non vadano come vogliono.

For example, you’re in a relazione narcisistica. Il vostro partner romantico aveva pianificato di insultarvi, ma poi ha iniziato a che ti illumina a gas. They were sure that things would go smoothly, as always. They would manage to convince you that you’re overreacting and imagining things.

But this time, you reacted differently. You stick to your story, and you don’t allow them to brainwash you with their manipulation tactics. Not getting the outcome they were expecting leaves them confused. However, you have to be careful about this one because it also triggers narcissistic rage!

14. Essere chiamati in causa per le loro insicurezze

La differenza tra una persona normale e una affetta da narcisismo sta nel modo in cui percepisce queste insicurezze. Le persone normali sanno che nessuno è perfetto. Sanno che le insicurezze sono perfettamente normali; fanno del loro meglio per superarle e a volte ci scherzano sopra.

On the other hand, every narc pretends to be flawless. They deceive the world into thinking that they love their true selves even though that couldn’t be further from the truth.

If you look closely, you’ll get to the bottom of le loro insicurezze. You’ll find out what they hate about themselves the most. And once you find that out, it’s time to tackle these insecurities. But make sure to pretend that you’re doing it by accident.

You’ll get an even better effect if you do it in public.

15. Non avere contatti

Finally, if you’re wondering what drives a narcissist insane, the answer is: non avere contatti! Questo include il non parlare con loro, bloccare il loro numero, ignoring their text messages, not visiting places you know you might run into them, not mentioning their name to your mutual friends…

Significa tagliarli fuori completamente e vivere la propria vita come se non ne avessero mai fatto parte. Ma c'è qualcosa che dovete tenere a mente.

Quando di solito non contattare with someone, you’re doing it to get them back. You want them to feel your absence so they can appreciate your presence.

Nevertheless, this shouldn’t be your primary goal when dealing with a narc. Trust me – you don’t want this person back, and you don’t want them ossessionato da te.

You’re going no contact for two reasons. First of all, you’re doing it to drive your narc crazy. But at the same time, you should be doing it to help yourself heal.