ATTENTI a questi 15 segnali che vi stanno tradendo

You don’t know it for sure, but does il vostro istinto keep telling you that something is off with your man? Trust me, I’m experiencing déjà vu right now because that eerie feeling is so familiar to me.

I was doubting my man’s fidelity, too, and unfortunately, my doubts came true in the end. Condividerò con voi i segni più evidenti he’s cheating on you, in modo da poter verificare se i vostri dubbi sono fondati o meno.

The truth is, we all want lifetime love and passion with our significant other, but most of us aren’t aware of all the hard work and effort it truly demands.

Love may have struck us out of the blue, but it’s up to us to keep it alive. But, keeping love alive all by yourself is not true love.

If one partner cheats or betrays the other one, that’s not amore vero either. Lack of interest, affection, intimacy, trust… those are all signs of falso amore infatti.

No matter how much you hate cheaters and betrayal, it still happens to you. Even if you did nothing wrong, even if you didn’t deserve it, you still get cheated on by your partner.

That’s life, and unfortunately, despite the pain that all of that unfairness gives you, you simply can’t affect or change some things. You can only choose how you’ll deal with those things and whether you let them weaken you or make you stronger…

Quali sono i primi segnali di un tradimento?

There are a few not-so-obvious signs of infidelity and, sadly, most of us aren’t able to realize them on time. Those first, let’s call them microsegni di tradimentopotrebbero risparmiarci molti dolori e problemi solo se fossimo in grado di accorgercene in tempo.

Evitamento, segretezza del proprio comportamento telefono cellulare, il suo chiusura del linguaggio del corpo spento, sospetto carta di credito fatture, cambiamenti nell'aspetto fisico, prelievi, più attività e stranezze messaggi di testo sul suo account di social media…

Queste sono tutte piccole cose e le prime bandiere rosse che indicano che il vostro uomo potrebbe frequentare un'altra donna.

At first, you won’t pay much attention to these things, but as they come piling up (and they will, trust me), you’ll be more and more suspicious of him.

You’ll even try to confront him on several occasions, but he’ll somehow manage to convince you that you’re imagining it all.

La maggior parte degli uomini usa questo tecnica di scaricabarile and, unfortunately, most women fall for it. He’ll try to make you blame yourself for even thinking that he’s being unfaithful to you.

As I said, in the beginning, his cheating ways and techniques will manage to make you believe that it’s all in your head. You’ll start wondering se sei solo paranoica o se lui ti sta davvero tradendo su di te.

MA, se si presta attenzione a questi segni rivelatori ti tradisce, you’ll have a good reason to confront him, and then he won’t have another choice but to admit it all to you…

15 Warning Signs That He’s Cheating On You

Per salvarsi da un partner traditoree per salvare il vostro cuore da un doloroso colpo di fulmine, ecco i segnali rivelatori signs to look for in his behavior to know for sure if he’s cheating.

1. Si allontana dal suo comportamento quotidiano

When you’re in a long-term relationship, that is, when you spend a certain amount of time with someone, you get to know the real them… the way they react to certain situations and problems.

But, when that behavior drastically changes, it might be a sign that he’s/she’s tradirti o che sono semplicemente sotto pressione per qualcos'altro.

This alone isn’t a sure sign he’s cheating, but in combination with other signs, it’s definitely a good indicator that he’s being unfaithful.

The truth is, you can learn so much simply by observing a guy’s linguaggio del corpo.

For example, if he keeps his posture closed while you’re talking, or if he keeps blocking eye contact or does some other unfamiliar moves while you’re talking about his potential infidelity, you should consider it as you’ve lo ha sorpreso a imbrogliare.

Può essere un buon bugiardo, ma la sua linguaggio del corpo definitely won’t be able to keep up with his lies. Sooner or later, his body language will uncover the real answers to every question you’re currently so desperately looking for.

2. Si comporta in modo caldo e freddo

Quando un l'uomo inizia a comportarsi in modo caldo e freddo all of a sudden, it’s a huge bandiera rossa that something is bothering him. In combo with all these signs (or most of them), it surely means that he’s cheating.

