What are the signs he is hiding his feelings for you? How to tell if a man is attracted to you but hiding it?
Ahh… The never-ending series of questions we all know way too well. Is he interested in me? Is he just being polite, but I’m too blind to see it?
Or is he just another player who came to mess with my heart and nerves? Is he hiding his feelings or is he just not interested?
The struggle is real (but worry not)!
Today you’ll finally find answers to these questions and you’ll know for sure whether he’s fighting his feelings for you or he’s just not that interested.
How Do You Tell If A Man Has Feelings For You?
One of the easiest ways to tell if a man has feelings for you is by observing his body language and overall behavior.
While men are not that good at expressing their feelings, especially when fear of being rejected creeps in, they’re not good at hiding them either. Lucky for us!
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There are clear signs that he’s more than just being polite to you, and all you have to do is to pay close attention to his behavior.
Piece of cake? Not really.
The thing is, until we see all of the signs of an unspoken attraction and on top of that he says clearly that he is into us, we don’t believe it. And even when he does, we still doubt it.
At least I know I do. I immediately start overthinking: He’s just saying that to get into my pants. He’s just sorry for me, so he admitted his feelings.
Can you feel my pain? But that’s a whole different topic to write about.
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Today, we are writing about how to tell if a man is attracted to you but hiding it.
We are going to mention all the ways you can tell the difference between him being polite or utterly afraid of his feelings for you. While it sounds poetic, it’s not really.
Men are afraid of three things:
- Being rejected
- Being a disappointment for their ladies
- Being taken for granted.
And the worst part? Those fears combine into one grand fear once they develop feelings for someone. Let’s dig in!
What Are The Signs That A Guy Is Hiding His True Feelings From You?
Some of the biggest signs he is hiding his feelings for you are him being genuinely interested in your life, being protective towards you, showing (subtle) signs of jealousy, and displaying positive body language signs.
Keep in mind that every guy is different which means that some of them will display ALL or only SOME of the signs that they are hiding their feelings for you.
Most of them will “shower you” with mixed signals (especially shy guys) but lucky you because there are some sure signs a guy is fighting his feelings for you. You’ll find them all below described in detail.
Obvious Signs He Is Hiding His Feelings For You
He’s interested in your life
The thing is, when a man is into you, he will show a great interest in your life. He will keep on asking a lot of questions, from those ‘conversation-keepers’ to those really intimate ones.
And he will remember even the smallest little details about your life, the things you said or things you like. He will give you his full attention.
You’ll be surprised with the number of things he remembered, but trust me, he wouldn’t do so if he’s not really interested in you.
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He invited you to some event alone or with a group of friends, and he gave you special treatment like suggesting a certain meal you once mentioned you enjoyed or offering to see a movie you said you wanted to see. He never texts first but always responds when you text him.
On the other hand, if he’s just being polite or he wants to friend zone you, you’ll see that he’s asking questions just to keep the conversation going.
He will never dig deeper into the subject or your personal life because he’s just not that interested in it. He’s doing it only so he doesn’t look like an asshole or something.
Maybe he’s your coworker or someone who joined your friend’s group recently, but he has no love interest at the moment. He’s just interested in hanging out with you and being your guy friend.
And as far as the special treatment goes, it starts and ends with his conversational skills.
He will suggest some meals if you ask him for advice or offer you a night out with the rest of the squad, but he’ll never really get into a conversation with you while you’re out.
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He accentuates his ‘single’ love status
When a man has a crush on you and wants something more with you, he will make sure that you know he is single.
He will often repeat it to you and make jokes about him and you being single. Well, this is one of the biggest signs he is hiding his feelings for you.
And if it ever happens that he’s about to tell a story concerning another woman, he will refer to her as one of his female friends and repeat it after every couple of sentences. Why? Just so you don’t get the wrong idea about his relationship status—which is ‘single and eagerly waiting for you’.
He has no problem with sharing personal stories and information about his private life with you.
That’s something only men who are interested in you will do—men who are your cousins or very good friends. If he’s not your cousin or friend, you know in which group he belongs then.
A man who is not interested will talk about his life without thinking much about how it affects you.
He will simply follow the conversation, and even if he mentions a certain woman, he will never offer you a clarification for her. He thinks that you don’t need one because he believes so.
If you’re just acquaintances, there’s no need for you to know anything about his relationship status or the importance of the women in his life. And well, he’s right about that.
Looks, glances, and other fairy tales
The truth lies in the eyes, or something like that. And for once, this is true. If you’re looking for signs he is hiding his feelings for you, pay attention to the way he looks at you, for how long, and how often.
