I know what you were doing a few seconds ago! ? You were checking his phone number or his profile on social media in disbelief at how cute and hot he is. And then you thought to yourself: God, if only he would ask me out! Wait, should I ask him out?
Now we’re talking.
Today I want to encourage you to let go of all those stereotypes and gender roles related to making the first move. No, men are not obliged to always be the first ones who will ask women out. It’s totally okay for women to ask them out, too!
I also want to encourage you to forget about those playing hard-to-get games because the majority of men don’t even fall for that anymore. They want a woman who knows what she wants, who fights for what she wants, and knows how to get it.
They want a woman who will not be afraid to ask them out because this means only one thing: She’s a confident goddess.
Now, name me a man who is not attracted to a confident woman. Can’t think of anyone? That’s what I thought! ? If you need more convincing, below you’ll find all the reasons why you should ask that guy out ASAP!
Should I Ask Him Out? Here’s Why You Should!
If you ask me, there are more reasons why you should ask him out than why you shouldn’t. If you don’t believe me, then you’ll find the truth in the following signs:
1. Yes, because you can (and because you like him A LOT).
Should I ask him out? Should you tell him you like him? Yes, woman!
I know that you‘re sick of online dating and you really like him. ? You enjoy spending time with him and you know you have the potential to establish a great relationship.
You shouldn’t be looking for a plethora of reasons why you should ask him out. The only thing that matters is that you really like him.
When you like someone, you don’t overthink things and you don’t wait for them to make the first move. (It took me a while to implement that one.)
2. You have this uncontrollable urge to share everything with him.
Do you have this urge to share with him everyday situations from funny to serious ones? When someone pisses you off, is he the first person you want to tell that to? When something great happens to you, do you want to share it with him first?
I know you do and that’s why you should ask him out in the first place. It‘s evident that you see him as someone you can trust and someone who understands you, which is really rare to find nowadays.
3. He occupies your mind EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.
If you’re at the mall, or watching a movie, do you frequently experience situations like ”OMG, he would love this” or similar?
Are you having a hard time focusing on tasks at hand because you’re thinking about… HIM?
Of course, you do.
Thinking of you quotes has never been more truthful. ? This is not something that happens all of a sudden because you basically spend the majority of your day thinking of him (at least in the background).
4. If you ask him out, he will be impressed by your courage and confidence.
Should I ask him out? Do you seriously need more reasons? Just kidding! ? Yes, you should ask him out because this will be a huge turn-on for him!
Men are attracted to strong and independent women who know what they want. Period. Those who aren’t attracted to such women are either insecure or players who will only break your heart.
Every man dreams of being asked out by a fierce and courageous woman like you! They want to feel special too, just like we women do.
5. He makes you laugh (without much effort).
A guy who can make you laugh is a true keeper. So, don’t even bother overthinking the question of whether you should ask a guy out.
It’s not only about him making you laugh. It’s about you enjoying his company (and visa versa). When you’re compatible, everything goes smoothly.
You laugh, you talk about serious things, you laugh some more… And yes, you ask him out. ?
6. You know he’s a shy guy.
We all know that dating a shy guy can be really challenging. First of all, you can never be sure whether he likes you or not. Well, one of the signs a shy guy is into you is him avoiding eye contact with you.
Guys who are shy often think that they’re in the middle of a friend zone. They don’t even dare to take things to the next level because they’re convinced she sees them only as a good friend. To them, the dating world is confusing and exhausting.
If you wait for a shy guy to make the first move, you and I both know that this will never happen. So, I encourage you to take the first step and ask him out!
7. Texting banter is consistent.
Your textual chemistry is real. When he texts you, you can feel the excitement through your entire body. His flirty texts and banter is what makes your day.
So, here‘s my ultimate dating / relationship advice: Ask him out already!
The mere fact that you enjoy texting with him means that he’s making real effort when it comes to this! Why would he do that? Because he secretly likes you, that’s why!
For some reason, he hasn’t asked you out yet. He might be trying to figure out whether you like him, too. Well, do you? It’s time to let him know!
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8. You can’t help yourself but compare all the guys to him.