The thing is that he’s losing the game and he’s becoming aware of it. The whole thing is getting out of his hands and he simply doesn’t know what to do about it anymore.

All of his covers are slowly blowing up, and he knows that it’s just a matter of time when you’ll discover what he has been doing behind your back.

The worst thing is that he actually doesn’t know what he truly wants anymore. His feelings are all over the place, and he’s only sinking further into the abyss of his own lies.

One day, he thinks that he loves you and that is when he behaves ‘hot’. While, on other days, he thinks he has caught feelings for l'altra donna and that makes him behave ‘cold’ towards you.

3. Inizia a nascondere il telefono

Se va in bagno o butta la spazzatura, il suo telefono è sempre con lui.

Lui turns his phone away from you while he’s texting, he always leaves it facing the screen down, and it simply makes you think that he is trying hard to never allow you to see what’s happening on it.

In addition, he even sometimes keeps it on Airplane Mode while he’s with you.

Tutti questi sforzi per nascondere il suo telefono confermate il vostro sensazione istintiva. Either he is hiding something from you or he is hiding you from someone…

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4. Sbalzi d'umore improvvisi e imprevedibili

La pressione lo costringe a stare costantemente sul filo del rasoio, causando imprevedibili sbalzi d'umore.

It almost seems like he has male PMS (if that even exists) or something like that. He’s so afraid that he might get caught that he can no longer think straight.

In alcuni momenti si arrabbia in modo incontrollato, poi cambia improvvisamente registro e diventa troppo gentile con voi. Vi porta dei fiori e fa delle cose carine per voi, ma poi vi rimprovera con il passare del tempo.

You feel like you’re constantly camminare su gusci d'uovo intorno a lui because you don’t know how to behave anymore. Vi sembra che siate voi a provocare gli sbalzi d'umore che lui ha sempre, ma nemmeno voi siete sicuri di come ci riuscite.

It’s not you, it’s not about you, it’s not because of you.

Your (cheating) partner probably has too much going on in his head and in his heart and even he isn’t able to cope with it anymore.

It’s obvious that he’s tearing apart at the seams, and it’s just a matter of time when he’ll come clean to you about everything.

I know it’s hard, but you should try to control yourself and behave as if nothing is happening… as if you don’t notice what’s tormenting him. That will totally drive him crazy and he’ll snap in one moment and admit it all.

5. Litiga in continuazione

Questo è uno dei segni più evidenti ti sta sicuramente tradendo. Tuttavia, ci sono due scenari probabili sul perché lo stia facendo.

The first one is because he’s just trying to make you rottura con lui. He has the guts to cheat on you, but he isn’t so brave when it comes to admitting and dealing with it.

On the other hand, it may also be because of that whole double life he’s living. He simply can’t stand that pressure anymore and he needs to vent it out somehow.

Yes, getting into a fight with you may be just a way for him to vent out all of his negative and stressful feelings. However, if you answer those provocations in the right way, it’ll only make him stressed out even more.

Quando inizia ad assillarvi con qualcosa o a fare qualcosa per provocarvi a litigare, dovreste tacere. Dovreste fare marcia indietro o cercare di calmarlo.

When he sees that he isn’t able to provoke you, it’ll make him even angrier. In one of his rage episodes, he’ll come out about his infidelity without him being aware of what he is doing.

6. Cambiamento evidente dell'aspetto

Let’s put it this way, he’s trying to look great for l'altra donna because he’s still trying to seduce and win her over.

He loses weight, brings back his muscle tone, and carefully chooses what he’s going to wear, especially if he’s leaving without you.

He shaves daily, combs his hair, and always wears cologne. His bank account activities show that he’s spending more money on new clothes, colognes, and fancy restaurants.

Tutte queste cose vi sembrano ancora più sospette perché riconoscete lo schema. Sai che ha fatto tutto questo all'inizio della vostra relazione, mentre cercava di conquistarti.

