Is there a behavior pattern all cheaters follow? I’ll tell you right away: yes, there is. Even though every man is different, they all behave in a similar manner when being unfaithful.
I bring you the 32 emotional signs that he’s cheating you. Pay attention to each one of these signs and decide whether your SO is guilty or not!
32 Emotional Signs That He’s Cheating You
If your partner is guilty of most of these signs, your dilemma has been resolved: he’s unfaithful.
1. Avoiding intimacy
The first of the 32 emotional signs that he’s cheating you can be seen in the bedroom. I know that most people think that men are like emotionless robots. Basically, they can sleep with whoever they want whenever they want it.
However, the truth is quite different. Avoiding intimacy is actually one of the first signs of cheating.
I hate to break this to you, but your man has no interest in your sex life anymore. All of his attention is going somewhere else.
Besides, maybe he can’t do it physically. His mistress tired him to the point that he couldn’t stand looking at another woman in that way.
2. Social media behavior
If you’re looking for warning signs that your man is cheating, the first thing you should check is his social media accounts. All of a sudden, he’s following some new girls you know nothing about. You see their likes and comments on his posts. Not only that: he returns the favor as well.
But the worst part is that he refuses to post photos and stories with you any longer. When you tag him in a post, he never shares it and ignores it completely.
Well, aren’t these seemingly little things actually telltale signs of what he’s actually doing? Your man is lying that he is single and ready to mingle. And if he’s not having an affair already, he’s definitely making plans for one.
3. He’s hiding his cell phone
Is your partner carrying his phone with him to the bathroom? Does he keep it locked all the time? Look, he wouldn’t be acting this suspicious if he didn’t have anything to hide.
Let’s not forget that he gets all crazy if you even think of taking his phone. It doesn’t have to mean that you want to check his text messages or phone calls— maybe you were just trying to look at the time. Nevertheless, he doesn’t let you do that either.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that he’s physically cheating on you. Maybe he has an emotional affair or is active on online dating sites. However, that is infidelity too.
4. Suspicious financial behavior
When men cheat, their finances usually reveal their secrets. That is why it would be great if you get a hold of his credit card, besides his social media accounts and phone.
Your man is a cavalier in this new relationship, even though he probably doesn’t act like that in his own relationship with you. He is doing everything in his power to impress this new woman he’s been seeing.
He’s probably buying her gifts, has a habit of taking her out on romantic dinners, and maybe even paid for a romantic getaway.
5. He’s suddenly romantic
Out of all 32 emotional signs that he’s cheating you, this one is probably the weirdest one. Some men actually act as if they’re more in love with their SO than ever before when they’re cheating. They get all romantic— they get you flowers, expensive gifts, tell you “I love you” all the time, and plan romantic surprises.
Of course, this one sign can’t be enough for you to accuse him of infidelity. However, if he displays all the other 32 emotional signs that he’s cheating you and he’s suddenly become more romantic, this is his way to cover up his infidelity.
According to family therapists, this is actually a part of cheating husband guilt. He is trying to compensate for his emotional detachment by acting like this.
6. Unnecessary fights
Unnecessary and frequent fights are a good sign of cheating as well. Well, let me tell you something: he is actually trying to make you leave him.
He doesn’t have the guts to tell you that he’s in love with someone else, and he hopes that you’ll break up with him. This way, he can play the role of a victim, and you turn out to be the bad guy.
7. A changed daily routine
If you’re in a long-term relationship with this man, you know most of his habits. You’re familiar with his routine that hasn’t changed in ages.
However, things have become different lately. All of a sudden, he’s having lunch in a different part of the town, and he even changed his favorite cafeteria.
Every relationship expert will tell you the same: he’s hiding clues because he’s been spending a lot of time with his new mistress.
8. He’s always working late
All those business trips and long hours at work didn’t look suspicious to you? Well, I hate to break it to you, but you clearly refused to pay attention and see the truth.
