O que acontece quando um empático deixa um narcisista? 16 Resultados
A relação entre um narcisista e um super-empático is one of the most devastating and heartbreaking combinations one can imagine – for the empath, of course. However, what most people don’t know is that, eventually, every empath gets the strength to walk away.
So, what happens when an empath leaves a narcissist? Let’s look at things from both of their perspectives.
What Happens When An Empath Leaves A Narcissist: The Narc’s Point Of View
Estas são as fases que um narcisista atravessa quando um empático se afasta dele:
1. Viagens de culpa e o jogo da culpa
Let’s get one thing straight: someone who has narcissistic personality disorder will never admit that they’re wrong. They’ll never face the truth and accept that they’re wrong, let alone say it out loud. After all, that is what NPD is all about – not taking the blame for anything.
No entanto, o que eles vão fazer é tentar atribuir a culpa no empático que os deixou. De repente, não são responsáveis por nada que tenha corrido mal na sua relação.
De acordo com este jogo da culpa, their empathic partner left them out of the blue. They did nothing wrong, but this didn’t prevent the empath from packing their bags and leaving them in the past, like garbage.
É claro que isto não passa de uma tentativa de manipulação. Partem do princípio de que o seu empático voltará para eles se o conseguirem enganar.
Unlike them, their partner has a conscience. Sadly, a narc is aware of this, and they’re ready to use it against them.
2. Fazer-se de vítima
One thing is for sure: an empath is always a narcissistic victim. They’re the ones who were abused, heartbroken, and mistreated all along.
No entanto, não é assim que alguém com uma personalidade narcisista vê toda a situação. Ou, para ser mais exato, eles também sabem a verdade, mas tentam deliberadamente manipulá-la da forma que mais lhes convém.
Então, o que acontece quando um empático deixa um narcisista? Bem, uma das primeiras coisas que um narcisista faz é inverter os papéis.
They start accusing their partner of doing all the things they are actually guilty of. Isn’t that convenient?
Eles viram-lhes as costas, acordam um dia e decidem assumir o papel de vítima. Continuam a dizer a si próprios que o empático era o agressor.
But as if that wasn’t enough, they continue with the same narrative and tell the same story to their ex-boyfriend or girlfriend as well. It’s clear that they’re doing their best to brainwash them into believing their deceptions.
3. Eroding an empath’s reputation
Let’s keep one thing in mind: every narcissistic person craves acceptance. They must be admired by their surroundings, and they care deeply about their public image.
That is why, to them, there is nothing worse than having their reputation destroyed. That is something they won’t allow to happen under any circumstances.
But what they will do is everything in their power to erode their former partner’s reputation. They’re not only ready to fabricate the truth – um narcisista mentirá e enganam todos os que os rodeiam.
They’ll start with their mutual friends and even continue to influence the empath’s best friends and family. They’ll badmouth them and lie about their previous relationship, mostly about why their ex left them.
The narc’s ultimate goal is to get everyone on their side. This makes them feel better, and it also puts an empath in a bad position, making it easier for them to go back to their abuser.
4. Chantagem emocional
O passo seguinte inclui chantagem emocional. If you have ever been involved with someone who has NPD, you know that they’re ready to say (and even do) literally anything to get their way.
Por isso, o facto de afirmarem que vão ficar sozinhas e infelizes não é estranho. Tentam convencer o seu ex de que são responsáveis por ele e pela sua anterior relação.
O truque é que uma pessoa narcisista passou muito tempo e investiu ainda mais energia a estudar o seu parceiro. Conhece-o muito bem e está familiarizado com todos os seus gatilhos e pontos fracos. É exatamente isso que usa contra ele.
When a narc sees the “usual” type of blackmail doesn’t give them the expected results, they’re even ready to go as far as threatening to harm or kill themselves if the empath doesn’t come back to them.
5. Falsos remorsos
O que é que acontece quando um empático deixa um narcisista? Bem, se nada mais resultar, eles arrependem-se de tudo o que fizeram.
Eles dirão sentem a sua falta, admit their mistakes, understand why they haven’t been treating their empath right, promise to act better in the future, and even offer a detailed plan on how they will change.
