Hmm… Why do guys stop texting and then start again? I’m sure it all starts like this:
Congratulations! You’ve been texting for weeks/months now and you’re 99% sure your relationship is on its way to becoming something more. And then BOOM!
He no longer responds to you. He suddenly stopped texting without telling you why so that you know whether you should start panicking or take it lightly.
As a woman, I surely know that panicking is the first thing that comes to our mind in such situations. I mean, it’s really a BIG DEAL when someone you really like suddenly stops texting you for no reason!
Do you know what’s even more confusing? When he starts texting you again after a certain amount of time (time we usually spend overthinking and drama-ing).
Yes, in our head there isn’t one valid reason for such a selfish act but today, we’ll try to look at things from a different perspective.
Today we’ll answer the famous question: Why do guys stop texting and then start again? Take a deep breath and let’s get to work! ?
Why Do Guys Stop Texting And Then Start Again?
I would be more than happy if there was only one reason why guys stop texting and then start texting you again. Unfortunately, there is a list of common reasons why they do that. I’m sure the following reasons will bring you some clarity:
1. He’s mentally preoccupied with other things
One of the most common reasons why guys suddenly stop texting is that they are bad at multitasking! I can confirm the validity of this statement because the guy I’m seeing right now is going through this.
He’s preoccupied with other things and that’s why we no longer text as frequently as we did before. Sometimes, he texts me after two to three days, or even after a week.
He admitted that he’s really bad at multitasking and he needs to redirect all his focus on the thing he’s doing at the moment. He also told me that, once he’s done with it, he’ll go back to his normal texting behavior. ?
2. He’s scared of how much he likes you
Are you worried about his texting habits? Well, he might be worried about his feelings. His high levels of affection toward you actually scare him.
Yup, that’s actually possible. There are guys who are afraid of their feelings because vulnerability is not their strongest attribute. They’re simply not ready to admit to themselves that they are crazy about you.
Because of that, they choose to ignore you for some time and then they come back. Very annoying, I agree.
3. He’s testing you
Why do guys stop texting for a few days, back off, and then start texting you again? It could be that he’s actually testing you. Wait, why would he do that?
Because he’s not sure whether you like him or not. Then, why doesn’t he simply ask you? Because men. ?
So, if you show concern when he stops texting you, he’ll take this as confirmation that you like him. He knows that a woman who is not interested in a man would never bother about him not texting her any longer.
4. Playing hard to get
We all know that playing hard to get is primarily a woman’s sport but men are not excluded either.
Is he playing hard to get? Does he think that not texting you for a few days will make you chase him?
Well, he’s probably right about it. We women are really suckers for men who shower us with attention and then make us beg for it.
If he’s playing hard to get, you can do the same! Fortunately, two can play this game and it’s only a matter of time before someone will admit that they’ve had enough. That’s when the real game begins!
5. He’s busy texting others
Or maybe the reason why he’s ghosting you is that he’s busy texting other ladies. That and him being a player are the two worst reasons for his selective texting.
Let’s say that he no longer texts you because he suffers from the grass is greener syndrome.
In other words, he thinks there are more attractive and prettier women out there and he doesn’t want to miss out.
Because of that, he’s sitting on multiple chairs until he falls down. Then he gets up again and starts texting you again. The advice of the day: Don’t be anyone’s second choice.
6. Because of something you did
Why do guys stop texting and then start again? It could be that the reason is you. Perhaps you said something that made him angry or you involuntarily insulted him.
Literally, it could be anything, and since I’m not a seer by profession, you’ll have to find the reason on your own. You’ll do that by evaluating previous communication and any arguments that you might have had.
If you find out that you’re the reason why he stopped texting you, make sure to apologize to him. And remember that this is totally okay. We all make mistakes because we’re human beings, right?
7. He wants to slow down a bit
Every single one of us has our own pace when it comes to dating and relationships. What’s fast for him may not be fast for you and vice versa.
So, one of the reasons why he stopped texting is that he decided to slow down with text messages and everything.
Also, pay attention to the timing. This new guy I met would often stop texting mid-conversation. When I asked him why he did it, he told me that he wanted to slow things down.