When you check out his financial records, he doesn’t have any extra money on his credit card. On the contrary, his balance is lower than ever.
So, what is actually going on here? Shouldn’t he be getting extra money for all those long hours?
9. A suspicious female friend
If you and your significant other have a healthy relationship, you have no trouble with him having female friends. These are women you’ve met and known about since the beginning of your romance.
However, you do have a problem with him giving more attention to his female friends than to you and giving her the first place in his life. You have a problem with him not respecting boundaries for this female friend or coworker.
And that is exactly what’s been going on lately.
They’ve been texting late at night, and he never tells you the real reasons she’s calling. He’s been spending a lot of time with her in person as well.
Besides, you’ve seen them two together, and his body language signs show you that they’re definitely more than close friends.
10. He accuses you of being unfaithful
A cheater is ready to do whatever it takes to hide his sins. Yes, sometimes that even includes accusing you of cheating.
Of course, he has no proof for this, nor does he see any warning signs of your infidelity. He’s only trying to turn the tables and make himself look like a victim. Don’t let him!
11. A different bedroom behavior
Okay, we’ve already established that some men avoid sex at all costs when they’re guilty of cheating. On the other hand, there also exist the ones who start displaying a different bedroom behavior.
Basically, they’ve learned a thing or two from their mistress, and now, they’re bringing those innovations to your sex life. How sick is that?
12. No communication
When men cheat, a lot of them go completely silent. They’re eaten alive by guilt, and they spend most of their time thinking about what they’ve done and what their next move should be.
Besides, some remain silent because they’re afraid that everything they say or do will be used against them.
Either way, the bottom line is pretty much the same. There is no communication left in what once was a healthy relationship.
13. He is moody
If your significant other is showing mood swings out of the blue, it can be one of the obvious signs he’s cheating on you.
His mood swings are actually a reflection of his thought process. One day, he hates you for existing and for standing in the way of his happiness with his lover.
The other day, he hates himself for doing this to you. At the same time, he falls back in love with you and does everything he can to make up.
No, these mood changes are not his hot and cold games— it’s a sign that he has no idea what he’s doing with his life.
14. You’ve caught him lying more than once
You know how they say: once a liar, always a liar. Well, if you’ve caught your SO lying more than once about some seemingly little things, he’s probably hiding something bigger under the carpet.
For example, he told you that the entire company hadn’t gotten a paycheck this week. And then you run into his coworker shopping who tells you that they even got a raise.
The point is that these lies don’t have to be directly connected to you seeing the truth about his affair. However, if you connect the dots, you’ll see that they all had one purpose only: to hide his infidelity.
15. Your loved ones warned you about his behavior
I know that this is embarrassing, but your family members and close friends probably know that your boyfriend or husband is cheating on you. Maybe they saw him with his lover, or they just noticed his suspicious behavior.
And I bet that they tried opening your eyes. Nevertheless, they failed. You ignored their warnings and decided to trust him blindly.
Well, now you know that they were right all along.
16. He is emotionally distant
What was the last time this man told you “I love you”? What was the last time you saw it in his eyes?
The harsh truth is that he doesn’t give a damn about your feelings or problems. He is physically present next to you, but he has become emotionally distant.
If this is the case, it can be a good sign that he has an emotional affair. I hate to break it to you, but he’s fallen in love with this other woman.
17. Private conversations
It’s not that your SO is only hiding his cell phone— he even goes to another room when he gets a phone call. Even when you get a hold of his phone, all of his text messages are in secret chats, and you can’t find out anything you want to know.
When you ask him about these behavior patterns, he never gives you the real reason why he’s doing it. I mean, it’s obvious that he’s hiding something. However, instead of giving you a valid explanation, he makes a big fuss out of it and ends up accusing you of being too controlling.
Okay, all of the 32 emotional signs that he’s cheating you are horrible, but this one really clears all the doubts away— even if there are no other clues besides it. If you found another phone you know nothing about, and your SO is clearly hiding it from you, I don’t know what more proof you need.
