You know how some dreams can seem so freaking real? Like, you wake up shaking or crying and you pray to God for that never to happen in real life?
Well, having a dream about a boyfriend cheating is exactly one of those dreams. You wake up with tears in your eyes and your whole body is shivering…
It’s actually a normal reaction because you’re afraid of what your dream may mean. You’re afraid to lose the person you love and, of course, going through such a heartbreak terrifies you.
Before you start panicking more, stay with me and discover all the possible reasons why you had a dream about your partner cheating on you. You’ll also find out what those dreams of your boyfriend cheating mean.
Why Did I Dream About My Boyfriend Cheating On Me?
According to the certified dream analyst, Lauri Loewenberg, dreaming about a boyfriend/girlfriend cheating is actually a very common dream.
And, there are truly many possible reasons why people have cheating dreams about their loved ones.
However, the most common reason why you dream about your boyfriend/husband cheating is definitely that you’re afraid that it might actually happen in real life.
The love you share for your man is true and very deep, and you simply feel that you couldn’t live without him. You’re so afraid of losing him because of another girl that your subconscious mind is realizing your fears in your dreams.
Below is a list of a few more possible reasons, so let’s check them out ASAP.
An ugly storm has hit your relationship
This can be a pretty good sign that you two are currently going through a ‘disconnect period’. But, there is no need to worry because it happens to all couples, and it can actually be very productive for your relationship.
However, if it’s happening too often or you feel disconnected for a while; that is, if you’re having more bad days than good ones, then you should definitely be worried for the future of your relationship.
You struggle with trust issues
If you have ugly past experiences when it comes to your love life, that could be a reason why you’re having cheating dreams about your current boyfriend.
Fear of abandonment
This could also be stemming from your bad past experiences. If your ex-boyfriend has left you without saying a word, you think that your current significant other will do the same sooner or later.
That fear of abandonment reflects in your dreams and leaves you even more confused and worried.
In order to make these dreams stop and maintain your relationship, you need to face this fear and stop being paranoid without a reason.
A bit of jealousy in a relationship is actually good and healthy. However, if it becomes irrational or unreasonable, then this happens… You start imagining things that have nothing to do with the truth.
Trust issues, irrational jealousy, fear of abandonment… Those are all warning signs that you’re struggling with low self-esteem.
You keep thinking that your boyfriend is too good for you or that you don’t deserve him, and now you even start dreaming that he’ll get tired of you and find someone new.
But, the well-known fact is that you can’t build a healthy relationship with another person if you don’t have one with yourself. That’s why you need to work on your own self-development.
Recognize your self-worth. You’re good enough; the hell, you’re even better than that. And, my darling, your boyfriend knows that because that’s the reason why he chose you and why he’s still with you.
Your subconscious mind is trying to tell you something…
I know this is hard to hear, but maybe you dream about your boyfriend cheating because you’ve actually so many reasons to doubt it’s happening in real life, too.
Maybe your conscious mind got tired of ignoring all those signs of your boyfriend’s infidelity and it finally allowed your subconscious mind to interfere.
That subconscious part of your mind may be signaling you to finally open your eyes and catch your cheater.
Unfulfilling sex life
Are you bored with your unfulfilling sex life? If yes, that may also be a reason why you dream about your boyfriend cheating on you.
Or, a plot twist may happen and you may even start dreaming about yourself cheating on your significant other.
The important thing is that you’re secretly wishing to experiment more with your partner in bed and bring the spark back to your sex life.
Relationship advice ALERT: stop dreaming about it and start working on reviving that sexual spark.
Your boyfriend has already cheated on you IRL
This is probably the most obvious reason for dreaming about your partner cheating on you. He did it in real life, and you decided to forgive him and move on…
But, obviously, that didn’t happen. You still hold grudges and aren’t ready to let go of them. Infidelity is definitely one of those things that can be too hard (and in most cases, truly impossible) to forgive.
