Cosa succede quando un empatico lascia un narcisista? 16 Risultati
A relazione tra un narcisista e un super-empatico is one of the most devastating and heartbreaking combinations one can imagine – for the empath, of course. However, what most people don’t know is that, eventually, every empath gets the strength to walk away.
So, what happens when an empath leaves a narcissist? Let’s look at things from both of their perspectives.
What Happens When An Empath Leaves A Narcissist: The Narc’s Point Of View
Queste sono le fasi che un narcisista attraversa quando un empatico si allontana da lui:
1. Sensi di colpa e gioco delle colpe
Let’s get one thing straight: someone who has narcissistic personality disorder will never admit that they’re wrong. They’ll never face the truth and accept that they’re wrong, let alone say it out loud. After all, that is what NPD is all about – not taking the blame for anything.
Tuttavia, quello che faranno è cercare di dare la colpa sull'empatico che li ha lasciati. All'improvviso, non sono responsabili di nulla di ciò che è andato storto nella loro relazione.
Secondo questo gioco delle colpe, their empathic partner left them out of the blue. They did nothing wrong, but this didn’t prevent the empath from packing their bags and leaving them in the past, like garbage.
Naturalmente, questo non è altro che un tentativo di manipolazione. Si presume che l'empatico tornerà da loro se si riesce a farlo sentire in colpa.
Unlike them, their partner has a conscience. Sadly, a narc is aware of this, and they’re ready to use it against them.
2. Fare la vittima
One thing is for sure: an empath is always a narcissistic victim. They’re the ones who were abused, heartbroken, and mistreated all along.
Tuttavia, non è così che una persona con personalità narcisistica vede l'intera situazione. O, per essere precisi, conosce anche la verità, ma cerca deliberatamente di manipolarla nel modo a lui più congeniale.
Cosa succede quando un empatico lascia un narcisista? Ebbene, una delle prime cose che fa un narcisista è invertire i ruoli.
They start accusing their partner of doing all the things they are actually guilty of. Isn’t that convenient?
Loro ribaltano le carte in tavola, si svegliano un giorno e decidono di assumere il ruolo di vittima. Continuano a ripetersi che l'empatico era l'abusatore.
But as if that wasn’t enough, they continue with the same narrative and tell the same story to their ex-boyfriend or girlfriend as well. It’s clear that they’re doing their best to brainwash them into believing their deceptions.
3. Eroding an empath’s reputation
Let’s keep one thing in mind: every narcissistic person craves acceptance. They must be admired by their surroundings, and they care deeply about their public image.
That is why, to them, there is nothing worse than having their reputation destroyed. That is something they won’t allow to happen under any circumstances.
But what they will do is everything in their power to erode their former partner’s reputation. They’re not only ready to fabricate the truth – un narcisista mente e ingannare tutti coloro che li circondano.
They’ll start with their mutual friends and even continue to influence the empath’s best friends and family. They’ll badmouth them and lie about their previous relationship, mostly about why their ex left them.
The narc’s ultimate goal is to get everyone on their side. This makes them feel better, and it also puts an empath in a bad position, making it easier for them to go back to their abuser.
4. Ricatto emotivo
Il passo successivo comprende ricatto emotivo. If you have ever been involved with someone who has NPD, you know that they’re ready to say (and even do) literally anything to get their way.
Quindi, non è strano che affermino che rimarranno soli e infelici. Cercano di convincere l'ex che è responsabile per loro e per la loro precedente relazione.
Il trucco è che una persona narcisista ha speso molto tempo e investito ancora più energie per studiare il proprio partner. Lo conosce molto bene e ha familiarità con tutti i suoi fattori scatenanti e i suoi punti deboli. È proprio questo che usano contro di loro.
When a narc sees the “usual” type of blackmail doesn’t give them the expected results, they’re even ready to go as far as threatening to harm or kill themselves if the empath doesn’t come back to them.
5. Falso rimorso
Cosa succede quando un empatico lascia un narcisista? Se non c'è altro da fare, si pentono di tutto quello che hanno fatto.
Diranno sentono la loro mancanza, admit their mistakes, understand why they haven’t been treating their empath right, promise to act better in the future, and even offer a detailed plan on how they will change.
