“She likes me…she likes me not…She certainly likes me. But what if she doesn’t?”
How do you know if a girl likes you? Should you rely solely on your intuition or wait for her to openly express her affection for you?
Wait, is there another more subtle way to realize whether she likes you or not? Yes, there is, and it’s called ASKING THE RIGHT QUESTIONS. (I’m not yelling at you, just emphasizing the importance of this statement. ?)
As a woman, I can tell you that good questions are always better than small talk. There’s something truly special about a guy who just knows to ask the right questions and impress a girl without much effort.
So, if you’re looking for the green light to ask a girl out, you’ll find a list of the best questions to ask a girl to see if she likes you below! As a bonus, I’ll also add some deep, flirty, and funny questions to ask a girl you like. You can thank me later! ?
25 Best Questions To Ask A Girl To See If She Likes You
When one of my male friends asked me recently: What are the best questions to ask a girl to see if she likes you? I sent him the following list of questions:
1. Can I borrow your attention for a second?
Is there a better conversation starter than this interesting question? I thought not. If you ask me, this is the most practical and unintrusive way of catching the attention of the girl you like.
By asking her politely to give you a few seconds/minutes of her time, it says that you respect her time. Trust me, if a girl likes you, she will be more than happy to communicate with you, be it in person or via text.
If she’s not interested in you, she’ll most likely make an excuse and say something like Sorry, I’m busy right now. If she does that, don’t bother contacting her again unless she decides to contact you first.
2. Have you ever made the first move?
Many of you guys think that girls aren’t that interested in making the first move. Well, I’m definitely not one of those girls, and I’m sure there are plenty of other girls like me.
By asking her this question, you’ll give her the green light to make the first move if that’s something she usually does. Perhaps she was not sure whether you liked her or not, so she waited for some kind of confirmation.
However, if she doesn’t make the first move (ask you out on a date), even after you’ve asked her this question, don’t be alarmed.
Maybe she’s one of those shy girls who need lots of courage to open up to someone new, let alone ask them on a date.
3. How are things going?
I know this might sound silly, but one of the easiest ways to know if a girl truly likes you is to ask her this simple question. Why? For two reasons:
1. I know for a fact how annoying this question is to girls who aren’t interested in you. Trust me, they will not refuse to show you this either directly or subtly.
2. I know for a fact how awesome this question is to girls who genuinely like you. They’ll instantly think of a million answers to intrigue you and present themselves as someone who’s enjoying their life to the fullest.
4. Would you ever double/triple-text a guy you like?
This is a tricky question. If she’s already guilty of double-texting, then you can be sure this girl TOTALLY likes you. You have no idea how much time we spend overthinking before we resort to this method.
We’re scared of being perceived as desperate, needy, or clingy, and sometimes, double or triple texting has that effect on the receiver. And yes, we do it because we like you a lot.
So, if she confirms that she has a habit of sending multiple texts to someone she likes, there you go. Just wait for her to do the same thing with you, and you’ll know why.
5. Do you have any passions?
If a girl is ready to talk openly and honestly about her passions, then you know she’s into you. Honestly, we don’t like sharing the most sacred parts of ourselves with people we don’t really like.
Passionate women reserve their passion for guys who potentially can win their hearts (or who already have). I was asked this question by a guy the last time I was on a date.
I said that my biggest passion is singing. He immediately replied: “Well, I can help you with that because I play the guitar!”
You have no idea how happy I was at that moment. The idea of creating something together with the guy I’m crazy about made me like him even more.
Plot twist: It turned out he’s emotionally unavailable, and I still have no idea what exactly I should do with him.
6. When was the last time you went to the cinema?
Instead of asking her something like “What’s your favorite movie of all time?” be wiser and ask her when the last time she went to the cinema was.
If she likes you, she’ll use this as a perfect opportunity to suggest seeing a movie with you. If you haven’t dated before, this could be an ideal first date.
After asking her that question about cinema, you can also use this follow-up question: What kind of movies/TV shows do you prefer?
You certainly don’t want to disappoint her with your choice of movie, right? And this is a perfect opportunity to test her ability to compromise.
7. Which nickname would suit me best?
Here’s the thing with us women. We NEVER, EVER give guys we are not fond of nicknames. We don’t even care about calling them by their real name, let alone making an effort to come up with the right nickname for them.
So, yes, if a girl instantly jumps into “guy nickname searching” mode, you can be sure she likes you. Also, pay attention to what type of nickname she suggests that suits you best.
This will tell you a lot about how she perceives you.
For example, I recently gave this emotionally unavailable guy I started dating a “Viking” nickname. He suggested that his personality is more fluffy than Viking-like, so I changed it into Fluffy Viking. ?
Yes, he was impressed by my ability to compromise.
8. How have you been spending your free time lately?
Asking a girl what her favorite thing to do in her free time is, is an alternative to asking her: Do you want to go on a date with me?
If she’s interested in spending time with you, she’ll find a way to include you in her free-time activities. This could be just about anything from going for a walk to Netflix and chill.