So, before you decide to give your cheating partner a second chance and try to repair your relationship, you need to think well about it. Before you make any final decision, give yourself time to process your emotions in peace.
6 True Interpretations Of A Dream About A Boyfriend Cheating
Now, let’s talk about your cheating dream interpretation, and to be honest, that can be a really tricky job. It all depends on where you currently stand with your significant other and what’s really going on between you and IRL.
In the end, you should know that you’re the only person who can truly understand and interpret the meaning of your dreams.
However, I listed a few possible meanings of a cheating dream below, and I hope you’ll find them useful.
It’s a warning sign that something similar is happening IRL
The universe sometimes sends us some signs to warn us about certain things in life, and your dream may be precisely that… A sign from the universe that your boyfriend is doing something behind your back.
To be clear, it’s not proof of your partner cheating on you, but it’s definitely a warning sign that you should be more careful.
Maybe he doesn’t cheat on you, but he’s thinking about a breakup. If you feel that he has been distancing himself from you lately, you should definitely have a serious talk with your boyfriend.
Or, you already suspect that he’s cheating on you
The psychotherapist, Dr. Fran Walfish, says, “How you feel in the dream is the key to how you are feeling in real life.”
So, if you’ve been doubting your partner’s fidelity already for some time, it’s no wonder why those doubts are reflected in your dreams.
You have that gut feeling that your man is seeing someone else, and even though you are trying hard to ignore it, your mind simply can’t let go of it.
Your subconscious mind is trying to communicate with you through your dreams, and right now, it’s telling you that you should listen to your inner voice more…
There’s a third wheel in your relationship
Dreaming about your boyfriend cheating may also be a confirmation of your suspicions. It may really mean that there’s a third wheel in your relationship.
However, the good news is that it doesn’t have to be another woman. If you’ve noticed that your guy doesn’t pay attention to you or that you’re not spending quality time together anymore, you shouldn’t immediately mark him as a cheater.
That third wheel may be his career or job or even his family, or basically anything else that could gather his attention.
The breakup is threatening your relationship
These interpretations of a cheating dream may terrify you, and that really wasn’t my intention. However, your dream probably has a meaning, and it may actually be a warning sign that something is wrong with your current relationship.
Are you completely sure that your relationship is healthy and stable? Does it involve mutual respect, appreciation, and compromising? Do you have regular communication with your man?
Think about it. Maybe your man isn’t cheating on you, but maybe he isn’t happy in your relationship like he was before. Or, maybe he doesn’t make you happy anymore, but you simply don’t want to accept and admit it…
He did something in real life and made you feel betrayed
Did your man hurt you or did he do something that made you feel betrayed lately? I don’t mean that he cheated on you because there are other forms of betrayal that can ruin a relationship besides infidelity.
Maybe he has lied to you about something important, or maybe he did something behind your back that he knew you wouldn’t approve of… He probably did something that hurt your feelings and made your trust issues arise.
There is a lack of trust in your relationship
Do you know why this is such a common dream nowadays? Because there are so many people who are dealing with trust issues and so many relationships that are struggling with a lack of trust.
When you don’t trust your partner, even the smallest suspicion may convince you that they’re cheating on you. The first time they cancel on you or don’t reply to your message instantly, you’ll start doubting their fidelity.
If you’ve just started dating, it’s actually normal that you don’t trust each other completely, but if you have been dating for a while and didn’t manage to build trust, it’s a huge red flag that your relationship isn’t going anywhere.
If your insecurities and trust issues are the reason for the lack of trust in your relationship, you should really work on yourself. Boost your self-esteem for the sake of your relationship.
Should You Be Worried If You Dream About Your Boyfriend Cheating On You?
Well, I would say that you should rather be on alert than worried. You should keep your eyes wide open and watch your partner’s behavior for a while.
I don’t want to lie to you… This may be a simple dream, and it doesn’t have to mean anything. However, it can also be a way that your subconscious mind or the universe is trying to tell you something.