Does it sound too good to be true? Well, that’s because it is!
Don’t get me wrong – this will happen, word for word, exactly how I’ve explained. But will they be dizer a verdade? De modo algum!
It’s important to remember one thing: narcissists don’t change! Pelo menos, não sem ajuda e tratamento médicos adequados.
A conclusão é que todos esses remorsos serão falsos. Será tudo uma encenação e uma das suas técnicas para recuperar a vítima.
The sad part is that a lot of empaths will believe this to be true. After all, they’re finally getting everything they wanted to hear all along.
Of course, the fact that a narcissist is a skilled liar and manipulator doesn’t help the victim. They make everything look so real that even the best would fall for it.
6. Ego destruído
A insegurança é um dos traços narcísicos mais dominantes. É claro que esta é a última coisa que eles querem que alguém veja, mas eles lutam com uma autoestima extremamente baixa.
Um narcisista precisa de ser constantemente tranquilizado pelo que o rodeia, especialmente pelo seu parceiro.
They need validation that they’re good enough, and the only way for their twisted mind to get it is through abuso narcísico. Someone who doesn’t suffer from NPD can’t process this.
But as long as these toxic people continue to impact their victims, their sense of self-importance is at a satisfactory level. Nevertheless, the moment their victim stops giving them unconditional love, a narcissist’s ego breaks into pieces. This is actually the only effective way to ferir emocionalmente um narcisista.
É exatamente isto que acontece quando um empático deixa um narcisista. Voltam às suas inseguranças, começam a questionar o seu valor e o seu mundo inteiro desmorona-se.
Of course, this is not something even a super-empath should feel sorry for. A narcissist’s ego won’t get back on track with self-love or self-awareness; they’ll only start feeling better when they see they’ve managed to break someone’s heart.
7. Relação de ricochete
Just because a narcissist’s self-esteem is destroyed doesn’t mean that they’ll retreat. They won’t give up on hurting their super-empath or start working on themselves.
On the contrary, this is when a narc becomes even more desperate. They’ll be ready to do whatever it takes to get their sense of self-worth back.
Tendo em mente que nada mais funcionou, o narcisista tenta algo novo: faz o possível para deixar a ex com ciúmes.
At first, they might send hints that they’ve found someone new. It doesn’t matter if the empath has gone no contact – a narc will talk about this imaginary relationship to their mutual friends or post photos all over social media, all in hopes of getting a reaction from their empath.
If that doesn’t work, they’ll even get into some kind of relação de ricochete.
Do you see the pattern of behavior here? They don’t care if they drag this new person into the mess between you two. They don’t give a damn if they break their heart in the process.
Actually, they don’t see them as someone with emotions at all. To a narcissist, they’re just a tool – a tool to make you jealous and eventually get you back.
8. Negociação
The next stage is called negotiating. Nothing worked out, so a narcissist will try and negotiate their way back into an empath’s life.
All of a sudden, they’re ready to accept any condition their victim puts in front of them. They ask them what exactly they want from them and are ready to do even more than necessary just to reach an agreement.
Mais uma vez, isto é de facto um bandeira vermelha disguised as a green one. The moment narcissists see that they’re back into a super empaths life, the relação abusiva continua.
Um empático pode ver isto como uma grande oportunidade para estabelecer limites e transformar a sua relação tóxica numa saudável. But sadly, that will never happen because this is just a narc’s manipulation technique to get what they want.
Don’t forget that these people have a sense of entitlement. They assume that they should and must get whatever their heart desires.
9. Ameaças
After failed negotiations, there always come threats. A narc threatens to destroy the empath’s life, and the only way for them to allegedly save themselves from these threats is to get back into this narcissistic relationship.
They threaten to expose all of their victim’s dirty secrets (of course, they would invent most of them) to destroy their reputation (as if they hadn’t already tried doing that), continue the emotional abuse (to arruinar a sua saúde mental ainda mais) e até para os magoar fisicamente.
O pior cenário é quando um empático co-pais com um narcisista. Keep in mind that a narcissist chooses every means to crush their victim’s well-being.