As a matter of fact, this is even better than asking her out on a date. When it’s not officially a date, you feel more relaxed. This is especially true if you’re crazy about her.
The last time I prepared to go on a date, I had to meditate, practice breathing exercises, and pray to the universe not to let me fu** things up. It’s totally frustrating when you like someone so much.
9. Do you have a favorite memory with me?
If you’ve already spent some time together, then this is an appropriate question to ask her. It would be weird if you asked her this question if you’ve only texted so far.
Pay close attention to her answer. If her favorite memory with you was something sentimental and special, then you know this girl likes you a lot.
And if she says something like, Oh, I can’t think of any at the moment, then you know she doesn’t really like you.
It’s as simple as that, but we humans like to complicate things only to make our lives more miserable. (Okay, maybe I overdid it with the previous sentence. ?)
10. How would you describe me in 3 words?
If a guy asked me this question, I would give him an honest answer. I’m pretty sure every girl would do the same because of the following two reasons:
• If she likes you, she’ll want you to know why she likes you. So, describing you in 3 words is the perfect opportunity to do so.
• If she doesn’t like you, she’ll want you to know that she doesn’t. So, refusing to describe you in 3 words or describing you in not so compelling words will do the job.
11. Have you been to (a certain place) yet?
By asking her this question, you give her all the power of choice. If she likes you, she can pretend that she hasn’t been to that place before and suggest you go together.
If she doesn’t like you, she can say that she’s been there before and didn’t really like it. This could also be a hint that she doesn’t like you either. ?
12. What are the qualities you look for in a guy?
Let’s say that you have all those qualities she looks for in a guy. Then she’ll, without hesitation, mention them to you.
The best of all is that by asking her this question, you’ll know what type of guys she likes. This doesn’t mean you should undergo a huge transformation only to make her fall for you.
Well, you can update your current personality and appearance to catch her attention. Again, I have to refer to the emotionally unavailable guy I’ve already mentioned a few times.
I told him that I prefer guys with nice beards, preferably long hair (basically savage men who look like Vikings.) And what did he do after that?
He got an undercut. I didn’t notice it at first, so he made sure to mention it to me.
(I hope your girl will be less blind than me.)
13. Do you have any suggestions on how I could improve myself?
If a girl likes you, she’ll like you the way you are. Period. Okay, maybe she’ll want to change a few things about you, but it won’t be anything big for sure.
So, pay attention to what she says when you ask her this question. If she starts making a list of things she would like to improve on you, chances are she’s not that into you.
An ideal response to this question would be: “You could ask me out on a date.” That would be truly epic, right?
14. What are the things that annoy you the most?
The worst-case scenario: she replies, “You.” ? I doubt that this would happen, so there’s nothing you should worry about.
The whole point of this question is to see whether she trusts you enough to share such delicate things with you. The more you share with others, the stronger the connection.
If you notice that she hesitates to tell you about the things that annoy her, then you know she’s not interested in letting you get to know her better. In other words, she’s not interested in connecting with you.
15. I was wondering what you are up to this weekend?
This is one of the best questions to ask a girl to see if she likes you. This is another way of asking a girl: Do you want to go out with me this weekend?
Trust me, she’ll know why you asked her this. If she likes you, she’ll do her best to let you know that she doesn’t have any plans for the upcoming weekend.
If she doesn’t like you, she’ll do her best to let you know how busy she’ll be this weekend, the weekend after that – you know the drill.
16. Can you suggest some new restaurants with good food?
If a girl suggests new restaurants with good food without subtly inviting herself to go with you, this could mean she doesn’t really like you.
But if she suggests a few restaurants and, more importantly, that you go together – there you have it. This girl totally likes you!
However, keep in mind that some girls won’t subtly invite themselves but wait for you to invite them. That would be your plan B.
17. What are your biggest turn-ons and turn-offs?
Learning about her turn-ons and turn-offs will definitely help you when it comes to seducing her and finding out whether she likes you or not.
If she answers this question in a flirty way and gives you enough info to spark your imagination, then you know she’s into you.
When a girl likes a guy, she’ll be open regarding this matter because she wants him to know everything about her, including her likes and dislikes, aka turn-ons and turn-offs.
18. When was the last time you went on an adventure?
If a guy I liked asked me this question, I would tell him immediately, A long time ago! I’d say this in hopes he’d suggest doing something adventurous with me.
If a girl you like says the same thing (or something similar), know that she’s creating a space for you to ask her out or go on an adventure.
Well, this is basically the same thing because a date is a kind of an adventure. The levels of excitement are the same.
19. If you could spend a week anywhere in the world with one person. Who would it be?
Imagine she says: You. I’ll be honest with you. The chances of that happening are relatively low, but it doesn’t hurt to try. Maybe she’ll name a family member or her best friend.
The worst-case scenario: She names another guy, so you realize she likes someone else. If that happens, do yourself a favor and walk away to avoid being friend zoned.