You compare all the guys in your dating life with HIM. Not only that. Whenever you see that romantic or hot movie scene with your favorite male actress, you immediately think of him.
The reason why you compare all the guys with him is that he captured your attention. Not only that. He captured your heart as well. Will you continue comparing him with others or do something regarding your feelings for him?
9. You want to get to know him better (outside the virtual world).
A million dollar question: Should I ask him out? Hmm…
If you don’t usually hang out or if you only hang out in group settings, it’s normal that you’ll feel the urge to get to know him better and find out his zodiac sign. ?
So, yes, you should ask him out because you truly want to get to know him better. You want to see whether you’re truly compatible.
And yes, you want to cuddle with him and do some other ”spicy things” as well. ?
10. (You think) he likes you, too.
I bet you’ve spent lots of time trying to figure out whether he likes you as much as you like him. One of the surefire signs he likes you is him smiling and radiating happiness everytime he sees you.
Another sign that he totally likes you is if he playfully teases you and uses every opportunity to make you laugh. He doesn‘t give you mixed signals and you know he’s not playing with you.
PRO TIP: If your best friend tells you that he likes you, chances are high he’s/she’s telling the truth.
11. You’ve already planned your first date (in your head).
Okay, it’s time to be honest with yourself. I know you’ve already planned your first date in your head. You also thought about all the potential things to talk about on a first date.
But have you thought about how to ask the guy out? I suggest you do that first and then think about date ideas and other things related to it.
I also suggest checking out these controversial relationship questions so that you know whether you’re truly compatible or not.
12. If you don’t ask him out, you know you’ll regret it.
Is he getting ready to ask me out? What if he never does that? Should I ask him out instead?
Regret is stronger than any other emotion. Love life is complicated. Life is complicated. Dating apps are a nightmare. Waiting for the right guy to appear in your life feels like waiting for something that will never happen.
So, what’s the worst thing that could happen if you decide to ask him out?
One thing is for sure: If you don’t ask him out, you know you’ll regret it. So, make a move! Let him know that you’re interested in getting to know him better.
There’s nothing wrong with being a single woman and there’s also nothing wrong with asking a guy out first!
13. It’s simply empowering.
I know for a fact that every time I do something I fear, I immediately jump into the empowering mode and feel great about myself!
Asking a guy out will make you feel like that. If you need more encouragement, I suggest implementing empowering daily affirmations for women.
Hindustan Times might be onto something: “So, what is it that stops women from making the first move? Psychotherapist and life coach Neeta V Shetty attributes it to traditional and cultural reasons. She says, ’The fear of rejection stops them from making the first move. Many women also feel shy to do so.’”
Conquer the fear of rejection. Show to the world and the universe that you can do whatever you set your mind to.
Do Guys Like It When You Ask Them Out?
Guys like it when you ask them out because they know this is something not every girl is willing to do. They are impressed by your courage and not giving a damn about traditional gender roles.
I mean, what’s there not to like? I doubt any guy would say: Why did she ask me out? Instead, he will feel flattered and he will admire your bravery. They know that this is something only a confident and a strong woman would do.
So, should a woman ask a man out? Yes, she definitely should because every guy secretly hopes that one special woman will do that.
You have two solutions here: You can either ask him out or get him to ask you out! But don’t wait too long for him to make the first move.
How Long Should I Wait Before Asking A Guy Out?
Two weeks after meeting is enough time to see whether you have some potential and compatibility to start dating. So, I suggest that you wait two weeks after you meet a guy and then ask him out (in case he doesn’t).
How long should I wait for him to ask me out? You should wait at least two weeks for him to ask you out. If you’re not eager to ask him out first, then wait for three to four weeks. After that, I suggest you take things into your own hands (if you catch my drift).
Just Do It!
No, I’m not promoting a Nike logo but just encouraging you to stand up for your happiness. Would you rather overthink your whole life with this one question: Should I ask him out?
Or is it better to simply ask him out and know where you stand? Even if he doesn’t accept the invitation, you still win. Why?
Because you won’t be wasting any of your time thinking about whether you should ask him out. You will focus on meeting someone else with whom you’re meant to be. ?