Does it sound too good to be true? Well, that’s because it is!
Don’t get me wrong – this will happen, word for word, exactly how I’ve explained. But will they be dire la verità? Assolutamente no!
It’s important to remember one thing: narcissists don’t change! Almeno non senza un'assistenza e un trattamento medico adeguato.
La conclusione è che tutto questo rimorso sarà falso. Sarà tutta una recita e una delle loro tecniche per riavere la loro vittima.
The sad part is that a lot of empaths will believe this to be true. After all, they’re finally getting everything they wanted to hear all along.
Of course, the fact that a narcissist is a skilled liar and manipulator doesn’t help the victim. They make everything look so real that even the best would fall for it.
6. Io distrutto
L'insicurezza è uno dei tratti narcisistici più dominanti. Naturalmente, questa è l'ultima cosa che vogliono far vedere a tutti, ma lottano con un'autostima estremamente bassa.
Il narcisista ha bisogno di essere costantemente rassicurato dall'ambiente circostante, soprattutto dal partner.
They need validation that they’re good enough, and the only way for their twisted mind to get it is through abuso narcisistico. Someone who doesn’t suffer from NPD can’t process this.
But as long as these toxic people continue to impact their victims, their sense of self-importance is at a satisfactory level. Nevertheless, the moment their victim stops giving them unconditional love, a narcissist’s ego breaks into pieces. This is actually the only effective way to ferire emotivamente un narcisista.
Questo è esattamente ciò che accade quando un empatico lascia un narcisista. Torna alle sue insicurezze, inizia a mettere in dubbio il suo valore e tutto il suo mondo crolla.
Of course, this is not something even a super-empath should feel sorry for. A narcissist’s ego won’t get back on track with self-love or self-awareness; they’ll only start feeling better when they see they’ve managed to break someone’s heart.
7. Relazione di rimbalzo
Just because a narcissist’s self-esteem is destroyed doesn’t mean that they’ll retreat. They won’t give up on hurting their super-empath or start working on themselves.
On the contrary, this is when a narc becomes even more desperate. They’ll be ready to do whatever it takes to get their sense of self-worth back.
Tenendo presente che non ha funzionato nient'altro, il narcisista prova qualcosa di nuovo: fa del suo meglio per far ingelosire l'ex.
At first, they might send hints that they’ve found someone new. It doesn’t matter if the empath has gone no contact – a narc will talk about this imaginary relationship to their mutual friends or post photos all over social media, all in hopes of getting a reaction from their empath.
If that doesn’t work, they’ll even get into some kind of relazione di rimbalzo.
Do you see the pattern of behavior here? They don’t care if they drag this new person into the mess between you two. They don’t give a damn if they break their heart in the process.
Actually, they don’t see them as someone with emotions at all. To a narcissist, they’re just a tool – a tool to make you jealous and eventually get you back.
8. Negoziare
The next stage is called negotiating. Nothing worked out, so a narcissist will try and negotiate their way back into an empath’s life.
All of a sudden, they’re ready to accept any condition their victim puts in front of them. They ask them what exactly they want from them and are ready to do even more than necessary just to reach an agreement.
Ancora una volta, si tratta di una bandiera rossa disguised as a green one. The moment narcissists see that they’re back into a super empaths life, the relazione abusiva continua.
Un empatico potrebbe vedere in questa situazione un'ottima occasione per porre dei limiti e trasformare la propria relazione tossica in una relazione di coppia. sano. But sadly, that will never happen because this is just a narc’s manipulation technique to get what they want.
Don’t forget that these people have a sense of entitlement. They assume that they should and must get whatever their heart desires.
9. Minacce
After failed negotiations, there always come threats. A narc threatens to destroy the empath’s life, and the only way for them to allegedly save themselves from these threats is to get back into this narcissistic relationship.
They threaten to expose all of their victim’s dirty secrets (of course, they would invent most of them) to destroy their reputation (as if they hadn’t already tried doing that), continue the emotional abuse (to rovinare la loro salute mentale ancora di più) e persino di far loro del male fisico.
Lo scenario peggiore si verifica quando un empatico co-genitori con un narcisista. Keep in mind that a narcissist chooses every means to crush their victim’s well-being.
