Guia de 7 passos para reparar a sua alma despedaçada e ganhar a calma interior

The awful thing about a broken soul is that you can’t really see that it’s broken just by looking at the person who owns it. Not even the person with the shattered soul can see it, but they can feel each and every one of those shattered pieces hurting.

It doesn’t happen at once, that’s for sure. Life is, at the very least, unpredictable. There is no person among all of us who hasn’t experienced it in their own skin.

One day, it’s all sunshine and roses, while the other day brings rain and thunder. Num momento, sentimo-nos incrivelmente felizes, enquanto no momento seguinte algo de mau nos atinge e muda instantaneamente o nosso estado de espírito.

It’s like life is all preto e branco. We experience and go through so many things… the good, but also the bad. We accumulate so many emotions inside of us, and it’s completely normal that we must feel tired sometimes.

A nossa alma sente-se cansada, and somewhere along the way, if we don’t nurture it the right way, all of that accumulated damage breaks it completely. However, your broken soul doesn’t mean you’re broken ou.

You’re just a bit damaged but, in the end, the truth is that we’re all a bit damaged. A boa notícia é que pode curar a sua alma and ‘fix yourself’. And, you will IF you listen and follow all of these pieces of advice below carefully.

O que é uma alma despedaçada?

It’s when you feel hopeless, as if the whole o mundo está a desmoronar-se debaixo dos vossos pés. Começa a afetar a sua perspetiva do mundo, e eventualmente, fica completamente entorpecido. You can’t feel true happiness, nor real sadness or despair.

It’s when you feel helpless, as if you’re all alone in this world. Colocas esse aviso de privacidade no teu coração e constróis muros à tua volta, para que ninguém possa aproximar-se de ti.

As I said, souls don’t break so easily. It takes time. A hard life combined with amor não correspondido makes small cracks… one after the other.

Até que tudo se desmorona, desfazendo-se dentro de nós num milhão de pequenos pedaços, tal como um espelho partido.

But, from the outside, that mirror is whole. It gives just an outside picture. And, all those broken pieces are right inside of us for no one to see. They’re hidden deep inside of us, and sometimes, neither can we truly see them on time.

Tentamos enganar-nos a nós próprios e a todos os outros com um sorriso falso.

And, even when we do, we try to facade it all with a smile. We wear a smile on the outside and pretend as if nothing is happening… nothing at all… while that inner pain is eating us alive.

Colocamos um sorriso; aquele tão bonito e realista que ninguém poderia adivinhar tudo o que a nossa alma está a passar neste momento. Sometimes, it actually works and we manage to fool ourselves, but its functionality surely doesn’t last for too long.

We don’t even know where we get the strength to carry around that smile… to fake such a wonderfully convincing smile. But, the fact is that we do. We see it as our only option. We see it as our hope for healing.

Esforçamo-nos por viver com o problema em vez de o tentarmos resolver.

We try to learn how to live with our shattered soul and all the pain it constantly leaves behind. Pretending that we’re strong becomes our number one coping mechanism.

We try to keep it together during the day, and we sometimes succeed. However, the night always lets us down. We let it all out only at night when we’re alone.

That’s when we allow ourselves ser vulnerável. That’s when we allow ourselves to hear the painful moans and whimpers of our soul. The pain comes out through tears that make our pillow completely wet.

Ver também: 25 sinais de que você vendeu sua alma (+5 maneiras de recuperá-la)

Como é que se cura uma alma despedaçada?

Tens de compreender que a tua alma é agora uma cativo of all the bad things you’ve gone through… of all the pain, stress, and suffering you’ve faced and are still facing every day.

Your soul is still beautiful… it’s still glowing, but you can’t see all that beauty because… well, because it’s wrapped in the darkness of all of your emoções reprimidas e acumuladas.

Let’s unfold it together and help you ganhar paz interior. A paz mereces muito.

1. A vida é injusta, aceita-a

Confiou demasiado. Amou demasiado. Mas, infelizmente, foi sempre a pessoa errada.

Confiaste sempre que eles disseram que se iam recompor. Deste o teu melhor para não receberes nada em troca.

Confiaste quando disseram que estavam a falar a sério. Confiaste quando disseram que eras deles para sempre. Essa pessoa que amaste infinita e incondicionalmente prometeu-te o mundo e deu-te o inferno.

I know that pain… it’s unbearable and impossible to describe to someone who hasn’t experienced it.

