We always hear it… the famous phrase ”Men are so simple.” We lead our lives believing this lie and confining men within the boundaries of their gender.
Did you forget that they’re human beings first? They are just as complex as any of us women.
What do I mean by this? How can you understand a man? How can you know he’s the one for you?
So many questions and the answers seem so out of reach… but they’re not. If you keep reading, you will have them all… and much more!
How Do You Read A Man’s Mind?
You can’t read a man’s mind any more than they can read yours.
We’re not sorcerers with superpowers, just human beings who can’t know what the other is feeling unless we ask them.
Yes, that’s right. If you want to know a man’s thoughts, there is no other way but to openly communicate with them.
I know that scares you because we are used to repressing our feelings and acting like they don’t matter. But, they do. Your peace of mind is of primary importance, and it’s actually your duty to achieve it.
So, the next time you’re having doubts about a man, share them. What’ve you got to lose? The only result could be a more loving relationship (unless he’s too immature).
If you’re not in a relationship, though, you can still follow the same principle. Communication is ALWAYS key.
How Do I Understand A Man? Tips To Keep In Mind
In order to understand a man, you need two things: an open mind and empathy. Don’t stick to your old beliefs but rather expand your horizons and truly try to understand what’s hiding beneath the surface.
Now that we’ve established that, here’s what you need to know about the true nature of a man and how you need to act with him:
Born to be your superhero
Have you noticed how much a man enjoys fixing things for you?
Have you noticed how fulfilled he is when he takes care of you?
Well, that is called the hero instinct.
Essentially, men are taught that their role in life is to be your caretaker. When they cannot help you in every way you desire, they feel like failures.
Voices from the past ring in their ears and tell them: ”One day, you’re going to get married, and you’re going to have to provide for your wife.”
It’s difficult to abandon your core beliefs. What they tell men in childhood, that’s who they’re going to be. And I’m sure we know what’s expected of each gender.
Even when they know how wrong these expectations are, it is still engraved in their minds, and they can’t just change overnight.
When you try to understand a man, keep this in mind and help him overcome it. But, do not, by any circumstance, cater to his grandiose wishes of being your hero. You are your own hero. Never forget that.
He came, he saw, he conquered
What men want most is victory. It doesn’t matter what the final prize is as long as they have it. It can be a job promotion…or you.
Why is this important?
Well, it’s because the things men do aren’t without an explanation or cause. And, if they have a cause, they can be stopped.
Now, don’t get me wrong. Being ambitious and wanting to win is great. However, if this becomes their primary drive in life, that’s a problem.
You wouldn’t want to be one of his prizes, right? I’m sure you had another label in mind.
Well, then understand that this, too, stems from the childhood stories they listened to. You can help him understand that it’s okay to take it slow sometimes and that losing won’t make him weak.
Encourage him to be his best self but also remind him that he has nothing to prove and that he’s enough as he is.
A closed book
Men tend to hide their feelings, but no, it’s not in their nature. It’s the result of a traumatic upbringing that made them learn to invalidate themselves.
You will never hear them complain. They solve their issues internally without your help. They might even call you dramatic for expressing your feelings, but they secretly hate that they’re not as brave as you.
What can you do?
Well, start by opening up to him. Make him see that emotional vulnerability isn’t such a frightening thing. Then, encourage him to do the same.
You don’t have to do this directly. You can do it through your actions. But, do not, under any circumstance, ridicule him if he expresses his emotions.
Rather ask him questions and show him that you understand. You will both help him and make your relationship more meaningful.
Men don’t have to be ‘manly’
Are you the type of woman who judges a man when he’s emotional?
Do you tell him he’s weak?
If so, I hate to break it to you, but that’s not the wisest choice of words. It just makes him feel insecure, so don’t be surprised if you start fighting or if he distances himself.
All their lives, men hear how they have to ‘toughen up.’ They aren’t even allowed to have a bad day without someone telling them that’s not a very ‘manly thing’ to do.
In the end, that becomes their only wish, and this is called toxic masculinity.
Well, guess what? It is the right of each man and woman to embrace their feelings. Neither is supposed to be only ‘manly’ or only ‘feminine.’