So, if the two have children together, they’ll threaten to take away their custody or turn their children against them. Sadly, this is where most super-empaths give up and go back to their abusers.
After all, they’re persone sensibili, and it’s natural for them to get scared of something like this, especially if we’re talking about younger children who are easier to manipulate.
10. Caduta finale
But luckily, in some situations, an empath shows they’re a stronger human being than anyone expected. They’re perfectly aware of everything the narc is doing (after all, reading people’s minds is their superpower), and they don’t fall into their sneaky trap.
This is when a narc’s entire life falls apart. Most of them continue with gaslighting, stalking, begging, threatening, negotiating, and all of these things in circles, but deep down, they know that they’re defeated.
They’re experiencing their final fall: there is no going back after this break-up. However, even when that happens, they’re non è interessato alle emozioni degli altri.
They don’t have a moment of clarity. It’s not like they realize what they lost or come to terms with all the devastating things they’ve done to their victims.
In their minds, they’re the heartbroken ones. Nevertheless, the truth is that the only thing broken about them is their fragile ego.
They didn’t succeed in getting what they wanted, and facing that is one of the most difficult things they’ve had to do in their whole life.
11. Passare alla vittima successiva
Cosa prova un narcisista una volta terminata questa fase? Decide di cambiare i suoi modi e i suoi modelli di comportamento tossici? Inizia a prendere in considerazione i sentimenti degli altri? Sicuramente no.
In fact, they don’t wait long – they immediately go in search of a new victim. The best way to picture them is as wild animals, always hunting for new prey. They won’t literally eat their new victim, but they will destroy their well-being, that’s for sure.
A narcissist has to get their narcissistic supply and satisfy their own needs at all costs. Even though this is terrible for this new person involved, it is actually the best news an empath could get – they’re finally off the hook.
L'ex pazzoide
However, even now, a narc won’t miss the chance to badmouth their ex. In fact, they’ll use their previous experience as a way to trap new victims.
You’ll hear them talking about a crazy ex who destroyed them. According to this narrative, the roles are completely turned upside down.
The narc’s ex was the one who didn’t meet their emotional needs, they were abusive to them, and they were the bad ones. Basically, they will accuse their ex of everything they did!
What Happens When An Empath Leaves A Narcissist: The Empath’s Point Of View
Un empatico ha bisogno di un po' di tempo per andare avanti con la propria vita dopo che Rompere con un narcisista. Queste sono le fasi che attraversano prima di arrivare a quel punto:
1. Dubbi su se stessi
La prima cosa che un empatico sente dopo un relazione con un narcisista è dubbi su se stessi. Let’s be honest: they cared for their narc.
Experts would say that this wasn’t love and that erano codipendenti. Either way, the truth is that this person has become fond of them, even though they were never the right choice. After all, we’re talking about a human being they spent every day with for the last couple of years.
So, it’s quite normal they question their decision.
Ho fatto la cosa giusta? Sono davvero affetti da NPD? Avrei potuto cambiarli se mi fossi impegnato un po' di più?
La nostra relazione meritava un'altra possibilità? Si trattava di una relazione narcisistica? Ho reagito in modo eccessivo?
These are the thoughts every super-empath struggles with when they decide it’s time to cut off a loved one. Let’s be clear about one thing: this is the last thing they wanted to do, but they’ve reached breaking point, and there was no other option.
2. Paura del giudizio
Remember how the covert narcissist uses every opportunity they get to destroy the empath’s reputation? Well, even though the super empath’s brain is very aware that the other person is lying and doing all of this on purpose, deep down, they’re still afraid of judgment.
Once again, let’s make things clear: this is an extremely sensitive person. They can be easily hurt if someone gives them an evil eye, let alone something more.
Alla fine dei conti, la maggior parte di loro sono persone piacevoli without even being aware of it. So it’s natural that they’ll be scared of what others might think.
This is especially true if we’re talking about a madre narcisistapadre o fratello e di un partner narcisista con cui hanno figli. I loro cari li accuseranno di aver distrutto una famiglia?
The root of these fears is actually self-judgment. They’re still doubting their choice and are terrified they made the wrong one, despite all the evidence in front of them.
