Guía de 7 pasos para reparar tu alma rota y recuperar la calma interior
The awful thing about a broken soul is that you can’t really see that it’s broken just by looking at the person who owns it. Not even the person with the shattered soul can see it, but they can feel each and every one of those shattered pieces hurting.
It doesn’t happen at once, that’s for sure. Life is, at the very least, unpredictable. There is no person among all of us who hasn’t experienced it in their own skin.
One day, it’s all sunshine and roses, while the other day brings rain and thunder. En un momento nos sentimos increíblemente felices, mientras que al momento siguiente algo malo nos golpea y cambia nuestro estado de ánimo al instante.
It’s like life is all blanco y negro. We experience and go through so many things… the good, but also the bad. We accumulate so many emotions inside of us, and it’s completely normal that we must feel tired sometimes.
Nuestra alma se siente cansada, and somewhere along the way, if we don’t nurture it the right way, all of that accumulated damage breaks it completely. However, your broken soul doesn’t mean you’re broken tampoco.
You’re just a bit damaged but, in the end, the truth is that we’re all a bit damaged. La buena noticia es que puedes cura tu alma and ‘fix yourself’. And, you will IF you listen and follow all of these pieces of advice below carefully.
¿Qué es un alma rota?
It’s when you feel hopeless, as if the whole el mundo se desmorona bajo tus pies. Empieza a afectar a tu perspectiva del mundo, y con el tiempo, te vuelves completamente insensible. You can’t feel true happiness, nor real sadness or despair.
It’s when you feel helpless, as if you’re all alone in this world. Pones esa nota de privacidad en tu corazón y construyes muros a tu alrededor, para que nadie pueda acercarse a ti.
As I said, souls don’t break so easily. It takes time. A hard life combined with amor no correspondido makes small cracks… one after the other.
Hasta que todo se derrumba, desmoronándose dentro de nosotros en un millón de pedacitos, como un espejo roto.
But, from the outside, that mirror is whole. It gives just an outside picture. And, all those broken pieces are right inside of us for no one to see. They’re hidden deep inside of us, and sometimes, neither can we truly see them on time.
Intentamos engañarnos a nosotros mismos y a los demás con una sonrisa falsa.
And, even when we do, we try to facade it all with a smile. We wear a smile on the outside and pretend as if nothing is happening… nothing at all… while that inner pain is eating us alive.
Ponemos una sonrisa; esa tan bonita y realista que nadie podría adivinar todo lo que está pasando nuestra alma en ese momento. Sometimes, it actually works and we manage to fool ourselves, but its functionality surely doesn’t last for too long.
We don’t even know where we get the strength to carry around that smile… to fake such a wonderfully convincing smile. But, the fact is that we do. We see it as our only option. We see it as our hope for healing.
Nos esforzamos por vivir con ello en lugar de intentar arreglarlo.
We try to learn how to live with our shattered soul and all the pain it constantly leaves behind. Pretending that we’re strong becomes our number one coping mechanism.
We try to keep it together during the day, and we sometimes succeed. However, the night always lets us down. We let it all out only at night when we’re alone.
That’s when we allow ourselves ser vulnerable. That’s when we allow ourselves to hear the painful moans and whimpers of our soul. The pain comes out through tears that make our pillow completely wet.
Véase también: 25 señales de que has vendido tu alma (+5 formas de recuperarla)
¿Cómo se cura un alma rota?
Tienes que entender que tu alma es ahora un cautivo of all the bad things you’ve gone through… of all the pain, stress, and suffering you’ve faced and are still facing every day.
Your soul is still beautiful… it’s still glowing, but you can’t see all that beauty because… well, because it’s wrapped in the darkness of all of your emociones reprimidas y acumuladas.
Let’s unfold it together and help you ganar paz interior. La paz te mereces tanto.
1. La vida es injusta, asúmelo
Confiaste demasiado. Amaste demasiado profundamente. Pero, por desgracia, siempre fue a la persona equivocada.
Confiabas cada vez que decían que se pondrían las pilas. Diste lo mejor de ti para no recibir nada a cambio.
Confiaste cuando te dijeron que iban en serio. Confiaste cuando te dijeron que eras suya para siempre. Esa persona a la que amaste infinita e incondicionalmente te prometió el mundo, y te dio el puro infierno.
I know that pain… it’s unbearable and impossible to describe to someone who hasn’t experienced it.