Men are not from Mars, and women are not from Venus. Men don’t have to like video games, and women don’t have to be fragile. They are both allowed to mix it up.
After all, we’re human, aren’t we? Our gender doesn’t matter much. So, the next time you feel like you’re about to utter something so hurtful, stop and think it through.
Wanting to understand a man isn’t the same thing as carefully observing what made him who he is and gently remedying the harmful effects.
What’s in the box?
Well, it’s not the remains of Brad Pitt’s wife, but neither is your man.
I know you want me to reveal the truth. How do you really understand a man? But, the only truth is this: Each man is different, and you can’t put them in a single box.
Some are alpha males, and some are shy. Some approach you only to play with you, and some want commitment.
They DO NOT possess the same wishes and needs as many have made you believe. If you can’t figure your man out, try talking to him. Or, simply analyze what’s there in front of you.
Don’t hold onto stereotypes because, trust me, they will not help you. You will only end up feeding your mind with falsehoods, which will make you unnecessarily miserable.
Instead, rely on your critical thinking skills, intuition, and empathy.
Remember – While there are certain similarities, just as with women, each man is an individual. Treat them as such.
How Do You Make A Man Understand You?
Well, you can’t magically achieve that.
You are both adults who are perfectly capable of sorting things out. So, instead of complaining to your friends about him and seeking answers on the internet, do this:
• Calmly explain to him why you’re upset.
• Remember that you’re seeking a solution, not more problems.
• Listen to his side of the story.
• Both of you clearly state your needs.
• Take accountability for your actions.
• Actively work to become better partners.
If you have an avoidant partner, though, you’re going to have to approach the matter with a little more caution and empathy.
How Do You Tell If A Man Is For You?
We all have our doubts. It’s not strange to question the love we have for someone or the love someone has for us.
So, if you’re unsure whether the guy in front of you is the right one, here are some signs that will help you with that:
1. No need for pretense.
I know you often suppress parts of yourself to attract men. But, when you finally find a good one, there is no need for that.
There are no mixed signals, and you are finally able to be who you are, and so is he. You celebrate each other’s differences and enjoy what you have in common.
Your jokes are always understood, your feelings never judged, and each word you say is cherished like gospel.
These are all signs that a man truly loves you.
2. Undying excitement.
I’m sure you’ve all felt it…the overwhelming enthusiasm that their presence brings. You can’t get the smile off of your face. It lights up each second you’re with him.
You can just sense that he’s attracted to you. The chemistry is unparalleled, and the prolonged eye contact makes you feel like this is what you’ve been waiting for all your life. His body language says it, too. Also, you can’t wait to choose a perfectly cute boyfriend contact name for him.
He’s not one to change after the honeymoon phase but rather makes the whole relationship a honeymoon phase.
That’s how you know he’s the right man for you.
3. A mind that rejects everyone else.
Do you know that line from Lana Del Rey’s song: ‘‘Why wait for the best when I could have you?”
Well, if you’ve found a high-value guy, you know exactly what she’s talking about.
You feel like you’ve found what you’ve been looking for for so long. Why, then, would you look elsewhere?
4. Friendship set on fire.
If you’re in a long-term relationship, I’m sure you’ll agree with me that friendship is what truly makes it special. Yes, physical attraction is important, but that’s not what makes it last.
If you’re not able to have fun as friends and share intimate thoughts with each other, then what’s the point?
So, if you’ve found a true friend in a man, I assure you that you’ve also found the perfect partner.
5. A soul that recognizes what it sought.
You really just sense it when a man is right for you, sometimes even after the first date.. There is an inexplicable connection that no one and nothing is able to break. For the first time in your life, you feel safe and understood.
With other guys, there were always barriers you never dared to cross, but with him, those barriers don’t exist. You are drawn to each other to the point where you merge. If you feel this way, that’s your sign.
P.S. If you still haven’t found a guy who has made you feel the things described above, try reading ”To Date a Man, You Must Understand a Man: The Keys to Catch a Great Guy (Dating and Relationship Advice for Women).’’
Another great book to help you understand a man better is ”Power Texting Men,” and both are written by Gregg Michaelsen, a relationship expert.