Is he maintaining eye contact? That is the thing you have to pay attention to because chances are he’s dying to kiss you.
If he’s always looking at you and when you’re talking you have the feeling like you’re the only one in the world because he has that look on his face—he’s into you!
And another great sign is him looking away when you catch him glancing at you. Actually, that’s one of the biggest signs a shy guy likes you.
He could be afraid of your rejection or he is just confused by the fact that you caught him, so he looked away. Whatever the reason is, it’s a giveaway sign he likes you, and it’s all super adorable to watch.
Because, you see, when a man is falling for someone, he loves spending time with that person, he loves talking to that person, and more than anything—he loves looking at that person.
And because he’s afraid of you finding out the truth before it’s time, he looks away.
However, someone who is not that into you will often wander around the room while talking to you which is a huge red flag to consider (if you’re into him, of course).
Since you’re not the one who is holding his attention, he is looking for something or someone who will do it. And all those stolen glances and long stares? Not going to happen in this case!
And even if it happens and you catch him looking at you, he will not look away because he’s not doing anything wrong.
His eyes focused on you for no particular reason, and he’s not embarrassed or confused by being caught because he’s not thinking about it that way.
His jealousy is obvious
This is a whole new level from what you’ve read so far. The good ol’ jealousy test!
You don’t even have to do it on purpose to find out the results. Just simply mentioning a random man in your life will do the trick.
If you start telling him a weekend story that involves someone with XY chromosomes, he will turn cold or switch the subject.
The point is, he will have a very hard time listening to your little adventure with another man. He can even go as far as trash talking or making fun of men in your life—unless you specifically tell him they’re just friends.
In that case, he’ll be cool with them, even though he worries and wonders how anyone could spend time with you without falling in love.
In his mind, he is a super chill dude who is so good at hiding his true feelings towards you that you’ll be knocked off of your feet once he confesses.
But men are jealous (I mean, who isn’t!), and he’s worried he will lose you even before he got the chance to win you over.
That’s why his jealousy is so obvious—even though he believes it’s not.
And the other type of men we’re talking about in this article—the not interested, polite ones.
When you mention a man in your life, there won’t be any reaction. He could be surprised or ask you about it jokingly, but that’s about it.
He doesn’t see you that way, so he’s not worried nor jealous. Just like there are no explanations for the women in his life, he doesn’t expect ones from you about the men in yours.
That ‘other guy’ could be your best friend, your cousin, or your lover and he couldn’t care less about it.
He puts in lots of effort into his appearance
How do you know when a guy is hiding his feelings for you? Of course, he will try to look his best, but there is still a difference.
A man who is trying to win someone over will do whatever he can to sweep you off your feet just with his divine looks. He will fix his shirt, run his fingers through his hair, and fiddle with the rest of his outfit all the time.
That’s something he does unconsciously, but all those little things are obvious signs that he likes you.
Oh and if you, by any chance, ask him why he’s paying attention to his looks all of a sudden, he will drop some kind of an excuse similar to: “I’m going girl hunting!”
All that effort just to hide his feelings from you.
And who doesn’t enjoy looking at a good-looking man who cares about his appearance, especially if that man is all nervous and blushing because of you?
That is a killing combo right there!
And well, a man who is not that into you will have no problem wearing a shirt he stained that morning with ketchup. Hey, shit/ketchup happens! I would know.
The point is, we all care about the way we look and the way people perceive us. If we’re at work, we will try to look responsible. If we’re at a club, we will try to look damn fine and on fire.
But when we know that there is a possibility of running into someone we fancy, of course, we will take extra measures to make sure everything is in its place and everything is looking good.
If you can’t notice that extra kick in him, that adorable nervous fidgeting with his hair and clothes, and other similar body language changes, he’s not into you.
He’s always there for you
When we’re talking about telltale signs he is hiding his feelings for you, this one is the most selfless one.
If he has strong feelings for you, he will go out of his way to help you with anything and will make sure that you know he is always there for you.
And I mean always. No matter if you need a ride at 3 A.M. or you need someone’s help with picking out designs for the next campaign, he is always there for you.
And even if it means that he will fall behind his schedule or that he will have to work longer hours, for you it’s all worth it.
Just the fact that he gets to spend more time with you means it’s worth it. Obviously, you’ve triggered his hero instinct, girl!
But make sure to know the difference between someone being into you and someone just being polite. If he’s just polite, he will help you only if you ask him to.
He may offer help, but he will give you the exact amount of help you agreed to receive. And there’s always a high possibility of him hoping you will refuse help.