La vida te trataba mal. Cuando una cosa iba mal, parecía que todo lo demás también iba mal. Sientes que tu la vida es un completo desastre y no puedes hacer absolutamente nada para arreglarlo.
Todo se vino abajo como un castillo de naipes: problemas en casa, peleas con los amigos, problemas en el instituto o en el trabajo, salud quebrantada, confianza rota, corazón roto… it’s painful, but it’s real life.
Lo bueno es que te has acostumbrado tanto al dolor que de él has sacado tu fuerza actual.
You now understand that life doesn’t come with an instruction book. Sabes que la vida es imprevisible. Ahora, lo único que tienes que hacer es aceptarlo y superar la injusticia de la vida.
2. Por otro lado, celebra la vida como tu mayor bendición
So, every morning you get up. Hey, man, you still get up every morning, and that is your greatest victory. That’s the thing you should feel and sé agradecido para la mayoría.
Agradece cada aliento que respiras. Celebra tu existencia. Siéntete agradecido y afortunado por estar vivo.
Intenta no quejarte por cosas sin importancia. En realidad, intenta no quejarte en absoluto. Siéntete satisfecho y feliz con todo lo que tienes. Good things are in your life to make you happy… bad things are there to teach you a lesson and make you wiser.
Don’t take life for granted. Don’t allow yourself to feel any remorse when the moment of taking your last breath comes. Then, it’ll be too late for regrets.
3. Acepta tu quebrantamiento, pero nunca lo abraces
Pareces fuerte, pero sólo tú sabes lo débil que eres en realidad. Sólo tú sientes ese caos en tu alma.
Te haces el duro, pero en realidad, te sientes como you don’t know who you are anymore. You’re going through a real naufragio emocional and you don’t want to admit it to yourself.
Eres el primero en ayudar a todos los que te rodean. Das a los demás todo lo que secretamente desearías que alguien te diera a ti.
You’re trying so hard not to fall apart. But, on the other hand, you somehow accepted and learned to live with your brokenness. However, you still struggle with embracing it, and that’s actually your biggest problem.
You don’t have to embrace it… you need to fight it. Fight it so you don’t lose yourself… so you don’t become bitter… so you don’t indulge in autodesprecio… so you don’t start hating yourself and everyone around you.
Y, en verdad, el odio es el peor producto posible del a alma destrozada. Si dejas que ese horrible sentimiento te consuma, te dejará en una posición desesperada.
4. Recupera tu mojo
Did you know that one of the most common reasons why a person’s soul gets tired or broken is low self-esteem? If you’re struggling with confidence, that’s exactly what you should be focused on fixing and improving right now.
Céntrate claramente en ti mismo. Intenta pintar una imagen más bella de ti mismo en tu cabeza. Sea más amable consigo mismo.
Deja de criticarte por cada pequeño error que cometes. Cometer errores es parte inevitable del ser humano.
Deja de dudar de tu propia valía. You’re worth the whole world, and don’t ever allow anyone to make you believe any less than that.
En realidad, nunca debes permitir que otras personas interfieran demasiado en tu vida. Dar prioridad a los demás y depending on other people’s opiniones es lo que más agota tu alma.
Tu vida es un libro, y el portada is reserved for its main role. That’s you. You are, have always been, and will continue to be the main character of your life forever.
Trabaja en ti mismo e intenta convertirte en la mejor persona posible. Levántate… that’s how you’ll mend and alivia tu alma y tu corazón roto.
5. You can’t buy inner peace with a credit card
Cuando se trata de tu vida amorosa y de tu vida en general, hay una cosa que debes saber. El dinero nunca puede comprar el amor verdadero ni verdadera felicidad.
It can buy comfort and short-term joy, but that’s it. The things that money can’t buy are the things that truly matter the most in life.
La tranquilidad es un lujo que nunca se puede comprar con dinero. Hay que encontrarla y ganarla.
In extreme cases, when you’re truly feeling down, you can try shopping therapy if you think it’ll really boost your mood and help you feel better. Sin embargo, tienes que entender que el gasto emocional nunca va a funcionar a largo plazo.
Rodéate de gente a la que quieras y que te quiera. Es la única terapia probada para arreglando un alma cansada. That’s the only way to true, real, and pure happiness.
6. Mantén la fe. Se acercan días mejores
Tenga en cuenta que los días malos nunca son eternos. Sigues teniendo días buenos y te esperan días aún mejores.