7. Perde di vista i dettagli

Man mano che trascorre più tempo sia con voi che con la sua amante, i ricordi del tempo trascorso con lei e quelli del tempo trascorso con voi inizieranno a confondersi.

Schedules get crossed, and he won’t be able to keep track of where he was on any given day.

Si confonderà e vi parlerà di un film che non avete mai visto insieme, ma che lui ha visto con la sua amante, oppure vi proporrà di andare in quel ristorante in cui siete andati un paio di settimane fa (ma che non avete mai frequentato).

However, that confusion will be enough for you to start doubting his fidelity. As he continues to lie to both of you, he’ll only fall deeper and deeper into his own web of lies.

Sooner or later, one of you will find out the real truth, and you’ll probably wish to share it with the other one. It’s funny how his own lies will betray him and backfire on him.

8. He’s trying to make up with expensive (guilt) gifts

You were fighting for days, and now, all of a sudden, he’s nice (maybe even too nice) with you.

Si presenta sul posto di lavoro senza preavviso e vi porta dei fiori o i vostri piatti preferiti. Vi sorprende con i biglietti per la vostra band preferita. Vi regala un bel soggiorno di lusso in una spa e un centro benessere.

It’s like he’s trying to buy your forgiveness, right? And, you know what? He probably is.

Questi doni di colpa possono essere la prova di una cheating partner’s guilt ma, nella maggior parte dei casi, si tratta della tecnica più comune che imbroglioni per sentirsi meglio.

He may also do it because he wants to remind you of how nice and thoughtful a man you have, so you can keep that in mind once you find out about his betrayal. That’s pretty bold, right?

Don’t fall under his manipulation. Né tutto il denaro di questo mondo né il regalo più costoso potrebbero mai riscattare il prezzo di un cuore spezzato e fiducia perduta!

9. Improvvisamente ci sono richieste di privacy

All'improvviso, ha bisogno che la sua privacy venga rispettata. Stabilisce confini completamente nuovi e vi chiede di rispettarli rigorosamente.

He closes the door while he’s working or checking emails… He locks his phone and hides the password from you… And, all those phone calls he’s getting from his ‘cousin’ lately, but hangs up the moment you enter the room? Yeah, it’s not his cousin.

It’s his side chick, and it’s pretty clear he doesn’t want you to find out about her. That’s the most obvious digitale segno di imbroglio.

Tutti i cose belle you used to share, he now hides. For you, it seems like he’s completely blocking you out of his life… and I know, it tears your heart apart.

You’re losing trust in your man and you have every right to do so.

Che vi piaccia o meno, che riusciate a venire a patti con la verità o meno, il fatto è che queste sono tutte piccole ma chiare bandiere rosse che indicano che il vostro uomo sta conducendo una doppia vita.

Quando si ama veramente una persona, non la si può mai escludere dalla propria vita. When you respect someone and want to build a future with them, you don’t keep secrets nor do you have some hideous privacy requests because you’re a team.

You stop functioning as the private, separated ‘I and you’ and start functioning as the beautiful, united ‘we’.

10. Il distacco emotivo è evidente

On the one hand, your fights… on the other one, your doubts… it’s completely natural that all those things have started to drive you apart.

Even if you didn’t confirm your doubts and can’t tell for sure if your man is really tradirtiIl fatto è che la sfiducia si sta diffondendo a macchia d'olio nella vostra relazione e voi non potete fare assolutamente nulla per fermarla.

Si sta seduti e si aspetta che bruci tutto.

It’s not that you’ve stopped loving him, but you’re aware that your emotions aren’t as deep and as strong as they were before.

That trust breach caused you to disconnect emotionally, and you feel like you don’t even recognize him anymore. You feel like he isn’t the man you fell in love with.

Your love and your relationship is weakening because doubts are prevailing the trust. And, the truth is, you can’t stay connected… you can’t keep loving someone you don’t believe anymore.

11. Il suo programma viene modificato

Affari d'ufficio sono una cosa molto comune e si verificano a causa della quantità di tempo che trascorriamo con i nostri colleghi di lavoro. Il fatto è che la maggior parte di noi trascorre più tempo con i colleghi di lavoro che con il partner.