A vida tratou-o mal. Quando uma coisa corre mal, parece que tudo o resto corre mal também. Sente-se como se a sua a vida é uma confusão completa e não se pode fazer absolutamente nada para o resolver.

Tudo se desmoronou como um castelo de cartas: problemas em casa, brigas com os amigos, problemas no liceu ou no trabalho, problemas de saúde, quebra de confiança, coração partido… it’s painful, but it’s real life.

O bom é que se habituou de tal forma à dor que dela retirou a sua força atual.

You now understand that life doesn’t come with an instruction book. Sabe que a vida é imprevisível. Agora, tudo o que precisa de fazer é aceitá-lo e ultrapassar a injustiça da vida.

2. Por outro lado, celebra a vida como a tua maior bênção

So, every morning you get up. Hey, man, you still get up every morning, and that is your greatest victory. That’s the thing you should feel and ser grato para a maioria.

Agradece cada respiração que dás. Celebrar a sua existência. Sentir-se grato e sortudo só por estar vivo.

Tente não se queixar de coisas sem importância. Na verdade, tenta não te queixares de nada. Sinta-se satisfeito e feliz com tudo o que tem. Good things are in your life to make you happy… bad things are there to teach you a lesson and make you wiser.

Don’t take life for granted. Don’t allow yourself to feel any remorse when the moment of taking your last breath comes. Then, it’ll be too late for regrets.

3. Aceita a tua fraqueza, mas nunca a abraças

Pareces forte, mas só tu sabes o quão fraco és. Só tu sentes esse caos na tua alma.

Finge-se de duro, mas na verdade sente-se como you don’t know who you are anymore. You’re going through a real destroço emocional and you don’t want to admit it to yourself.

É o primeiro a ajudar todos à sua volta. Dá aos outros tudo o que secretamente gostaria que alguém lhe desse.

You’re trying so hard not to fall apart. But, on the other hand, you somehow accepted and learned to live with your brokenness. However, you still struggle with embracing it, and that’s actually your biggest problem.

You don’t have to embrace it… you need to fight it. Fight it so you don’t lose yourself… so you don’t become bitter… so you don’t indulge in aversão a si próprio… so you don’t start hating yourself and everyone around you.

E, na verdade, o ódio é o pior produto possível da a alma despedaçada. Se deixar que esse sentimento horrível o consuma, ficará numa posição desesperada.

4. Recuperar o seu espírito

Did you know that one of the most common reasons why a person’s soul gets tired or broken is low self-esteem? If you’re struggling with confidence, that’s exactly what you should be focused on fixing and improving right now.

Concentre-se claramente em si próprio. Tente pintar uma imagem mais bonita de si próprio na sua cabeça. Ser mais gentil consigo próprio.

Pára de te criticar por cada pequeno erro que cometes. Cometer erros é a parte inevitável de ser um ser humano.

Deixar de duvidar do seu próprio valor. You’re worth the whole world, and don’t ever allow anyone to make you believe any less than that.

Na verdade, nunca se deve permitir que outras pessoas interfiram demasiado na nossa vida. Dar prioridade aos outros e depending on other people’s as opiniões são o que mais esgota a vossa alma.

A sua vida é um livro, e o capa is reserved for its main role. That’s you. You are, have always been, and will continue to be the main character of your life forever.

Trabalhe em si próprio e tente transformar-se na melhor pessoa possível. Levante-se… that’s how you’ll mend and iluminar o teu coração e alma despedaçados.

5. You can’t buy inner peace with a credit card

Quando se trata da sua vida amorosa e da sua vida em geral, há uma coisa que tem de saber. O dinheiro não pode comprar o verdadeiro amor nem verdadeira felicidade.

It can buy comfort and short-term joy, but that’s it. The things that money can’t buy are the things that truly matter the most in life.

A paz de espírito é um luxo que nunca pode ser comprado com dinheiro. Tem de ser encontrada e conquistada.

In extreme cases, when you’re truly feeling down, you can try shopping therapy if you think it’ll really boost your mood and help you feel better. No entanto, é preciso compreender que os gastos emocionais nunca vão funcionar a longo prazo.

Rodeie-se de pessoas que ama e que o amam. Esta é a única terapia comprovada para consertar uma alma cansada. That’s the only way to true, real, and pure happiness.

6. Mantenha a fé. Dias melhores estão a chegar

Não esquecer que os dias maus nunca duram para sempre. Continua a ter dias bons e há dias ainda melhores a caminho.