It could be in his spare tire or somewhere in the back of his closet. The point is that this phone is active and that he’s using it.
Don’t let him sell you the story that it’s his business phone. If it were, you would have known about it, wouldn’t you?
19. He stopped talking about the future
Before this affair happened, you and your partner had a healthy relationship. You made future plans, and if you’re still in a relationship, you discussed getting married and having kids.
But all of a sudden, it’s like he excluded you from his future. Whenever you mention everything you used to talk about, he gives you the cold shoulder.
You’re nowhere to be found in his short-term or long-term plans. It’s not that he just stopped mentioning you two moving in together. It’s the fact that he even plans a vacation without you— a vacation you two should have gone together on.
20. Everything you do annoys him
Your partner is annoyed by literally everything you say or do. It’s like there is nothing you can do to make him happy and satisfied.
Your existence in his life bothers him, so he keeps on picking fights over every little thing.
Why is that so? Well, ironically, he sees you as an obstacle to his happiness. This might sound harsh, but your relationship has become nothing but a burden to him.
He doesn’t know how to get rid of you, and your existence brings him nothing but trouble. He assumes that he could ride off into the sunset with his new lover if you weren’t there to bother him.
Of course, this can’t be further from the truth, but it is the reason he bullies you all the time.
21. You’ve found clues
Okay, I’ll admit it, this might be the worst out of all the 32 emotional signs that he’s cheating you: you’ve found actual physical evidence of the affair. Maybe it was the other woman’s lipstick on his shirt, maybe you sensed her perfume when he hugged you, or you’ve seen actual text messages or photos on his phone.
It is clear that this woman is not his coworker or a close friend— she is his mistress. But despite all the evidence, he tries to deny the whole thing. He’s clearly making a fool out of you, and the worst part is that you’re letting him.
22. He criticizes you all the time
This man loved the way you cook. He enjoyed how you kissed him, and he was more than happy with your sex life.
However, all of a sudden, he finds flaws in every little thing you do. He hates the way you dress, criticizes the way you talk, and badmouths your friends.
He uses every chance he gets to put you down, this way or another. He humiliates you in front of friends and makes sure you feel bad about yourself.
The truth is that he keeps on comparing you with his new lover. Now, he thinks that she does everything better than you, and he wonders how you can’t be more like her.
23. His taste changes
If your man starts listening to new music or starts watching a specific TV series, it can be a red flag. Let’s not forget that this TV show or music genre has nothing to do with his taste so far.
The same goes for some new, unusual hobbies. Maybe he hit the gym even though he never thought about it. He’s been buying new clothes, and he changed the perfume he’s been using for years.
Does any of this ring a bell? If it does, I’m sorry to break it to you, but it’s clear that he’s trying to impress a new special lady in his life.
24. He acts guilty all the time
Whenever you look at your SO, he is on the verge of tears. It’s like he’s walking on eggshells around you, and you see that he is afraid to speak up about what’s bothering him.
The only emotion you can read from his eyes is overwhelming guilt. He knows what he did, and he’s perfectly aware of the huge mistake he’s made. He regrets cheating on you, but I guess there is no going back from it now.
The biggest problem is that he has no idea what to do next. Should he end the affair and continue his life with you as if nothing happened? Should he come clean and beg for your forgiveness?
Of course, just because he is aware of his sins, it doesn’t mean that he is any less guilty or that you should feel sorry for him. He should have thought about these things before committing adultery!
25. He showers more than ever
When you’re having sex with someone on a regular basis, you make sure you’re always clean and smell nice. This is especially true if we’re talking about someone you’ve just met.
Well, that’s exactly what your SO has been doing lately: taking dozens of showers a day. Yes, he’s always taken care of his hygiene, but this sudden change in behavior is definitely a red flag.