However, if you’re in un relazione a lungo termine, this means you already know your partner’s work schedule.

You know when they have the lunch break, when their work starts and finishes… and even if there are some sudden changes in their work schedule, you’re the first one they’ll inform about it.

Questo ci porta alla seguente conclusione: se il vostro uomo si ferma improvvisamente al lavoro fino a tardi o si assenta a lungo in modo sospetto, non è possibile che non si sia mai sentito a suo agio. viaggi di lavoro, that could be a sign he’s avere una relazione.

In effetti, la maggior parte imbroglioni usano scuse di lavoro per coprire i loro affari.

If you notice any changes in your man’s work schedule or if he uses his work as an excuse to avoid seeing you too often, you should take it seriously. Maybe he isn’t cheating, but he’s definitely desperately trying to hide something from you.

12. La vostra vita sessuale è cambiata

Un cambiamento improvviso di ciò che è abituale o familiare a letto è un grande segnale di avvertimento di un tradimento.

Il vostro uomo può essere soddisfatto della quantità di sesso che la sua amante gli offre, causando una mancanza di sesso nella vostra relazione.

D'altro canto, però, la maggior parte degli uomini sperimenta un'enorme scarica di testosterone, che si manifesta con una nuova sicurezza durante il sesso.

Si sentono forti e virili, come se tutte le donne del pianeta volessero andare a letto con loro. Il loro ego cresce di giorno in giorno e, con esso, anche il loro desiderio sessuale inizia ad aumentare rapidamente.

Quindi, se notate che il vostro uomo è più aggressivo o esigente a letto, forse dovreste seguire il vostro istinto e andare alla causa principale di questo improvviso cambiamento nel suo appetito sessuale.

13. Avete iniziato a riconoscere gli schemi del gaslighting

Maybe you didn’t recognize it at the beginning, but you surely do now. He’s trying to stay in charge of your relationship and all this messy situation that he provoked by gaslighting voi.

It’s just another one of his manipulative, modi di imbrogliare to make you believe that you’re imagining things. If you fall for it, you’ll only end up apologizing to him for tradirti.

Yes, that’s how bad it may become IF you allow him to control you in this awful way.

He’ll try to get into your head and make you start questioning your own sanity. You’ll start blaming yourself for thinking that he might ever betray you.

It’ll completely undermine your autostima. Once again, you’ll end up begging him not to leave you because of your ‘false’ accusations.

That’s only if you allow it all to him, of course. If you recognize on time that you’re being gaslighted, you’ll manage to resist it and make him feel sorry for trying to make a fool out of you.

14. Ha già parlato di rottura più di una volta

Se il tuo uomo avesse cercato di portare il rottura talk a few times already, it’s an obvious bandiera rossa che lui vuole chiudere con te e che he doesn’t love you anymore. 

Well, of course, the reason for it doesn’t have to be a new relationship, but it’s definitely one of the probable case scenarios.

Maybe he still didn’t realize it because his feelings are mixed or because he doesn’t want to hurt you. Forse lui ti ama ancora, but he feels awfully bad for betraying you and can’t stand looking you in the eyes anymore.

Another (not so ‘good’ reason) for this may be that he still isn’t sure how the other side feels about him. He doesn’t know where he stands with the other girl, and he simply doesn’t want to lose you both.

In questo caso, i risultati probabili sono due. Either he’ll come clean and rottura con voi non appena l'altra parte deciderà di ufficializzare le cose tra loro.

OR, if his plans with the other girl fail, he’ll keep lying to you, pretending as if nothing happened, and praying that you never discover the truth.

That’s why you should never take his ‘rottura talks’ lightly.

La prima volta che solleva l'argomento e inizia a minacciare una rottura, dovete andare a fondo della questione e capire perché sta pensando di porre fine alla vostra relazione.

15. You just can’t keep ignoring your inner voice

Even if your man doesn’t admit it to you after you confront him, you still won’t be able to get rid of your sensazione istintiva.