So, if the two have children together, they’ll threaten to take away their custody or turn their children against them. Sadly, this is where most super-empaths give up and go back to their abusers.
After all, they’re pessoas sensíveis, and it’s natural for them to get scared of something like this, especially if we’re talking about younger children who are easier to manipulate.
10. Queda final
But luckily, in some situations, an empath shows they’re a stronger human being than anyone expected. They’re perfectly aware of everything the narc is doing (after all, reading people’s minds is their superpower), and they don’t fall into their sneaky trap.
This is when a narc’s entire life falls apart. Most of them continue with gaslighting, stalking, begging, threatening, negotiating, and all of these things in circles, but deep down, they know that they’re defeated.
They’re experiencing their final fall: there is no going back after this break-up. However, even when that happens, they’re não se interessa pelas emoções dos outros.
They don’t have a moment of clarity. It’s not like they realize what they lost or come to terms with all the devastating things they’ve done to their victims.
In their minds, they’re the heartbroken ones. Nevertheless, the truth is that the only thing broken about them is their fragile ego.
They didn’t succeed in getting what they wanted, and facing that is one of the most difficult things they’ve had to do in their whole life.
11. Passagem à vítima seguinte
O que é que um narcisista sente depois de esta fase ter terminado? Decide mudar os seus hábitos e padrões de comportamento tóxico? Começa a ter em consideração os sentimentos dos outros? Definitivamente, não.
In fact, they don’t wait long – they immediately go in search of a new victim. The best way to picture them is as wild animals, always hunting for new prey. They won’t literally eat their new victim, but they will destroy their well-being, that’s for sure.
A narcissist has to get their narcissistic supply and satisfy their own needs at all costs. Even though this is terrible for this new person involved, it is actually the best news an empath could get – they’re finally off the hook.
A ex louca
However, even now, a narc won’t miss the chance to badmouth their ex. In fact, they’ll use their previous experience as a way to trap new victims.
You’ll hear them talking about a crazy ex who destroyed them. According to this narrative, the roles are completely turned upside down.
The narc’s ex was the one who didn’t meet their emotional needs, they were abusive to them, and they were the bad ones. Basically, they will accuse their ex of everything they did!
What Happens When An Empath Leaves A Narcissist: The Empath’s Point Of View
Um empático precisa de algum tempo para seguir em frente com a sua vida depois de acabar com um narcisista. Estas são as fases pelas quais passam antes de chegarem a esse ponto:
1. Auto-dúvida
A primeira coisa que um empático sente depois de uma relação com um narcisista é auto-dúvida. Let’s be honest: they cared for their narc.
Experts would say that this wasn’t love and that eram codependentes. Either way, the truth is that this person has become fond of them, even though they were never the right choice. After all, we’re talking about a human being they spent every day with for the last couple of years.
So, it’s quite normal they question their decision.
Terei feito a coisa certa? Será que eles estão mesmo a sofrer de NPD? Poderia tê-los mudado se me tivesse esforçado um pouco mais?
Será que a nossa relação merecia outra oportunidade? Terá sido uma relação narcisista, para começar? Terei exagerado?
These are the thoughts every super-empath struggles with when they decide it’s time to cut off a loved one. Let’s be clear about one thing: this is the last thing they wanted to do, but they’ve reached breaking point, and there was no other option.
2. Medo do julgamento
Remember how the covert narcissist uses every opportunity they get to destroy the empath’s reputation? Well, even though the super empath’s brain is very aware that the other person is lying and doing all of this on purpose, deep down, they’re still afraid of judgment.
Once again, let’s make things clear: this is an extremely sensitive person. They can be easily hurt if someone gives them an evil eye, let alone something more.
No final do dia, a maioria deles são agradar às pessoas without even being aware of it. So it’s natural that they’ll be scared of what others might think.
This is especially true if we’re talking about a mãe narcisistaou pai, ou irmão, e sobre um parceiro narcisista com quem têm filhos. Será que os seus entes queridos os vão acusar de estarem a destruir uma família?
The root of these fears is actually self-judgment. They’re still doubting their choice and are terrified they made the wrong one, despite all the evidence in front of them.
