How to make a girl horny? How to make her want to give herself fully to you without making it awkward? How to hit the right spots and improve her sex drive?
If this is what you’ve been wondering about, you’re in the right place.
First of all, I’m going to tell you that women are complex beings. There are two aspects that you have to pay special attention to in order to understand how women function.
These are the mental and physical aspects. If a woman is not ready mentally, she will not be ready physically.
If a woman is not ready physically, it means she’s not ready mentally. The sooner you accept this, the better.
How to make a girl horny? You have to understand that a woman’s mind is a complex machine and to make her horny, you have to make a tremendous effort with what you DO and not in how you LOOK.
So, if you’ve forgotten to shave your beard, she won’t give a fuck if you’ve pushed the right buttons that will make her body scream with horniness.
Whatever you are doing, you have to pay attention to the smallest of details. This especially goes for foreplay.
By this, I mean the details regarding your actions. If there is one sentence that you have to memorize from all of this, it would be: WOMEN REMEMBER EVERYTHING. Yes, they do.
They will remember if you downplayed them, if you didn’t support them or mistreated them in one way or another.
They will even remember the date and the exact hour of a particular event.
Even if you forgot to thank them for something they’ve done for you, they will remember it. And all of this will influence their ABILITY TO BECOME HORNY.
The worst part is that you will not know that this is the case because a woman will never tell you. She will bury it in her subconscious until she has digested or deleted it.
To avoid this, you have to maximize your current efforts so that you don’t fuck up anything. Because if you do, you’re doomed.
15 Surefire Ways To Make A Girl Horny
Here are 15 ways to overcome this mental-physical barrier and to make her horny in no time.
1. Be a gentleman
First and foremost, to get a girl horny, be a gentleman. You know that every girl wants to feel loved, appreciated, and treated like a lady.
If she’s not feeling appreciated, SHE WILL NOT GET HORNY. I know it’s kinda absurd, but it’s the truth.
All of the romantic movies and old-fashioned romances have raised the standard, and I’m sorry, but you have to act accordingly; it’s time.
In summary, to make a woman horny, you have to work hard to deserve it.
When someone mentions being a gentleman, the first thing that comes to your mind is probably opening the door for her, buying her a drink or two, treating her and her friends with respect, showing up on time, and so on. Yes, it’s all true.
But, there is also more to the concept of being a gentleman. Being a gentleman also means not talking about yourself too much, treating everyone with the same amount of respect (not just her and her friends), not being bored, etc.
Yes, if you’re bored, you will not make her horny. You have to make her interested in every single word that is coming out of your mouth, and that way, you’ll make her want more and more…
So, be careful that you’ve set up a base for making her aroused, and the base consists of the three following terms: RESPECT, APPRECIATION, BEING INTERESTING.
Remember them very well because you’ll need to. That’s how you turn on a girl.
2. Compliment her
When talking about complimenting a girl, you have to be very smart. One thing you say wrong can screw up your whole relationship with this girl.
So, for starters, choose something neutral like: “I like your style!” She cannot take this the wrong way.
Or incorporate this compliment with the way she looks. The important thing is to acknowledge her effort in making herself beautiful for you.
On the other hand, don’t make a mistake and compliment her legs or her butt because no matter if your comment was made in good spirits, she can take it the wrong way. Maybe you’ll start a painful topic and accidentally bring out her insecurities. You most definitely don’t want that to happen.
In the end, however, the most important thing is that your compliment is honest. You can never go wrong with saying what you really mean.
3. Build up sexual tension
After you’ve made sure that you have a base, the next step is to build up the sexual tension.
What is sexual tension? Well, it occurs when two people feel strong sexual desire, but they don’t engage in sexual activities (yet). To make a woman horny, you HAVE TO build up the sexual tension.
There are many ways of doing so, and you can use your words, physical touch, and imagination.
But don’t overdo it! If you overdo it, you will not build up the sexual tension, but rather, aversion, and you’ll most certainly not arouse her.
The key is to build her up days or hours before the expected climax.
If you’re not living together, you can always send a dirty text message that will make her wonder about your next move. Again, don’t overdo it. Do it subtly and with caution.
You don’t want her to interpret things differently from how you’ve imagined them.
If you’re living with her or seeing her regularly, try whispering in her ear, gently touching her waist, then slowly moving to her lips, and you know the rest. The thing you have to pay attention to is how you do it.
Don’t act like you have a list in your head from which you’re reading your next steps.
You have to do it passionately and with care, and I can guarantee you that you’ll turn her on within seconds.