Be that as it may, it would be unfair to get angry at your boyfriend because of your cheating dream. After all, that kind of dream is not a credible sign of actual cheating in waking life.
First of all, you need to try to understand what stands behind that dream. You need to find the root cause of having that dream of your partner cheating.
Again, maybe it was just an ordinary dream that happened without any reason, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t dive into your relationship and try to conclude what caused you to dream about your boyfriend cheating.
Also, you should look for those causes in your own insecurities and emotional baggage from painful past experiences. Maybe your current partner isn’t the reason why you had this kind of cheating dream at all.
So, if you can’t find the cause of your dream in your current relationship, then go dig through your own past.
If you were cheated on in the past, it’s completely understandable why you’re having these dreams of cheating.
And, I know that dealing with all of it is very hard, but don’t make your current partner pay for something your lame-ass cheating ex did to you.
What Should You Do About It?
For starters, don’t do anything before you calm down after such an intense dream. Don’t even mention it to your boyfriend before you process it all by yourself.
You need to come back to reality first… Understand that it was only a dream, and that it doesn’t have to mean that your partner cheats on you in real life, too.
However, I’m sure it’ll be impossible to completely forget and let go of such an upsetting dream. Before you become paranoid, here’s how you should cope with a dream of your partner cheating on you.
Firstly and most importantly, don’t keep quiet about it
Okay, you should give yourself some time to think about your dream in peace, but that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t share it with your significant other at all.
It’ll keep bugging you until you address it to your man. And, trust me, this can actually be good for your relationship because it can help you dig up some issues that you both were trying to hide, and find a way to work those things out.
Address the ‘why’ behind your cheating dream
Some psychotherapists think that each and every one of our dreams has a specific meaning, but there are those that think it’s all speculation, too.
This dream may come to you just so, but there’s probably a good reason why you dreamed about your boyfriend cheating on you.
And, the fact is that in order to understand the purpose of that dream, you need to find its root cause first.
Work on improving your relationship
Why do I dream about my boyfriend cheating on me? Well, most experts would agree that it’s either because your relationship is lacking something (lack of trust or intimacy) or because you’re doubting your partner’s fidelity IRL, too.
As a matter of fact, cheating dreams are symbolizing the unmet needs in your relationship.
Anyhow, no matter what the reason is, it’s definitely a huge alert that your relationship is in trouble.
You need to work on saving your relationship before it’s too late. Of course, that depends on your mutual desire for maintaining your relationship.
And, the relationship you have with yourself, too
You aren’t aware of how your low self-esteem may affect your relationship.
So many other issues in a relationship that may lead you to a definite breakup and destroy all the chances for reuniting ever again arise particularly from low self-esteem.
In order to improve your romantic relationship, it’s essential to work on your own self-confidence and build a stronger self-relationship first.
That’s how you’ll overcome your trust issue, control your jealousy, and get rid of that fear of abandonment.
Confide in your best friend
After all, that’s why best friends are there, right? To share our torments with them and go through bad times together…
Besides, you’ll feel better sharing it with someone, and they could also give you good advice on what to do next. Or, they may even offer their own dream interpretation and help you understand the meaning behind your cheating dream.
Remember, dreams usually don’t come true in real life
Luckily, not all of our dreams come true. Some of them may predict the future, but some may stay there, in your dreams, forever.
So, don’t let your dreams mess with your head or destroy your current relationship. As long as you don’t get solid proof that your dreams are coming true in waking life, you shouldn’t believe in them.
The Bottom Line
The most important thing and the one you should keep in mind is that dreams don’t always come true. Fortunately, they truly don’t.
So, if you had a dream about your boyfriend cheating, it’s probably a sign that the universe or your subconscious mind is trying to communicate with you.
You need to rethink your current relationship, and think about whether your boyfriend is really able to cheat on you and hurt you in such a way… Is this only happening in your dreams or does your partner cheat on you in real life, too?
I know this nightmare can be heart-hammering. But, if you’re in a healthy relationship and you believe in your love, then you have nothing to fear indeed.