26. You’re no longer invited to events with him
You two are in a committed relationship, and everyone knows you as a couple. Nevertheless, you’ve stopped being his plus one.
His cousin is getting married, and he just informed you that he’ll be attending by himself. Or he used to take you on his business trips but now, he tells you that you’re not invited.
Isn’t this strange? Don’t you think that he’s started taking his new lover as his plus one to all of these events?
Maybe he even told his family and friends that you two broke up. After all, let’s not forget that he no longer posts you on his social media.
27. He spends more time with his friends
You have no problem with your boyfriend or husband hanging out with his friends. You don’t expect him to spend every single moment of his free time with you.
However, the truth is that he started spending time with them more and more. And, of course, you’re never invited to tag along.
Whenever you ask him where he’s been, he tells you that he was with some friends you don’t even know. The same goes for future plans: he’ll rather go on a vacation with his friends than with you. Isn’t that alarming?
28. Late-night phone calls or texts
You’re there, peacefully sleeping next to your cheating partner, and just like that, the sound of his phone wakes you up. And this is not the first time something like this is happening.
It’s actually become a regular thing. And according to him, it’s always the wrong number.
Or he assumes that you’re sleeping, but you see him texting and smiling. When you ask him about it, he tells you that he is just scrolling through social media and that you’re being too paranoid.
29. His friends avoid you
Let me tell you a hard truth: it is likely that your partner’s friends know exactly what’s going on behind your back. I’m not saying that they support his sins or that they’re his cover up, but they are familiar with what he’s been doing.
On the one hand, they probably don’t agree with his life choices. At the same time, he is still their friend, and they prefer not to interfere.
That is why they’ve been avoiding you lately. They can’t look you in the eyes while staying silent.
30. Sudden boost of self-esteem
What’s up with this man‘s self-esteem? He goes around cracking jokes like he is the best comedian in the world. He is fascinated by his body, and he keeps on complimenting himself.
There is no trace of all those insecurities he was obsessed with back in the day. There must exist a source of this change of behavior.
Well, this is a red flag that he’s dating someone new. He managed to win over the girl of his dreams, and he sees himself as this Alpha man who can do whatever he wants.
31. He stopped loving you romantically
It is possible that your SO still has feelings for you, especially if you two are married or in a long-term relationship. I mean, you two spent so much time together, and you have tons of memories together.
Nevertheless, the truth is that he loves you as a friend or a keen family member. He has no romantic feelings for you any longer, he is not physically attracted to you, and he’s definitely not in love with you.
32. Your gut feeling tells you so
Look, none of these 32 emotional signs that he’s cheating you would be important if it weren’t for this last one— your gut feeling. You try to fight it off, and you try to turn a blind eye but deep down, your intuition is getting louder and louder: this man is cheating on you!
You just feel it, the same way every woman in your situation felt it.
See also: 11 Signs Your Partner Is Snapchat Cheating On You
How do guys act when they are cheating?
Most guys act guilty when they are cheating. They’re not aware of it, but they get all nervous, and the fear of being caught overwhelms them completely.
Even though you expect your man to start avoiding you when he’s having an affair, things can actually get a surprise twist. Ironically, a lot of cheating partners actually turn into romantic sweethearts when they’re fooling around behind your back.
However, what connects all cheaters is their secretive behavior. You have to be aware that they’re carrying a heavy burden around (which is exclusively their fault, of course), and they can’t act all relaxed and careless the way they did before the affair started.
To Wrap Up:
Now that you’ve seen all the 32 emotional signs that he’s cheating you, what more do you need? Don’t tell me that you’re waiting to catch him in the act because you don’t need any more proof than this.
I know that this is a hard pill to swallow, but there is no doubt that your man is unfaithful. Now, you just have to figure out what you’ll do about it.
Will you confront him? Or will you act as if nothing is going on and hence give him the green light to keep cheating on you?
The choice is all yours, but I bet you know what’s the smart thing to do.