That voice deep down in you is telling you that your entire relationship is a steaming pile of turds… that everything you believed in was a complete lie… that the love you were ready to die for was a huge lie.

I know how hard it is to cope with these intense and overwhelming feelings. As much as you try, you simply can’t resist them, and you let those feelings consume you completely.

Si diventa stressati e depressi. On the one hand, you’re still not ready to let go of the man you love, and on the other hand, you know deep down in your heart it’s the right decision.

You’re aware that something bad is happening and that your rottura è inevitabile.

However, you still choose to stay in that lie for a little while longer because you don’t have the strength to give up on your love…

Listen to that inner voice, but don’t blindly follow its advice.

And, you don’t have to. You don’t have to quit on your love just because your partner had one weak moment and wasn’t able to control himself.

Ci sono tante coppie che sono sopravvissute all'infedeltà, si è ripreso dopo la vicendae dopo di essa abbiamo costruito un rapporto ancora più forte. Se il vostro cuore si sente pronto a dargli una seconda possibilità, don’t hesitate to do so.

Dopo tutto, non c'è assolutamente nulla che amore vero can’t overcome or deal with.

As the family therapist, Elvina Lui, says: “Anche se è difficile, molte coppie superano i danni dell'infedeltà e rendono più forte la loro relazione. La chiave è ricostruire la fiducia dalle macerie for both people to keep showing each other that “you are worth this, and I believe in us”.

Cosa fare quando si sospetta che il proprio fidanzato ci tradisca?

Ora, probabilmente vorrete sapere what you should do if you find out he’s being unfaithful. Se si sospetta e si trova qualche buon segno il vostro uomo vi tradisceIl prossimo passo logico da fare è affrontarlo.

You don’t ask him directly, but you confront him with all the proof you have about his infidelity. Gli chiedete semplicemente, in modo educato, di spiegarvi il vero significato di queste cose.

A imbroglione will never confess immediately, or at least not until they’re ready for it. So, don’t expect your man to come clean to you as soon as you confront him.

Also, while confronting him, you should take notes about his body language while he’s answering your questions. If he keeps lying to you, if he keeps denying his betrayal, his behavior will surely give him up.

Due dei più comuni motivi per cui gli uomini tradiscono sono basso autostima e insicurezze.

Once they start feeling they’ve lost the validation they desperately need from their current partner, they start looking for it in some other place.

However, if a person has issues with self-esteem, that also means they aren’t able to control their body language, especially in situations that are too stressful for them.

Even if he decided to admit it all immediately, it still doesn’t mean the suffering stops there for you. The fact is that you’ll need a lot of time to accept it all and sort it out in your heart and in your mind.

Il più importante consigli sulle relazioni Il messaggio che dovete sentire in questo momento è che, qualunque cosa accada, qualunque sia l'esito del vostro confronto, non dovete mai incolparvi di nulla.

You can’t blame yourself for loving a man who decided to betray you and that love you feel for him. Love is a pure gamble… sometimes you win, but there are times you’ll have to lose… big time lose.

Conclusione

I really hope you didn’t recognize any of these signs he’s cheating on you and that it’s indeed happening only in your head.

La maggior parte delle coppie attraversa una fase della relazione in cui iniziano ad allontanarsi e, purtroppo, questo può portare a prendere decisioni molto sbagliate.

On the other hand, if you did, and now you’re surer than ever that your man is being unfaithful to you, I truly hope you’ll gather the strength di confrontarsi con il vostro imbroglione.

If your doubts come true, if he admits his infidelity, don’t blame yourself and don’t have regrets.

Remember, you’re the one who leaves that relationship with your head held high.

Perdonate il vostro imbroglione and take everything that happened to you as a huge lesson… a lesson that will guide you through the future. Don’t even think about getting revenge.

Lasciate il lavoro sporco al karma.

Now it’s time to focus plainly on yourself and grab your life by the horns. Shift all the love you felt for him to yourself, and promise to yourself that you’ll never, no matter what, betray yourself.