Basically, they judge themselves for not trying harder and for not giving their toxic relationship another chance, even though they know it wouldn’t work this time either.
3. Il rimorso
What happens when an empath leaves a narcissist? The truth is that an empath needs more time to heal than other people. Let’s not forget that they’re special human beings.
Per questo motivo la fase del rimorso dura un po' di più. Si addolorano per la perdita di questa persona e per la distruzione della loro relazione.
Come possono elaborare il lutto per la perdita dell'abusante, you must wonder? Well, the truth is that they are more sorry about all the ‘could have beens’ and ‘should have beens.’
They’re sorry for not being able to change them. Sorry for leaving them in the darkness and not being able to bring them to light.
They grieve all the years they’ve lost without getting anything in return. And when you look at it that way, that’s actually pretty logical.
4. Ripensare la propria decisione
Nella fase successiva, un empatico raggiunge il punto di rottura. Cosa succederà? Torneranno alla narcotizzazione e crederanno alle loro bugie, o si atterranno fermamente alla loro decisione?
This is when they rethink their decision. I’d be happy if I could say that the narcissist’s attempts don’t affect them at all, but that would be far from the truth.
Al contrario, alcuni empatici cadono nei loro inganni e provate ancora una volta. Senza dubbio, questa è la peggiore opzione possibile.
5. La scelta finale
Infine, prendono una decisione. Coloro che tornano dai loro narcisisti rimangono intrappolati in un circolo senza fine di abuso emotivo. Tuttavia, anche per loro non tutto è perduto.
Un giorno o l'altro rinsaviranno.
D'altra parte, coloro che superare e andare avanti con le loro vite affrontano un lungo ed estenuante processo di guarigione. Ci sono giorni buoni e giorni cattivi, ma la cosa più importante è che la decisione è stata presa e non si può tornare indietro.
They know that recovery won’t be easy, but it will happen sooner or later! They’ve learned their lesson, and I can promise you one thing: they’ll never make the same mistake again!
Un empatico può spezzare un narcisista?
Sì, una super-empatia può rompersi e far impazzire un narcisista – or, to be exact, they have the ability to destroy their self-esteem and crush their ego. Ma perché ciò avvenga, un empatico deve spegnere i propri sentimenti e lasciarsi guidare dal ragionamento.
Anche se questo è piuttosto difficile per una persona sensibile ed emotiva, una volta che è successo, niente può fermarla.
I narcisisti hanno paura degli empatici?
All'inizio, i narcisisti vedono gli empatici come le loro vittime più convenienti. Hanno bisogno di qualcuno che li convalidi e di qualcuno con un cuore abbastanza grande da sopportarli.
However, once they see their superpowers, narcissists become terrified of empaths. They’re the only ones who can kill them with kindness without ever developing narcissistic traits, and that’s what destroys a narc the most.
Perché l'empatico si innamora del narcisista?
Un empatico pensa segretamente di poter salvare un narcisista. They have the ability to feel other people’s feelings and read their emotional needs.
Così, quando incontrano un narcotrafficante, vedono dentro di loro un bambino vulnerabile. Vedono qualcuno con una bassa autostima e profonde insicurezze che pensano di poter curare.
Of course, this never happens, but that’s their primal urge and the reason they fall for narcissists – to save them from themselves.
Cosa succede quando un narcisista incontra un empatico oscuro?
Una relazione tra un narcotrafficante e un empatico oscuro è una battaglia continua. Non ci sono vincitori e può solo portare a gravi danni emotivi e mentali per entrambe le parti coinvolte.
Narcissists and dark empaths are actually quite similar. They both use other people’s weak spots and struggle with similar issues.
Alla fine della giornata, finiscono per prosciugarsi e distruggersi a vicenda.
Per concludere:
Keep this in mind: when you’re wondering what happens when an empath leaves a narcissist, you’re probably only referring to a narcissistic partner here. However, that doesn’t have to be the case.
It’s pretty much the same scenario with a madre narcisistapadre, il migliore amico o chiunque altro abbia un disturbo narcisistico di personalità.
However, the bottom line is that an empath can save themselves from a covert narc. It’s a long and exhausting process, but if they’re determined to do so, they will uscire da questa relazione tossica!