Todavía hay muchos motivos en tu vida por los que sentirte feliz, por pequeños que parezcan a veces. Not every day is good or perfect, but there is something good in every day… especially for those who focus on finding it.
El hecho es que, a veces, el dolor empaña las cosas buenas de la vida. Sé consciente de ello. Aférrate a ella con todo lo que tengas.
Cree en el poder de segundas oportunidades, y alegrarse de los nuevos comienzos. It’s never too late to change your life and discover your true happiness.
7. Note to self: Don’t quit, you’re stronger than you think
That faith will give you hope. Hope, on the other hand, will give you the strength to keep on trying… to seguir avanzando.
You’ve been through so much. Your soul has been thickened from all the burden you have been carrying on your back for way too long.
Don’t give up. No matter how bad things become… don’t ever even think about giving up.
You’re a fighter. You’re a survivor. You’re keeping all those broken pieces together, hoping that you will find a way to glue them back together one day.
Como dijo Ana Frank, “Where there’s hope, there’s life. It fills us with fresh courage and makes us strong again.”
Citas de almas rotas
Unas palabras reconfortantes y alentadoras de un mejor amigo o un miembro de la familia puede llegar muy lejos cuando se trata de levantarnos el ánimo, ¿verdad?
Well, in that case, I’m sure these touching quotes below will be helpful on your journey of reparando tu alma destrozada. Or, at least, you’ll understand that you’re not alone in that journey, which is more than comforting.
1. “A broken soul doesn’t invest in boundaries because the world has crossed them without mercy.” – Shannon L. Alder
2. “Corazones rotos mend, but souls forever fight the battle.” – Jay Long
3. “I know you are tired, I know you are physically and emotionally drained. But, you have to keep going.” – Unknown
4. “Early on in my life, I had a broken soul. I was abused by my father, abandoned by my mother, and ended up in a destructive first marriage. By the time I was 23, I was broken in my soul. I didn’t know how to think right. I felt wrong about everything. But, God stepped into my life, and I came out on the other side and didn’t even smell like smoke.” – Joyce Meyer
5. “Sleep doesn’t help if it’s your soul that’s tired.” – Unknown
6. “For loving me, you will have to collect all the broken and dispersed pieces of my soul.” – Hilal Hamdan
7. “Broken souls are mended every day by mended souls that were once broken.” – Krista Ritchie
8. “The soul is healed by being with children.” – Fyodor Dostoyevsky
9. “I loved you unabashedly in the rain; you were real, raw, accustomed to pain. I loved you mostly in the rain where you exposed your broken soul, unashamed, dancing despite it all.” – Melody Lee
10. “There is a light within every soul; it only needs the clouds that overshadow it to be broken for it to beam forth.” – Hazrat Inayat Khan
11. “Sometimes, silence is the best therapy for the broken souls.” – Unknown
12. “When we are true to ourselves and follow these impulses that sweat from our compressed and broken souls, we may just find the beauty and the oh-so amazing way life can sneak up and smash us in the face!” – Danielle Rohr
13. “In the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.” – Max Ehrmann
14. “When you have those moments, just think of me. Call or text me when you feel weak and I will always be there for you. Nothing about this will be easy. Life is hard… we just feel it more than most because our souls have been broken and are raw.” – Raven K. Asher
15. “If broken lives and souls are to be healed, it must begin with teaching the practice of the presence… to abide in the presence of the Lord is to begin to hear Him. To follow through on that hearing is to find healing, self-acceptance, and growth into psychological and spiritual balance and maturity.” – Leanne Payne
Nota final
I hope you’ll listen to my advice, and that it will lead you to heal your broken soul. Please remember that it’s not enough to mend it now, and go back to living your old life.
You need to change your lifestyle in order to prevent these things from happening ever again. Your soul needs constant nurturing or it’ll keep breaking apart.
The truth is (and I’m sure you get it now) that you can never be sincerely and completely happy if your soul is hurting. It’s the same as if you’re pasando por el desamor.
Aunque sé que todo y todos los que te rodean son las verdaderas razones de tu alma rota, la verdad es que sólo tú tienes el poder de controlar tu vida. Los demás pueden romperte el ánimo solo si tú se lo permites.
Don’t ever go back to things or people that broke you. Sé el heroína of your life; don’t accept the victim role… Ever.
