A Friendly Touch Or Something More?
It’s all in the way he touches you. Every body part and the way he chooses to touch you all tell a different story.
Pay attention to his body language when he is near you and keep eye contact as he embraces you.
His facial expressions will tell you most of what you need to know.
Some guys love to flirt through the power of touch (which is the sexiest thing ever if you ask me…) so instead of fidgeting when you see he’s trying to touch your lower back, for example, let him near you and feel whatever is happening to your body at that moment.
If this is your first time together, there are ways that you can break the touch barrier and make the experience more enjoyable for both of you.
Even if you’re with one of your close friends or even your best friend, it’s not going to feel normal at first, simply because this is the first time he’s touching you in somewhat of a personal area (lower back, upper back, the upper part of your calf, etc.)
Below, you will be able to find all the different meanings to every type of touch.
Other than your waist, a guy can touch you in many other body areas that will equally excite you—if this is what you want, of course!
Good luck figuring out what it all means and keep in mind to watch his body language as well as making eye contact.
The Type Of Touch And Its Meaning
1. When he touches your hair
If he is slowly and softly caressing your hair, it means he is genuinely into you. If this is the case, you’ll get the vibe that I’m talking about.
If he is talking to you as he is putting your hair gently behind your ear, all the while looking you directly in the eye, he’s not shy about letting you know how he feels.
His body language will be very evident here, as he will be very close to you, doing everything in his power not to be too obvious, yet deeply wanting to grab you and kiss you.
He will have a genuine smile on his face and even if this is just a guy friend, trust me, he wants more.
This is a definite sign that he is into you in a physical and possibly romantic way.
What he wants is to cuddle you and make you feel loved and cherished, so don’t ignore these signs of attraction.
Guys don’t just touch your hair for nothing. They are trying to tell you something, so pay close attention!
2. When he touches your face
Let’s rewind for a second. How many times has a purely platonic guy friend touched your face just for the sake of it?
In my experience, it doesn’t happen that often. Because a touch on the face from a guy means a little something extra, especially if we’re talking about a shy guy!
He can give you all the high fives he wants but what he’s doing here is very simple—he’s being a flirt!
To shy guys, it’s not particularly easy just being open about how they feel, so watch out for his body language clues to tell you what he really means.
Don’t be checking your phone for text messages while he is putting himself out there.
This is a pretty big deal and you should take it as such. It’s a good sign that this guy has honest intentions and is willing to take it slow.
Respond to his vibe and see where it takes you.
3. When he touches your lips
He is definitely being upfront and forward here. Touching your lips is as personal as it gets.
He wants you and he doesn’t want to waste any more time. He is openly expressing his interest in you and now the ball is entirely in your court.
Will you respond in a romantic way or will you keep him guessing a little bit longer? It’s totally up to you.
Just know that out of all of the body language signs, touching your lips is the most obvious one. He likes you and the only question is if you feel the same way.
4. When he touches your head
When a guy touches your head, it’s similar to when he touches your hair. If you two are currently kissing, this means he doesn’t want to let you go.
He likes what’s happening and wants it to stay that way for as long as possible.
If he slowly nudges you, whispers something in your ear and makes direct eye contact, these are all signs he’s deeply into you.
It’s a playful, flirtatious way to cement his feelings and let you know he’s not going anywhere.
The head is a safe area to touch you, it’s not too forward but also not too innocent. It’s just enough to make you see where he’s at.
5. When he touches your neck
A person’s neck is a delicate part of their body. Just imagine the feeling of a guy gently caressing your neck with his fingers from one side to the other…
How does it make you feel? I think I know the answer and I believe you know where I’m going with this.
Touching your neck is a clear sign he is extremely into you and he doesn’t want to hide it.
6. When he touches your shoulder
Normally, touching a person’s shoulder doesn’t imply a romantic interest. It is one of the safest places to touch a person (if you must) without them getting the wrong impression.
You may be talking and the guy touches your shoulder as a sign that he agrees with what you’re saying. He just doesn’t want it to be weird, that’s all.
But there is an exception.
If he lingers for a while or if a simple touch turns into rubbing your shoulders to the point of giving you a massage, it may mean he’s into you after all.