Ainda há muitas razões na sua vida para se sentir feliz, por mais pequenas que possam parecer por vezes. Not every day is good or perfect, but there is something good in every day… especially for those who focus on finding it.

O facto é que, por vezes, a dor ofusca as coisas boas da vida. Estejam bem cientes disso. Agarrem-se a ele com tudo o que têm.

Acreditar no poder de segundas oportunidades, e regozijam-se com novos começos. It’s never too late to change your life and discover your true happiness.

7. Note to self: Don’t quit, you’re stronger than you think

That faith will give you hope. Hope, on the other hand, will give you the strength to keep on trying… to continuar a avançar.

You’ve been through so much. Your soul has been thickened from all the burden you have been carrying on your back for way too long.

Don’t give up. No matter how bad things become… don’t ever even think about giving up.

You’re a fighter. You’re a survivor. You’re keeping all those broken pieces together, hoping that you will find a way to glue them back together one day.

Como disse Anne Frank, “Where there’s hope, there’s life. It fills us with fresh courage and makes us strong again.”

Citações de Alma Quebrada

Algumas palavras reconfortantes e encorajadoras de um melhor amigo ou um membro da família pode ser muito útil quando se trata de levantar o nosso espírito, certo?

Well, in that case, I’m sure these touching quotes below will be helpful on your journey of reparar a tua alma despedaçada. Or, at least, you’ll understand that you’re not alone in that journey, which is more than comforting.

1. “A broken soul doesn’t invest in boundaries because the world has crossed them without mercy.” – Shannon L. Alder

2. “Corações partidos mend, but souls forever fight the battle.” – Jay Long

3. “I know you are tired, I know you are physically and emotionally drained. But, you have to keep going.” – Unknown

4. “Early on in my life, I had a broken soul. I was abused by my father, abandoned by my mother, and ended up in a destructive first marriage. By the time I was 23, I was broken in my soul. I didn’t know how to think right. I felt wrong about everything. But, God stepped into my life, and I came out on the other side and didn’t even smell like smoke.” – Joyce Meyer

5. “Sleep doesn’t help if it’s your soul that’s tired.” – Unknown

6. “For loving me, you will have to collect all the broken and dispersed pieces of my soul.” – Hilal Hamdan

7. “Broken souls are mended every day by mended souls that were once broken.” – Krista Ritchie

8. “The soul is healed by being with children.” – Fyodor Dostoyevsky

9. “I loved you unabashedly in the rain; you were real, raw, accustomed to pain. I loved you mostly in the rain where you exposed your broken soul, unashamed, dancing despite it all.” – Melody Lee

10. “There is a light within every soul; it only needs the clouds that overshadow it to be broken for it to beam forth.” – Hazrat Inayat Khan

11. “Sometimes, silence is the best therapy for the broken souls.” – Unknown

12. “When we are true to ourselves and follow these impulses that sweat from our compressed and broken souls, we may just find the beauty and the oh-so amazing way life can sneak up and smash us in the face!” – Danielle Rohr

13. “In the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.” – Max Ehrmann

14. “When you have those moments, just think of me. Call or text me when you feel weak and I will always be there for you. Nothing about this will be easy. Life is hard… we just feel it more than most because our souls have been broken and are raw.” – Raven K. Asher

15. “If broken lives and souls are to be healed, it must begin with teaching the practice of the presence… to abide in the presence of the Lord is to begin to hear Him. To follow through on that hearing is to find healing, self-acceptance, and growth into psychological and spiritual balance and maturity.” – Leanne Payne

Uma nota final

I hope you’ll listen to my advice, and that it will lead you to heal your broken soul. Please remember that it’s not enough to mend it now, and go back to living your old life.

You need to change your lifestyle in order to prevent these things from happening ever again. Your soul needs constant nurturing or it’ll keep breaking apart.

The truth is (and I’m sure you get it now) that you can never be sincerely and completely happy if your soul is hurting. It’s the same as if you’re a passar por um desgosto.

Embora eu saiba que tudo e todos à sua volta são as verdadeiras razões para a sua alma despedaçada, a verdade é que só você tem o poder de controlar a sua vida. Os outros só podem quebrar o teu espírito se tu o permitires.

Don’t ever go back to things or people that broke you. Seja o heroína of your life; don’t accept the victim role… Ever.