4. The power of foreplay works wonders
Foreplay is never to be skipped. It’s the essential start of every intercourse.
It’s the core of turning a girl on. Take things slowly, and work your way to the main event.
You cannot simply take her and start having sex with her. You have to easily warm her up until she fires up like a lightbulb. After you’ve done this part, the real foreplay starts to take action.
With that being said, there is only one thing left to emphasize—be creative with your tongue and hands in combo with certain of her body parts.
See also: 8 Sensational Tips To Make The Foreplay Last Longer
5. The power of teasing
You probably remember the time when you were a boy, and you thought the only way to show a girl affection was by teasing her. Guess what?
You were right! From an early age, men use these teasing tactics to subtly show that they are interested and to get her attention of course.
The only difference is that over the years, the teasing tactics improve, and if you know how to implement them, they will work like a charm on any woman.
Whether they admit it or not, women WANT TO be teased and paid attention to.
They want to feel special and to be the chosen one. To arouse her, you have to tease her in every single way possible.
Tease her about the food she’s just ordered with you or about her outfit.
Tease her by looking deep into her eyes and then looking away. Touch her accidentally, etc. Whatever you choose to do, don’t do it in a way that will offend her.
This takes skill, but even if you’re currently not good at it, you will master it in no time. Just believe in yourself.
Teasing will make her laugh, laughing will make her relaxed, being relaxed will turn her on.
So, don’t underestimate the power of teasing because it is a powerful force with which everything starts.
A woman’s body is like a machine, and you have to push the right buttons for it to start giving you what you want.
6. Dominance is a thing
Let’s face it. Who would want a wimp by their side? Show that you’re dominant, that no one can mess with you, both in the bedroom and in real life.
When you’re with your girl, keep your promises, and always stick to what you believe.
Show dominance by staying true to yourself and not by letting others’ influence lead you astray.
In the bedroom, hold her down and have your way with her. Every woman likes a bit of force tangled with passion.
Sometimes, they like being told what to do instead of always being the ones having everything under their control.
So, rip her clothes off, and throw her on the bed. Do whatever you want to her, she won’t object.
Women love men who take control, but they are not submissive to them.
7. Turn light touching into intense touching
Remember the ASR principle—Action, Silence, Retreat. Action means to start kissing her and ‘pushing the right buttons’.
Silence means to slow down and make her wait for a few seconds, after which you Retreat and wait for her to make the next move.
This way, you will not appear too pushy or too reserved. This is the perfect balance that will most surely make any girl ready for sex.
Repeat the ASR principle in two to four sessions. The first two sessions have to include light touching with your hands and light kissing.
In this first phase, there’s no place for anything wild or sudden. Remember, THIS is how you flirt successfully.
The key is to coordinate your every single move that will lead from one point of her body to another.
Everything has to be synchronized for her body to respond. You can’t just touch her a little bit over here and a little bit over there.
You can’t jump from touching her earlobe to her inner thighs. Nope. That way, you’ll ruin everything, and you’ll have to start all over again. You have to go step by step.
With the first two sessions, you’ll be preparing her for the next two. In the last two sessions, you’ll do everything exactly the same but in a stronger and more passionate manner.
Now you want to intensify everything that you’ve done so far, but you don’t want her to notice the change.
The most important thing is to make the transition unnoticeable to her because if she sees that you’re changing the tempo, she might get scared, and this will not do you any good.
8. Don’t underestimate the power of eye contact
Eye contact. I know you wouldn’t believe me if I told you but without occasional eye contact, all of this which you’ve been doing before would be in vain. Eye contact is your secret when it comes to arousing her.
When you’re looking someone deep into the eyes, you are bonding with them.
You are bonding mentally and physically. Remember what I said at the beginning about the mental and physical aspects regarding women? If you don’t, please read it again, and you’ll realize that eye contact is the key ingredient you need to make her decide to give herself fully to you.
If she looks back at you in the same way, it means she wants you, too.
You can try by only stimulating her, but if you choose to use your eyes as the main weapon, in most cases, you will succeed in getting what you want.
While you’re touching her, always look her in the eyes for a few seconds and then go back to what you were doing.
There are multiple meanings behind eye contact, and some of them are confidence, respect, love, deep desire, and lust.
If she sees that you have no problem with making eye contact with her, she will instantly categorize you as a man who knows what he’s doing and how to get what he wants.
And that is extremely sexy. Her body will tell her that you’re the man that she has to have sex with right now!
9. Mentally arouse her
Talk to her. Communication is one of the most important factors in every relationship.