Or that’s just me. Either way, pay attention to how much eagerness there is when he’s helping you.
If he offers you more than what you asked for and continuously repeats that it’s no big deal—he’s into you. If he’s just polite and there’s no passion in helping you—he’s polite.
If he starts following you around just to assist you—he’s a creepster.
He’s trying to make you a part of his life
Is he giving you insights into his days or his life? Is he inviting you to his hangouts and over to his place?
Do you really feel like he’s trying to make you part of his life, more than just the passenger you are now?
If the answers to these questions are ‘yes’, then these are all signs a guy is hiding his feelings for you. There’s no doubt that he is serious about having you around for a longer run but it’s just that right now he chooses to love you from afar.
Maybe he’s just not ready about making the first move or he wants to be sure that you’re into him before he does so, but have no doubt—sooner or later, he will make a move.
And this time, it’s up to you when it’s going to be or whether it’s going to be at all.
On the other hand, if he is super secretive, mysterious about his private life, he has someone else to share his life with and that someone is not you, I’m afraid.
And even if you go out with the rest of your group, he is usually not the one who initiated the hangout. Even if he invited you, he never mentioned or offered for the two of you to go out alone.
There is always someone else there and he only invites you when the whole squad is going somewhere.
The teasing game
Men love to tease—regardless of whether they’re into you, they’re with you or they’re just there next to you for any random reason you can think of.
They love to tease. They love to make jokes, and they love to be in the spotlight.
But look at the way he is teasing you and the way he is teasing others in real life or on social media.
If he’s always leaning towards you while doing so and making jokes about your and his relationship status, or the way you two would make one hell of a couple, you know what it means.
And especially if he gets all touchy while teasing you—we have a winner! It’s one of the biggest signs that a guy is hiding his feelings.
Another addition to his teasing game is funny and cute nicknames only you two share.
It’s also a way of him letting everyone else know that you two have something special going on, a different kind of connection than the one you share with others.
And is there a better and safer way to connect with someone than sharing inside jokes no one else understands?
But men who are distant and tease you about random things, with no inside jokes or funny nicknames, are simply men who love to have a good time and love to make people laugh.
A man who is into you will use teasing to create a special bond between the two of you. If there’s no such thing, it means that he’s not interested.
His jokes are set by default, and there’s not much personal stuff in there because he wasn’t interested in getting to know you that much.
He could basically be making the same jokes with every other woman out there. That’s obviously the last thing he’ll want to do if he has feelings for you.
He displays positive body language signs
Here’s one piece of the greatest relationship advice from a relationship expert I talked to a few days ago: The safest method to find out the truth, besides the jealousy game, is reading his body language.
It’s not as stupid as it sounds, trust me.
For example, when a man is attracted to you, he will mirror your movements and always lean towards you when you’re talking. Yes, there are all legit signs he’s hiding his feelings for you.
If you cross your arms, he will do the same. Another sign of him being into you is nervousness and blushing because even the most confident men tend to blush when they’re with someone they genuinely care about.
If you notice certain signs that he’s into you, but there is no intimacy or chemistry between the two of you, it could be just him being nice.
Or if there’s chemistry, but he doesn’t seem really interested, he could just be playing games to get what he wants.
Looking only at the body language can tell you a lot, but the real truth about his intentions and his personality you can only learn by looking at his behavior towards you and other people around him.
It’s really important to see if he’s just another player or he’s truly serious about you.
Getting touchy
And the most obvious and simplest of them all—touch. If he is looking for any excuse to touch you or make any kind of physical contact while talking to you (alongside with other signs from the list), the truth is revealed.
The man fell head over heels for you! He will touch your back while you’re standing next to each other.
He will gently stroke your arm while telling you something and move a strand of hair off your face with such tenderness that it will leave you speechless for a second.
It’s his way of letting you know that he will be gentle with you and a great way for him to test how you will react to his touches.
If you flinch or move away, he will go slowly or stop touching you for a couple of days. It’s all about gaining your trust.
And if there are no touches, there is no interest. But keep in mind that there are a lot of men out there who spread their tentacles on every single person that comes their way, including you.
Don’t get your hopes up just because he’s touching you. If he’s touching everyone else, that’s just who he is. An octopus-man. Ugh!
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He’s acting weird (sometimes)
Here’s the truth. If a guy really likes you, chances are he will be extra nervous around you. Also, he’ll act weird from time to time, and stumble over his words.
If this resonates with him, then you know he’s definitely hiding his feelings for you. If he sweats and takes deep breaths, girl, you know that he can’t control himself in your presence.