Once you enter that realm, it’s really hard to escape.
20. Can you describe to me your ideal date?
Yup, this is also one of the great questions to ask a girl to see if she likes you. After she describes her ideal date, you can ask her out. Or you can use this “data” later when you decide to ask her out on a date.
This question is definitely a must if you want everything to go smoothly. Let’s say that she hates fancy dates at a restaurant, and you take her there. You don’t want to ruin your first date just because of your choice of place, right?
21. What’s the next thing on your bucket list?
I’m pretty sure the girl you like has a bucket list because who doesn’t? We all have hopes and dreams, places, and other things we’d like to experience and intoxicate ourselves with the feeling of excitement and fulfillment.
This list doesn’t need to be written out. It can also be an imaginary one stored in our brains. Asking her about the next thing on her bucket list can be truly helpful, meaning you can suggest doing that thing together in the near future.
22. Do you catch feelings easily?
I must admit that I’m one of those women who catch feelings easily. If I like a guy, I can’t help but let him know.
Yes, I’m perfectly aware that they can use this to their advantage. In my defense: players certainly do, but those who truly like you back won’t.
If she’s like me (or partially like me), chances are she’ll not only admit that she catches feelings easily, but she’ll also give you a hint that she should be falling for you. That would be awesome, right?
23. How do you express affection when you like someone?
I daresay that this question is a lifesaver in itself. It will save you lots of overthinking and sleepless nights.
Instead of googling the signs a girl is into you, ask her directly to tell you the signs she exhibits when she likes someone.
Make sure to remember her answer or take a screenshot if she sends it via text. The next time you notice her words or actions resonate with what she said to you, you can be sure she likes you more than you think.
24. What do you like about me most?
CAUTION: If you’re not quite comfortable enough asking her this question, then don’t. This question is specifically reserved for the brave ones (I’m actually trying to motivate you).
I’ve realized that we girls like guys who are straightforward and confident when it comes to approaching girls.
So, instead of asking a girl something like, Do you like me? I think a better alternative would be assuming that she already likes you and asking her, What do you like about me most?
If she truly likes you, she’ll not feel the need to question whether she likes you or not but immediately let you know why she likes you. Brilliant, right?
25. I have a multiple-choice question for you: Do you want to go out with me? A: Yes B: Yes
Of all the above questions to ask a girl to see if she likes you, this one is my top favorite. Why? Because it’s direct, funny, and witty.
Know that no single girl who likes a guy will be able to resist falling for him even harder if he asks her this question.
Just like the previous one, this question doesn’t really give you a choice. You already assume that she likes you, and you’re just asking her to confirm. And if she does, she’ll definitely confirm it.
More Interesting Questions To Ask A Girl You Like
From personal questions to funny and random questions, the below lists have them all. Pro tip: Pay attention to her body language signals if you ask her these questions in person.
The following deep questions will help spark a great conversation and also help you get to know her better. (You can use these on your first date as well).
How would you describe your best friend?
• What’s your biggest deal-breaker in a romantic relationship?
• What fictional character resembles you?
• What are the things you like and dislike on social media?
• If you could save only one childhood memory, what would it be?
• If you had to choose between your dream job and an unlimited amount of money, what would you choose?
• In what ways have you changed since high school?
• What was the last thing you cried about?
• What’s your love language?
• Have you been in a serious relationship before (and why did it end)?
• If you could have any superpower, what would it be?
• What’s your spirit animal?
These flirty questions will help boost your flirting game and tease her like a pro. She’ll definitely like it.
• Where’s the craziest place you’ve ever hooked up with someone?
• What did you think of me the first time you saw me?
• Who is your celebrity crush (if you have one)?
• What’s the longest you’ve ever held eye contact with someone you like?
• Do you remember your first kiss?
• Are you attracted to men with a great sense of humor?
• What’s the best and worst thing about having a crush?
• Do you believe in love at first sight?
• Do you believe in soulmates?
• What do you prefer: kissing or cuddling?
• What is it about you I’m so attracted to?
One thing is for sure. Fun questions are always trending. If you can make a girl laugh while asking her an interesting question, then you can definitely make her fall for you.
• What’s the funniest pickup line you’ve ever heard?
• If you had to watch one TV show for the rest of your life, what would it be?
• What would you do if you found yourself in the middle of a zombie apocalypse?
• If you were a fruit, what would you be and why?
• If you had to smell like a specific food for a month, which would you choose?
• What’s the funniest and most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?
• How would you spend your time if you could be invisible for three days?
• Do you have any useless talents?
• Did you have an imaginary friend as a child?
• What’s the worst excuse you ever used to get rid of a guy you didn’t like?
Wrapping It Up
The best questions to ask a girl to see if she likes you are not too direct and neither too subtle. You don’t want to pressure her or make her question your intentions.
Asking her the right questions means subtly letting her know that you like her and giving her space to let you know she likes you back.
Maybe she likes you but is playing hard to get. ?As always, be patient and avoid entering the friendzone!