Only this time, talk to her in a dirty matter. Insinuate things you won’t mention out loud. Make her imagination run wild.
Make her imagine things you’ve insinuated you’ll do to her, but never say anything transparently. Make her guess.
Women love when men talk about sex but are not clear exactly about what they are telling you.
They like it when men are leaving a lot of space to guess what they have on their minds.
That’s when her imagination opens up, and that’s what works as a natural aphrodisiac for every woman.
Another way of mentally/sexually occupying her is whispering dirty things into her ear.
Be honest with her, and tell her about a lot of different things you want to do to her. Tell her she’s your slut, tell her what sex positions or hottest makeout positions you’ll use with her…tell her every dirty detail on your mind at that moment.
When she’s all worked up, try a sensual massage and move on with more juicy stuff.
10. Her pleasure has to be a high priority to you
You have to make it all about her. Pleasure her in bed; give everything you’ve got. Otherwise, she won’t get back to you.
If you don’t do things right the first time, she won’t be coming back for more.
Selfish lovers usually don’t end up scoring. They score the first time, but that is pretty much all they ever get.
Do you want to be a part of that club? I don’t think so. That’s why giving her the time of her life should be your first priority. She’ll pay you back—you don’t have to worry about that.
Along with making sure she is satisfied in bed, make sure you always talk about sex, too.
I know it sounds funny, but the more you talk about sex and the more you’re actually having sex, the more sex you’re going to have.
It will be incredibly easier to arouse her if sex is a part of your normal everyday life.
11. Use your tongue
Talking dirty is fine and touching sensually is fine, too, but using your tongue is the absolute winner in pleasuring a girl.
Although the tongue is an incredibly powerful tool in seduction, it’s highly recommended to use it only after you get into the bedroom. Otherwise, you’ll be labeled as a horny creep.
When in the bedroom, use your tongue, but use it wisely in combination with your hands.
Too much of everything can screw things up. Always find a balance, and work your way to the actual intercourse.
If you do it by the rules—while making it seem natural—you’ll arouse your girl in a matter of minutes, and the rest is an easy game.
12. A hug can mean so much more
Usually, when you first encounter a girl on a date, you shake her hand.
I don’t have to even mention that the shake itself has a great impact on whether she is going to like you or not.
If your shake is grungy, chances are she’s not going to think highly of you. On the other hand, if it’s firm and manly, she’ll recognize the potential you have.
After the handshake comes the hug. So on your second date, don’t give her a hand, give her a nice, warm, and firm hug.
Actually, there are so many types of hugs that can tell you exactly in what way the person is interested in you.
When you hug her, execute it in a way she understands that you’re planning on being her lover and not just her friend.
Show her that you’re sexually interested in her. You’ll do it by pressing your body close to hers and holding on to her a moment longer than a friend should have. Thus, showing her that you don’t want to let her go.
14. Feel her
I think we all agree that women are a bit more complicated to understand than men. The important thing in a relationship with a woman is for you to feel her.
She won’t say that much to you, she’d rather wait for you to figure things out for yourself.
The same happens when it comes to having sex. When a woman initiates sex for the first time, she is going to be incredibly nervous.
The reason for that is her fear of you rejecting her. Although rejection of women offering sex doesn’t happen that often, it’s still possible, so make sure you don’t make that horrible mistake.
No matter how lousy she is at offering sex, take it because if you deny her, she will never want to be intimate with you again. After some time, she’ll get better when she relaxes.
15. Be patient but don’t be too patient
In all of these stages, you have to find the balance. You have to be patient because she will feel like you’re rushing things.
But don’t be too patient either because you will kill her will to do anything with you. The key is to listen to her body and what she is saying to you.
A lot of guys don’t respect this, so they end up making one mistake after another.
Pay attention to her body language and gestures, and you’ll know what you have to do next.
If she starts making weird faces like she’s not comfortable enough, you should pause and ask her about it if necessary.
But don’t ask her: What’s wrong? Instead, you should ask: What’s on your mind?
If you mention the word WRONG, she will instantly start thinking that there‘s something wrong with her, and if she does, you’re screwed.
When you ask her what is on her mind, she will feel like you care about her, and you want her to feel comfortable while doing anything with you.
And when she says what’s on her mind, you can say a word or two, and then continue with what you were doing.
However, if she’s giving you signals that she’s ready, do not immediately stop your actions. Instead, make a slow transition to the real deal.
If your transition is too sudden, she might turn off and all of your efforts so far will be in vain.
Make her want every piece of you, but give those pieces in a carefully devised manner.