But here’s the (potential) problem. Lots of girls misinterpret these signs of weirdness and they start thinking the guy is a legit creep. My humble advice to you is the following: Don’t jump to conclusions.
In other words, don’t let his weirdness distract you but see it as a positive sign of nervousness. If a guy is nervous around you, then you know he’s one hundred percent focused on impressing you.
If there is no nervousness, there is no affection or interest. If a guy is overly confident around you, this is not that good sign. Well, sometimes it is but it all depends on the type of guy he is.
From my personal experience, I can say that overly confident guys usually have big egos and they like to play mind games. They don’t act weird but they certainly know how to make you feel uncomfortable.
He’s drunk dialing you
“A drunk person’s words are a sober person’s thoughts.”
If you ask me, truer words haven’t been spoken. So, if he’s texting you or calling you when he’s obviously drunk, you can be sure he has strong feelings for you.
This guy might be a pro at hiding his feelings when he’s sober but when he drinks and alcohol kicks in, he calls you and opens up to you.
Whenever he drinks, he starts thinking about you, and alcohol works as a ‘courage booster’ and forces him to take action.
This is closely connected with nervousness. If a guy is constantly nervous around you and then drunk dials you, you can be sure he’s hiding his feelings for you. He’s just waiting for the right time to tell you how he feels about you.
However, if a guy isn’t drunk dialing you, this doesn’t mean that he’s not interested in you. He’ll probably express his feelings in a different way.
He can’t stop smiling when he’s around you
Someone once told me: If a guy can’t stop smiling when he’s with you, this means you’re putting him in a good mood.
Whatever you say to him (be it funny or not), he will laugh as if you’re a comedian. Here’s my hypothesis: If you feel the urge to constantly ask a guy What’s funny? when you say something, then you know he’s TOTALLY into you.
When you really like someone, you literally can’t control yourself. You either laugh too much or you’re overly nervous (or both).
If a guy laughs most of the time when he’s with you, consider it an obvious sign that he’s into you but is hiding it. His constant smiling indicates that he loves being around you.
If he’s serious most of the time and acts overly reserved, you can be sure that something is off and he might not be that into you.
If he never teases you or tries to make you laugh, this is a huge red flag. When a guy really likes you, he will give his best to win you (be it with laughing or throwing funny pick-up lines).
He can’t stop texting you
Every single girl out there knows that guys are not that big fans of texting. Well, the game changes when a guy really likes you.
If he’s into you but is hiding it, he will struggle to get his words out and express himself but not when it comes to texting. However, don’t get me wrong.
He might not tell you openly how much he’s crazy about you, but he will show it through his texting styles. You know a guy has strong feelings for you if he sends you long texts, asks thoughtful questions, and is really responsive.
He literally responds the same second and never lets you wait longer than a few minutes (okay, sometimes it can also be an hour or so). He might also “like” all your photos on social media including the ones you posted a long time ago.
If a guy really likes you, he will not have a problem texting you or liking and commenting on your social media posts. This will literally become his new hobby.
And if a guy sends you one-word texts, never initiates a meaningful conversation, doesn’t ask thoughtful questions, and similar, then you know he probably likes you only as a good friend.
If it weren’t so, he would use every opportunity to find out more about you and connect with you virtually. Texting would be something he enjoys doing.
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He sends you mixed signals
If a guy sends you mixed signals, there are multiple reasons why he would do so. One of them is that he secretly likes you.
It could be that he doesn’t know how you feel about him and that’s why he sends you mixed signals. He could also like you a lot but at the same time be afraid of commitment.
From sweet to cold, his behavior will vary and his mixed signals will probably drive you crazy (speaking from experience).
If there’s anything more annoying in the whole world, it is mixed signals from a guy who obviously likes you but, for some reason, is afraid to show it.
If a guy isn’t sending you mixed signals, this could mean that he has nothing to hide (that he’s not that into you). If that is the case with him, his behavior toward you will be exclusively friendly.
He will not act nervous or weird around you. Literally, he will be an open book because he doesn’t feel the pressure to impress you and show himself in the best light. The effort is the keyword here.
Final Thoughts
If some or all of the above signs he is hiding his feelings for you resonate with him, then there’s no need to overthink things. You can be sure that he’s thinking about you 24/7 and he can’t wait to tell you how he really feels about you.
Perhaps something is preventing him from expressing his feelings at the moment but if you give him enough time and space, I’m sure everything will fall into place.
If it doesn’t, then you know you weren’t meant to be. Whatever happens, live every day as if it were your last, DON’T overthink things, and believe that everything happens for a reason.