8. You ran out of exciting topics
“He texted me every day, and then he stopped.” What’s up with this guy? Why did he suddenly decide to ghost you after so many interesting conversations you had?
It could be that you simply run out of interesting and exciting things to talk about. If your guy is not into small talk, then I completely understand him.
Perhaps some flirty texts will tickle his imagination and you’ll no longer have to worry about him stopping texting you.
9. He needs some space
Does he need some space? Maybe that’s the reason why he decided not to text you for a couple of days.
Keep in mind that not every guy does this when they crave some space. Some guys actually tell you so (like one of my guy friends).
Shout out to all those guys who tell honestly what’s on their minds!
10. He’s just not that into you
I always say: If he’s not that into you, his texting behavior will show it.
Or maybe you went on a date but it didn’t go well. If that’s the case with you, then you know he’s just not that into you.
And yes, he’s kind of a coward for not telling you honestly how he feels but he chooses to ghost you. That’s why you’re better off without him anyway.
11. He wants you to crave his presence
What does it mean when a guy stops texting you every day? It could mean that he wants you to miss him.
Because of that, he no longer texts you, and he’s no longer responsive on social media (he no longer likes your posts) and things like that. He does all this to make you crave his presence.
He wants you to miss him because he’s either unsure about your feelings for him or he’s seeking attention.
12. He’s unsure of your compatibility
“He stopped texting me.” “I have no idea why and what I should do about it.” Maybe you should give him some time because he might be unsure of your compatibility.
Do you think that you’re compatible? Is there any reason why he would think otherwise?
I’ve noticed that, when men are unsure of their feelings or your overall compatibility, they immediately pull back.
They go spend time in their man cave in order to get some clarification on things. After doing that, they either text you back or subtly let you know that you’re simply not meant for each other.
13. Validation and attention-seeking attempts
Do you know what type of men usually seek validation and attention? Men with low self-esteem. Guys who constantly seek female attention can be a real burden.
They are literally ready to do anything to get a dose of validation and attention from others. Not texting you and then texting you again after some time is one of their favorite methods for seeking attention.
To us, it’s one of the most annoying things we have to deal with but that’s just how it goes. We’re talking about a vicious cycle that isn’t easy to break.
I’m talking about one of the psychological truths about ghosting by Psychology Today: “People who are ghosted become more likely to do the same to someone else.”
14. He’s intimidated by you
Is it possible that he doesn’t text you back because he feels intimidated by you? Sure. There are many guys nowadays who feel intimidated by a successful and independent woman.
Here’s what I have to say to them: “If you feel intimidated by me, then you definitely don’t deserve me. If you play texting games with me, I won’t be interested in you.”
Only weak men are intimidated by powerful women. Don’t fall to their level. Find a man who is strong enough not to be intimidated; someone who is proud of you.
15. He’s bad at texting
Why do guys stop texting and then start again? My first-time virtual encounter with a guy who is bad at texting was truly annoying. I thought the guy didn’t like me at all!
I mean, how can you be into someone and not have the desire to text them? To me, this sounds contradictory but to them, it makes perfect sense.
If that’s what’s happening to you at the moment, then face-to-face communication or phone calls are great alternatives.
Whatever you do, just don’t force him to text you back because this can only make things worse.
16. He wants to see how you’ll react
Seriously? Are you telling me that he wants to see how my reaction will be once he stops texting me? I bet that’s what you’re thinking right now. ?
So, what does it mean when a guy stops texting you? Sometimes it means that he wants to see whether you’ll become overly needy or clingy.
When he no longer sends you good morning texts or those random texts he used to send you, he wants to see whether you’ll notice it. He wants to see how you’ll cope with it.
Will you move on immediately? Will you get mad at him? Or will you become desperate?
As always, the choice is yours.
17. He wants to be mysterious
Why do guys text less after a while? Well, one of the reasons is that they want to add some mystery to the equation. Perhaps he’s scared that he’ll start boring you; hence all those disappearing acts.
I know this is one of the weirdest reasons why a guy would stop texting you, but it’s definitely one of the possible reasons.
Advice to guys: There are other ways to preserve the mystery. You don’t need to ghost a woman in order to get her attention.