Basically, they judge themselves for not trying harder and for not giving their toxic relationship another chance, even though they know it wouldn’t work this time either.
3. Remorso
What happens when an empath leaves a narcissist? The truth is that an empath needs more time to heal than other people. Let’s not forget that they’re special human beings.
É por isso que a fase dos remorsos dura um pouco mais. A pessoa lamenta a perda dessa pessoa e a destruição da sua relação.
Como podem sofrem com a perda do seu agressor, you must wonder? Well, the truth is that they are more sorry about all the ‘could have beens’ and ‘should have beens.’
They’re sorry for not being able to change them. Sorry for leaving them in the darkness and not being able to bring them to light.
They grieve all the years they’ve lost without getting anything in return. And when you look at it that way, that’s actually pretty logical.
4. Repensar a sua decisão
Na fase seguinte, um empático atinge o ponto de rutura. O que é que vai acontecer? Voltarão aos narcóticos e acreditarão nas suas mentiras, ou manter-se-ão firmes na sua decisão?
This is when they rethink their decision. I’d be happy if I could say that the narcissist’s attempts don’t affect them at all, but that would be far from the truth.
Pelo contrário, alguns empáticos caem nos seus enganos e tentar de novo. Esta é, sem dúvida, a pior opção possível.
5. A escolha final
Finalmente, tomam uma decisão. Aqueles que voltam para os seus narcisistas ficam presos num círculo interminável de abuso emocional. No entanto, nem tudo está perdido para eles.
Um dia destes, hão-de ganhar juízo.
Por outro lado, aqueles que superar e seguir em frente com as suas vidas enfrentam um longo e exaustivo processo de cura. Há dias bons e maus, mas o mais importante é que foi tomada uma decisão e não há volta a dar.
They know that recovery won’t be easy, but it will happen sooner or later! They’ve learned their lesson, and I can promise you one thing: they’ll never make the same mistake again!
Pode um empático quebrar um narcisista?
Sim, um super-empath pode quebrar e enlouquecer um narcisista – or, to be exact, they have the ability to destroy their self-esteem and crush their ego. Mas para que isso aconteça, um empático tem de desligar os seus sentimentos e deixar que o seu raciocínio o guie.
Embora isto seja bastante difícil para alguém com a sua sensibilidade e emoções, quando acontece, nada o pode parar.
Os narcisistas têm medo dos empáticos?
No início, os narcisistas vêem os empáticos como as suas vítimas mais convenientes. Precisam de alguém que lhes dê validação e de alguém com um coração suficientemente grande para os aturar.
However, once they see their superpowers, narcissists become terrified of empaths. They’re the only ones who can kill them with kindness without ever developing narcissistic traits, and that’s what destroys a narc the most.
Por que é que o empático se apaixona pelo narcisista?
Um empático pensa secretamente que pode salvar um narcisista. They have the ability to feel other people’s feelings and read their emotional needs.
Por isso, quando conhecem um narcótico, vêem uma criança vulnerável dentro dele. Vêem alguém com baixa autoestima e inseguranças profundas que supõem poder curar.
Of course, this never happens, but that’s their primal urge and the reason they fall for narcissists – to save them from themselves.
O que acontece quando um narcisista encontra um empático sombrio?
Uma relação entre um narcótico e um empata das trevas é uma batalha permanente. Não há vencedores e só pode resultar em graves danos emocionais e mentais para ambas as partes envolvidas.
Narcissists and dark empaths are actually quite similar. They both use other people’s weak spots and struggle with similar issues.
No final do dia, acabam por se esgotar e destruir um ao outro.
Para terminar:
Keep this in mind: when you’re wondering what happens when an empath leaves a narcissist, you’re probably only referring to a narcissistic partner here. However, that doesn’t have to be the case.
It’s pretty much the same scenario with a mãe narcisistaO pai, o melhor amigo ou qualquer outra pessoa que tenha um distúrbio de personalidade narcisista.
However, the bottom line is that an empath can save themselves from a covert narc. It’s a long and exhausting process, but if they’re determined to do so, they will sair desta relação tóxica!