You just have to decipher what he wants by making eye contact and pay attention to the vibe he’s giving out.
7. When he touches your arm
If he’s touching your arm, there might be a few possible explanations. An arm is not a personal area of one’s body so it may be a bit trickier getting to the bottom of this.
If you two are engaged in conversation, touching your arm might simply mean he’s really into the conversation.
BUT if he links arms with you, it signifies more than just a platonic touch. You don’t link arms with just anyone.
It’s with people you’re close with or with somebody you wish to be closer with.
So keep in mind, if he doesn’t normally link arms with you like this, perhaps he’s trying to tell you something.
8. When he touches your hand
Holding hands is clearly a romantic gesture but is he holding your hand or giving you high fives?
Those have different meanings. Holding your hand means he is into you in a way that’s pointing to a relationship and high fives are something buddies would do.
If you find that he keeps finding excuses to touch your hands, perhaps he’s trying to break the touch barrier.
If he ever interlocks fingers with you… girl, he couldn’t be more upfront than that. Good luck because this guy is a keeper.
9. When he touches your back
It depends where exactly on the back he’s touching you. Upper back doesn’t mean anything more than a friendly nudge.
But if he’s touching you on the lower back, it’s of a more flirtatious, playful nature.
Unless he is leading you through a crowded place, touching your lower back is a cheeky way to let you know he secretly likes you.
10. When he touches your waist
Now this is a sensual, sexy gesture. A man will touch you on your waist if he wants to pull you closer to him.
He might approach you from the back, put his hands on your waist and turn you around into a soft embrace.
Or he might just hold his hand on your waist while standing close to you. Either way, he wants you near and he wants it to be known you’re his.
Other Signs Of Attraction And What They Mean
1. Picking you up
In a way, he’s showing off. He wants you to see how strong and able he is. He wants you to fall for his masculinity and strength.
And why shouldn’t you? If you’ve got a guy who will just randomly pick you up and kiss you like he means it, hold on to him, honey.
Those guys are what we all secretly need. If you’ve got him, enjoy him and keep him as your dirty, little, sexy secret.
2. Hugging you
Generally with hugs, the longer it lasts, the more it means to him. If it’s a type of hug after not seeing each other for a while so he kisses you and quickly hugs you, it’s more of a friendly (but kind!) gesture.
But if he lingers and firmly embraces you with a genuine smile on his face, you may mean more to him than just his buddy. If he hugs you gently and frequently, it’s a sign of attraction.
3. Resting his head on your shoulder
He needs a gentle rest and he has found it on your shoulder—so sweet! He feels safe, secure and loved around you.
It’s a sign he likes how he feels around you. Now, depending on how often he does this, it probably means a bit more than just a friendly rest.
Use your gut to tell you if him resting his head on you means more than just what it appears. Oftentimes it’s the first step toward something more serious.
4. Interlocking fingers while holding your hand
This is an intimate, romantic gesture. A guy friend will never do this (unless you’re walking through a pitch-dark place and you’re scared af).
If he interlocks his fingers with yours, it clearly indicates that he likes you. And the vibe itself will tell you more than a thousand words ever could!
5. Not being able to keep his hands off you
If he just can’t seem to not touch you, he’s dying to tell you how much he really likes you!
A guy like this has probably asked you out a million times in his head, so he’s just hoping that his willingness to be so upfront without necessarily saying the words will make it more clear to you.
He wants you, he likes you and he needs you to finally figure it out. Good luck to him!
6. Touching his face while talking to you
Touching his face while near you means you’re making him nervous! But the good kind.
The kind where he is so fond of you that he doesn’t know what to do with his hands anymore. The kind that is making him fidgety and anxious.
In translation—he’s digging you and hard. So much so that you’re screwing with his mind (and his hands).
Let him know you’re getting what he’s trying to tell you and if you’re in, help him find something better to do with hands!
7. Touching you with his feet
He is being a goof and a flirt! Playing footsie, playing flirtsie! Touch him back and see what happens.
In a matter of seconds, you two are going to end up doing much more than touching feet (if you’re both into it of course).
This guy is desperately trying to let you know he wants you and he wants you now. There’s nothing left to do other than catch his drift and decide if it’s something you’re into!