I hope they’ll understand the absurdity of their actions.
You’re being ghosted because he’s emotionally unavailable, and therefore, not ready for something serious.
He’s not ready for a new relationship, he has some major overthinking sessions in the background, and that’s when he decides to stop contacting you.
I’ve had a fair share of dealing with emotionally unavailable guys and my only advice to you would be: RUN FOR YOUR LIFE.
Don’t even think of texting him until he figures out exactly what he wants at the moment. If he’s not ready for something serious at the moment, don’t wait for him.
19. He’s a player
Why do guys stop texting and then start again? Would a player text you every day?
If he’s playing mind games with you, chances are he’ll text you intensely in one moment, and in the other, he’ll ignore you completely.
A lot of women end up texting a player without even knowing it. One thing is for sure: If you’re dealing with a player, heartbreak is inevitable.
This kind of guy will text you only when it’s convenient for him because he doesn’t care about other people’s feelings. You deserve better.
What To Do When He Stops Texting You
Bombarding him with “I love you” texts is not a solution. Double texting is also not a solution because this might result in a bunch of unanswered texts from him.
I won’t make this complicated because there’s no need for that. Instead of offering you a list of possible things you could do when he stops texting you, I’ll summarize it all into two choices:
• Talk to him.
We all know that healthy communication is the key to avoiding drama. You’re two adults and if your affection is mutual, I don’t see a reason why you couldn’t solve this through an honest and open conversation.
Tell him how you feel about him ignoring your texts. I did that to one guy and he absolutely agreed with me. He understood!
So, what you need to do is let him know what he’s doing is just not right (unless he has a valid explanation for it). After you’re done talking, then it’s up to him how he’ll take it.
Will he decide to change? Will you be able to compromise?
Of course, this greatly depends on the levels of his affection towards you. Trust me, if he truly cares about you, he will do anything to make you happy. (Not really anything but you get my point.)
• Walk away from him.
If talking to him doesn’t bear fruit and his reasons for ghosting you are not valid, then consider walking away from him. You don’t deserve to be someone’s second choice.
You deserve a man who will always find time to text you back. A man who will not want to make you worry or overthink things. Such a man is worth keeping.
If he stops texting you for no apparent reason, his message to you is very clear: “I stopped texting you because I don’t really care about how this will make you feel.”
Don’t give him the benefit to stop texting you whenever he wants. Instead, walk away and make him beg for your attention.
Why Did He Suddenly Text Me Again?
The most common reason why guys suddenly text you again is that they’re interested in what’s going on in your life. They want to know about your love life, future plans, you name it. They text you again to see whether they have a chance with you or because they’re legit players.
That being said, here are two sub-reasons why guys suddenly text you again:
• Because he likes you.
Obviously, a guy who is into you will text you because he likes you and he wants to be a part of your life.
Depending on the reasons why he stopped texting you, now he wants to see whether you’re still available. More importantly, he wants to see whether you’re still interested in him.
If you’re interested in him, then feel free to text him back. Still, you shouldn’t ignore the fact that he ignored you for some time. Ask him to justify his behavior and then decide whether or not you should give him a second chance.
• Because he’s playing with you.
Another reason why a guy might text you again is that he’s playing games with you. He doesn’t like you but he needs you to like him.
Is he a narcissist in disguise? It’s definitely not excluded. What he’s doing is blowing hot and cold. He gives you enough to keep you interested and then disappears.
As you’re craving his presence, he comes back again. I’m pretty sure every single woman on the planet is sick and tired of such behavior from men. Me first.
If he’s playing with you, don’t think twice about cutting off all communication because life is too short to be surrounded by toxic people.
Worry Not!
I urge you to not worry too much about this question, “Why do guys stop texting and then start again?” Let me explain…
If he likes you, he will text you back or he will have a valid explanation why he didn’t. If he isn’t into you or he’s a player, he will text you when it’s convenient for him and he won’t care about how you feel.
Instead of worrying about guys who stop texting and then start again, worry about your well-being. Make sure that you’re living your life to the fullest and everything else will fall into place (including your love life).
And yes, you deserve to be texted back and if he doesn’t know it, then he’s not worthy of being with you. It’s as simple as that.