This way, you will increase your chances of forming a serious relationship with a man.
How Do You Make A Man Realize He Made A Mistake?
Well, just tell him.
How can he realize that he made a mistake if you don’t let him know? You can’t be mad with someone over something they have no clue about.
This is one of the biggest mistakes women make. They forget that good communication is a sign of a healthy relationship. So, you be the one to practice it. Talk it out and see where the issue lies.
If he refuses to accept the blame even after all your efforts, then I’m afraid that’s a major red flag. If he doesn’t respect you enough to take your feelings into consideration, he is just bad news.
I hate to tell you this, but the best course of action would be to just walk away.
On the other hand, if he’s willing to put in the necessary work to remedy what he has done, he’s an emotionally mature man you should always cherish.
How Do You Make A Guy Miss You Badly?
Are you eager to get your ex back? Or, do you have a crush on a guy who suddenly stopped texting you?
If it were up to me, I would tell you that a guy who rejects you isn’t worthy of your efforts.
But, since it’s not, I am here to show you that not all hope is lost. Here are some pieces of dating advice that will make him rush back to you immediately:
Be the life of the party
For some strange reason, guys often distance themselves after intimacy, so if you want him to miss you, you have to show him that you’re having a great time without him.
So, go out with your friends, travel to new cities, and post pictures to show him that you don’t really need him. Also, don’t text him and he will text you.
He will reach out to you for two reasons:
1. He can’t stand that you’ve forgotten all about him.
2. He’s attracted to your energetic spirit and wants to be a part of your life.
Either way, you win.
Work your old charm
Sometimes, men pull away because they just need some space. It’s not necessarily over. But, we don’t have time for such analysis.
If you want to win him back, it’s essential that you accentuate all that made him fall in love with you in the first place.
Was it your playful personality? Or, was it your opinionated self?
Whatever it was, make sure that you bring back the old you to help you seduce him. Join forces and remind him of what he lost. He’ll come right back knocking at your door!
Or, if you’re too impatient, just tell him you like him. You’ve got nothing to lose.
Show him you have options
Maybe he doesn’t want a relationship with you right now, but he can still be motivated to change his mind, and nothing can motivate a man more than the presence of another man!
So, feel free to be a bit flirty and to play hard to get, or if you dislike playing games, then simply mention how many suitors you have when he’s around.
You will notice that he’s paying attention because he just can’t stand the competition! Another guy having you is even worse than not having you at all. Slightly odd, but it is what it is.
The bottom line is that if you make him jealous, you’ve done half the job of winning him back!
Tip: While it’s valid to act on your feelings, you also need to understand the importance of mutual effort. If he doesn’t try at all, then maybe it’s time to finally let go.
Know when to walk away
Be honest with yourself. A man who wants to be with you WILL be with you. It’s that simple. Move on and find someone who will truly appreciate you instead of focusing on a guy who won’t even lift a finger.
How Do I Make Him Realize My Value?
Well, start by realizing it yourself.
If he disrespects you often, don’t make excuses for him. Demand the respect you give him. Granted, if he were a quality man who really cared about you, you wouldn’t have to tell him any of this. But alright, we are only human after all.
Let him know what is okay to do and what is not. Let him do the same. Of course, this doesn’t mean that you are each other’s slaves. That’s not what boundaries are.
Boundaries are only there so that you can maintain a more healthy relationship. Before being partners, you are individuals with different needs.
This is why it’s crucial to state them instead of just hoping that your partner will fulfill them without even knowing what they are.
Now, I know I’m no dating coach, but here’s an honest piece of advice: You will never have to prove your worth to a woman or a man who truly loves you. They will cherish you without you ever needing to tell them.
In order to understand a man, you need to look at him with unbiased eyes. Don’t put him in a box with the rest of them but rather see him for the individual he is.
If you have a problem, say what it is clearly. It won’t disappear until you face it together. But, remember – it is not you vs. each other but you vs. the problem.
Nevertheless, if you notice that a man has no interest in contributing to the relationship, love yourself enough to walk away.
Every woman needs and deserves a great love story, so don’t settle for less.